What to ask?

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  countrytouch82

  2 years ago

  It is always good to understand each other better, so in my view there are no silly questions, just silly assumptions. I'm single but I've found sex, massage and intimacy self help books to be of benefit, as they can cover a great range of topics, especially ones we might not have even thought of. If you have the connection where you can read things together with your partner, or mutually appreciate documentary type material, then exploring these materials together will help you understand how you each relate to different topics, I think. They will also give you pointers on things to try together, for instance.

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  2EssesExploring

  2 years ago

  When it comes to sex, One of us (me) is an over sharer and overtly adventurous the other (her) is very reserved but we do discuss all our desires with each other without feeling we will be judged. She often says “nope, that’s something g I wouldn’t want to do” but I never feel scared she will feel less of me. We put everything on the table then work out what things we’d like to share together, what things we are happy for the other to explore on their own and what things we think shouldn’t be explored at all.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 years ago

  Everyone is different and like what they like. IMO If guys continuously ask me questions prior to any sexual activity, I find it real off putting. Boarderline Creepy. Yes, you are right, it does add pressure and expectations. I'd rather live in the moment. Throw away those books and crap. Most are written by men. Those men are no expert pussy whispers and most have no understanding about women's bodies. I find they speak too much on behalf of women. That Andrew Tate guy for example. Self proclaimed wanker. Ms Foxy

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  CuriousAsianCpl

  2 years ago

  I have always leaned towards asking more questions than less. Takes out the guesswork when meeting as we would know what the other person/couple likes and dislikes and vice versa. Sex chat is also good foreplay for the build up to the meet.

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  nightingale8

  2 years ago

  It depends on who you’re asking, when and how. Rule of thumb, if you think asking all those questions might be making you come across as an idiot you’re probably right. I suspect you’re probably doing alright in the bedroom if you’re even asking this question. You’re a genie granting three wishes, ask what they might be and have fun!

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  sweetnyorkshire

  2 years ago

  For us asking questions is the way to go. People especially women tend to be very different in terms of what turns them on. To give example my partner is very much into slow sensual play however the couple we played with a few weeks ago is the complete opposite and likes to fuck hard and fast! We wouldn't have discovered this unless we asked questions. I get that the timing and way you ask those questions is important and for me I tend to ask as confidentiality as I can once we're already naked. We had a great time with the couple can can't wait for a repeat performance! I think this is why regulars really works for as you get to know the others bodies very well! 😀

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  RHP User

  2 years ago

  Prior to the act (when you're still fully clothed) is to say what you like to do with a partner - as in describe the kind of foreplay and positions you like best and see/ask how they respond to your descriptions. This should hopefully prompt them to either respond favourably to your suggestions or to say what they prefer to do... Which will give you an idea of what to expect when it comes time to do the deed. And if you do get around to getting down to business, always reassure that you want them to tell you if anything you do makes them uncomfortable or hurts. So clear lines of communication are essential at all times. It shouldn't be an awkward thing to discuss. In fact it should show that you are genuinely interested in giving them the best time possible...

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