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What makes you reply to a message?
October 12 2017
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
MAKES us reply to anything ,if we don't want to , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Forum posts....only private.... They’re also like face to face.....I type what I think....I say what I think, that way, it’s not some inbred version that people are going to see the fake.... Keep it real, keep it fun, and keep the horn blowing in its rightful spot......in the court of a woman who wants to blow it ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I think what you had to say about talking yourself up can be a very real dilemma.. I left school at a very young age ( 14 ) and had a very poor education. So everything I learnt came from the school of life. Face to face I communicate no problem and I do just OK sending messages etc.. So I know what you're saying. I probally write as I talk so god knows how it comes across, but these days I'm not too concerned.. I think why concern yourself with something your not sure of. Nobody has the time to separate the wanna be's from the could be's from the serious to the pests.. Like I said , it's a numbers game and you just have to be lucky enough to come across the diamond in the rough... But don't give up , they are out there..
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Btw I never send them, cause that just me. To me is they always reply to The guys DICK pics. They go bananas over them. Especially the Bengalla sized doodles!😍
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Guest to guest frustrations. It explains why people flirt. The odds are automatically stacked against them. Good luck on this one bro!
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
To reply if there is thought put into the message. Showing they have invested time into contacting me and making me feel valued. And it always helps if you finish with a non sexual question that shows interest...... Does that help? Annie
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RHP User
7 years ago
If a message has been well written and is cheeky I will reply simply because I am a courteous person. Obviously if I like there pics and profile then I will engage with that person further. I send cheeky confident written messages myself...nothing bluntly sexual. Most women on here have intelligence and will not give up the honey pot to anyone haha... they like a challenge and some wit in the mix. My advice ..be confident and cheeky but keep it simple...take your time and choose your words wisely, females are emotional little creatures...stimulate them emotionally and the honey pot will wait at the end of the rainbow.An example of mine.....Liked your profile and pics there girl...I defiantly think it would be a wasted opportunity if we didn't get together sometime for some cheeky drinks and bit of a giggle, I have a pretty busy lifestyle so send me a message in advance for a social drink or coffee and I will make the time. Until then bootylicious, keep on keeping on...x...later. Simple, cheeky and to the point....
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Mr_Mrs_E
7 years ago
I'm more likely to reply if someone has put genuine effort into their message, and has clearly read our profile. I'm not interested in wasting my time or anyone else's time with exchanging messages when we clearly aren't well suited to one another. I also very rarely reply to anyone who has generic responses in their profile. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least, this is my honest reply. I have a set of parameters in my mind, some are definite deal breakers, some are flexible. But the flexible ones such as age, height to name a few, age in particular the guy has to be gym fit over the age of 40 or 45, or very athletic, if not it's a definite no. That's just one example, but if I'm not taken by the pictures and stats, sorry to say I rarely read the message. I need to be attracted to someone physically to proceed and there's no point engaging if it's not going any further. I'm past giving explanation or sorry messages, we all put ourselves on a plate to serve lol but think of it like a buffet. People pick what they want or try a few new delicacies 😛 I agree with Jay though. They are out there, just a matter of waiting for the right person to come along. Now to add, what is it with men putting one or two pictures on their profile? Sell yourself op, give it more gusto, more pictures give different angles, different perspectives, viewed differently by every individual. Something about how you look in maybe one picture might appeal to someone, the more pictures the better in my opinion. One head and shoulders shot isn't good enough for me That's just me though. Re replying, not unless I want to continue. Sorry, just how it is for me
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RHP User
7 years ago
When I was actively meeting people through RHP, these are the things that would make me reply positively to a message: 1. The sender matches what I'm looking for. If your message is in my 'non-matching' folder, the chances of a reply are slim to none. 2. The sender references something in my profile. Tells me that they've actually read it. 3. The sender tells me something about them self that isn't in their profile. Hot tip... don't cut and paste what you've already said in your profile. It's just boring. 4. The sender asks me a question. And not a 'hi, how are you', or 'what are your plans for the weekend' type of question. Something that actually makes me think and reflect. None of this means you have to send me a message that's pages long. You can actually combine 2, 3 & 4 in a short paragraph. For example: 'I see from your profile that you like reading. I've just read XYZ book and couldn't put it down. What was the last book that you read that kept you up past midnight? Having said all that, it's just what makes me reply to a message, and other women might get that sort of message and think you're a wanker. Best to be yourself, then you'll get responses from people who are genuinely interested in you. Best of luck OP xoxo
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RHP User
7 years ago
