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What would you rather?
July 15 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
A rare trait Great username as well, sums it up
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lovman8
11 years ago
I admire for you honesty and would definitely prefer you being up front about it. For me it would be a big plus in your favour for a meeting (this is not a proposition as I am too old and too far away ) I wish you well. Keep on being sexy and have fun
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like it. I must admit, I was more negatively affected by the "I've got kids so I'm unable to go out with no notice or host any psychopaths while they are home." line, than the herpes bit. Positivity breeds positivity, no?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haha yeah, that's more my sarcastic sense of humour.. Doesn't come across too well in text unfortunately! :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The hardest bit must be finding the right time to make disclosure. You have very honestly been up front and (I hope) derailed the risk of embarrassment. Some people will freak, out of ignorance or prejudice, but they would whenever you told them, and do you really want anything to do with them?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gutsy (as mesmerized said ) also admirable it wouldn't orry if I knew before after we met would only wnt to know if we were going to get wild I have 2 friends that have herpes .....it isnt leprosy or TB
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RHP User
11 years ago
No matter what the subject, it's so much better to put it all out there. Gutsy move, kudos.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP I give you credit....I was with a man a few years back...and he told me later on!!! FUUUUUUUCK me dead the emotional sh*t I went through - the tests etc etc (thank god all clear).. He gave NO support what so ever when I went, as if it was unimportant!! GRRRR....I was so so deeply hurt due to lies and deceit...took me ages to get over...My advice tell straight up! I would never ever want my worst enemy to go through that emotional roller coaster Crap...I have major trust issues in that area now. Now if he told me straight up I would've been given a choice but he didn't give me one. :( FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are open and honest then there is no problem, as people respect honesty - its called good ethics...If one is to withdraw the truth and tell later on...There's no choice given once someone has contracted herbes. Just my thoughts..FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
You did the right thing by being up front. Everyone deserves to know what their getting into... (no pun intended) .. Knowing gives a potential bedmate a chance to use protect them self , so you can get it on with peace of mind.. Good for you... Jay
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chevtrek
11 years ago
But yes honesty is appreciated also you don't say if you know if your having an attack. Some years back my ex and I were swinging with a gal with herpes but she knew when she was having a herpes attack
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Nice & honest. I suppose in the going out dating side i'd wait to see if you had a connection. If you felt it was going well then sit down & talk. I hope people treat you with the same respect as you have shown us. Cheers
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I think you are very brave for posting this, as not many would be as honest as you! 👍
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
I feel if you're just going out on a date then it's just that 'a date'. Unless you feel you want to take things further then it's really nobody's business but your own. I like that you're up front and honest. If things progress then the fact that you are honest should shine above any issues relating to herpes. Good luck
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you Smilingwithfun & Ckeekyarses :) yeah, if everyone was as honest I wouldn't be in this position. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love your honesty and bravery. Best wishes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do disclose before I do anything sexual with anyone. The question was more before starting to date would you tell the person or wait to see if it goes anywhere. I couldn't sleep with so done without them knowing. I do know when I've got a flare up coming on, take my tablets and won't have sex while its there and for 2 weeks after symptoms have gone. It's just an awkward conversation to have with someone, especially when they run for the hills like I've got the black plague :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would prefer it straight up thanks, maybe not in your profile but very early in the piece at least.I have a friend girl in this position and it is a constant struggle for her as many people simple have little idea about the condition and urban myth is rife.My friend waxes and wanes between up front and a bit later depending on the date. But always before sexual contact, some guys bail and some don't.GP's are a very unreliable source of quality info on this condition, if anyone needs good information I have found the Family planning people to be brilliant.