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What messages work best for you?
February 12 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
A conversational message as if we were chatting just easy and free writing
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RHP User
7 years ago
Depends on the guy, his age meaning if he's potentially a keeper lol You wouldn't have to say much at all, given my interest would already be there 😉 Some of what you wrote is exactly what I like, outdoor stuff etc. Probably politics wouldn't appeal lol but after a quick read, the sexy talk would quickly follow, or I'd be happy with that. The biggest mojo killer for me on here is guys either asking for my pg or trying to rush me off the site. If they're happy to chat first to get to know me a little, and me them of course, they keep my attention, time to build trust and see if respect is there, in the early stages, important for me now more than ever. Also now losing interest in generic messages like 'loved your profile', prefer they personalised it just a bit, enough to have me believe they actually read my profile. Oh and if they ever sound relieved or express any kind of mention of the length of my profile spiel, I usually don't reply. If they can't take 5 minutes to read a profile, what kind of lover are they going to be?
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I need something that contains a bit of light hearted humour... sexy or straight' it doesn't matter as long as they're not too serious. So for me , it's simple stuff to start off with...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Still haven't found one. Zero luck so far, so interested to hear some. - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Genuine.... If the tone of their message matches the tone in their profile, I’ll be interested to talk further... - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
When I recieve a message I'm looking that location, can host and face pic are ticked off. If you ask to see my non existent PG, asked me about my "RHP experience"- please don't ask this it's not pretty, or ask me questions covered in my profile - you're out. Messages need to be longer than a line to get me to read your profile- I know how sexy I am and yes I put up nice pictures on purpose. I want to connect with you - I love a giggle either from the message or profile but basically you need to show me you understand this basic principle about women - our biggest sex organs are our brains and your little brain isn't enough to seduce us Show me you get this and I may think you know what to do with a woman once you have her in your bed XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
messages that show that the sender has taken the time and gone to the effort, to read through our profile wording fully. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some indication that they have read my profile while still being able to provide me with a sense of who they are themselves. Something a bit meaty and substantial interests me. With good spelling and grammar. Not too long. Flaky, generic and empty wording or just a 'hi' doesn't get my attention and sexual references in a first email actually put me off. LC.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Oh me too. I love anything meaty. First messages that hit you straight up for sex usually come across as desperate and seems like those pple will bonk any hole. Know what I mean? So for me, charming and nice, mention something about the profile, flatter me a bit (flatter me shamelessly) whilst coming aCross as a little hard to get - like you’re not too fussed if I reply to you. Then you’ll have me hooked... I’ll want to chase you. It it has to sound genuine though. Don’t know why. Easy guys don’t turn me on much.
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RHP User
7 years ago
... gets my attention in a good way and makes me smile. Straight out dirty doesn't work for me. And the minimalist 'Hi' is ho hum. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
The guys that write essays on all the ways they are going to 1) pleasure you and/or 2) ask you to get ready to be treated like a princess while they wine and dine you and paint your toenails and/or 3) go into great details how they will go ABC (tongue action) on your pink bits and/or 4) offer you money - offer to fly you interstate or overseas on wonderful holidays 5) offer to pound your arse to dust 6) tell you how they will dominate you in the first message Yeah . . nah... I say. BORING!
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RHP User
7 years ago
and what you said 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
The best ones show they've read and understood your profile. They write to you personally, not just copy and pasting to everyone in their vicinity. The worst initiate with an "erotic" story without even exchanging normal messages first. Not once has this ever been welcome or remotely arousing. It's usually much older men doing it, and I'm not sure how they haven't worked out by now that most women don't appreciate it - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
7 years ago
one word or line. Those just ignore.Comments on my profile (not just pics!), or humour and lighthearted cheekiness will always get a reply.
