What matters to you as a couple?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  we have been together over 16 years now...and we love each other more every day...we do not play alone..that is the limit we set for ourselves...partially ,because for us, the excitement lies not in sleeping with someone else...but fulfilling each other's fantasies...like me being pampered by two guys...or him playing with two girls...etc..we were only 23 when we got together...neither of us were very experienced...or lived out many sexual fantasies..hell...most of my kinky fantasies didn't really materialized till i was in my early thirties...:)as for the every day routine...that's not so much to keep the connection...although it does that too...but that is what gives us new reasons for loving each other more, every day...he has seen me like nobody else has...messy hair and clothes from a forth night of camping...sick as a dog...drunk...carrying extra weight..angry, frustrated...depressed...but yet he has loved me just the same, always...and through all the ups and downs of life...i have remained his princess all along...as for what might risk the relationship?lies would come close...cheating...betraying...but in all honesty...as far as i am concerned...he would have to really, really fuck it up, for me to ever leave him...he is my soul mate...we belong...it's a bond that exist above everything and everyone else...

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'sensualtimestoo' we have been together over 16 years now...and we love each other more every day...we do not play alone..that is the limit we set for ourselves...partially ,because for us, the excitement lies not in sleeping with someone else...but fulfilling each other's fantasies...like me being pampered by two guys...or him playing with two girls...etc..we were only 23 when we got together...neither of us were very experienced...or lived out many sexual fantasies..hell...most of my kinky fantasies didn't really materialized till i was in my early thirties...:)as for the every day routine...that's not so much to keep the connection...although it does that too...but that is what gives us new reasons for loving each other more, every day...he has seen me like nobody else has...messy hair and clothes from a forth night of camping...sick as a dog...drunk...carrying extra weight..angry, frustrated...depressed...but yet he has loved me just the same, always...and through all the ups and downs of life...i have remained his princess all along...as for what might risk the relationship?lies would come close...cheating...betraying...but in all honesty...as far as i am concerned...he would have to really, really fuck it up, for me to ever leave him...he is my soul mate...we belong...it's a bond that exist above everything and everyone else...Really nothing I can add to that, very well written. We live by the same credo. We never play aloneIt is about seeing each other have fun more so than the other person/coupleWe discuss everything and our boundaries have evolved as a resultWe are always "Plan A" and anyone we are meeting is "Plan B if all goes well"We too are soul mates and neither of us would ever intentionally hurt the other.Thanks for posting!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  thank you...it's always nice to hear about other people's happiness .....

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  him_and_me

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'sensualtimestoo' thank you...it's always nice to hear about other people's happiness ..... You're right. There are a lot of threads discussing issues/problems (and there is nothing wrong with that - they come up and need to be discussed at times) but it wonderful to hear about good things too. Thanks for sharing!

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  chevtrek

  11 years ago

  just that one word honesty

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  Openly_Curious

  11 years ago

  He is rather fabulous in the day-to-day. He's got my back, and I have his. When things like work or kids or whatever get to be too much, it's always comforting to be able to turn to each other for a hug or a chat. And when things are good, no one enjoys them with me more than he does. And when things are normal (as they mostly are) something as simple as a raised eyebrow from him can get a laugh from me because we can convey so much without saying a thing. He knows the significance of everything because he's either been there for it or has heard all about it. Which also extends to playing for us. Our rules have / are evolving as we explore things. Our trust in each other is complete because we both know that nothing is more important than what we have.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We have just entered into an open relationship but have talked heaps about what is going on. After 23 years married and 28 years together we have always appreciated everything that goes into our relationship, including the day to day ups and downs. We make a point of telling each other what we appreciate about each other and above all trust each other and enjoy our time together. We have set our boundaries clearly and have agreed that above all our primary relationship is THE most important aspect of what makes us soul mates. So yes it's the small things that makes it so special.

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  mexicans

  11 years ago

  We married 30 yrs together 34 and grand parents to 2 girls . married at 18 , my wife was my first . Add all said before , thats us .Must say this is about the best topic and answers seen on here. 3 cheers to a great future .

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  thank you guys, for the encouraging and approving comments on what we have written...it is nice to hear, that other people also experience this wonderful sense of belonging with their partner...in today's world...where so many people seem to be so detached from their emotions...or feel , that loving someone... as much, or more, than themselves..or at least openly showing it..might make them look/feel vulnerable ..it's good to see, that lots of people still value commitment and life long partnership...screwing other people is ,without any doubt, a lot of fun...but knowing , that you have that one person...who will always be there...to love you..to stand by your side...through good and bad...now that's something special indeed!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  What mattered to ME as a couple? HER.HER happiness.HER heath.HER well being.I forgot about ME. It was my mistake.What will matter to me as a couple if I ever find someone to share life with again? US (our... the royal we... etc etc)Nothing will be off limits as long as we both agree to whatever boundaries we feel are necessary.What would risk the relationship? Breaching those boundaries.I want the next serious relationship to be give and take... a real partnership.(maybe I'm asking too much?)

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  Cheekyarses

  11 years ago

  Mr cheeky n I have been married for 19yrs this month n been together for about 23yrs. Over this time of course we have had ups n downs, lows n highs - various sex partners - times we could strangle each other n times we hate being away from each other!! We fight, disagree, but we also love, laugh, learn from each other, respect each other, n he is my companion for life!! Even if he goes out n has sex with someone else he knows I will want to know what it was like n we can talk about it! I wouldn't change a thing xxxx

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  sahzpete

  11 years ago

  Talk , Talk , Talk to each other about all the thing you like want and need from the swinging and agree on boundaries and stick to them, we found as we both got more comfortable with the life style we could push the boundaries a bit more, as long as you both agree no one gets hurt, and be honest with each other and life will be good still married after 36 years been swinger for about 5 and both loving it .

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