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What men say
March 30 2015
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
I know for me (Mr LifeUnscripted) I only generally focus on the good stuff....while women tend to focus on what they consider flaws. And even those are often so hot. I love stretch marks and scars for example....they are sexy, they add interest, and they are fun to follow with my tongue. Women who are confident and happy in their skin are always sexier than they think they are. When they feel sexy, it shows, and that is intoxicating.
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Way2go70
10 years ago
Lady T, I totally agree. I was in committed relationship with a very stunning and beautiful lady a years ago. She was mid 30's, size 8-10, 5'10", E cup, blonde. Everything going for her and to be honest very attractive. But she never really thought so. It was sad sometimes that she would see so many flaws in herself, eyebrows not the right shape, boobs dropping a bit (she had them done and they were fine), girly bits flabby, legs too fat, no thigh gap!!!, teeth not white enough....... Her friends were equally attractive and all partnered as well but it seemed like they fuelled off each other. She would do like you said and scoff at my compliments with a let down reply. "Gee you hair looks great today babe", "you think so, it needs more highlights...." I fell in love with the person within and the wonderful huge heart she has, and her me. I guess I thought at times that she could have done better so I will admit that we men are no stranger to the same self assuredness. From what I find tho is that men will often take the compliment openly but will have those self doubt / awareness thoughts privately. "You look great in that shirt", "gee thanks hun" while I suck my gut in a bit and wonder if she meant that or was just saying it. So when we pay a compliment 9 times out of 10 we actually mean it. No undertones or contribed meaning. Pure and simple we mean what we said. You look nice!!! And sometimes all I want to hear in return is "thanks'. That is probably the most sexy and seductive answer she could ever give. She has listened to me and liked what I said about her, and more importantly liked herself for what I said. Winning!! Love this thread tho and interested to see where it goes. xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all know the correct answer to give...even if that booty is bursting the seams open. Which is the same response we give when a lady highlights something negative about herself....."oh no you don't have a nose like Michael Jackson ...you are beautiful" for eg. The reassurance provided makes everyone feel a bit better. Whereas men know dam well they have their imperfections and kind of just live with it. (We moan about man flu instead....and yes we want to be told no-one has ever been iller and how brave we are!) This is obviously a generalisation all round but one noticed many times. In reality everyones beauty comes from the inside and an amazing personality linked with some confidence is a winner. A smile and a twinkle in your eye wins over model looks and body everytime. Good post btw. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Every woman is beautiful and it is true that you pay a women compliments and they ether swat them away or think you are after something however lady's this is not true i like to take photographs and am quite often drawn to the eyes of the women that i see at shops or on the street and wish i could ask them if i could photograph them without being thought a weirdo . Granted this is not true for all men there are weirdos out there but grenrely if a guy pays you a compliment except it because it is said whith honesty by most men and if you are in a relationship and all of a sudden don't get compliments then he has probably just given up because you keep telling him he is full of it . So in closing except the compliments say thanks or they will stop coming .
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RHP User
10 years ago
The silence is deafening. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
10 years ago
I get you but
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Seachange
10 years ago
I get you but
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Seachange
10 years ago
I can... and I am incorrigible...
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Seachange
10 years ago
for the advice...
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happy0450
10 years ago
For me the most powerful example of a woman's view of herself and it's effect was an episode of Gok Wan's program; How to look good naked. (No guys, you don't see naked women) I had watched it a few times before and seen women consistently among other things, misjudge their size - always believing they were bigger of course. This particular episode featured a woman who had a mastectomy, I think maybe even a double mastectomy. In the initial interview she appeared to lack confidence in herself, felt bad about her body, her overall appearance and her life in general. She (I wished I could remember her name) was about to break off her 2 year engagement as she couldn't bear the thought of having to wear a wedding dress. Gok had her first to try and identify which woman out of a line up of 7 were cancer survivors, and those who had mastectomies. She couldn't identify them. Slowly during the course of the programme this lovely woman regained her confidence. She shared the contents of her knickers draw, a motley selection of 3 for $10 cotton undies. Eventually she confessed to a box of sexy and stylish lingerie which she hadn't had the confidence to wear for two years. There were photos of her pre cancer, with only a different hair style and minimal make-up, she looked stunning. Towards the end of the programme, the team repeated the hair style and the minimal make up. She put her favourite lingerie and went out and bought her wedding dress. While this brief synopses doesn't do her or the episode justice, the only real change in this strong woman during the course of the episode was her view of herself - she went on to get married
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RHP User
10 years ago
Feel free to take over and tap dance in the spotlight. Any attention is better than non. - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
This is an opportunity to express something that is worthy of expressing. Beauty is surely in the eye of the beholder. Sexy eyes, a beautiful smile, an intelligent mind, unpretentious personality, fun loving, caring, sensual but my physical attribute that I love the most is sexy shoulders. Every woman has a pair, a dare and a posterior stop treating it likes its gold. The person is the gold. Value the heart and soul 💐 I don't speak for anyone except myself however it would be nice given the chance that other guys add to this post.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess if women can't refrain , by not reading or respecting a post Insert profile.... Oh they never read my profile...oh it says right there in my profile not to contact me.... Can't they read? Does that mean you ladies are honouary dicks? Men may not have instant posting , men May think if I post on this tread some woman will jump right in and ridicule me Men might read this and think fuck me I knew that was gonna happen Besides that even one man responding is important This is not the vagina a monologue on this forum , even the golden ones should try not to shine the light on it no matter how important they might think it is. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me I find a woman who is confident is very sexy and I'm a sucker for a great smile
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inspirit
10 years ago
I have a golden cunt so the rest is irrelevant. What ya think fellas.... In all seriousness, you're correct Medusa. Its about confidence in a woman. I know. I'm really a man dressed in drag. :-p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because of the silence of men. Not at your well meant post. Only women can be their own best friends. Ps: there is a reason women lack confidence and its a long and complicated story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agree, and yes it is a complicated story, if male compliments are superficial it's because you train us to be. " do I look fat in these jeans" ? How do you answer that ? I answer honestly, how many times is that appreciated ? So, if you do tell her you like her just the way she is, she won't believe you. However action speaks louder than words, leave the light on and ravish her. Another thing that baffles me, we are told women don't dress for men they dress for other women. Wow that makes me feel good ! not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Impatient much ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
