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What is sex really?
April 13 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me sex without penetration would not feel very fulfilling. I would consider it just foreplay.....maybe extended foreplay but not actually fucking. I don't know how you define sex but if you say to a friend "Oh we just mucked around a bit" they probably wouldn't think you had sex. But if you say "he fucked me stupid" they definitely think you had sex. Cant wait to see what others think. x
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do not need to be penetrated, if I am with the right guy that turns me on I love tribbing so for me , again with one of my regular lovers I feel like I have had great sex but I am not bill clinton
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh I don't know, I can clearly picture you with a cigar after the fact. ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I always associated tribbing as a thing women do with each other. No?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh dear, it may have been a case of wham bam, thank you mate as I slapped their butt. So I know they definitely felt fucked. LMAO. I am naughty.
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RHP User
12 years ago
there is a fine line between having sex and intimate sexual encounters.The later can certainly be extremely erotic,unforgettable even. I wonder what the men who have been penetrated by your appendage feel Meeka? Maybe they feel well and truly fucked, while you just feel that you have provided a service to their arses. I think it possibly depends whether it was just part of play or the whole of play. Some people ,Bill and Monica for instance,don't consider oral sex to be sex either. Apparently what constitutes ''having sex '' confuses most people.....here is one definition I found ''Having sex means any consensual behaviour between 2 or more individuals involving genital contact and bodily penetration .That means,oral sex a,anal sex and vaginal sex,are all sex''.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a good point that you make. Yes when all I am doing is providing a service with my appendage with not much play I don't feel like I am am having sex although obviously the man would. I am a girl at heart I still need my kissing and cuddling for me to feel intimate with someone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would not classify oral sex as sex. I don't think.
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RHP User
12 years ago
there seems to be little consensus about what is sex .If oral sex isn't then are lesbians who have never had penetrative sex virgins?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I always associated tribbing as a thing women do with each other. No? perhaps thats where I learnt it, growing up in a girls home. though going any further as in eating a girl is not my thing. Tried it me and a cigar ? what you found the evidence...sheeze cant hide anything around here
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'there seems to be little consensus about what is sex .If oral sex isn't then are lesbians who have never had penetrative sex virgins? I have a guy couple who live near and we get on well so they tell me stuff the masculine women had never had sex with a man, they have been partners for 18 years plus now but she was introduced to toys by her partner so has had the plastic fantasic, not sure if it broke her hymen did not want to ask to much over tea and scones there are lots of gay women and gay men who have never had sex with the oposite sex
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I always associated tribbing as a thing women do with each other. No? Apparently using fingers and dildos is also considered tribbing, so not necessarily only female/female
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I would not classify oral sex as sex. I don't think. I do classify oral as sex, though when counting the number of people I have "had sex with" (or "have slept with") I only include the men I've had intercourse with, not tongue or hands action. Not counting the women either, my list would be too confusing (and bloody long) otherwise. Do need intercourse to have fulfilling sex? No, though for me it is the icing on the cake. I just love being fucked. Although this morning I was fucked (awesome!) and felt fucked (not so great).
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RHP User
12 years ago
This being just my initial reaction, but I think it's easier for men to feel as though they've had sex more so than a woman. As a man, I can penetrate, but also BE penetrated, either way I can feel something. For a woman though, it's harder to have that feeling, as given the obvious physical differences, plastic is the only way a woman(excluding finger penetration), that a woman can penetrate. So essentially I feel that, it's left up to a woman's mental stimulation that leads her to be satisfied and for her to define when she's had sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If something penetrates an oriface then that's sex. Not sure if in your ear counts though ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nostrils are good though right ?? :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
as sex. Either giving or receiving. Sex is when you are aroused and playing with eachother, it's not limited to penetration. I can get you penetrating chaps without any stimuli to you as non sexual. I was almost going to say an orgasm would define it but pulled myself up immediately. (Silly me - maybe optomistic?) I think being aroused and being stimulated, or even stimulating (in the case you mention) with no aurosal is sexual, OK now I get the question, is being sexual and having sex different? Mmmm??? Great question. I'm confused now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Something Im not having tonight
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RHP User
12 years ago
