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What is unreasonable

October 23 2017

I need some perspective and advice. I entered into a Dom / Sun relationship. 18 months in the dynamics have shifted, mainly due to moving in, kids and life in general. Lately and more often than not there is no communication. I attempt to converse, he basically pushes me to finish what im saying. Badically no interest in anything I have to say. Its llike hurry up wont you! He is short tempered, nil patiences and highly over reactive. Everything i say is wrong and he is highly argumentative. He lives with his face in the phone looking at others even the most sensitive and emotional of situations. He has no concept of empathy and when I ask him just to give me a little of emotional feedback he says im trying to turn him into an emotional pancy. He has thousands of pictures of naked woman including ex's. Im not stupid... I hear what Im saying. Im truly exhausted trying to get from this man something I l know he just is not willing to give A part of me knows he is testing but I am not willing to give up my self respect for anyone. No matter how I attempt to express my needs his attitude is whatever you will be over it soon enough. Well Im just about there

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RHP User

7 years ago

You don't say who plays what role re. Dom/sub but Im guessing you're sub? Im going out on a limb here by saying I suspect your partner uses the Dom title as a cover for some personal issue. If you read up on healthy Dom/sub relationships you will find an intrinsic part of the Dom's role is to ensure the emotional security and safety of the sub. That's a key component of the dynamic. I don't think you're in a Dom/sub relationship, you're in an unhealthy relationship. I suspect you know this already. So the choice is yours now re. what to do next. Best of luck with your decision x

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FredAndGinger2

7 years ago

A grown man should show empathy, compassion, respect, generosity and so on. These are quality attributes that do not make a man a pansy, in fact quite the opposite. If you're not happy then discuss your feelings with him and if you can't find common ground then it's time to move - Posted from rhpmobile

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MrPlayful

7 years ago

OP, I’d be getting out now as it doesn’t sound like your partner respects you and doesn’t sound like he is going to change.

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RHP User

7 years ago

you answered your own question. Run for the hills, it's not going well

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RHP User

7 years ago

that you've posted this from your couples profile. Does he not view the goings on of your joint profile?

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OkeyDoke45

7 years ago

I mean I'm only reading one side of the story here and limited details (your kids? his kids?), but sounds like a bit of a ''moved in together and it hasn't worked out well''. You have children thrown into the mix as well. Like a lot of relationships OP - try, fail, abandon, move on.

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The_Antichrist

7 years ago

But if a dom/sub relationship is based upon respect and you feel you aren’t getting that... I’d be asking myself, “what exactly have I signed up to?” - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Dump him.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Lack of empathy, charming at the start but once you’ve annoyed him or don’t give him what he wants he will punish you which is probably why he has changed. Narcissism is a personality disorder that cannot be fixed but managed through therapy. They are dangerous people and his photos and you are his trophy he can control. I would get out as soon as I could and break all ties. - Posted from rhpmobile

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FredAndGinger2

7 years ago

If the other can't distinguish between role play and reality then step away - Posted from rhpmobile

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