M42
What would you do?
October 22 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good on you for putting it out there. I hope you find someone who shares this fetish of yours. Mees not into it but Im sure there are people who are. xx Krissy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not my scene personally, but I've heard of it - even heard of fetish parties where this is on the order of the day. Your best bet is probably to find the fetish site equivalent of RHP - there are a few of them out there and some other members might be able to help you. You'll find all manner of kink catered for. You might even get some contact here based on this post.As to developing relationships around it - much trickier. I can't speak for the ladies, but if the situation was reversed and I had a partner with a fetish that I didn't share I'd really have to approach it on a case-by-case basis. Is it something I find odd but harmless? I'd be willing to indulge them to an extent, or create an arrangement where their needs are met. Is it something that actively turns me off? There are a few things that come to mind, in which case I don't think I'd see us as sexually compatible in the long run and would probably have to reassess the relationship.You could try and develop a relationship through your fetish connections, which would give you far limited pool to choose from, but at least you'd know you're compatible in that way. Or you could take your chances and introduce your fetish to someone you trust and hope they're accepting. Tough call to make, so good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a fetish .. A certain hotel has very very plush toilets - I like to take my toy in with me and watch listen to the ladies pee as I play away ;) And the sound of heels on the floor and the spritzing of perfume ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Each to their own...and if you can't find someone, then....well....there's always porn. Don't give up, there's many people with their own 'vices' and ideas, just stay true you yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is so my worst enema....
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RHP User
12 years ago
good luck, and yea... well done for the honesty, that on its own is impressive...hope you find what you seek, but realistically.....you may need to be very patient..........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Davo8383. Thanks for your Topic.. I appreciate you sharing your Kink ..It takes a lot to open yourself up to possible ridicule .. I applaud Sweetie , HT who have replied before me .Both very understanding sincere in their Comments as I am too... I'm curious when you mean a Diaper Nappy Sexual Fettish (Geez that's a mouthful ha!ha! ) Do you mean you get aroused by wearing them Daily , when having Sex with a Partner..or are you a Sub. who wears Nappies etc and craves to be Humiliated and berated for soilng them.. You don't have to reply in detail just all of the above or a couple will do ..I asked because I can gauge if you require an ALT.com type site Alternative Fettishes or more a Femdom or Mummy Baby site..What ever you need ,I'm sure if you do a search Online or even world wide you'll find those who can accomodate your Fettish .. If none Locally just start up your own ..have an umberella Group. Guys wanting Mummy's Women who want to Nurture ...Subs being Humiliated told off for soiling ..etc. and enjoy having sex wearing them if that's all you like.. Good Luck! with it Hun ..I'd love to know how you get on ..There are guys who do share the same or similar Kind all over Australia I know because I've had a few come say Hi! to me :) Cheers Lu
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RHP User
12 years ago
First of all thank you very much for the comments. I did Not actually think i would get any replies. Well it is seperated into 2 groups really, ab/dl (adult baby/ diaper Lover) i am a diaper lover so it is just with the nappy itself. Where ab is for ppl that want to regress themselves to a baby and Thats how they enjoy their sexual activity. I havent however had alot of experience as you could imagine. Some people like to wear tham all the time where as in myself it is just During sexual encounters. So humiliation and so on. Thank you for listening.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are right, we can't choose what floats our boat. To think that no one else will ever understand us and our 'kinks' is a dreadful thought, but rest assured there will be plenty of other people who share yours, and Lu is so right, perhaps you need to investigate further to find a site that is more tailored to your needs. We all deserve a chance at happiness and I hope you can find yours Light and Love Saskia
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