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RHP User
7 years ago
With the huge list of contradicting opinions on here wouldn't it be more logical if you ladies contacted us? Just saying
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RHP User
7 years ago
If they can't spell it, they aren't going to be able to do it. Too, I prefer complete and grammatically correct sentences that are sensual and seductive. We can get down to it when we're finally nose to nose and toes to toes! 🙃😉⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
The erotic stories cringe, can't stand them either
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
You want to be told how to behave and communicate? Hmmmm 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
Something to look forward to. Except most ladies need to upgrade first. 😝 Now where’s that run for fucking cover emoji... 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's literally the price of one drink in a bar! Per month! Seriously you chicks bang on about equality all the time yet most of you are so tight that when you fart only dogs can hear it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't think you realise what a gender imbalance there is on this site. At the moment there is about 3 pages of women in the 18-50 group in NSW who are online, with photos and looking for a 36 year old guy. For the reverse it is 22 so we are looking at about a 1 to 7 ratio before we even get into the fact that I suspect there are a lot more fake female profiles than there are fake male ones. Women get to pick and choose on this site and fair enough. It just means that we need to raise our game especially if you are not packing a six pack and a 10cm+ cock. Looking back over the messages I have sent I realise that because I am struggling to find something interesting to say about people's profiles I am offering to buy them a drink in the first message. Thinking about it I realise that this is probably a turn off and that most people would prefer to have a conversation first before getting to the meet and greet part. Would you agree?
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RHP User
7 years ago
But there are some men on here who are as tight as a fishes' arsehole when it comes to being a paid member. LC.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would say if that is the case well I can see why the no replies. Speaking in that way puts off a huge percentage and kind of reads ready to catch up now. But why not capture the full percentage by writing a pleasant message introduce yourself, joke maybe even flirt a bit depending on the profile. Let them know you are interested and interesting. And nothing wrong with saying love to buy you a drink sometime again depending on the profile. All the best
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes, the first message just needs to be genuine, pleasant, not too long with like you say, maybe some humour or flirting, flattery of course lol I've been finding though that very few actually ask me out, or if they do, they try to skip that bit later 😏 I used to be happy just to meet and fuck, but with men closer to my age, I prefer to suss them out first, not just physically but since I'm looking for a possible relationship, I need to know how 'old' they are in general. I get bored very easily and feel like I'm just starting my life, with new enthusiasm and thirst for life, they need to be the same. They need to excite me. Most though who are single around mid 40's haven't been out of long term relationships very long or have baggage/battle scars, and just want 'fun'. So do I but I'd like to have that fun with a partner im crime. Well, no-one is getting past first base with me atm they're not even stepping up to the plate. If I wanted just sex, I have plenty of guys I can call for that, hell of a lot younger and a hell of a lot hotter. Happy to let them go on their journey and continue mine alone until I find my male unicorn. LC regarding tight as a fishes arsehole lol do you think that might be an influence in them not wanting to go out on a proper date? With me I mean lol Might they be worried about the cost I wonder? Dates don't have to be expensive, some of mine I suggest we get a takeaway coffee and hang out at the beach, barely any cost at all. Anyway, just thinking out loud about my lack of genuine invitations.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ever been hungry and don't know when you will next put food in your mouth?
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RHP User
7 years ago
In response to this> "In fairness With the huge list of contradicting opinions on here wouldn't it be more logical if you ladies contacted us? Just saying" No, we would rather you face rejection 😉
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
“Hey mate - heard something about a truck crash near Shepparton. Trust you ok?” My reply :- “Yeah I’m ok...the doctors tell me I’ll walk again so that’s a plus... In the meantime I’ve got a splitting headache ... Any suggestions? 😂😂” And that’s how messages should always be written 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
know thy enemy, and pick thy battles, Pommy 😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
"Hello Clarice..." Don't get many replies though. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
😂😂😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
I was paid up for years. Ended up cancelling it for reasons that I won't state otherwise this comment won't see the light of day I might end up joining again when I'm more financial. Even when I was paid up I didn't send that many messages though, if I did it was to people from the forum or people I'd met at meets. With a very rare, occasional exception, the profiles of the guys up this way are very unappealing and in no way inspire me to want to know more about them by sending them a message. If I did find a profile interesting then I would have no problem doing so. I did actually message the last guy from here that I fucked, after he sent me a flirt, but that was only because his profile said he was Welsh and that set my accent radar off. He didn't even have a public photo on his profile at the time and very few words so if not for mentioning where he was from I would have just ignored it like most of the others. Yes, I am that much of a sucker for some accents and yes it has got me in trouble...who knew that shagging someone just because of their accent could be a bad idea
