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What would your friends say about you?

January 26 2014

I'm going through a pretty significant life change at the moment, by choice. One of my goals is to see myself differently than I have for the past few years. It's a challenge because I have very entrenched views of my many shortcomings, which are reflected back to me daily by loss and grief and regret that I caused. But it's time for all of that to stop. So how do I switch my thinking? I actually know how to do it, and I'm prepared for the reality that it will take a bit of effort and persistence (wish me luck!). Meanwhile, it popped into my head that sometimes it would just be marvellous if we could see ourselves as others see us. If I let the people in my life tell me how to think about myself, it would be in glowing terms, regardless of my faults. My question therefore is: If those who love you dearly were to write your RHP profile, what would they say? How would they describe you, in mind, body and spirit? How would it be different than the way you see yourself? So, does anyone have the courage to side-step the predictable RHP flippancy and jokes and just take a moment to describe yourself the way a loved one would describe you? I'd love to read it :)

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  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    My sister and mum would write this I believe, cause as much as I try to hide they know me to well. She will come across as shy and quiet but this is only because she is taking you in. All of you, she will read you with her eyes scanning you from head to toe in the blink of an eye and have you pegged immediately and very rarely is she wrong. She will often not look you directly in the eye as her eyes reveal all her secrets. She will play down her intelligence and her caring nature. She will take ridiculous steps to never let you see the hurt in her eyes or the self doubt that consumes her at times. She will play up her sarcasm and caustic tongue so you will never guess what she is really feeling. Her hidden nature is one of breathtaking empathy and support for all, she feels deeply and falls heavily. She loathes being seen as weak or vulnerable. You will never see her cry as she does this only when safely alone. She has a contagious smile that lights up her eyes and a laugh that causes heads to turn. Although she considers herself unattractive she is desired by many and had a voluptuous real woman build with curves. She is a Scorpio through and through so beware if you choose to cross her, that tail can strike fast if you wound her deeply. She does not forget and rarely forgives. She is a deep thinker but hides it well she will analyse everything and find your lies, it really is useless to try. If she chooses to share parts of herself with you treat it like the gift that it is as she does not give easily. Trust is hard one but once you have it she will give you her all. She is a sexual and sensual woman and this is an important part of her do not try to tame her or make her conform as this a sure way to lose her. Gain her trust and she will take you places you never dreamed of and make all your fantasies come true. She will worship you and always be there to please you. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    11 years ago

    An alternative profile that is but a very dear friend revealed today that they've stalked our profile down... Awkward.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Personally, I believe anything said about you by a loved one will be more than flattering and probably not very objective.... And more than likely very different from how you see yourself. So yes, while it would be marvelous to see ourselves as others see us, I think I'd prefer to live in my reality. Best of luck with your life change though!

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    You can't write anything without giving up some information about yourself. Even if you lie, the lie says something about you. By reason that no friend or family member is writing this response, it requires a great deal of self reflection. However self reflection has never been very productive for me. Rather than that, which is basically looking backward, I look forward. Just one day ahead.... Or a little bit ahead. For example, I'm going to get a good night's sleep tonight, and have some fresh fruit for breakfast! It's the little things. Hugs Gazpacho

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    11 years ago

    Why do you need other peoples view. You are who you are. Life is way to short not to be who we truly are. Are you changing or being who you really are? My friends would say, a Glass half full type. Lives life with regard to others, yet not a slave to the opinion of others. Giving yet not foolish. Live life now because we don't get a chance to replay it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I like being with You and I'm not interested in her.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    ..I was having a few quiet drinks and the usual friendly banter with workmates after work. When the random subject matter turned to one colleagues reposting of a Facebookvideo of a girl on a train..clearly suffering from Tourette's or something similar,opinions became divided.Basically, I stuck to my guns and and said it was wrong to mock someone with a disability.The girl next to me, obviously sharing my opinion, turned and said, " Your a good c**t…" I know that's how I'm generally described( the wording may differ! ) and it's appropriate.I'm hardly some self-help nut, but my principles are important to me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Its a great movie. Everyone thinks that when I die the people that will turn up will be amazed and oh how the story would unfold of the wonderful life I had and how I made a few people smile. I have a range of lives, I am a different woman to different people, and yet I am the sum of all of them. I think people would say I am, exactly the same way that I would express to myself who I am. that takes a while before your life tips into balance. When they think of me, I hope they smile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    But from random people I meet through work and social scenes and friends of fiends; they all say I'm bubbly, cheery, happy, helpful and fair. I wish I felt like that, I feel like shit most of the time - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    This is a very good topic n mrs cheeky is going through the same types of things. Try to be the best version of yourself / we don't know what other ppl are going through n they don't know your story either... Be grateful for all of your blessings n be positive x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Family, friends and exes (yes they would both still say I'm a great guy) would say something like, he's shy, he's confident in an understated way, when you peel back the layers and he lets you in, you will be rewarded with a friend for life through thick and thin. He's loyal to the point of stupidity and he would literally give the shirt off his back (or more) to help someone in need, his ambition knows no bounds and he truly believes that anything is possible. Dan has a sometimes idiotic sense of humour, we never know what's going to come out of his mouth at times. He is also a devoted father and family man who does everything he possibly can for his little monster. They would also say, he's stubborn, always has to make his point, he can be excessively sarcastic and self deprecating. He can come across as arrogant when he knows he's in the right and he sometimes swears a bit too much. Other than that he's a good bloke who has been through some crap and deserves to be happy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A very personal question, which asks for a very revealing answer. So I'll keep it very short: . My friends would say I was fun, genuine and was there for them. And that in my job I made a difference. (I've been called a good c**t by patients a few times, Koolblue). .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and I think that is a wonderful trait! I know that my friends also see me as kind, loving and vivacious. My friends are still those I went to school with and, although we don't see each other all the time, we have watched each other grow and help each other out without question. They know of my loyalty, my generosity. They know not to ask questions if they are not prepared for the answer. They also know not to give me a dare. Oh, and they know I give good hug when they need it. Nuev, enjoy this change in your life. It sounds like new adventures await!