there are hardcore fetish sites and fetish clubs here in aust.. and plenty of ladies that are into fetish.. i dont think you have to worry too much about not finding someone with similiar fetishes , but you may have to look around abit harder . Before it was chateau vino , it was a bdsm and fetish club i went there a couple of times..there were peeps with all kinds of unusual fetishes . Im sure they still have get togethers , maybe you should look into it.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Hun, if that's the worst thing about you...don't sweat it. We all have our 'kinks' and in the scheme of things, yours' sounds pretty harmless. I have known people who have lived and loved together quite happily, regardless of one person having a 'fetish' for something. Being open about it from the beginning is likely a good way to go (when I say that.. not day dot of meeting but, certainly, if you can see it going somewhere. I know you might run the risk of rejection but, better early in the piece than months or years down the track where you possibly could end up very hurt and feeling betrayed. Good luck Davo, it is, after all not the sum of you, just a small part and it should not dictate your capacity for personal happiness in future times.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You'll find the right one! Do you need to be involved in nappy sex to get off? You're totally right, we can't choose our fetishes. I love being choked and slapped in the face. It scares the shit out of most people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can definitley understand that some people out their are very open and Understanding, however it isnt a normal kink and i can see people Getting frightened over it before they really get a chance to know the Real me. As you guys have said it isnt something that you can afford To just not mention in a later part of the relatiionship. At the end of the Day i will die trying and if i do find a girl understanding enough for this, I will treat them like the princess that she is inside and out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If there's one thing the internet has taught us, it's that no matter what kink/fetish you have, no matter how outlandish, there are hundreds of others out there who are just as, if not more kinky.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Where I want to give you all a big hug, for being so decent and kind to a person. this my friends is what its all about smooooches and Davo hon there is always a match somewhere for everyone, go and find what makes you happy. Do not hide it from people, as you need to let them know so they can be part of your pleasure. If its not their thing, then fine , they may not be for you. On a caution, also think about the people you disclose this to. Not everyone is as open minded as the folk on RHP
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yea not everyone knows about it. I have only disclosed it to my 2 best Mates and my folks. They are very understanding and i dont know where I would be without them. Again thank you all for the comments. You have no idea how much I apreciate it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
but it isn't easy to find a life partner full stop .On your profile you metion that you are here looking for a partner but you have nothing under fetishes so just a suggestion Davo ,maybe mention in your profile that you enjoy a particular kink.This doesn't mean you have to say what it is but it will let women who may be interested in contacting you know that you have one and the conversation starter is there.Another suggestion so that you can be a bit more proactive in your search here, is to become a paying member.good luck Davo x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I loved someone I wouldn't judge him based on what turned him on.I would accept it and possibly participate.Love has no boundaries.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' You'll find the right one! Do you need to be involved in nappy sex to get off? You're totally right, we can't choose our fetishes. I love being choked and slapped in the face. It scares the shit out of most people. slapped on the arse, not so much the face but I think I might like that too... one for next time ;) put your hands on my throat and my knees give way... *tingling in all the right places*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting... I'm personally open to a lot of shit; except for, well.. shit! haha, ain't nobody gonna be taking a crap on my chest... uh uh, no way. Does DL fetish include soiling? Or just the physical act of wearing the diaper? You'll find someone hun, trust in that. Plus, if you intend to treat her like a princess then I'm sure she will be more than willing to return the favour by indulging you in your fetish. Goodluck in your search hun and thanks for sharing with us :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
mate you will be fine .. get ya nappy on and go get some
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RHP User
12 years ago
and where have you been ?? hmmmm, good to see you back...