This body image has been around for far too long. We all grow up with it bombarded at us from all forms of media, peers and sadly even family. Some women are naturally confident and love who they are, some struggle but it has to begin with belief. I find so much stems from past relationships as well, we have to let those past hurts go, your next partner/lover is not the same as your last. Believe that you are worthwhile and beautiful and when being complimented take it on board. You may not see it but that bloke certainly does and wants and SHOULD let you know. There is a saying I like that I shall leave you with. 'You are somebody's reason to masturbate'
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RHP User
10 years ago
And inspirit...don't make me hurt you! Besides that I know you don't have an Adams apple. To the lovely insightful articulate men. Carry on please. I am just handing ou ball gags to the girls. Gentleman be brave and post please. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Too many stonking hot women who are actually ugly people. They obsess over looking good, it consumes hours in their day. This self criticism is also projected outwardly, they pick on other women too(and often their friends). True beauty comes from within, and self acceptance plays a huge part in that. It's completely normal to have fat days, bad hair days, OMFG I've got nothing to wear days, but it is unhealthy to continually look in the mirror and not like what you see. If you are feeling down on yourself, go out and find things in other people to honestly compliment them on. Watch how they light up and smile. Feed your inner beauty and begin to understand that your harshest critic is yourself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
When someone gives you a compliment, the only thing you need to say is "Thank you"
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LightCatcher
10 years ago
I've had the same experience as you. I'm an art/glamour nude photographer and have photographed over 300 women in the last couple of years. Irrespective of age, race, body type, almost without exception they aren't happy/satisfied with their bodies. And many of these women I can only describe as breathtakingly beautiful. And yet time and time again I get "Can you photoshop my hips" and I go "What hips - you don't have any to photoshop!!" or "can you make my boobs bigger, rounder, smaller, more even, more pert" or "can you give me a waist" or can you slim my thighs, make me taller, do something with my bum...." Honestly Photoshop is an incredible tool but it has so much to answer for. Nothing you see in a magazine is real and yet these images just dominate the visual landscape - so much so that there is no "normal" on display any more - just minor variations on the current cultural idea of perfection which is getting distinctly weirder and weirder. One model who got in touch recently for a photoshoot told me and I quote "I've re-engineered by body for porn" and she had - she had 2 X 2 litre breast implants (only legal in the US) - she looked like she had two soccer balls sitting next to each other on her chest - plus to "balance them out" she had these massive bubble butt implants - and she was tiny - just 5'4". She looked like a complete caricature and yet she's a massively successful porn actress - her male fans pay her $1200 an hour just to meet and chat with her. And underneath all that I could see there was once a beautiful, petite girl. As a guy it just leaves me scratching my head. Mind you we're starting to get the same pressures too, but nothing on the same scale. But it is coming towards us as well - one girl I went out with recently said to me - "I really like how slender you are but we need to give you some pecs - I'll map you out an exercise regime". "Gee, thanks for that" I thought :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
The photos you took of all the women were wonderful. I could see in every picture something appealing and beautiful in all of them. I did compliment all the ladies and for one particular lady. I just thought she was stunning and I told her so, but her response was sure I have a pretty face but what about the rest. Well I like women to have lots of shape and curve and that in it self is gorgeous. What I have learnt is that there are men who like women whom are how should I say. Well there is no way to say but have bums, boobs, thighs that are jiggly and plump. Especially so if you hold your head high and feel yes this is me like it or move on. Because that is confidence and even though you can be cringing on the inside no will no that from the outside.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I so agree....if anyone hasnt watched How to Look Good Naked, please try to, its amazing what Gok does in that series, most of the women end up doing tasteful nude shots, and they all look so confident. And, yes, hand up, I dismiss compliments, but from now on I will say Thank You. Medusa. you are very skilled in your art....speaking for myself you made me feel so lovely and confident xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Once you relaxed and felt comfortable wuth me. Away you went. I love the naked ones if you the best Koko. Flawless skin. Each woman had something special that the camera can find if you feel comfortable with the photographer. I have never photoshopped any if my pictures. But some have been changed when I was doing studio work but not by me. It was by the guy teaching as most work today has to be that way to sell. That porn star thing is so bad. Poor men looking at and searching for artificial stimulation. And the woman well it's her body and she is making a living now. But how will she feel later? Good on you ladies for seeing your self as I see you in those pictures. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's not how you LOOK ! It's what you see !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paintmegold' Because of the silence of men. Not at your well meant post. Only women can be their own best friends. Ps: there is a reason women lack confidence and its a long and complicated story. - Posted from rhpmobile Some of us actually have livesI first saw this post at breakfast time (0430ish), of course I wasn't going to reply thenDuring the day I checked in on my phone and saw thisThere's a thread elsewhere that I mean to reply to...the post I'm referring to has been there since 23/3/15So talk amongst yourselves awhile...I might get back to this excellent thread...in due course
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RHP User
10 years ago
and yes you ALL are lovely, it is more than just skin n bone, complexion n hairstyles. It is about the heart and the soul, the love, warmth and compassion, the empathy, patience and understanding, and also the self confidence to believe, a woman is all powerful, world learn to tremble when you hear her roar :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paintmegold' Because of the silence of men. Damn...I'm tired I meant to selectively quote this post...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not your best one either - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know a few woman that see the negative in the positive, always wishing they were better in what ever aspect their apparent 'flaw' lies. It's the never ending search for perfection. It can drive each and everyone of us, both woman and men for that matter - but our imperfections are what define us. Others are just too hard on themselves and try to see compliments as a double meaning, when we say "you look nice" it generally means you look nice. I might sound like a broken record here, but it's the truth. We say what we mean and mean what we say. I don't know about anybody else, but I like a woman that I can hold onto without fear of snapping her in half :) Which I dare say would happen if the wind blew a gale over any of the photoshopped cleo covergirls! To some women I'd like to say "Congratulations. You have boobs, how about you show me your personality instead?" Natural beauty lies from within and radiates out. Not outside in.