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just read your latest post..I am sorry to hear you weren't given a choice..my heart goes out to you. I understand. It must be difficult. Big Hugs FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm sorry you were put in that position, I know how bad it sucks waiting for the results, thank good was you got the all clear :D 50oz, as far as I am aware it is at it's most contagious when it is flared up. But can still be passed on while dormant as its impossible to tell when the virus is shedding as there is no symptoms. All I can do is tell any potential play friend this and let them make a decision. I've found half the guys I'm come in contact with on here don't even know what it is. And it's usually the guys that get cold sores that are first to say nasty things. Go figure eh? :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Did you know there are dating sites specifically for people with herpes ?Google herpes dating, Lovebug is one. Cute huh ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'straight4ward' I've found half the guys I'm come in contact with on here don't even know what it is. And it's usually the guys that get cold sores that are first to say nasty things. Go figure eh? :)- Posted from rhpmobile I am sorry to hear that happens. I think some people are just emotionally immature and don't know how to deal with some things nor do they know how to take responsibility, so they just brush it off hoping things will go away, ignore or blame others. It happens and there is not much we can do about it.Unfortunately some people just have their head in the sand when it comes to importance of "health and related issues".I call it the "Ostrich Syndrome" and there is not much one can do when some one is like that, as they refuse to see from someone else's point of view or have empathy for others.At the end of the day, we can't choose how others react or behave, we can only choose what is right for ourselves and our bodies by making good choices. Taking responsibility for ourselves first and not worry what others think or choose to do. That's their issue not mine. :)FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah I know there is STD saying sites, I've had a quick look. It's all good. Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply and for your kind words. Happy hunting :) xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' But yes honesty is appreciated also you don't say if you know if your having an attack. Some years back my ex and I were swinging with a gal with herpes but she knew when she was having a herpes attack Does it make a difference if your sexual partner is having 'an attack'?What do yo mean by 'having an attack'?Please enlighten us if you can.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having an attack is when the virus is active, there are visible blisters. I can feel when it's coming, the skin tingles painfully and when the blisters are there goddamn it hurts! And that's when it is most contagious. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
A bit trite, but one of the advantages of waxing, no where to hide !
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RHP User
11 years ago
To think people just don't give a shit and hide it. By the way, I looked a little more into the std dating sites, they suck. I don't wanna pay to talk to people :/ haha- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's interesting peoples perspective. A tad off topic however backing up where straight4ward is coming from. I am an epileptic. No I don't froth at the mouth, or convulse on the floor. I have a condition that inflicts 1 in 5, that's 20% of the population. Whether you know it or not. I was in my early 40's before the "symptons" became evident. When some ask what are those pills for, and I tell them, they instantly ask what they should do when I start having an "attack" and are writhing uncontrollably on the ground / floor. No I don't have fit's, my events are different from the supposed "norm". Your ignorance is showing Chev. Whats that song by Boney M, I think it was them?1 way ticket....... to the moon
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madotara69
11 years ago
We lived in a little village, pretty isolated and word amongst the village people was of panic. There was some psychopath up the road, covered with blood and hiding in the bush. Some were fearing that a murder had been committed and it was the murderer hiding out. everyone was pretty freaked out as only a few days earlier one of the village people parked up in the bush, lit a fire then let two barrels of his shotgun into his chest and fell into the fire. Everyone had to drive past that scene.The blokes missus left him, so that was that.But if you were hiding in the bush, then no one is supposed to see you. If you were a murderer then definitely out of sight.I went for a drive and found this bloke, he was wearing only a pair of shorts and he was covered in grazes and they were bleeding. He didn't try hiding, though he was wandering a bit dazed. He was just a bloke going for a jog and had an epileptic fit on the edge of the tar and stone road, poor bugger. And these idiots drove straight past him to go hide under their beds.There is one question, and I never asked him. If you have an epileptic fit, do you know what is going on during it?Because if you do then I feel so sorry for someone like that bloke going through that all alone, and even more sorry that people did not stop and help, they made up stories instead.Straigt4ward, I can only agree with everyone here. You find it more important to do the right thing, than what the stories may become of you. We all now see the best in you and it is great to be around you love, good on you.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
this thread made my penis sad how did you get it? Oral? Vaginal?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Made your penis sad? Made my everything sad. It says genital so I get the blisters on my vagina. Not the nicest. I got it from having unprotected sec with an arsrhole. Turns out I wasn't so smart at 17 ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Genitals = vagina. Well you learn something new everyday!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'cwhereitgoes'I am an epileptic. No I don't froth at the mouth, or convulse on the floor. I have a condition that inflicts 1 in 5, that's 20% of the population. Whether you know it or not. I was in my early 40's before the "symptons" became evident. When some ask what are those pills for, and I tell them, they instantly ask what they should do when I start having an "attack" and are writhing uncontrollably on the ground / floor. No I don't have fit's, my events are different from the supposed "norm". I was diagnosed at 33. Yes, I'm on meds and no, I don't have "attacks".
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RHP User
11 years ago
we are out there, lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'straight4ward' Haha yeah, that's more my sarcastic sense of humour.. Doesn't come across too well in text unfortunately! :)- Posted from rhpmobile Hahahaha.
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