Going to be blunt here... if I got a message like the one in your example I'd see it as arrogant and patronising. But someone else might see it as confident and witty, which is what you're aiming for. And hopefully they'd reply to you :) My point is that we're all different, and what sinks my ship may be what floats someone else's boat. There's no one size (message template) that fits everyone.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeah maybe not the bit about being busy and you'll make the time. That would be an instant turn off for me. I like confidence, don't get me wrong, but he needs to make me feel very desired and like he's gagging to get at me. Making yourself available, I'll be even more blunt, I'd be thinking 'Well that's big of you'. Can see what you're trying to do with the message though. Our feedback here on that might inadvertantly help with your reply rate, not suggesting you need that of course
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'ElkeM' Going to be blunt here... if I got a message like the one in your example I'd see it as arrogant and patronising. But someone else might see it as confident and witty, which is what you're aiming for. And hopefully they'd reply to you :) My point is that we're all different, and what sinks my ship may be what floats someone else's boat. There's no one size (message template) that fits everyone. There is nothing arrogant about my advice...it was cheeky and intended to help give the man asking the question some direction...it was nothing more than a quick example and a starter...im sure most people on here with a sense of humour would agree....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Yeah maybe not the bit about being busy and you'll make the time. That would be an instant turn off for me. I like confidence, don't get me wrong, but he needs to make me feel very desired and like he's gagging to get at me. Making yourself available, I'll be even more blunt, I'd be thinking 'Well that's big of you'. Can see what you're trying to do with the message though. Our feedback here on that might inadvertantly help with your reply rate, not suggesting you need that of course Some of us have a very busy lifestyle at least I'm just being honest and good mannered about it in advance...not all men on here will gag and chase ...sorry but I think that's totally desperate if a man does that...and this was just a quick written example to the man asking for a pointer...jesus I have opened a can of worms tonite!...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Most people have a busy lifestyle. Even when I did have a woman to see from Melb from rhp, it felt we had to make appointments well in advance. Despite both being single with no kids. Add more pressures on your time, sometimes the most common response if any to messages is a polite thanks but no thanks. Distance is too hard, even between city suburbs. So I approach in a completely platonic way at first, hoping they at least would appreciate someone to chat to with no pressure. Only if they reply do I seek to bring up the idea of a coffee meet etc. But that maybe is too safe compared to what they are seeking, not showing confidence/initiative etc. Or there are simply others they choose, closer, more attractive, more chemistry, due to number of suitors even though most messages they get may be lame at best. I don't blame them and wish them well if they do find someone, as I may still make similar decision/s if such choices were available in reverse. It does happen, I have been here long enough to see many singles become couples in that time, and perhaps create a couples profile, in which case I still may be interested, but in a different way ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
And that's your choice of course 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
We're all busy. How you choose to connect or with whom is your business, I'm just saying that wouldn't work for me, but I'm probably not your target audience anyway. Highlights Elke's point that it's individual. If we're happy with our profiles and communications (meaning all of us), it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. We were just commenting on how we feel about it as individuals, not having a go at you personally. Carry on being you, it's all good 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just to clarify, I wasn't saying the advice that you gave was arrogant. Just that your example message doesn't do it for me personally. Like I said, I'm sure there are others who would take it as 'witty and confident', even if I don't. And yes, ageee with CT... we all have busy lifestyles.
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usnow
7 years ago
Just manners and common courtesy , something sadly lacking on all internet sites .Yes we are all busy , well many like to think they are but you will find most people are working less than ever , 9 day fortnights , RDO's etc . Most manage to find time to be on facebook etc multiple times a day .Just people looking for an excuse for their laziness . Usnow .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well there's a few things and probably in this order as well: 1. Our profiles match, ie ours says females must be bi or very bi curious so if a couple respond where the female is straight then we don't waste our time with a response. 2. Having a complete profile with information about their looks, and more than 1 or 2 sentences in the description of themselves AND what they are looking for 3. Photos - either a few in the public profile or willing to show a private gallery 'G' rated or nude we don't mind just as long as we can get a fair idea what they look like so we can determine if we are attracted to them (we don't want to waste our time and theirs messaging back and forth getting to know each other until we know there is a potential attraction 4. Verified profiles - definitely have more of a chance getting a response from us if the profile is verified :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
It is just me but I will reply to all messages sent to me because I want to respect the fact that someone has taken the time to message. I have a good idea what I am looking for and try and be polite if not interested. However I have been abused by a few guys not on here but on other sites for just being honest and saying I was not into them. No skin off my nose. I will be flexible in my choice of FB and I don't really have a type. I do have an age limit though and prefer younger than me. I do take note of the way the message is written. I like a SOH and some cheekiness. I do like to chat first a bit but not really offended by a straight out offer. Not many options where I live and cant afford to be too fussy.