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RHP User
10 years ago
:) BUT In a way it is so much easier to accept a compliment as a women when we get older. I know what a silly thing to say. Here we are even more imperfect as an older female and still I find myself so much more beautiful. Ok I have never been scared of being naked, but I was never confident because I hate my legs.....lol. Ok thats all I say. Now I am happy in my own skin, and sexy as hell, and have more happy comfortable sex then ever before. Go figure???? Thats all what I say. L
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Seachange
10 years ago
Looking after ourselves and banishing our insecurities starts with the graceful acknowledgment and acceptance of simple compliments. As Unicorn said, a simple response 'Thank you' is a good start and may suffice. Acceptance of somebody's praise is empowering and reinforces our belief, if not growing belief - if you have just started on the journey, in ourselves. I compliment men all the time when they look nice and make an effort. They are more accepting of a compliment. I also compliment women. As a child, I was skinny, big lips, big eyes, very awkward. Many times I was teased and told I was ugly and it hurt like hell. I had two recourse as a child, ignore it and move along as mom would tell me, or fight back with smart quips. At first, I mostly did the former but it eroded my self confidence. So I fought back, with wit or physically (yes I still do box and do martial arts but now mainly for fitness). Eventually, I gave up on the fighting and I focused on my studies and ballet and sports. I did very well. Great marks. I realized that I can get praised based on my intelligence, wit, talents and skills and not based on aesthetics. All quantifiable and of substance. All results driven praises and compliments. My self-confidence grew on my ability to do things and was not bothered by the wishy washy conforming with my peers just to be popular, pretty or trendy. All fleeting in my thoughts then. I knew I had bigger and less petty things to worry about. A late bloomer, as I reached my early 20s, I developed breasts and filled in. I started dressing sexy to accentuate my assets. And then men came knocking on my door. I was floored by this type of attention. It bewildered me at first but knowing I did not receive lots of compliments before, receiving compliments now means I am doing something different. good ego boost. In Europe and North America, men give compliments to women more freely, even when passing by the street and women acknowledge them gracefully. Living overseas gave me a different perspective and appreciation of the social and sexual dynamics between the sexes. It does not hurt to say thank you to them when they compliment you on how nice you look today. Because you did try to look nice that day. It also makes them feel good that they are not attacked or thought to be condescending. It would definitely be out of place to accept a compliment when you are a looking like a mess, gaunt because you have been in bed sick. All in perspective and its' rightful place. So ladies, let's rejoice and accept the compliments as they come. Gracefully.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_Mrs_Stig' It's not how you LOOK ! It's what you see ! what do you mean? Can you elaborate? There is thing called selective perception. We see what we all want to see in ourselves and other people. Is that what you mean? Just really quite baffled by your post as it is in Caps and large font. So I get you want to say something important that I have missed out on. Would appreciate the articulation on your thoughts so I can see where you are coming from. Thanks.
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Goldenage
10 years ago
All women I've ever met think the same of themselves and I have no idea why. The look they want is not what us guys want. All are beautiful. True, there are guys who want just the perfect bimbo but the majority of us truly are happy with the lady we're with not what a woman perceives. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
In my teenage years that i wanted to be a female. I tried, gave it my all but had that dream taken from me. I see and i hear women complain about their flaws and disatisfaction with their bodies. I can look at them and think what i would give to have what they have. Flaws and all. You are all beautiful and should appreciate what you have. Look after what you have the best that you can. Some things you can fix, some you cant. But just have the view that i use for the male body that i have been born with. I may not be the best But i will be the best that i can be I may not look the best But i will try and look the best that i can
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' :) BUT In a way it is so much easier to accept a compliment as a women when we get older. I know what a silly thing to say. Here we are even more imperfect as an older female and still I find myself so much more beautiful. Ok I have never been scared of being naked, but I was never confident because I hate my legs.....lol. Ok thats all I say. Now I am happy in my own skin, and sexy as hell, and have more happy comfortable sex then ever before. Go figure???? Thats all what I say. L and that is why you make the perfect artist model your so beautiful on the inside that it radiates out of you, I always smile when in your company your laughter is infectiousand photographing you is a joy gorgeous woman.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is right about this one In Europe and North America, men give compliments to women more freely, even when passing by the street and women acknowledge them gracefully. Living overseas gave me a different perspective and appreciation of the social and sexual dynamics between the sexes. It does not hurt to say thank you to them when they compliment you on how nice I travel a lot. I always love usa, the men there are so deliciously out going in their compliments. I was walking along minding my own business, and a guy comes to me and he stops he smiles he says "you are a fine looking woman, he had that sexy southern accent" I Just smiled and said thank you and we parted company. Go to Europe and USA they are more inclined to flirt with you and to pay you compliments and mean it , not just to get into your pants but to just flirt and make you feel appreciated. I think now men are to terrified to say anything to women they do not know in a public place, or the woman gets all out raged about a simple compliment. You know what RHP is? its a place where we get to show off the parts of our body we do like, we get to show what we might like to be, but we are a whole woman. Not the cyber selection for wankertain ment. not just cleavage, not just a bit of bum, not just piece of us. We get a lot of attention and compliments on here. tons and tons of it, but is it the right attention? Is it just an addiction to being thought of as sexy, the RHP sexy , yet when confronted with real life situations, we are no longer so comfortable. should we not be strutting our stuff offline , presenting the whole woman? Not just the parts that feed the cock plants that grow here? It is hard to be yourself, if you do not see your self as a delight, from top to toe , with all your faults that is who you are and you are beautiful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A European compliment might find you on the end of a harassment charge in good old laid back Oz.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Totally agree. Confident, strong and loves the cock... and tells you how good it is! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
While the exterior can be quite alluring, beauty comes from within.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think you nailed it in the second sentence OP, there are many factors affecting the way we feel about ourselves.from time to time everyone feels shitty! So why question that? if you think they look great that's awesome :) I used to not like my body so much, i used to be fat!! even now I occasionally i wish i was bigger or stronger, that's just the way i feel occasionally. I don't expect anyone to understand it, its my path I'm walking and my shoes I'm walking it in.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of our culture...Australian men have always been reticent with their compliments...they found it unnecessary ..perhaps this is changing as young men spend more time with their children and they aren't afraid to show their emotions..they no longer have to be the strong solent type...so perhaps when women received a compliment from a man in he past they were so unused to it,they were just stunned into silence xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just recently I saw a woman with a head of the most beautiful red hair, long,shiny,well groomed and just the right shade of red. All in all she was a very attractive woman, for a few seconds I wanted to speak up and compliment her on her hair, but I didn't because I felt that my attention would be unwelcome. I thought about this later and it saddened me because previously I would have complimented her and moved on without a thought. I do feel people are becoming more insular in this day and age. I now find myself understanding my grandparents generation better,as I remember them bemoaning the changing times when I was younger. Plus a meme chose plus ca meme change...excuse my French...but the more things change the more they stay the same.Now about the red headed beauty, how would she have felt about the compliment I didn't make?Did she hate being a Ranga?Would she have looked down her nose at me or felt the better for it?Well those questions an't be answered...unless she sees this post and replies...fat chance eh?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes i was in a relationship with a beautiful lady gave her compliments all the time. She was negative about it got to the stage i just agreed with her . Ladies take the compliments!