RHP

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What point in a monogamous heterosexual relationship should one disclose that they're bisexual to there partner

August 30 2016

I believe that this should come up fairly early on if both parties involved are getting serious about there relationship with each other so that the person who's 100% heterosexual is given a choice whether they want to be in a relationship with the person who is bisexual. Being denied this information is misleading deceiving and thoughtless to totally disregard ones views and feelings. Even if the person not of bisexual orientation is still open minded and accepting of anyones different sexual orientation its a respect thing.

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Before it becomes one. Groundhog day much?

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    If they are in a monogamous heterosexual relationship , or about to embark on one, does it really matter if one is bisexual or has bisexual fantasies ? It's not as if the bisexual partner is going to engage in same sex activities outside of the relationship , as then the relationship would hardly be monogamous, in our opinion. But always a good idea to open up the lines of communication as to one history, sexual preferences & perhaps even sexual fantasies, before getting to far along in the relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Once you start to get comfortable with one another and you feel that something more permanent could be on the way. Always best to let one another to know where they stand with important information. Tall

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    Excuse the typos - iPhone issues - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    That way, at least if you get shown the door, you at least got one away.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    If be telling someone I was Bi on first meeting them.... Ive no secrets and being open is paramount. Im not Bi tho but I disclose Im fucking crazy. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    If you fall into a relationship that seems to be going somewhere , it's your responsibility to inform that person of your lifestyle immediately. Not doing so is deceitful and shows a total lack of respect and selfishness. Being a straight man , I don't have that dilemma but I'd be pissed off if someone wasn't up front and honest with me.. Never happened btw..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Right when you know you want to only see that person or they only want to see you I think being open about who you are and want from any relationship is the most important thing. That leaves the other person to choose Whether they are ok with it all :) I personally believe more in honesty more than Monogamy but sometimes the person trying to be honest finds it hard to tell their secrets, because of either past experiences or reactions of a current situation. In saying that the reaction of the partner is not at fault either ... Just a learning curve and the party will decide to accept and compromise or move on :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' If be telling someone I was Bi on first meeting them.... Ive no secrets and being open is paramount. Im not Bi tho but I disclose Im fucking crazy. - Posted from rhpmobile Part or your charm, I'm sure.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Feels to me like you're looking down on those that have chosen to be with you, but are bisexual.... What difference does it make if (I assume) you're in a happy, monogamous heterosexual relationship??? People don't leave their partners just cos they're bisexual..... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Give them a chance to meet the real you before rolling out the big ticket items and brewing up preconceptions they may have about bi guys

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    8 years ago

    Personally Stirry I think it makes a lot of difference. They might be happy in a relationship that ticks a lot of their boxes ..... except if their partner expects monogamy then not being able to be bi with others can be a very big deal breaker especially over time. At the end of the day its a choice to weight up. Do I stay in the current manogomous relationship in which I accept that I am still bi but will never act on that side .... or is having bi play (and therefore non manogomy) every so often more important. For everyone that's a personal choice to weigh up. Cheers W. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I just told my girlfriend recently and she has told me she wants a girl to join in too .. Win ..win 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    What's the point of a monogamous relationship?

  • codsworth

    codsworth

    8 years ago

    that was worthy of a epic mic drop CandyDelicious to the OP it may take a little while depending on past experience as soon as possible is when major information like that should be shared my wife told me with in first week she sat me down, told me she had something serious to tell me i was shitting myself, thought she was about to tell me she had cancer or something horrible by the look on her face she told me she was bi i could tell it was really tough and scary for her to say she explained how it had ruined other relationships and she didnt want to suffer a long painful end i was over the moon with happiness i was so relieved i just laughed and kissed her, i told her that was the best news of my life she didnt do anything about her desires for a long time, i think me just accepting her completely was enough 9 years later, she is my whole world and i wouldn't give her up for anything

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Cheers to everyone that gave there point of view much appreciated and interesting to read everyones replies. I definitely do not look down on anyone of any sexual orientation its how we feel comfortable with being intimate with another or others. I was hurt to find out after my partner and i had broken up i mean im ooen to trying anything....he couldve shared damn it lol. But we did have a very rocky relationship which probably held him back maybe. Im a very honest person and love to know lots about people before and after getting down n dirty thats how i choose to open up and get past my shyness so i can just have fun. Honesty sets you free - Posted from rhpmobile