I consider oral sex as sex! I don't need to have penetrative sex to feel complete and satisfied. There are obviously many forms and just basic fucking can not be the only definition of sex. To say otherwise is a little to narrow in definition. Without penetration, if you don't feel complete, just because you don't have that fucked hard feeling does not mean you have not had sex. I would include any and all sexual acts as having sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
12 years ago
Taking Bill Clintons stance on what is and what isn't sex Meeka. Mr Luvsilver
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Twisted_Mister
12 years ago
I keep telling you to come north! North, I say!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a bit of kinkster and I've been looking for others interested in fetishes with no desire/need for penile penetration or any genital to genital contact of any type. A lot of BDSM acts don't involve sex, and Masters/subs are not always in a "sexual" relation, and we would still class them as a physically fulfilling experience.When I first joined the site I was speaking to an amazing woman and over the period of a month decided to meet up. The day before meeting I get an STD scare and as we left the cafe I decided to tell her up front. She was okay with waiting until the results came back (it was a minor staph infection) and told me she had some new toys she needed a hand with. We had a great night and "sex" wasn't involved.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Also an interesting point. A relationship between master and sub that involves no sexual contact are not having sex, even if what they are doing is fulfilling them or arousing them sexually. As for other BDSM or role plays without any genital touching at all.... Technically is that really sex? I watched a documentary recently about feeders and enablers. It was about women who found sexual gratification in eating and putting on weight and their partners who cooked for them and fed them. The couple always had a goal and plan on how she would gain the weight "safely". This was there kink, this was their sexual pleasure they said. One girl was doing "porno" videos. Her boyfriend blended a few large tubes of ice cream then tied her up and forced fed her through a tube to eat the ice cream all in one go while it was filmed. She loved it. That is not sex... But is it sexually gratifying?
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
Its obviously quite a wavey line as the Bill Clinton experience shows. Who cares whether it's sensual or sexual as long as everyone as has fun. And there is no other party at home to get hurt.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I mean realy. R u sure u haven't work it ... You're questions r a bit vast between ear locations. Ok,ok,ok,,your at a sex "party" u bang a few guys in the arse as u wear a strap on. Sounds like u had fun, sounds like every one had fun. It puts in the class of having that sort of sex, well done by the way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes we all had fun but I don't feel like I actually had sex with the guy but most people would say that I did. It seems strange when people ask how many guys have you been with... Not that I would say but do I include that?
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RHP User
12 years ago
It all comes down to what the individual sees as sex (I know, I know, it's what your asking) you've stated in the OP that you count woman-woman sex as "sex" whether or not penetration occurs. Why the exception? (sorry, it sounds a little snippy but I'm totally asking out of curiousity) I understand why pegging isn't thought of as sex but it's because the majority of people are heterosexual and engage in penis-vagina intercourse. This has set the "standard" (often to the detriment of sexual minorities) of what we think sex is, and by association non "traditional" relationships. Some guys will have sex with other men but won't consider themselves gay/bisexual/pansexual or even bicurious - some guys won't see it as sex but just "guy fun". Some men will see pegging as a queer act simply because the majority of (misguided and non-questioning) people associate "submissive" acts as being feminine (which again is silly because pegging can involve a guy stradling a woman bouncing up and down screaming "Yeah! Get it up me! Come on! Harder! Faster!" in a dominant fashion)I'm guilty of this when I was young and dumb, I made a gay friend mad when I told her I didn't see lesbians being able to have sex. That was ten years ago and I'm a very different person.Do people ask "How many have you been with?" it's something I'd expect to hear from a teenager.Correct Answers include:"Does a gangbang getaway weekend count as one?" "None, I have my fingers crossed behind my back everytime" and "I'm not sure, my gimp keeps eating all my lists"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'GMerst25'Correct Answers include:"Does a gangbang getaway weekend count as one?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
I guess sex is a much wider, less defined construct than the actual act of having sex. It's semantics but "sex" and "having sex" are quite different uses of the same word.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oral sex is having sex with someone? Hmmm. Think my number may have dramatically jumped!! LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
anything that is sexual in nature and not penetrative sex,is a sexual encounter?
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chevtrek
11 years ago
After a read I will phrase it this way Anything you do sexually is a sex act So if you had sex in anyway then you had sex Penetration is part of the sex act so yes you had sex. But were you fucked ----- no ---- being fucked is a description of a sexual encounter. A lesbian uses a dildo a form of male appendage which is strange as she is only suppose to like pussy however we still say shes a lesbian.. One more example --- we drill a hole 10mm deep or drill it 20mm deep its still a hole.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' we drill a hole 10mm deep or drill it 20mm deep its still a hole. You dig a hole with a spade or with a shovel, it's still a grave.
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