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' so perhaps when women received a compliment from a man in he past they were so unused to it,they were just stunned into silence xxFreya has a lot to do with how it's delivered. Big difference between a respectful compliment at an appropriate time & place, vs a crass ''nice tits love!!!'' to a passing woman who is minding her own business. Many Australian men are yet to learn the difference.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jack_Denials' Just recently I saw a woman with a head of the most beautiful red hair, long,shiny,well groomed and just the right shade of red. All in all she was a very attractive woman, for a few seconds I wanted to speak up and compliment her on her hair, but I didn't because I felt that my attention would be unwelcome. Now about the red headed beauty, how would she have felt about the compliment I didn't make? Well those questions an't be answered...unless she sees this post and replies...fat chance eh? Now that is a missed opportunity that I think was worthy of a compliment. What have you got to lose? I think she would have apprecdiated it if she took enough care of herself to make herself pretty for herself or for whomever. As I said in the previous post, we do appreciate the compliments. Most of us are willing to gracefully accept the compliment and it would have made our day. I was at a local shop in Bentleigh recently, and I always go there to get my little gourmet treats. The lady was staring at me and I thought I had something on my face. Then she apologized for staring and said "Please do not feel offended. this is not a come on but I think you have the most beautiful full lips I have seen. Are they natural? And you have the Marilyn Monroe mole on your upper lip too!" I was stunned for a second and then laughed and said yes and thank you. we laughed together, had a few jokes and I moved on. Next time I was there 2 weeks ago, she was serving again and greeted me like an old friend and we shared a few jokes again. so next time Jack, "Appeler un chat un chat". say it as it is as it is meant as a compliment. Your kindness will not go astray. Most of the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wasn't referring to men complimenting strangers but their wives,daughters etc..Women they should be close to...many women of my generation were more used mot criticism than compliments ...nostalgia always puts a positive spin on history xxFreya
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Seachange
10 years ago
yes I agree. It is all in the delivery and choice of words. As some men are not used to giving compliments for whatever reason, some of the compliments can come out clumsy and even offensive. We, Aussies, are not as socially evolved in the flirting arena as our European or North American friends. Also Australian women needs to be more open and less defensive about men's compliments. It works both ways. In time, if we "educate' our men to know the difference and allow them to compliment women freely without provoking the ire of angry women. I have two young men, teenagers. I try to teach them the etiquette of how to talk to women in a respectable manner. Now, I will not put words in their mouth as they have their own language, but I tell them what young women are like and at a young age, most girls are very insecure and shy. I tell them to treat women with respect and compliment women or girls on something nice they like about them. but not go over the top. they can figure out what to do the rest of the way. In time, as the younger generation are more exposed and educated to flirting norms, either via travel, reading or internet, it will change as these nuances will slowly infuse into our psyche and culture. All good in my opinion. We all adapt. Hopefully for the better.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I wasn't referring to men complimenting strangers but their wives,daughters etc..Women they should be close to...many women of my generation were more used mot criticism than compliments ...nostalgia always puts a positive spin on history xxFreya That is sad. Although I have my adoptive 'grandparents' in Australia, 3rd generation aussies, in their 90s then that showed us that it is not always like that. Grandpa Ron was very complimentary of her, even on her deathbed, brushing her hair. Aside from being sick, she had alzheimers. she was going in and out of consciousness in the hospital. I know grandpa would go to the hospital in his best suit and sit beside her the whole day waiting for the moment of clarity. In those fleeting moments of lucidity, she would open her eyes and he would get up from his chair slowly, slick his white hair back with the palm of his hand and stand as proudly as he can in front of her. It was his way of giving respect to her, visually, a form of compliment. He was always saying how he married up as she was from a very rich family and was very grateful she chose him. she would say ' You look wonderful Ron. Are we going somewhere?". He would always say "Oh hello dear. I'm waiting for you to get up, Joyce so we can go to the dance in your beautiful dress. You love to dance." It always brings a smile to her face as she recalls those moments for a while. Of course she couldn't get up, but it made her really happy each time. it was painfully beautiful to watch. That is how a perfect loving relationship should be. something I aspire to have one day.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I wasn't referring to men complimenting strangers but their wives,daughters etc..Women they should be close to...many women of my generation were more used mot criticism than compliments ...nostalgia always puts a positive spin on history xxFreya\ one of my girls has a new boyfriend, she got dressed to the nines, had her hair done looked like beautifulhe says, nice dress is it new?she said he never says she looks beautifulmy sister is here today and i was telling her about this postshe said, my husband has never once said you look beautifulmy husband is getting better but I often remember how is mates would always compliment me, and notice if i changed my hair or got a new dress. But hubby never noticed. now he is a bit better and will say you look nice in that but the best thing he said to me recently is when I was helping out an old woman that had left the old folks home and move in the caravan park, I help her to the beach and make her a few meals.I said i am a sucker for stray people in needhe said, and that is why I love you...what a guy
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RHP User
10 years ago
My gf has spent much of her life being treated as a domestic, and no not even the goddess part, just a domestic.So any complement from me is heard and appreciated and just for what it is, simple thanks for a meal, liking her new hair or self interested sucking up for sex ! And I just love the way she smiles and turns to goo, it's just gorgeous !My ex on the other hand would immediately go into the cynical "what do you want" mode, so guess what? The compliments stopped.I firmly believe we teach people how to treat us............So..... what are you teaching ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
...A few weeks ago I was in Schipol airport, Amsterdam, waiting for my connecting flight to Hong Kong...then back to Australia. It was to be an 11 hour flight, followed by an 8 hour...so not much to look forward too. Around me in the departure lounge I see the "usual looking" travellers, probably looking much like me. A bit bored, blasé, not entirely thrilled that the adventure was coming to an end. I easily pick out a tall woman seated not far away. Why? Because she's clearly the most glamorous woman I have seen in a long time..maybe ever. She is absolutely stunning. Fine european features, the high cheekbones, petite nose, pale skin,wavy long white blonde hair. Wearing a darkish skirt, not too short, and a creamy white cape/poncho-type-thing with a white fur trim at the neck and the hem. Super tall gold heels and classy gold framed spectacles perched on that perfect nose. As you can tell, her presentation made quite an impression on my memory. As I gaze lazily around the lounge, she has an aura of golden-ness about her that really stands out in a sea of drab shades,so naturally my eyes wander back to her every so often. She's almost facing me, and occasionally looks up and around from that pink covered iPad( the only bit of colour about her ), but I don't care if I'm busted...she's that gorgeous it would be worth it to make eye contact. Or so I'm telling myself. When the flight is finally called and we can make our way into the line, I stand up when she does and end up in front of her in the queue. The airline security is really tight, so the whole plane is being made to empty our baggage and scan ourselvesagain before boarding the plane. This is going to take a while. An airport employee meanwhile is taking a passenger survey and I oblige while he asks me 30 questions about my nationality, where I'm going, where I was, the standard of the facilities at the airport, etc. After he's moved on, and the line is still crawling I decide to make casual conversation with the beautiful blonde standing behind me, asking her " is it always like this..?" She gives me a winning smile, telling me yes, but America is much worse..in excellent english with a strong european accent. She is travelling from Hawaii for work, and now to Hong Kong. Whilst waiting in line we continue to chat and she surprises me a little by showing that she had been listening to my questionnaire from the airport man, making related small talk. In my minds eye I'm thinking: maybe she's like a High Class International Escort...she's that charming, intelligent and attentive. Or maybe I watch too many movies...Eventually we get through security, and with that smile she wishes me a comfortable flight...and I reply with an easy smile and something similar as we board the plane and go our separate ways. Is it strange that a woman can exude a( carefully sculpted, of course.. ) aura that had such a powerful influence on a normal joe like me? I'm not an idiot...I don't fall in love with a stranger across a crowded room...but I was really attracted and wanted to communicate with this person. I was never thinking of sex with her...we were in a busy airport catching a connecting flight...besides sex has never held that much importance to me. Nor did I think we would suddenly become Facebook buddies or some crap like that. I always knew we were just strangers passing briefly. But I really wanted to talk with her. She just had that effect on me.I was amazed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