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RHP User
12 years ago
As has been said, it's not a conversation for a. First date but the sooner you tell them the sooner you know where they're at. Good on ya for putting it out there. You'll find her mate
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know a lovely young guy (just turned 22) who is hugely into wearing latex. He has the most adorable latex Nuns outfit and has modelled this at fetish expos. I have known about his kink since he was 19. I was the first he spoke to about it. He has had many heartbreaks along the way when he has met someone and discolsed his fetish to them. Currently though he is in a relationship with a woman who accepts him and his fetish. She will strap him into some of his oufifts when going to work if thats his wish, and understands if he plays with others while dressed in latex but doesnt play with him herself while he is in latex. It does nothing for her but I applaud this young couple. Firstly to him for knowing what he likes and for being open with his girlfriend about it. Secondly to her for accepting hmi for who he is (kinks and all) and thirdly to them as a couple for figuring out what works best for them. They have been together just over 12 months now and this situation still works for them. Its is tough to find someone who accepts you for who you are in most instances but when you confess to having a fetish slightly outside the norm you open yourself up to ore heartbreak and pain than most. I have attended parties where people have shared their AB fetishes, have played with guys who prefer female lingerie and have explored my own kinks. Be true to yourself, open with those you are looking at being with (particulalrly in the long run) and eventually you will find that special someone who accepts you for you. Good Luck Kisses Focus
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'just1taste' I have a fetish .. A certain hotel has very very plush toilets - I like to take my toy in with me and watch listen to the ladies pee as I play away ;) And the sound of heels on the floor and the spritzing of perfume .... Me too...but I rather have a partner in there with me ;-)Not into the nappy fetish however...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' but it isn't easy to find a life partner full stop .On your profile you metion that you are here looking for a partner but you have nothing under fetishes so just a suggestion Davo ,maybe mention in your profile that you enjoy a particular kink.This doesn't mean you have to say what it is but it will let women who may be interested in contacting you know that you have one and the conversation starter is there.Another suggestion so that you can be a bit more proactive in your search here, is to become a paying member.good luck Davo x R Cheers for noticing. i only signed up to RHP last night.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' You'll find the right one! Do you need to be involved in nappy sex to get off? You're totally right, we can't choose our fetishes. I love being choked and slapped in the face. It scares the shit out of most people. Not always, but as you can imagine i have not had alot of experience.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' Interesting... I'm personally open to a lot of shit; except for, well.. shit! haha, ain't nobody gonna be taking a crap on my chest... uh uh, no way. Does DL fetish include soiling? Or just the physical act of wearing the diaper? You'll find someone hun, trust in that. Plus, if you intend to treat her like a princess then I'm sure she will be more than willing to return the favour by indulging you in your fetish. Goodluck in your search hun and thanks for sharing with us :)It has its ups and down really. Sometimes it may be the humiliation behind having to wear some, itdoes sometimes include scat but very rarely and tbh i don't think i could do that with someone watching anyway.and other times it could be just sitting in one. hope that explains enough for you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Davo I'm stunned that you've told your folks and a couple of mates. That seems to me to be a really courageous thing to do - good for you! It might be worth adding a bit of info about your fetish to your RHP profile. That way anyone who's looking at your profile and who's into the same thing will know to contact you. All the best with it :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh i have been stuck into to legs ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' Davo I'm stunned that you've told your folks and a couple of mates. That seems to me to be a really courageous thing to do - good for you! It might be worth adding a bit of info about your fetish to your RHP profile. That way anyone who's looking at your profile and who's into the same thing will know to contact you. All the best with it :) Well unfortunately my first few years at school weren't the greatest, which left me with depression and this is one of those things that left bottled up turns into something massive. So in the end telling a few people that are close to me was the best way. I have only just recently had the courage to start looking on dating sites let alone coming on here revealing all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Where I want to give you all a big hug, for being so decent and kind to a person. this my friends is what its all about Was going to say the same thing! This post was an easy target, yet there have been nothing but nice and encouraging words. Kudos to the OP, that was a brave move. Your fetish is not mine, I hope you find like minded people here! xx Mia
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'd wear one for you :) x x
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
with finding someone to indulge your fetish and good for you for putting it out there.Cheers :)
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blkcapricornday
12 years ago
...what an imagination, sooo hot ;) Quoting 'just1taste' I have a fetish .. A certain hotel has very very plush toilets - I like to take my toy in with me and watch listen to the ladies pee as I play away ;) And the sound of heels on the floor and the spritzing of perfume ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Hun :) Take heart Women who are supposed to cross your Path will at the right time..It's true you shouldn't leave it to mention your kink mild as it is to an Interested Woman ..However I'm not sure it does you or any budding Relationship any service blurting it out before meeting in Person .Frankly by then you'll have a reasonable idea from her previous Contact what kind of Woman she is open to new experiences or Narrow minded likes tried n true ways.. I enjoy watching Guys in Satin Panties so a Diaper isn't a big stretch for me and saves cleaning up the cum too he!he! The only objection I'd have is if you did like to soil them and be Humiliated It doesn't seem to be your thing..Soiling isn't the issue you'd clean up your own Mess The humiliation is for me... So just chill and they will come ..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
As i said on a previous quote it is very rare that i do it now. And i dare Say it will be one of those things that will dissappear after i get into A relationship.
