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What makes a great lover?
February 24 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I never have to make them ,cos they are all quite willing....just a tick,I gotta find those small keys.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Goes both ways of course but it's the magic ingredient in my book.
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RHP User
12 years ago
being unselfish has to be the biggest plus in my book. Nothing as off putting as someone who is just out for their own pleasure. while i love giving a girl pleasure, its great when you can find someone who reciprocates.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That feeling that you are the only other person in the universe at the time you are with them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
A great lover is someone that is extremely attentive to your responses, very present, it is not in a hurry and will adapt to the moment in a moment...No routines, no rush, no self centre, and no goal to achieve....just enjoying what it is rather that going somewhere.Ofcourse, experience, technic, beauty and fitness adds or extract from the equation as well
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RHP User
12 years ago
The best lovers are the ones that are eager to take instruction on how you like to be touched, licked, sucked and fucked. They realise that there's no one size fits all to sex, everyone is unique and they are willing to learn your individual turn ons and offs.
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RHP User
12 years ago
She's got to at least open the beer for me :p. hehehehe. A good lover to me, will know she is through our interactions/playmeets/dates/whatever you wish to label it as.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find that a woman with a great self esteem tends to make for a much better lover. If she is comfortable and confident with her own body, she will enjoy the kiss, the touch, and the feel of me exploring her entire body. There is nothing worse than a woman turning off the lights before she undresses. Be proud of the skin you are in!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
finds out what you like best, and then leads you up to it, slowly, teasingly...strokes you awake while you are sleeping...with their listens to you talk about your day, your ideas, your fears...or just fucks you then and there..because that is what you need right at that very moment...
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
A great lover has the ability to engage your mind, ignite your emotions and incite your body to respond. Really...... that's it. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I met a twenty two year-old, who ended up in my bed. He was mature and wise beyong his years, and after a steamy evening I asked him how he had learned all his skills at such a young age. His reply: "I listen."
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madotara69
12 years ago
The connection to being with that person completely and for the moment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it depends on the lover, from my experience I've felt that one lover actually made love to me and left me feeling very vunerable, which I did and didnt like. One that is like a best mate and the sex is always awesome as always very relaxed and willing to try anything if he asks. Going to try something in the middle soon, hopefully a regular partner and someone I can experience more with and be able to share more of myself. Been looking for the middle ground for so long now and cant wait to see what happens. He turns me on mentally and it effects my libdo big time. Can wait to see what happens.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I met a twenty two year-old, who ended up in my bed. He was mature and wise beyong his years, and after a steamy evening I asked him how he had learned all his skills at such a young age. His reply: "I listen." Brilliant ! so easy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is someone who is into you as much as you are into them, this usually is built up over a non-sexual period until you both just cant put it off any more. You cant beat built up passion/lust finally being unleashed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When to Leave
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didnt think we had met....hahahahahahaha Kisses Focus To answer your question Karynb a great lover for me makes me feel comfortable enough to explore my boundaries, takes the time to get to know my body, allows me time to explore all of them, openly co,mmunicates all of their wants and desires while listening to mine....its all about communication for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Lost_Focus' I didnt think we had met....hahahahahahaha Kisses Focus To answer your question Karynb a great lover for me makes me feel comfortable enough to explore my boundaries, takes the time to get to know my body, allows me time to explore all of them, openly co,mmunicates all of their wants and desires while listening to mine....its all about communication for me. I wanted to comment on this blog but this says it all for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Otori' The best lovers are the ones that are eager to take instruction on how you like to be touched, licked, sucked and fucked. They realise that there's no one size fits all to sex, everyone is unique and they are willing to learn your individual turn ons and offs. Yes, yes, yes and yes
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RHP User
12 years ago
Someone who you just have that connection with, you lose inhibitions and makes you feel wild and free.... Someone you can kiss for hours with, taste each others skin, bodies, soul.. hmmmmm total abandonment and freedom ....Tall order but when you find it - sex is awesome :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's actually nothing worse for me than someone who is just about giving pleasure. It means they're not letting themselves go - I never get to see them really lose themselves. The ultimate lover, for me, is someone who has found the balance between reading my pleasure and seeking their own. MsK x
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a hat right?