hi all - happy Easter long weekend eve ! What makes a woman beautiful to us men ? Clearly not enough time in the day for us to discuss every reason! You are all different and thank God - everyone of you has that little something that magically makes you perfect i love the criteria some of us put into the search engines when we troll for new mates - must have this must have that - but you know what it means nothing when your body shape requirements are attached to the wrong soul! when we find those connections in life that carve permanent memories - think about those moments then remember what you thought about their body - what stood out for you ( shocking pun ) - it may have been the way her toes curled when she orgasmed - how her neck flushed a dark red - how her breasts gently crazed your chest when she rode you - how gorgeous her bum looked when she bent over and whispered she wanted doggie - its each special memory with each person that makes me realise that its not ONE thing that makes women so desirable to us men dont change what have - dont wish to be anything else - be the sexy gorgeous creatures that your are - and us men will thank you for eternity!!! be proud of you - there is nothing more sexy than a woman owning who she is - think of how you are with your partner - in private - think of how free you become in a close relationship - then take that with you wherever you go ! have a great weekend
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RHP User
10 years ago
Good post. I used to give compliments to wifey, but she could never recieve them, always negating with a self deprecating statement in false humility. It grew tiresome and a real struggle, frustrating, then twisted. Accused of only being nice when wanting sex etc. But she couldnt give a sincere compliment either, to me. So as said earlier, I just started agreeing with her .. no point wasting good breath, so it all dries up. Such committment to negativity is nails in the coffin of any relationship or marriage. Graciously accept a compliment, of any kind, and give them .. men need them too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Each woman should come with her own set of instructions...But...have you ever seen a man read instructions?" And this is so true of men, why, just give me an Ikea flat pack and I'll have it out trying to work out to put the thing together. Eventually, after much muttering and wasted time, Okay, instructions? Show them to me. Eloquence is certainly not one of my strong points so forgive me if I prattle on. I have chatted to quite a few woman and dated some. Two different dates from a couple of years ago taught me a lot about women. The first date I met a woman for coffee and I hadn't really seen any clear pics of her so naturally I was a little anxious. She rocked up and she was absolutely stunning to look at, but before I could think to myself "Scored!!", this torrent of foul language spewed out of her mouth. The traffic sucked, she couldn't find a car park, this little old lady banged her with a trolley and so on and so on. Beautiful to look at but so down on the world she was. All the way through coffee she was continually looking at her reflection in the window and was enveloped in her "the world sucks" attitude, that my only wish was for her to finish so that I could pay (yes, I am chivalrous) and we could go our separate ways. Her attitude quite dampened my day. A week later (or so, my memory ain't the best you know) I met another woman for coffee. Her pic showed her to be of what I consider average looks, but she was lots of fun to chat to. What a contrast she was! Bright and cheery, effacious, such a sexy attitude, I was instantly attracted to her and we enjoyed many great times together. What I am trying to say is...it's not about how a woman looks, TO ME, it's about what she is like on the inside, her personality, her fears, her likes, her wants. A woman who gives of herself is so damn sexy. And I am not afraid to say what I think. I pay you a compliment (or many) NOT to get into your pants, but because I appreciate your inner beauty. Spicy :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
1/ imperfect and confident trumps 'perfect' and self critical/conscious/depreciating every time....I don't think one male poster has disagreed with this...I may be wrong... But largely unanimous 2/ compliments from men (by in large) I think are genuine... 3/ every compliment given that is received with self depreciation or doubt, leaves a man less likely to do it again 4/ a genuine, unsleazy, no agenda compliment, met with a balanced honest appreciation, is something that can and should brighten everyone's mood for the day....I remember and even treasure genuine compliments given to me from years ago. I also can remember a simple smile from a girl I said looked beautiful once over 20 years ago. 5/ when a compliment is rejected, it says to me, that you either don't trust me, believe me, or the compliment from me is not wanted....any of which is a total slap in the face. Paying a compliment is putting yourself out there....whether with a random stranger, or with a long term partner..stony knock backs suck.... 6/ it is never sexy, alluring,clever, strong or in anyway positive to self depreciate a compliment..it always adds to awkwardness, embarrassment or regret at some level for one or both parties. 7/ ....and can't I as a man.....occasionally be right about something? 😊 You do look radiant today! 8/ being able to accept a compliment graciously, genuinely, and warmly is a attribute far to few women have.. Women that can, are totally memorable, and stand out from all the rest (far more than the perfect ass or boobs) and will get the best out of any man they choose to spend time with.....straight to the unforgettable list for me!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am suprised my profile has not gone yet, I have written to the moderators but Easter might have held things up. So thank you for all the great comments. It's nice to know I have contributed some positive forum topics and better still that men contributed such wonderful posts to this topic. I may return who knows. But right now I have to leave as I think I am a forum queen and time to give others a go. Have a safe Easter enjoy your friends and family. And I shall miss my rhp family but I shall just be looking from the out side for a while. Thanks again for posting on this topic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Before you disappear... just wanted to say thank you - for the beautiful photos and also for this forum topic. I loved the photo shoot and especially loved watching how the women relaxed, got into the zone and strutted their stuff. Such incredibly sexy girls and such amazing photos :) It's been heart warming and educational to read the men's comments on here. Thank you - I've taken notes lol and, going forward, I will be accepting compliments in the spirit with which they're given, instead of dismissing them or looking for non-existent hidden meanings :) Much love, Elle67
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Elle67' Before you disappear... just wanted to say thank you - for the beautiful photos and also for this forum topic. Much love, Elle67 So what will her user name be next time?Tuscan4?Arnie? because she'll be back
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Seachange
10 years ago
She will be back. As Jack said.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Some women have taught to play games to catch them.. thats the ones youre complaining about.. the genuine ones you look over anyway. . Have you thought about what women say?? The mind games and lies for us to guess lol.. Very sexist against men society is - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
as I haven't really read many of the responses... But... Do we really blame them for being sceptical and brushing them off like flies given that they must hear them all the time ?? Surely it gets boring for them much like a joke being retold over again loses its humour?? Most of the people that know me personally know that if I don't just hand out compliments, as I want them to actually mean something. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're right, she will be back at some stage. Hopefully as "Arnie"... as Jack suggested lol. Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're right to a degree... I guess it could become boring if you're getting the same compliment from the same person all the time. So I suppose you're right to 'mete' them out in that case. But a genuine and sincere compliment will always be welcome to me :) Much love, Elle xx
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'freelyme' I think you nailed it in the second sentence OP, there are many factors affecting the way we feel about ourselves.from time to time everyone feels shitty! So why question that? if you think they look great that's awesome :) I used to not like my body so much, i used to be fat!! even now I occasionally i wish i was bigger or stronger, that's just the way i feel occasionally. I don't expect anyone to understand it, its my path I'm walking and my shoes I'm walking it in. I don't think you should worry. I think your smile is just beautiful and so warm and friendly. I wish more men would put up smiling pictures of themselves. i think you are very handsome so don't let the insecurities of the past stop you in meeting people. Goodluck.