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
I agree with pommy.... However... 2 things that will see it won’t change... 1. Women live for the drama of the guys that message with their dicks....they love to complain about it how hard done by they are, yet they choose a path not conducive toward positive change.... 2. Men can’t help themselves...they want their dicks sucked and played with, and given the usual standard of man here that will just message the masses in a hope they’ll find a woman just as desperate as them, they’ll continue to feed the aforementioned drama hungry women....and so it becomes a self sustaining environment.... Women don’t need to message anyone while they’re being fed their daily dose of drama scented penis messages... And dicks will continue to reign surpreme in a desperate beta males world.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
😂😂😂 That will never work. Next time go with “It rubs the lotion on its skin”. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Intelligentsex I just don't really give a fuck or take this site too seriously. Way too many guys just kiss arse in the forum's instead of actually speaking their mind. Despite having membership I very rarely send messages. They just don't come across right when I send them. Pretty much everyone I've met and played with through this site since becoming single has contacted me first and they've done this because they read something funny I said in the forum's, they really liked my profile or I was recommended from someone else. Asking what's a good first message is a futile question because it's totally subjective. Take the people who have commented that they hate graphic sex talk. Ok it doesn't work for them but they're other profiles that specifically ask for a rundown of what you're going to do to them sexually as an opener.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I grew up in the industrial north of England in a very poor family. I know more than most what it's like to go without. I'm sure a big girl like you can take the occasional rejection :p
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like the way you think! Let's do dinner. I know this place that does a killer steak with some fava beans and a nice Chianti If it goes well you might even get "the hose" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What do you mean rejection? Sorry I haven't read all the comments but weren't we talking about being a paid member?
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PurePeony
7 years ago
If I'm not attracted to their profile and photos, and if they obviously haven't bothered to read my profile, then it really doesn't matter how the msg is written - I am simply not interested. 😞
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PurePeony
7 years ago
... I just received that made me want to scream, "Get lost!". 😝 He wrote one sentence saying his partner told him he should try another Filipino girl. 1) I'm not Filipino. 2) My profile states I'm not into attached men. 3) I mentioned I'm not attracted to morbidly obese people. 4) My profile states that I'm on a furlough. Etc. Etc. Etc. Guess why I couldn't ignore that msg fast enough. 😝😝😝 Sincerity shows in msgs. 😉 If you read the profile and take something from it as a point of discussion, chances are you'll get a response. Don't stress over the lack of responses though - if you aren't someone's preferred type, it's best to know that in the early stages and move on. 😉
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bonefide
7 years ago
With the huge list of contradicting opinions on here wouldn't it be more logical if you ladies contacted us? LMAO I support your great FUNNY comment, but I'm thinking we should all duck. And only come out, once to suns up, so we can see the hits coming. LOL
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RHP User
7 years ago
That’s the message I look forward to the most!! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheClitWhisperer
7 years ago
I m usually try to pick something I like in her/their profile , just to show that I Ve read the profile and always end with a question to let her answer in the next message. It s important to show some humour cause first think first we are all here for the fun so better sound like it , but honestly sometimes it s hard when there s no content in the profile... pleople can t complain having lame messages if their account is poor ... isn t it ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Itouchmyself I was just referring to when you said "No, we would rather you face rejection" Bonefide I know it obviously won't happen because that would involve using logic and knowledge and everyone knows that if you use logic and knowledge on Rhp you break several laws of physics which leads to a rip in the fabric of space time and could potentially destroy our universe as we know it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry, I'm up to speed now 😊 I forgot I'd posted that other comment. Huge day, tired little brain 😁 On the subject of rejection though, no I'm scared of rejection. Fortunately it doesn't happen that much, you know we women are lucky like that 😃 More importantly, I still like them to approach me first. I like to be chased, part of the roleplay with the male being dominant, taking control, feeling his confidence, turns me on. Doesn't matter atm if they flirt but when my gifted membership runs out, I'll be staying as a guest until such time as I can afford to join. The hunger thing, it was serious and scary, but not now. I have a little relief now. I also support my son, so you need to remember, not just you, all the others who have posted similar comments about guests being tight, that a lot of families are struggling, plenty of men pay maintenance for kids + mortgages etc., there just isn't anything left. Being single with no children or general financial stress, it's a little too easy to pass judgement on others. Also as someone mentioned, this is rarely the only site people are on. Assuming they do it because they're tightasses, sorry but that is just plain ignorant (meaning anyone passing that judgement) That one drink a month out, I don't do that because I can't afford it, rarely anyway, about twice a year lol I also respect that men can go for years without a single meet, or very few. Buggered if I'd be paying either. All it does is line the pockets of the greedy owner who's no doubt cruising the carribean or planning the next exclusive orgy 😏