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inspirit
12 years ago
the platinum kind of course
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' the platinum kind of course So you'd love to get it on with Prince Phillip huhDG
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me: It's someone who has shown me he's open minded and non judgemental. We neither of us are worried about what the other will think. He's sexually comfortable, with his body, with mine, with exploring, with learning as we go and is willing to follow where our thoughts lead us. It's someone who's in tune with his own body and emotions, he's proactive about taking the lead and yet he's not afraid to lose control. He knows my body, my mind and my sensual triggers. He is as intent on giving pleasure as losing himself in his own. He's a sensualist, loves touching purely for the pleasure of the sensations. I will lose myself with this man.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...but Jennylee ain't about to give him up.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bugger! Just my luck Quoting 'jensman1903'...but Jennylee ain't about to give him up.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'inspirit' the platinum kind of course So you'd love to get it on with Prince Phillip huhDG DG he has an American Express.. any girl knows they are not accepted everywhere
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
A man that not only listens when I speak...but listens to my body! . A man that knows the difference between a moan of pleasure and a grunt of unpleasurablle pain! . A man that worships large natural breasts! . A man that does indeed love licking pussy until I plead for him to stop! . A man that fucks me deep and even deeper when asked to! . A man that is confident with his cock! . A man that has great hands and fingers and knows how play my pussy like a finely tuned instrument! xFunlovingx
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captainkaos
12 years ago
All good responses but also someone who knows where and when to kiss.......and lick and suck. On the neck and on the wrist and under the breast and inside the thighs and .............
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're right Karyn, it does depend on the particular day and the influencing factors are many. That said, passion combined with technique and confidence, throw in a large dose of mutual attraction and whammo!! Mindblowingly fabulous sex! And... Nearly forgot, stamina, fitness, self control and generosity of spirit. Hehe, don't want much do I?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Kinkstersinc' There's actually nothing worse for me than someone who is just about giving pleasure. It means they're not letting themselves go - I never get to see them really lose themselves. The ultimate lover, for me, is someone who has found the balance between reading my pleasure and seeking their own. MsK x Fully agree with this - the definition of lover is to have them for as both teacher and student of the fine art of love making. Sex with partner is often inhibited, with a lover you can loosen the collar and go beyond the boundaries. You can agree or disagree where to go and what to try, if it does not work it's fine - a bit like your own sex therapist but one that actually does things you want with you and for you, and in return you do it for them. Set a regular time, say once a week, give yourself a time limit, do what you agree on and each and every week take it to the next level... gee, I can dream on like this forever :-)
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Quoting 'Joe_Melfi' Fully agree with this - the definition of lover is to have them for as both teacher and student of the fine art of love making. Sex with partner is often inhibited, with a lover you can loosen the collar and go beyond the boundaries. Really?!I must say..... my experiences are rather different.All of my lovers... whether they have become a partner or not... are open minded. Sure, at first, there may be a degree of inhibition and guarded behaviour.... because full comfort has yet to be created.But that SHOULD dissolve as you explore further with someone and certainly by the time you decide to make them a partner, you should have worked out sexual compatibility and shed those inhibitions.Perhaps that is simply a reflection of the people I seek, and am attracted to... or maybe its a function of how I lead, as a Man should.But I couldnt let that comment go without a response.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
to be great lover, you must listen to their body, and remember the places that increase the heart rate, skin flush or just make them go ouzo. and never forget the brain is a sex organ too
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RHP User
12 years ago
Actually i think i understand Joe's point POV, I think he is talking about a life partner V's a lover, sometimes we find ourselves with a partner (often years into the marriage) that is either judgemental or who has made it clear that they do not share the same kinks, in that case you may not be having the type of open communication that leads to uninhibited sex. I've had a discussion along these lines just recently, some people feel more comfortable bringing their inner kink out with a lover because they are not concerned with what the lover might think, whereas with a life partner there may be some concern about what they will think of you after you reveal the inner kinkster. Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Joe_Melfi' Fully agree with this - the definition of lover is to have them for as both teacher and student of the fine art of love making. Sex with partner is often inhibited, with a lover you can loosen the collar and go beyond the boundaries. Really?! I must say..... my experiences are rather different. All of my lovers... whether they have become a partner or not... are open minded. Sure, at first, there may be a degree of inhibition and guarded behaviour.... because full comfort has yet to be created. But that SHOULD dissolve as you explore further with someone and certainly by the time you decide to make them a partner, you should have worked out sexual compatibility and shed those inhibitions. Perhaps that is simply a reflection of the people I seek, and am attracted to... or maybe its a function of how I lead, as a Man should. But I couldnt let that comment go without a response. DG