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RHP User
10 years ago
…or anything with a pulse??? If confident and sexy the better???
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RHP User
10 years ago
Likes to hibernate in Winter..she is busy with life IRL and will no doubt reappear sometime before Spring...xxFreya
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madotara69
10 years ago
And lovely timing Elle, If I may genuine and sincere I shall do my best, the compliment too the last word:) your picture perfect,is as though an angel appeared from the heavens and landed on my shoulder. The stilettos and brushed lacquer bring quite sensual curves and tones to your feet, they make the shoes look good no doubt about it, I'd express as sleek lined sexy, real classy too and bet you could slip out of the heels and sprint a mile to swing off a rope into a nice little rock-pool and if that stitch running along the lines of the calf's that make the black denim look good, you could do a double twist off the rope and hit the water hardly a splash so that's practical as you in the denim makes the clear crystal spring water, rock orchid's in flower and soft velvet moss carpeting the the rolling curves of the stone holding the water you'd make look good. Flannelette or light cotton up top the choice is the world for what to wear on that note. Bare foot in jeans and a top, a quick splash because eyes of a lady emphasised and a smile makes you all look great and if you can walk with a spring in your step for just letting the spirit feel playful and not locked up copping it for ignorant people can't find time to offer a smile or all the other negative energies wafting about, if allowed that'll flow in and smother your spirit and everything seems like the world is against you. Bullshit, go find the biggest oldest tree out under the sun and stand back laying against it and close your eyes and feel the energy of mother nature flush through your self and fair charge your soul and spirit in ten fifteen twenty minutes you will know when to open your eyes and feel alive with the new energies of the surroundings, smiling as you move to the flows your own person and spirits have no inhibitions only care, otherwise what are you here for? Who owns you? Who do you have to answer too? Who do you want to be with for who is in yourself? the spirits of people find each other, I believe this because I've lived it with Tara our kids and positive friendships our parents had people comfortable being them self came together, hard to offend, hard to upset or stood over for place. You need to separate from greed and acknowledge it's presence but the two don't mix and if you don't feel comfortable with what is all around you, it's got a hold on you, care is what you need to feel it's all around you too and it is the spirits of my ancestors this room I sit in is in their meeting place and they have been here for thousands of years before god decided to make an appearance or the wheel or this modern thing of self worth, I'm a hunter by nature and a story teller, you are the gatherer and nurturer and the reproductive system nature chose herself and whatever else you are in self, I care to your spirits ask anyone that knows me. Even the Angel I acknowledge is sitting on my shoulder, ahh it's Easter Sunday too everyone is in the room. I guess what I am saying is that by all means, I see in Tara as for this bit, mascara for the lashes, some lines pencilled shaping the eyes and lips, some earthy pastels and brown minerals lead me straight into her brown windows straight too her soul and spirit and I like her freckles in the summer time and lines wandering off from her eyes and lips are from smiling, need to see them, I'd feel lost without them, the pencil she draws to the edge of her lips makes the lipstick look good, she has some nice hanging ear-rings with shaped metal twists and turns with small shells and stones entwined by silver wire and they look fantastic with the curls in her hair, dark plum colour if she must and she has some frilly wild clips she sets the lift of her curls, suiting the ear-ring art piece of choice. Up to a dozen silver bangles charm bracelets and stones at the wrist on both arms she jingles when she walks and talks with lively spirit. Her outfit I spent hours with her when we joined here going through the draws and wardrobes, she has most of mine too and a room covered in all sorts we bought together some quite sexy outfits, she is a Kiwi and her fashions a little different than others, knee high or higher stockings and she looks dynamite in boots and has an assortment of sashes for the hips and mums little comforts. Wow I could have near put a roof on a house for all the time to it, I've probably only nearly maybe, covered all the other little things here and there, waxes and creams and the Epilady and stuff and perfumes. But she sure looks great in a pair of jeans or tights or tracksuit and nighties and I want to play with her too out in the dirt and bush nude even. Shopping and camping and just hanging out all casual with some friends or just together and we spend more time to all that, that makes the transformation all dolled up special for each occasion. Seeing her smiling asleep and dreaming shows me many things. Thanks Lady T xx Mado Mado Tara xx
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' And lovely timing Elle, If I may genuine and sincere I shall do my best,the compliment too the last word:) your picture perfect,is as though an angel appeared from the heavens and landed on my shoulder. The stilettos and brushed lacquer bring quite sensual curves and tones to your feet, they make the shoes look good no doubt about it, I'd express as sleek lined sexy, real classy too and bet you could slip out of the heels and sprint a mile to swing off a rope into a nice little rock-pool and if that stitch running along the lines of the calf's that make the black denim look good, you could do a double twist off the rope and hit the water hardly a splash so that's practical as you in the denim makes the clear crystal spring water, rock orchid's in flower and soft velvet moss carpeting the the rolling curves of the stone holding the water you'd make look good. Flannelette or light cotton up top the choice is the world for what to wear on that note. Bare foot in jeans and a top, a quick splash because eyes of a lady emphasised and a smile makes you all lookgreat and if you can walk with a spring in your step for just letting the spirit feel playful and not locked up copping it for ignorant people can't find time to offer a smile or all the other negative energies wafting about, if allowed that'll flow in and smother your spirit and everything seems like the world is against you. Bullshit, go find the biggest oldest tree out under the sun and stand back laying against it and close your eyes and feel the energy of mother nature flush through your self and fair charge your soul and spirit in ten fifteen twenty minutes you will know when to open your eyes and feel alive with the new energies of the surroundings, smiling as you move to the flows your own person and spirits have no inhibitions only care, otherwise what are you here for? Who owns you? Who do you have to answer too? Who do you want to be with for who is in yourself? the spirits of people find each other, I believe this because I've lived it with Tara our kids and positive friendships our parents had people comfortable being them self came together, hard to offend, hard to upset or stood over for place. You need to separate from greed and acknowledge it's presence but the two don't mix and if you don't feel comfortable with what is all around you, it's got a hold on you, care is what you need to feel it's all around you tooand it is the spirits of my ancestors this room I sit in is in their meeting place and they have been here for thousands of years before god decided to make an appearance or the wheel or this modern thing of self worth, I'm a hunter by nature and a story teller, you are the gatherer and nurturer and the reproductive system nature chose herself and whatever else you are in self, I care to your spirits ask anyone that knows me. Even the Angel I acknowledge is