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What is the deal with photos

November 30 2017

I've just joined rhp. I've only started dating this way in the past week on a different site. What is the deal with photos. After spending time chatting to somebody we arranged to meet. While walking towards him he was kik ing me so that I could know where he was. It became apparent even from quite a distance that he either had used an very old photo or somebody else's. The photo was in my species description but he wasn't. Being new to this I didn't know what to do so behaving very badly I turned and walked away. I don't feel great about it but who really is at fault. What is the generally accepted way to handle this. Is it something that happens a lot or did I hit unlucky. Should I have met and then said thanks or but no thank or did he deserve to be stood up for using an old photo. Is it acceptable to dupe somebody into a meeting in the hope they will change their mind. Your thoughts anybody

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NaughtynHung69

7 years ago

Genuine people suffer due to this sort of thing! He got what he deserved.

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EarthQueen

7 years ago

Unacceptable, disrespectful and also dumb. Why would you? To me it makes no sense to use out of date or fake photos. It justs sets yourself up for failure and also a shitty situation to put the other person into. 🙄 As for walking away, he wasn’t being honest, so why should you meet him? Run, don’t walk. - Posted from rhpmobile

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mango69er

7 years ago

Good for you. . Dont understand people who do that. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Hopefully he spotted you turn away and leave.

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technologic

7 years ago

..for more photos! Sometimes I find just one photo can be misleading as people often only post their best photos. You can also ask for photos of them holding a newspaper with the date on it to prove it's a recent one. Just explain politely your reasons. If they get put off, then good riddance! I'm sure guys also don't want to be put in the same position as you so they don't have a real reason to be offended.

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The_Antichrist

7 years ago

lol It’s a dilemma..... On one hand do you suck it up and meet someone you aren’t attracted to.... Or ... Do you walk up and say fuck this you’re nothing like your pics mofo.... I’d say neither.... I’d implement a video call before meeting....this way you see him directly before you’ve made an investment to meet.... If they refuse, you know they’re more faker than Michael Jackson’s nose.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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NudesRus

7 years ago

I reckon you should have walked up and kicked him! 🤣

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OkeyDoke45

7 years ago

I'd say it's fair enough what you did. It would have been better if he'd messaged you to say ''couldn't see you at the meet'', then you could have responded ''yeah, I was looking for the guy in the profile pic and all I could see were older overweight men''. Revenge is a dish best served cold.

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RHP User

7 years ago

this a wind up? How was he going to recognise you? You apparently work damn hard to look damn good, yet you have no pictures? I've read that spiel on another profile recently. How many profiles do you have?

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RHP User

7 years ago

I agree, old or unrealistic pics are totally unacceptable, really what’s the point - Posted from rhpmobile

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Haleakala

7 years ago

Just use the video chat function prior to meeting up. Simples. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Mischeviouslad

7 years ago

Irony is..... complaining about someone's use of old/fake photos..... when you have none. But I'll give you the benefit of any doubt by considering he received photos via your kik I say..... if in doubt.... and in here, doubt means the default position.... ask for clarification. People can only deceive you if you play a role in permitting them. Easy to say... but.... there are steps that can be taken to easily verify people and save wasting your time DG - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Two wrongs don't make a right.

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AnnieWhichway

7 years ago

Touch is calling it........

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RHP User

7 years ago

Yeah nah you did the right thing. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Definitely called it.................... Works both ways.Always exchange photos on KIk and chat a lot before meeting someone. Common sense really...........

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Sawadee

7 years ago

ppl still believe in blind faith ? I won't entertain a date unless we agree to meet over a coffee or drink first .. You get to see the other party allowing both the chance to judge if you like what you see or not.. This never failed me yet' and I believe should be standard protocol to avoid misunderstanding and weed out the imposters..

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RHP User

7 years ago

At the start of rhp, I still did the meet, (internally in shock at how different he looked) but based on the fact that he lied about it all point blank to my face I just said sorry but I got no personal connection from the meet. Now while kikking I ask for a photo of them at that time. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

starts you should’ve asked him take a photo of him in kik what he’ll wearing/look like so you know who to look for. By the sound of you’re side of the story it seems like you didn’t have a photo for him to go on. That’s just my opinion. I went through same deal but I had photo on my kik profile and i try to updated as much as possible. But the woman I meet wasn’t the same person on the picture she sent me on Kik or her profile picture. I wasn’t rude enough to walk away and stood her up cause she recognised Me straight away and walked up said hello, then I just went through with the date got to know her and straight up told her that I wasn’t interested in her but good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Everyone tries to use their best photos... as long as they are reasonably recent and of yourself. I was actually the "victim" on the other end of this recently... Was chatting with a lady, she had seen my PG photos.All recent photos (actually one is about a year old but I like that photo) I put a bit of effort into those selfies as I am terrible at selfies... not too much effort, just found a room with good lighting and took 15-20 shots for the 3 or 4 that i used We were trying to organise a date for that night and were chatting on KIK. She asked me for a photo right at that moment, so without hesitation I took one on KIK camera.... she went quiet, no reply for 2 hrs and then she came back with a tirade about lying and using fake photos. I explained that all were real, just some had a bit more effort and that one on KIK was a raw in my work clothes shot..... no, apparently the photos were of different people, didn't "anything" alike... I didn't respond .... no point, although I am a bit shocked. Strangely on the other end, someone else I met told me I needed new photos as my current ones were not flattering and didn't do me justice...!!!???!! not sure what to do/think

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