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
We met through his additional panty fetish but because I was so understanding and open he asked if he could wear a nappy to our coffee date and while I didn't see it we had a nice open chat. He wasn't into soiling, just liked how it felt and liked the taboo of it all. I've since chatted to him a couple of times and unfortunately there's not a big scene in our area, he doesn't have a lot of luck. I'm not sure what it's like where you are but it seems like many of the established groups and sites are american or english.I would suggest that you join a site like fetlife.com you might be able to find out if there are any groups or events near you.Best of luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Davo. I don't think that you should characterise your fetish as weird - I agree that its probably kinda niche, and its not one of mine but to me its not that weird. I think fetishes at their core are pretty much the same - a strong sexual reaction to a particular stimulus, often for some obscure or unknown reason, that becomes a part of our memory and reveals itself in our sexual identities. It is as you nicely say - fetishes aren't chosen.There is some great advice in this thread and its genuinely nice to see :). Thank you for your courage, honesty and openness in your post and comments - it sounds like you've had a tough ride, and i can imagine that this was a big step, so well done.RHP seems like a pretty diverse pond to me, so I'm sure that you have a good chance of finding someone suitable here. It sounds like it would be a tough fetish to sneak through to mid-relationship time ;) - it'd be hard to keep thinking up plausible nappy excuses, i reckon. If it were me - I'd want to let it unravel over time, as the dating and relationship progressed. That way I'd know that when i told her - a. it wouldn't be a complete out of the blue and b. I'd have a strong sense of how broadminded she appears - what the chances were, so to speak.I'd also want the reveal to be as quick as possible (unless i was pretty into nappy-less sex too, or had another outlet, that is) - after all, thats what fetishes are for, isnt it ? ;)Davo,Well done, best of luck and thanks (to the contributors too). 2B :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love my little fetish. All of the hotel staff know what I come in for. That makes it even better ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love my little fetish. All of the hotel staff know what I come in for. That makes it even better ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Doesn't happen a hell of a lot but I'm lost for words.. As the saying goes, each to there own.. Hang in there bud, I'm sure you'll meet the lady your looking for :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'just1taste' I love my little fetish. All of the hotel staff know what I come in for. That makes it even better ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'just1taste' I love my little fetish. All of the hotel staff know what I come in for. That makes it even better ;) What a cute fetish, hi5 on that one :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
you never told me about ur kinks before... ur full of surprises... can I watch.. lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' put your hands on my throat and my knees give way... *tingling in all the right places*
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RHP User
12 years ago
What a shock.... no takers yet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP, was your post actually fishing to find someone like minded? If that's the case perhaps be more direct about that, rather than asking a general question about finding people who can accept your fetish. Also, as someone suggested earlier, perhaps join a more specific fetish site.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just in general not fishing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are many more sites than RHP hun - give them a go :) You'll need to be patient, it's not everyone's cuppa tea HBxo
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RHP User
12 years ago
you posted the first day you joined...5 days ago...some people have been here for 5 years and still looking...x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice...
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RHP User
12 years ago
yea i do realize this, i was being sarcastic :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' Quoting 'keekee1989' You'll find the right one! Do you need to be involved in nappy sex to get off? You're totally right, we can't choose our fetishes. I love being choked and slapped in the face. It scares the shit out of most people. slapped on the arse, not so much the face but I think I might like that too... one for next time ;) put your hands on my throat and my knees give way... *tingling in all the right places* Oh god I couldnt agree more with both of you! Personally i think the choking is best during and the slap in the face is perfect for orgasming mainly because passing out would really kill the orgasm lol Don't worry Davo if we were vanilla most of us wouldn't be here, you will find someone that either enjoys what you do from the beginning or will develop with you sexually.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Davo, I can't believe you told your parents! I could never tell mine anything like that. Anyway, I just wanted to recommend a site for you called fetlife dot com.You will most definitely find like minded people there with a bazilion fetishes. It's a global site. You will find online friends & discussion groups so you know you are not alone. And who knows maybe meet some special people. Good luck. xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are loads of vanilla people on this site!!! Heaps and heaps! Quoting 'jeke88steffy89' Don't worry Davo if we were vanilla most of us wouldn't be here, you will find someone that either enjoys what you do from the beginning or will develop with you sexually.
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RHP User
10 years ago
FYI "I am an adult baby". Yep a show about adults that like to act and be babies.
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