sitting on my shoulder, ahh it's Easter Sunday too everyone is in the room. I guess what I am saying is that by all means, I see in Tara as for this bit, mascara for the lashes, some lines pencilled shaping the eyes and lips, some earthy pastels and brown minerals lead me straight into her brown windows straight too her soul and spirit and I like her freckles in the summer time and lines wandering off from her eyes and lips are from smiling, need to see them, I'd feel lost without them, the pencil she draws to the edge of her lips makes the lipstick look good, she has some nice hanging ear-rings with shaped metal twists and turns with small shells and stones entwined by silver wire and they look fantastic with the curls in her hair, dark plum colour if she must and she has some frilly wild clips she sets the lift of her curls, suiting the earring art piece of choice. Up to a dozen silver bangles charm bracelets and stones at the wrist on both arms she jingles when she walks and talks with lively spirit. Her outfit I spent hours with her when we joined here going through the draws and wardrobes, she has most of mine too and a room covered in all sorts we bought together some quite sexy outfits, she is a Kiwi and her fashions a little different than others, knee high or higher stockings and she looks dynamite in boots and has an assortment of sashes for the hips and mums little comforts.Wow I could have near put a roof on a house for all the time to it, I've probably only nearly maybe, covered all the other little things here and there, waxes and creams and the Epilady and stuff and perfumes. But she sure looks great in a pair of jeans or tights or tracksuit and nighties and I want to play with her too out in the dirt and bush nude even. Shopping and camping and just hanging out all casual with some friends or just together and we spend more time to all that, that makes the transformation all dolled up special for each occasion. Seeing her smiling asleep and dreaming shows me many things. Thanks Lady T xx Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you :) On day 6 of wearing hi viz & steel caps, feeling like a clone of everyone else on site, your post put me back in touch with my femininity and made me feel sexy again. Going to be walking around site all day today with a spring in my step and swing to my hips :) Much love, Elle xx
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
At this stuff mainly because im nothing like those types of guys.. i used to be bullied by them for being too nice.. and im an ex hairdresser so like to please and compliment yet im constantly overlooked and judged like those.. eont say cunts because cunts are nice to me as im straight. . Umm call them unevolved type men as they havent clicked yet. Im picky with who im eith and only follow my soul's cslling/direction. I wont be with just any girl. I wish women would learn to distinguish the difference between those guys and types similar to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'Elle67' Thank you :) On day 6 of wearing hi viz & steel caps, feeling like a clone of everyone else on site, your post put me back in touch with my femininity and made me feel sexy again. Going to be walking around site all day today with a spring in my step and swing to my hips :) Much love, Elle xx It's instinctive nature a male identifies the curves of the female bodies design by sight first at a distance, the eyes send a message to the brain it's a female, it's all a man needs to know at that moment. The brain then produces some chemicals to tickle some arousal that is still being of the visual scanning processing the curvature lines of the curves of those womanly hips and tits, also the spring and swing is also visually scanned and processed as sway and motions of a curvature movement repeatable a circular action, the brain gets a message of some movements are actively displaying the mating ritual of femininity in it's most primitive nature, while she feels all nice and friendly. It's a pheromone that the spring and the swing sends of in the breeze only a man can sense when breathing it in through his receptors recognising it as a scent of femininity begins the attraction to it of her chemistry. Men are just wandering about looking for something to eat, It's the curves and scent of a woman, when she's all spring and swing can drive a bloke nut's if she doesn't make a move. Men might be dumb, but not stupid because there has already been clear communication and little for words or actions to impress, chemistry has done it's thing, the man knows it. Having to go through all the analytics to mens approach by ticking all the boxes for why he wins the attraction, like it's his responsibility to bring the swagger to impress the woman's mind before she would consider if there might be any chemistry. It's a straight out bluff, bahahaa and some of the women of the forums are still trying to sell it. I reckon if the blokes have to come in and work against all instincts of animal attraction and guess what a woman might be thinking, on a bluff!! Then women should have to contact men by message, write a bit more than a line or two or a completed sentence describing their pheromone and how it might attract a man when they are feeling toey. Thankyou Elle, You are your femininity and own it in self, your own spirit and no one can take that away from you, or give it to you. Best stay aware to it by reminding yourself until it becomes habit of nature for when you fall in love with a man you have attracted with the spring and the swing sending off a pheromone, only a matter of time some lucky bugger gets a waft of your scent, you are going to want him to be your friend and you need to keep that friendship the centre of your life and spring and swing off into the sunset complete.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' I don't think you should worry. I think your smile is just beautiful and so warm and friendly. I wish more men would put up smiling pictures of themselves. i think you are very handsome so don't let the insecurities of the past stop you in meeting people. Goodluck. Thanks lilyorchid :) Apparently my first photos made me look like a criminal, I can thank an amazing lady I met of rhp for the current ones
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RHP User
10 years ago
If we complimented our men now and then, it might make it easier to accept compliments from them...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've given compliments in the past (because that's my nature to do so) give credit where credit is due, right.?? I've been shot down, brushed off, made to feel inadequate after, set up for a retraction, looked at as the 'bad guy' or WORSE- a sleaze hitting on them. The last time (about a week ago) I came out of the supermarket (so a very neutral venue) and told this smokin blonde (about 40-45- with a wedding ring on, so I kept it clean) that she had AWESOME calves. She wore those teeny-tiny tennis shorts with cuts up the side (so completely modest right.?) and showed her INCREDIBLE QUADS TOO, the outer sweep was to die for. They were too awesome to not acknowledge, MOST would have been thinking it anyway. I asked what sport she played, (as a leg fan, I'd love to play it...) she SNAPPED, "I don't a play sport, just teach it at the local school", and went away. HONESTLY, WHY DO I FUCKING BOTHER....????? JACK OF IT *sigh* completely demoralising.... But guess what.? It'll NEVER change. Sorry ladies. Maybe present forum crowd excluded, but generally- to the wider community..... NO :-/
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RHP User
10 years ago
How about all the compliments I give to those on this site. To those ladies who have made an effort, to get dolled up, get the hot outfits out & on, get photographed in them, PUT THEM UP FOR ALL TO SEE ANYWAY. I construct the perfect prose, one devoid of crudeness, innuendo, sleaziness (U TRY THAT.!) and still come off sounding like a genuine person that just happens to have a real liking for ladies confident AND comfortable in a pair of high-heel platform shoes & a pleated skirt or a denim mini. THEN GET IGNORED.! Not even the dignity of a automated response. *pfft* Sad really......
