What to write in the first message and how intense

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  you dont want to be writting a five page essay or be crude like "want to fuck" normally if i get messages like these i wont even look a the profiles. best bet is to be short and sweet, you liked there profile, your interesting in ____ and see if they want to chat yeah this is an adult site with everyone looking for fun but its not a meat market

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Everyone has a different style...that is why they call us individuals, or at least I would hope they do. I am still not sure who they are but "they" do seem to get credit for a lot of the confines and dictates we choose to let contain us. Forget "them"...just be you, as it's the best that any of us have to work with and eventually surfaces anyway, like it or not. Unfortunately (or otherwise depending on your point of view) this site did not come complete out of the box with a template that works every time. I doubt it has yet to be written. | Three simple guidelines, as I personally don't like rules unless I can break them...read the profile, read the profile and finally, read the profile. After that what you write is up to you and what you think (feel is better) once you have...read the profile. | Some profiles are a look in...some are smoke and mirrors that would do David Copperfield justice. You do know that he really did not make the Statue of Liberty disappear...but it would be nice to think that anyone could have pulled that off. Personally I like reading the longer profiles that are well written, complex, intended to enlighten and confuse all at the same time...and tell me more than the overstated obvious, but that is just me. They do say "any port in a storm" but what do they know...and as I am not looking for ordinary, average or simply a place to land if the ceiling of the thunderhead on the radar is above my maximum altitude allowance. Fly through it, push the envelope outside of the allowance or keep the plane on the ground. | Short form...read it and write it. Some will like what you write about you, some won't like what you write about you, some won't even understand what you write about you...but what you write should be who you are and that is the best that any of us can do. Or at least that is what they say....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I would suggest that you read the profile...then think of it as a job ad...and write an application!Say things that show you have actually READ the profile...not just looked at the pictures.Don't rehash YOUR profile...and above all...make sure you have a good profile pic!!!Remember...guests CAN'T SEE restricted pics...that is...anything with a naughty bit in it!!!Write messages you would want some other guy to write to your sister.Keep it light, flirty, relevant.Good luck!!JMO...BJxxx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Woollymoof, Well your second sentence will put you above 95% of the people here, you read their profile! And it seems, popular to the belief of a lot of the males here, asking (and sometimes demanding) a fuck in the first sentence doesn't work at all. I think the important thing to remember is you are corresponding to a total stranger who probably gets dozens of msgs a day (if not far more). I have found if you tell a little more about yourself, be polite, be humourous, spell all the words correctly and don't assume anything. I would be retisent in asking to meet on the first email, hell you don't even know if she is going to open your msg. Keep the msg short, and word it in such a way to get a reply, ask a question or two but nothing too personal or probing. Look mate, msgs here are a hit and miss. You can send 100 msgs, all identical, and about a quarter will never get opened, half read but never replied and of the remaining 25 you may get a reply but often not the one you want. Oh and get rid of the hoody, they might look cool when you were 17 but now, women want to see your eyes, your face, they are visual creatures just like us, just different set of visuals. Good luck and good topic mooka

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I usually stick to the one basic message - 1 line about what I am after, and if they like my profile and might be interested then give them some contact details to chat sometime and take it from there ... with a quick line or comment thrown in to show you've read their profile - no need for an essay on how much you have in common. I think its best to make sure the other person feels comfortable and that they know that if they do contact you its without expectations and that they haven't signed themselves up for something already. No pressure, no expectations. BJ.. as far as the job application goes - not sure listing all your previous 'employment experience' is a good idea ;-) Save that for the second message.. LOL.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  that i encourage to much tuition in message composition. Why?I am glad you asked ;)If everyone is well schooled in message composition i think it will become all a bit generic, and the real persona won't tend to come through! Only the schooled methods and content.Cheers Nev.....On Sunday night..

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  a little like giving the Fox the keys to the Hen house. Cheers Nev.......

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Let it flow and speak for yourself and be yourself... Why a strategy????? Girls (well me) like expressive guys... xxx Have fun, relax!!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  one of the "wanna fuck" brigade.....it will get you no where show a girl you have read he profile ask her how her weekend went/ how her day was if she has something specific in her profile...ask her about it just be nice and polite and you will get somewhere if she is a half decent girl roxxy

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...for your replies. They've given be a good idea how to go about it.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Much better pic dude....well done. You don't look like a  homey gangster now !Cheers Nev

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  hey, there's nothing wrong with gangsta

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Huge change in image Woolly! Grasshopper is listening and learning Sensei Nev! lol Seriously tho, Woolly, sit back & enjoy the ride. I have a funny feeling you'll do just fine xx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  for the boost in confidence x

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