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Actually i think i understand Joe's point POV, I think he is talking about a life partner V's a lover, sometimes we find ourselves with a partner (often years into the marriage) that is either judgemental or who has made it clear that they do not share the same kinks, in that case you may not be having the type of open communication that leads to uninhibited sex. I've had a discussion along these lines just recently, some people feel more comfortable bringing their inner kink out with a lover because they are not concerned with what the lover might think, whereas with a life partner there may be some concern about what they will think of you after you reveal the inner kinkster. Was thinking the same thing Karyn about if your in a very long term relationship.
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inspirit
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' A great lover has the ability to engage your mind, ignite your emotions and incite your body to respond. Really...... that's it. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
turns up
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is unselfish.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is adventurous, enthusiastic, sexy, open-minded, passionate and fun. Add respectful and unselfish - more an equal and boom..... both of us are cross eyed. Then if orgasms don't mean the end of play - they will get a VIP invite back to kittehs lair. Mmmmm Lolly xxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My Husband…… He knew me like no one ever has from the day we met, and nothings changed, we know everything about one another and every time we make love, play, fuck, just cuddle or even sat having a chat, we are attentive to one an-others needs always and most of the time we know exactly what the other needs without even a whisper as to what it is……To feel instead of using your conscious mind to be so in tune with each other in every way imaginable…. This takes no work if your with the right person as it just flows naturally! If you have to think about what it is they need or what you must do for them,then your not there yet, when you do things no matter how big or small with out thinking or being asked or shown, only then will you have your perfect LOVER!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
69isthebest . he is all that and more. .- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
oh so true....answered by husband....def oh so
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RHP User
12 years ago
Before anything great can happen there has to be a connection of the mind. The mind is an erogenous zone that so many people forget about. Opening up to each other with exploration of what is pleasurable for the both of you and what fantasies you wish to fulfill. Stimulating each other mentally is a wonderful beginning, it can lead to a much deeper connection and then intense pleasure once bodies meet for the first time. A great lover also has to know how to pleasure themselves before they can pleasure anyone else, to know what turns them on and listen to the responses from their partner whilst making love. Open Communication of all things sexual is very liberating and leads to more pleasure to be had by both. There is a big difference between SEX and MAKING LOVE....... Sex can be awesome don't get me wrong, but that connection to be able to make love is so much deeper and the results can be mind blowing for both. Taking things slowly with sensual and passionate kisses, exploration of each other with delicious foreplay leads to orgasmic delights for both. Mutual respect and treating each other with dignity also brings the experience to another level. Being able to be in-tune with each other and really listening to the responses your lover is giving you is great feedback that you are giving them the pleasure sensations they are craving. It really does take "two to tango" - to be in the moment fully and share all intimate experiences you both desire. It feels almost effortless with the right person. As the two bodies work together for the ultimate pleasure. The natural flow takes over and both are mutually satiated, both Mentally and Physically. It is such an experience that only those that have truly experienced it can understand.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Listen to the sounds he/she makes ! You will know when you have for it right ! Be present and engaging. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Someone who can take me as I am, stroke my imagination as well as I stroke his when we aren't together. Someone I can cook beside, be naked with all my flaws beside, who makes my back arch when I think of them and my nipples tingle remembering them. Very few have made me weak at the knees, and this isn't necessarily due to a sexual act. A man/couple that make you smile at the extremes we all go through for a stolen moment of unadulterated pleasure. Easy company, conversation and silence. Someone that gets you, lets you and bets you you can't do it again!!! (Darers go first!!). Trustworthy, charming, charismatic, able to laugh at themselves and all ..... THIS. Can change a tyre and put the nuts back on the right way in the rain, while your standing beside them pantiless with your hemline raised.....and makes the waiting worth your while and the memory a fun one. No hangups, no delusions, no arrogance. Patience, loyalty and a realisation that yes, this is a "friendship" not just a quick fuck. The rest of the pre-requisites mentioned by others also gets a girl wet! Pondering what the week ahead will bring. Thoughtful Safari.