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RHP User
10 years ago
wow...angry much?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You see,the smokin' hot married blonde was SHOPPING ..she was probably in a hurry and you may have been the umpteenth man that had hit on her that week..and the mind boggles as to what you would have said if she wasn't wearing a ring..read your post again..I am not a smokin hot blonde..thank God lol..but I do get compliments when I am out and about..from women mainly about what I am wearing ..and I don't respond with.."what this old thing" xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
...it's what keeps me sharp. Edgy. But above all, makes me sad for my species that it even happens in the first place. *sigh* Its 2015- can't we all just get along....? Too much to ask.?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' You see,the smokin' hot married blonde was SHOPPING ..she was probably in a hurry and you may have been the umpteenth man that had hit on her that week..and the mind boggles as to what you would have said if she wasn't wearing a ring..read your post again..I am not a smokin hot blonde..thank God lol..but I do get compliments when I am out and about..from women mainly about what I am wearing ..and I don't respond with.."what this old thing" xxFreya Actually, we spoke when we were out the front, standing there waiting for traffic to pass when I decided to 'grow a pair' and say something POSITIVE. In a non-threatening environment and a non-threatening way. Not derogatory or rude. I could address your other points but, I don't think anything I say would be an answer you'd be satisfied with anyway- so I'll nip it in the bud by simply walking away. BTW- I enjoy a lot of your pragmatic comments in these forums.. They're insightful too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' You see,the smokin' hot married blonde was SHOPPING ..she was probably in a hurry and you may have been the umpteenth man that had hit on her that week..and the mind boggles as to what you would have said if she wasn't wearing a ring..read your post again..I am not a smokin hot blonde..thank God lol..but I do get compliments when I am out and about..from women mainly about what I am wearing ..and I don't respond with.."what this old thing" xxFreya There are plenty of reasons to simply admire from a distance and say nothing.The wolf whistle is politically incorrect in this namby pamby day and age but it is absolutely unambiguous.I'm told some women still take it as a compliment to be whistled at...time to unleash some feminine anger
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' You see,the smokin' hot married blonde was SHOPPING ..she was probably in a hurry and you may have been the umpteenth man that had hit on her that week..and the mind boggles as to what you would have said if she wasn't wearing a ring..read your post again..I am not a smokin hot blonde..thank God lol..but I do get compliments when I am out and about..from women mainly about what I am wearing ..and I don't respond with.."what this old thing" xxFreya There are plenty of reasons to simply admire from a distance and say nothing.The wolf whistle is politically incorrect in this namby pamby day and age but it is absolutely unambiguous.I'm told some women still take it as a compliment to be whistled at...time to unleash some feminine anger
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RHP User
10 years ago
You agent provocateur you lol..My friend Haley likes to be whistled at.she is hearing impaired and a real bitch..so it's the only way to grab her attention...xxFreya
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Seachange
10 years ago
I agree with you. What do we know about what the lady is thinking? What did he say? What was her frame of mind? You may have pointed out a likely scenario. Or maybe she had other things in her mind, sick kids and she was in the supermarket to buy nappies or other supply more pressing than getting a compliment. Or maybe her life is unravelling before her, marriage breaking up, husband lost job, a parent very sick, etc. So many stories that people need to be more aware that the world does not revolve around them and not to take it personally. Empathy is a powerful and wonderful thing. And so is patience. I have a man messaged me and i may read his message but have not time to respond as I am busy with work and with kids. As a single FULL-TIME working mother, there are priorities and rude men are far from pinnacle of the ladder of my needs. Anyway, I got abused for not responding straight away. I should have had my bat-phone handy for his calls at all times.... Damn you Alfred! Can't get good help nowadays... Most men here who i have had contact are very nice and understanding of my situation IF they read my profile. Anyway, some men just get very defensive and ABUSIVE if they are not responded to straight away, like spoilt kids. Tsk, tsk... Just way tooo UNATTRACTIVE.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' as I haven't really read many of the responses... But... Do we really blame them for being sceptical and brushing them off like flies given that they must hear them all the time ?? Surely it gets boring for them much like a joke being retold over again loses its humour?? Most of the people that know me personally know that if I don't just hand out compliments, as I want them to actually mean something. Again it comes down to the individual. I receive compliments graciously when they are given graciously. If the guy is drooling and says "You're doable" I just shrug it off as I am above being offended by a douche bag.But you are spot on in that the best compliments are the ones that mean something....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd say it keeps you something....but sharp ain't it....sorry dude but angry isn't my way of expressing my masculinity(if that's what it was you were meaning by sharp and edgy) but if that's workin for ya YaY team golf 😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
One of the most lovely ones I've ever received is my validation. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is a wonderful compliment... I'd be very happy to have that sort of validation on my profile :) Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
hey elle wanna tye me upp an be my master??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Paulie has gonski xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Paulie was going so fast, he actually went back in time. Like Superman.
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RHP User
10 years ago
He should be 19 by now...
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RHP User
10 years ago
He should be 19 by now...
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