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Quoting 'Alien_Sex_Fiend' I did actually message the last guy from here that I fucked, after he sent me a flirt, but that was only because his profile said he was Welsh and that set my accent radar off. He didn't even have a public photo on his profile at the time and very few words so if not for mentioning where he was from I would have just ignored it like most of the others. Yes, I am that much of a sucker for some accents and yes it has got me in trouble...who knew that shagging someone just because of their accent could be a bad idea LOL did similar with a Scottish accent. Well I did find him highly attractive, but the accent was the total clincher. The moral to this story is how well can guys fake a Celtic/Brit accent. Irish it the best IMHO, ...to be sure, to be sure.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Definitely someone that's read our profile and not someone that just says Hey or H,i and someone that hasn't got a automated message that looks like its been copied and pasted from their profile and most likely they use it for all their messages. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like a bit of cheekiness & naughtiness in their message, but my pet hate is if you don't have any photos I'm not interested. I'm not going to talk to mr nobody. Sounds harsh but going thru my views, flirts & messages, if no pic, then you're deleted & im not talking about cock shots. And please don't ask to see my pg, you will see them when I feel we have a connection & while I'm on the bandwagon bad spelling is another one....😌 - Posted from rhpmobile
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xelanox
7 years ago
Changed profile description from full details to empty and back. Sent about 1000 personal, non templated messages during last 5 years. Received 7 responses with no :) so, ~0.7% lol. I don't count scams of course. - Posted from rhpmobile
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xelanox
7 years ago
Maybe the reason is English is not my mother tongue, have no time to investigate anymore :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Pmsl "Now where’s that run for fucking cover emoji" love it!! I agree pretty much with all above ladies comments. Pommy, I have been doing what you suggested for quite a while now. I like being the hunter. I've found that works soooo much better. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey iTouch! Apologies for hijacking the thread! Remember the steak 🥩 and BJ day that never happened last year? I’ll bring the steaks 🥩 and salad 🥗 you just turn up in that dress 👗 OK? M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...on this site would try this sure-fire first message out. You will get results! "Here's my phone number, what's yours? Call or text me but I can't always answer especially after 6:00 p.m. Anyway I'd fuck you and just so you know, I think I've really fallen for you." Yeppers, that'll do it! If enough of the guys here try that one, I think the odds may start to go in my favour by default. 'Go one guys...hit 'em up!!! 😉😆⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What one woman finds attractive, another thinks you're a retard! It's just a lottery, I've been doing this for years and still haven't worked it out, probably never will! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m also disillusioned with messaging. I must have sent a thousand of them. Mainly proper thought out, longer messages, each tailored to the recipient, but I sometimes send the occasionally cheeky one liners, where the profile’s description suggests they are welcome! The more detailed the profile, the more the lady is likely to appreciate a detailed message, but she’s less likely to read it, because her settings will probably be more acute too. She’ll probably be inundated by other wannabes too! Hence I get very replies. Of those, most are the template messages. I do get a few polite personally written “no thanks” some of which may say they found what I write on my profile amusing, so that’s well appreciated! A few replies, lead to long conversations, weeks even, and then just evaporate into thin air, and I wonder if I’ve been conversing with a bot, or a guy posing as a woman, especially if they are more explicit and ask me, which of their pictures I came over, and they ask, what was I thinking at the time? My profile says I’m married, I’m honest about that one, and I understand what people say about attached people being on RHP without their partner. However, when it seems that 90% of the Muggle world are shagging all and sundry, the RHP peeps are taking the morel high ground. Unless he’s hot, or rich or... just floats their boats!! Therefore, I limit myself now to the forums, where hopefully, some ladies might fancy a chat, after reading my stuff. Maybe the forums are inhabited by a more discerning lady? Maybe older ladies, maybe they have difficulties with most men. Maybe they are unable to perform? Maybe they don’t want to perform? Maybe they’re happier taking their own erotic photos, and get off on guys pleasing themselves over them? Personally I don’t care, and if any lady wants to chat with me, for myself, I’m happy! If anything develops out of that, well that’s a bonus! One of the most sexy times I ever had, was a warm afternoon spent with a girl, reading “Readers Letters” out loud to each other, whilst the other one, masterbated! Never seen her since, but I think of her voice reading those stories, often! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
That’s just normal dude.... No different to you being attracted to those you find attractive and not everyone... Can’t believe I just had to explain that to a 56 year old sheesh - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
7 years ago
Are u saying the quantum affect of the supernova RHP uses to enhance our knowledge and understanding of each other, "maybe", tilted if the fabric of space time, rips. Or are u simply saying, use the true meaning of the force, and ask the Leyland brothers. ?????
