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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If its complementary I'd be flattered. If its nasty then I probably send them a pm asking if they were referring to me. If yes I'd politely ask them to stop. If they continue, report them. Then NEXT!!!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  if that is true OE,then they have confirmed that you were indeed correct about them.Well done .

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  ... it shows a distinct lack of emotional intelligence (in my opinion), a lack of discretion, and an undesirable side to their character. Just bad form all round I think op :-( KK xx

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  xFunlovingx

  12 years ago

  They are throwing out the bait hoping to get a bite! I would just ignore them and wouldn't even give them a second thought! If it does worry you, you can write to Admin! Good luck! I also have a female that loves to follow me around and put me down...meh, I don't even read her stuff anymore..not worth it! Don't even bother reading what they say! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Low self esteem, ego and perspective They are usually self evolved and think its all about them when in fact it's not Ignore them, they will in time direct their attentions onto someone else

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Are you 100% categorically undeniably certain, their comments are about you?If so.... you must have offered one hell of a rejection!!!DG It's been going for a few weeks, then yesterday I saw something quite specific which really got under my skin, which for me is unusual... I can't help but think this is his way of getting back at me.I was diplomatic & tried my best to let this person down gently, it appeared to have been accepted well, then a week later a few "exchanges" initiated from him & it's like he's gone backwards... then comments started popping up about me becoming more specific.I wouldn't care if he had made them to be more general, but putting in "times" amongst other things, how can I not notice them & feel it's an underhanded way of revenge?Shinasbabe my thoughts exactly...They are usually self evolved and think its all about them when in fact it's not

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I know of a instance from here where exactly what you stated OP happened   One party rejected another, so the injured party took their "revenge" by objecting to anything the dumper posted from that day on, reported them to RHP mods and subsequently got the poster banned.   This childish and immature action only reinforced to the dumper that they indeed did the right thing in dumping the dumpee in the first place.   Did everyone get that ?   Always remember OP there are two sides to every story and some people can be malicious masquerading as sweetness

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Always ignore. If they start naming you, that's a whole different story, but otherwise forgeddaboudit :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Cause she ditched you ?   Twice now. Real mature man

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  ... when I read posts like these, I just wonder is it all worth it. Makes me sad. KK xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  It's been going for a few weeks, then yesterday I saw something quite specific which really got under my skin, which for me is unusual... I can't help but think this is his way of getting back at me.I was diplomatic & tried my best to let this person down gently, it appeared to have been accepted well, then a week later a few "exchanges" initiated from him & it's like he's gone backwards... then comments started popping up about me becoming more specific.I wouldn't care if he had made them to be more general, but putting in "times" amongst other things, how can I not notice them & feel it's an underhanded way of revenge?Shinasbabe my thoughts exactly...They are usually self evolved and think its all about them when in fact it's notWould you feel comfortable PM me ?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' It's been going for a few weeks, then yesterday I saw something quite specific which really got under my skin, which for me is unusual... I can't help but think this is his way of getting back at me.I was diplomatic & tried my best to let this person down gently, it appeared to have been accepted well, then a week later a few "exchanges" initiated from him & it's like he's gone backwards... then comments started popping up about me becoming more specific.I wouldn't care if he had made them to be more general, but putting in "times" amongst other things, how can I not notice them & feel it's an underhanded way of revenge?Shinasbabe my thoughts exactly...They are usually self evolved and think its all about them when in fact it's notWould you feel comfortable PM me ?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I've seen it happen a few times to different people and going both ways though I'm sure that's not going to be admitted to by the party that wants to appear oh so innocent. I've been a part of hearing subtle references to me and been the guilty party too. I've also had the thrill of having many private details, name included, splattered around the place by people in retaliation for imagined slights. The fact is people will believe what they like and if gossip is their thing, I can't control the way they think or the poison that drips from their fangs. Situations here are not always so easy to define, that's why it's their business (the people with the problem) not ours. Not referring to you specifically Emerald. There's not a lot you can do really, posting in the forums puts you in the way of many a dickhead with nothing better to do and even blocking them is next to useless. Reporting will often get you the reaction that you are reading into things which is no use at all. Saying NEXT of course is next to useless if they're not listening to you. Do I know why they seem to be doing it? No I don't. I don't have enough knowledge of what's been going on for you, I do know I wouldn't listen to everything I hear from here. People too often have private agendas.

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