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noeleena
7 years ago
Hi. the few here who know me in person face to face will know I,m no different in how I write or talk to others . I,m very open about myself and explain I do have issues with writing being a major dislixic I have allways had issues in how to write or compose what id like to say to others and don't allways get it right. Any way I try , I like to explain about myself so theres no misunderstanding in my being a little different. and I think most people accept that. If some one writes about a subject that interests me I will answer if some writes to me in the first place then I do write back .and thank them for writing to me , what has helped me has been being in public and learning how to interact with others and being interviewed for public for TVNZ did help in being able to talk to and with others, , I would and have been in front of many 1000s of people and talked to them I find much better than writing and of cause a little help along the way makes it all worth while, and helps me to write, make it simple and make it interesting .and what I like is about your self not just a few words I like info and getting to know the person so I can relate with them. What I find so hard is I ask ?s and don't get any answers so I come too okay what ya hiding if you cant be upfront with me then I wont carry on writing I give up and leave. Its like ....oh and whats your name,,,,,no answer . oh , and what interests do you have , ... I go to work. end of. Maybe I really don't understand males and not wonting to talk or write about them selfs,,,I give up sorry ,i,m not used to that, ...noeleena...
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Dorey12
7 years ago
I just read the example of your message "Liked your profile and pics there girl..." I am not sure how many ladies here would like being called "girl". I compare it to being called darl for example, which I hate being called especially when I don't even know that person. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
7 years ago
God what's with people who call us darl or love, can't stand it
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Cowboyinthecity
7 years ago
I have found some people are seriously not interested or players. To message a guy with intentions you want to meet and then nothing is really just a time wasters and wreaks a "fake" profile run by RHP. Another common reply I have found is " we are interested but away on holidays" at the moment and will get back to you. Never happens. I think RHP needs to have a time wasters report area and delete members not active after 3 months if only guests. Saves time and trouble. Dan in Newcastle - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What women on RHP say about writing well thought out messages to get interest/replies is a good example of this. Touchy is about right. Elle starts out speaking truth then loses track. Women will generally look at a few vital statistics (age, relationship status, height, proximity, whether you can host). Then they will look at your pics. By most they have decided whether they want to fuck you or not (Some will also need to see that you possess some level of intelligence). If yes, all but the gloriously reckless will then enter into some light chat/banter which is designed to seek out any inconsistencies in what you say which might indicate you are full of shit/too weird like a decent proportion of guys on here. If you pass that test and have convinced them that you want to fuck them and you're not just some desperado looking to fuck something/anything. Then they will agree to meet. What you write in that initial message matters very little so long as it doesn't contain any red flags towards you being a weirdo or isn't "Hi, how are you?" which is a limp-dicked attempt to play the ball into their court (as are flirts) It is true that they love to receive long (but not too long), interesting, well thought out, personalised messages. I mean, who wouldn't? But that has more to do with them passing time / enjoying the power kick of ignoring supplicating men which is the keystone of their RHP experience for many
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sting, you destroyed your confidence credits when you felt the need to vigorously defend yourself against some lightly differing opinions regarding your initial message by arrogantly telling Elle that your message isn't arrogant after she offered her opinion that that is how it comes across for her. Confident people tend not to care so much if everyone doesn't see themselves the same way they do because they are confident in themselves. You have failed the inconsistency test.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Dorey12' I just read the example of your message "Liked your profile and pics there girl..." I am not sure how many ladies here would like being called "girl". I compare it to being called darl for example, which I hate being called especially when I don't even know that person. Just my opinion. Dorey12 I personally can't stand being referred to as a lady. I'm a woman and I love being a woman. I prefer being called "girl" to lady. Having said that, OP, I respond to messages that show you read my profile and state why you chose to message me, other than the obvious "I'm horny". I find those messages boring and I want to reply "tell somebody who cares"
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RHP User
7 years ago
Agree with everything you said. You have to be physically attracted to them, and if not I dont bother with the I’m sorry messages. But then again I’m only new. But well versed! - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
7 years ago
Some messages are difficult to respond to because they give you nothing to work with. There’s little point sending a message that just says “Hi, how are you?”. Unless of course you’re the hottest bit of fluff going. You’re probably better of not speaking at all so you don’t smash the illusion. Those of us who are good readers of people will wonder wtf you want and try to drag it out of you... or ignore it completely. Sometimes people don’t want to interact with individuals at all. They’re in the mood to just read a bit for entertainment... and messages are too much to deal with.... so, it’s all about the vibe, I reckon. Hugs Gaz
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