RHP

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What women want....

June 09 2015

I was chatting to a friend recently and she was telling me about a comment that a guy made to her.... that is "she is a tough nut to crack" he was referring to her climaxing.... Now we all know that everybody is different and believe me she is one sexy horny woman, she just takes a little effort to get her legs and body shaking.... I suggested to her, that when a guy is not hitting her buttons that it's ok for her to tell him what she likes and needs to get off.... So the question I have for women is. How do you feel about telling a lover (especially a new one) how to get you off... For the guys.... Personally I find it exciting when a woman tells me what she needs and likes.... But I can imagine that some guys would think it's a slight on their sexual abilities.... So man, what do you think about women telling you what they like???

Comments

  • langton11

    langton11

    10 years ago

    it'd cut to the chase and save a lot of trial and errorI'd be completely down for that

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Well I actually like to ask a woman what she likes and for her to ask me. And am more than happy for her to give me a few pointers if I am not pointing in the right direction . Makes for much better sex and connection. Excellent question OP and interested to know the ladies ideas on this.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I know you blokes aren't good at reading instruction manuals....so if necessary I will give pointers. Especially when it comes to eating pussy...I've had guys thank me for my tutorials!! Likewise, I always ask my partners what I can do to get them off as everyone is different. I'm not talking the obvious stuff either, I'm talking about specific desires, fantasies and fetishes. I love to please, love to give, and I get off watching others attain ultimate pleasure!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Rocket science... Communication. Hp xo Because you're worth it...

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    Would really struggle with telling a new lover how to get me off. I have also been told how hard I am to make cum. I'm such a contradiction some times. I have no problem being told what a guy needs or shown what they want and how they like it, in fact that really turns me on but I'm not so good at reciprocating. there is a part of me that believes great sex comes with time so if it was someone I was looking to have ongoing relations with than I think the rapport would naturally evolve. mind you just because I don't verbalise exactly what I want doesn't mean that my body, by it's actions, isn't screaming it out to you.

  • sock26

    sock26

    10 years ago

    Not only do I pay attention to the woman I'm with her movements her breathing her body's uncontrolled reactions as a guide but often ask questions in the process. But do enjoy when women ask for what they want me to do with/for/to its an extra turn on knowing it's her thing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I also can be a tough nut. I find it hard to talk about what I like and sometimes I don't even know... Oral for example... I've had maybe 3 or 4 orgasms in my life from it so when a guy says "tell me what you like" I have no idea! After I've been with a man a few times and I'm comfortable with him however, I have an easier time being a little more communicative.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...and totally in sync with MissB & KiS. Are we more the norm than the exception???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It absolutely depends on the man.Some men don't need no instruction manual...they just know..other men,I just wanna say,here honey,let me do it me self ...as the Pointer Sisters say..I like a man with a slow hand,I like a lover with an easy touch...otherwise this sister is doin' it for herself xxFreya Brazillian

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    New man or not if I want something or I am in the mood for something I will let them know. I am moody and feel like different things at different times I don't expect man to know everything. If I want a good tit slapping I will ask, if I feel kinky or naughty I will let them know, if I want anal I will say it and if they don't please me there is no way I would let a man cum! OK I can be bossy but truth is I love it.

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    10 years ago

    Is thinking 'their tried and true' moves will work for every woman. I climax easily (mostly) and though I am a very vocal lover, I'd like not to tell anyone I'm playing with, how to do the basics 😜 If I'm going to be giving instruction it's 'to fuck me harder or faster' rather than 'go a little to the left or right'. Read my body language, the clues are there! I struggle to give instructions (those who know me may laugh) during sex, if I am, it means I'm not really lost in the moment. Make me lose myself in you and the rest will cum (pun intended). Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Love the feedback a woman gives when I go exploring... is a huge turn on when she says "that's the spot" or guides you back to a spot that makes her arch her back. I think it'd get boring if you could just dive in to the same spot and be finished in 5 mins... what do they say? "The journey is as important as the destination"... or something like that. Another thing I've found is that whilst the good spot on one woman is not necessarily the same on another woman it can also move on the same woman... for example sometimes sensitive inside, sometimes out... it is only by playing and paying attention to the feedback, both verbal and non verbal, that you know what is the right place and the right time. Just my two cents... :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'sock26' Not only do I pay attention to the woman I'm with her movements her breathing her body's uncontrolled reactions as a guide but often ask questions in the process. But do enjoy when women ask for what they want me to do with/for/to its an extra turn on knowing it's her thing. That's a fine line too Sock.... But, I've had women (friends) say that they just wish the guy would fuck her without constantly asking "do you like that" "did you cum" blah blah blah..... so reading the play is also vitally important too, it's a balancing act for sure and difficult to get right particularly whilst you're in the "discovery" phase........

  • beachgal20

    beachgal20

    10 years ago

    Yep, that's me......but Joder...man you got those legs shaking 😜😉 And Missb I agree with you!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is half the fun ! A new lover is new territory to explore, new things to learn and discover, I'd like to think I know what I'm doing but hey a few pointers as to the right path never go astray. Doesn't have to be a lecture just a few appropriate moans will do it.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    10 years ago

    Yes I don't want to here, do you like that, does that feel good, have you cum yet..... Trust me when I say if I'm liking it, you're going to know, like Mary I'm a little vocal (or so I've been told), I cum easily (so it gets extremely wet down there) and I'm going to be telling you all kinds of naughty things...💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My Moana Lisas 😘😘...masterpieces xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Have no problem giving some pointers if the person in my bed isn't getting it quite right for me. It would be along the lines of "That feels amazing, but you know what would really drive me wild?" rather than "More to the left. No, more. No, not there. No, no, now it's too much". I think the latter would ruin it for most, and I certainly wouldn't like it if anyone made me feel like I was failing a practical exam.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Good communication in and out of the bed helps, but I do always enjoy the exploring (love the ladies feedback) and delight when I get it right. Plus doing it right ladies can come multiple times. Gents take your time and the rewards will be worth it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Beachgal .............mmmmmmmm

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I let the lady know she can take control of my hair/head and use as it as she needs.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    It's when laying back absolutely fucked from hours of edging, who knows how many orgasms as they blend into an almighty euphorically intense session of...well fucking, that there is just no further energy than to say.. "That was fuck'n awesome"Then pass out. Too hard to spell it all. Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'headgovernor' I let the lady know she can take control of my hair/head and use as it as she needs. Samson and Delilah syndrome don't let her near your hair you'll lose all your power