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’ve been on most dating sites last few years including some mainstream ones and RHP and much kinkier others I won’t name here. Speaking from experience, most messages are entirely irrelevant. If a beautiful woman wants a man she will get him, period. And if men are competing for a woman’s attention, laws of attraction will kick in and she will pick the most promising one, unless he writes something ultra stupid and ruins it for himself. As for others, you can try philosophical or conventional approach, it makes little difference really. Only place that messages make a serious difference is a particular BDSM site where members are mostly highly intellectual educated bunch with great attention to detail, that’s where all the six pack abs owners and barbies hit a wall and you can’t get attention unless you have brains. Everywhere else is pretty much a meat market and how educated, cultured, well traveled you are is pretty much irrelevant with few exceptions. Personally I don’t waste my messages here at RHP on any woman unless I notice a particular non-sexual mutual interest, because as someone who is active within BDSM dynamics I already have a devoted submissive/primary partner and I can’t be bothered competing with rows of other men or trying to get anyone’s attention on this vanilla site, many of which turns out to be either fake, discreeet (cheaters), or mostly race oriented daters -Let’s face it, most people from certain races won’t date those from other races- I am only here because every now and then I come across an amazing person and I immediately know we will get along just fine. That gut feeling never failed me. I found my current partner like this. Being non-monogamous kinky people, we find it much easier to meet others at other locations, RHP crowd never really appealed to me. Though I got dates through this site, I noticed that almost all my dates from here were brunettes from certain cultures; Brazilians, Colombians, Greeks, Middle easterners and even one from Mongolia. I never really got attention from local Anglo-Saxon females, and I never made a big deal out of it. Each to their own. But I figured those from foreign cultures are far more likely to respond to intellectual messages with matching enthusiasm. I dont know why. Maybe it has to do with the fact that Australia is a lonely island which has a life of its own isolated from the world? - Posted from rhpmobile
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SandeGiny
7 years ago
I'm certainly no young gorgeous model, but there's no shortage of incoming messages for me to reply to, so at this point, I don't feel the need to pay (@pommyfucker) Genuine messages that show they read my profile and bio have thus far been winners in my book. But i always check the bio from flirts and messages as well...i like a lover to communicate well and know what they want so a blank bio description is a firm NO. xoxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for your post. I guess it raises a separate question about what is the right amount of information to put in your profile. I find it a real struggle to write anything interesting about some peoples profile apart from, "how are you finding rhp?" However I fully appreciate people not wanting to put too much information on this site.
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RHP User
7 years ago
A few times I've had fantasy story's sent.. and time taken to do this and the imagination of the man's mind ..gets me going .. 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I personally hate the ones that start with i know you arnt looking for a guy but i thought i would say hello and let you know im a great lover respectful and caring. Usually sent with their pg and a dick pic. Not cool guys
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RHP User
7 years ago
with CandyD, guys who are easy and want to not take the time to connect with our brains first is a real turn off. Take the time to know who you want to jump in bed (or wherever) with. Is that old school? - Posted from rhpmobile
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