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RHP User
12 years ago
nice :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
A connection, their smell(they must smell good), their touch, their soft sensual kisses. One who can be in the moment where 2 body's are able to enjoy each other teasing, wanting and pleasing. Knowing after that you could do it all over again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is one who is selfless, attentive, caring and one who just wants you for who/what you are. Whether in the bedroom or out, they're always there for you. One who will stick by you through thick and thin. One who can blow your mind. Can be unpredictable and wild. One who can be comfortable with just laying back and cuddling without expecting anything more...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
U crack me up!!!!! Bahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting bibabe1969 and On_safari Gosh u gals have nailed it. Do u think its possible to find that full experience on RHP? Maybe not :(((((- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting ParisLolly, Those lovers are here, maybe few and far between, myself and bibabe found eachother here, and are very happy we met indeed. The big problem is how shallow people can be, my sweetheart accepted me for who I am, and I accepted her for who she is, if you spend all your time looking for cut abs or model looks, you miss a lot of real good people, who can stimulate your mind and converse with you on the same level. She makes me feel incredibly sexy and I do the same for her, and when our bodies collide its like fireworks!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...someone who accepts me for who I am ! GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Someone who needs no instructions They instinctively read your bodies reaction and respond to that You never need to tell them faster or slower, harder or softer - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Great topic A great lover to me is someone who isn't afraid to try new things n isn't going to judge me for trying them! A great lover is honest caring n loving - but also does big hold back n just takes it! A great lover does not put people down, but lifts them up n brightens their spirit A great lover doesn't focus totally on them self A great lover will accept you as you are A great lover will keep you breathless n wanting more n more A great lover will want to know your stories n make your fantasies a reality A great lover will kiss you deeply n make you weak at the knees A great lover will never want to change anything about you A great lover will will also be your great friend A great lover will just hold you when you need it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' ...someone who accepts me for who I am ! GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile Was just about to post the exact same thing!!FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
@ ParisLolly MegaHungry and I - did find each other here. His intelligence and way with words sparked my interest to want to know more about him. It really was a meeting of the minds at first - "The sexiest thing a man can to to his woman is crawl inside her mind and make her imagination run wild"!!! That is exactly what he did to me - we connected on a level of the mind which was a great surprise for both of us as unfortunately so many people are shallow on this site and if you don't fit the "criteria" list you don't get a look. Alot of what I posted in my last post were from our conversations both of our thoughts - which lead us to each other - the communication between us does lead to fireworks everytime we are together. We know each others desires and share them. Our connection is electric and passionate. He is the sexiest man I have ever met on so many levels and my sweetheart. I am so happy we met.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A lover that can really nurture a good dick and never gets sick of giving head is a keeper for me- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh I completely agree with you both. I don't have the figure of a supermodel or such, I'm just me and I like me. But yes, finding someone who stimulates my mind and fascinates me to learn more about them, coupled with a kick arse libido seems a rare find. Bodies are beautiful - I see them as natures art forms but I will choose personality over a hot body any day. I'm so very glad to hear your story. It's inspiring and you are both very fortunate. Let the fun continue I say!!! Mwah Lolly xxx
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