  • lovman8

    lovman8

    11 years ago

    My friends would probably say I'm intelligent, funny, determined, friendly adventurous, spontaneous, and loyal. They would also say I'm pedantic, too serious, stubbon, stand offish, lazy, a procastinator and loyal.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If I had friends I am sure they would say great things about me. How thoughtful and sensitive I am, how willing to sacrifice in order to brighten their day. I am sure they would make special note of my intelligence and wit. They would go on and on about how good I look in boxers and how they wish to see me without them on. They would say all these things and more, I'm sure, if only I had some friends.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    It sound like you are having a tough time going through the stages of Grief and Loss of what I read in your opening statement?? One stage is bargaining..if only we done this, if only we done that! Its a horrible stage - however it will pass. It's not till the stage of acceptance that one will see oneself in a different light and confidence will appear just like magic. It is true, time heals however there no use questioning what others think of you because it will just make matters worse. To be honest I don't really care what others (family or friends) think of me, they will either love me or not and accept me for who I am - faults and all! Actually some of my long term friends love my faults, so that's a good thing right?? Just proves I am not perfect.. lol However we can't choose our family sometimes, which sucks!! Best of Luck, chin up and hugs. Foxy xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Well I know if you ask one of my oldest and closet friends of over 30 years she would tell you I am one of the most positive people she knows....... yet you ask my sister and she will tell you I am the most negative. Some things family & friends have said to me: Moody (thanks Mum) Bitchy (and thanks again Mum) Very generous The most favourite aunty Fun Funny Naughty Adventurous Butter wouldn't melt in my mouth. (the weirdest saying ever) Caring Loving Youthful Standoffish, reserved (although this is because sometimes I am just plain shy) Easy going

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Koolblue' ..I was having a few quiet drinks and the usual friendly banter with workmates after work. When the random subject matter turned to one colleagues reposting of a Facebookvideo of a girl on a train..clearly suffering from Tourette's or something similar,opinions became divided.Basically, I stuck to my guns and and said it was wrong to mock someone with a disability.The girl next to me, obviously sharing my opinion, turned and said, " Your a good c**t…" I know that's how I'm generally described( the wording may differ! ) and it's appropriate.I'm hardly some self-help nut, but my principles are important to me. That girl sitting next to you... disgraceful attitude and disrespectful saying that! Shame...Shame Shame! FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Smart and attractive and wasting both. Shit loads of potential, just needs to pull his finger out. But, if you're ever in trouble, need someone help bear the load, he's your man. He has no idea what to do with a good woman though.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Peter Pan has to walk the plank one day or fly the coop or grow up.. Courage my friend courage.. FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My family and friends would simply say ..He works hard and plays hard..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My friends and workmates would say endless glowing things about me (which I would probably argue with and blush a lot over). My not-so-friends might say: Bitchy, cold, up-herself, big-mouthed. My mother would say: Selfish, irresponsible, stupid, fat, unsympathetic, mentally troubled, drug-addled. (Uh-oh, "mummy issues", back away slowly...) My significant exes would say: Fun, sexy, loving, beautiful, giving, selfless, optimistic, adventurous, reliable, smart, cheeky, sarcastic, passive aggressive, great body and fucking phenomenal in the sack. (I broke a few hearts ok, not proud.) But none of these are entirely who I am. I am fluid, different in different situations, reactive to other people. So I never stay the same, I'm constantly evolving and changing as my life and life situations change. Also my answer to this question depends on my mood at the time, the perspective that I choose to imagine others see me in is not constant and is relative to my frame of mind. As it is with all of you too. So in a way, this exercise is pointless, but fun :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'gazpacho51' You can't write anything without giving up some information about yourself. Even if you lie, the lie says something about you. By reason that no friend or family member is writing this response, it requires a great deal of self reflection. However self reflection has never been very productive for me. Rather than that, which is basically looking backward, I look forward. Just one day ahead.... Or a little bit ahead. For example, I'm going to get a good night's sleep tonight, and have some fresh fruit for breakfast! It's the little things. Hugs Gazpacho give up some info about yourself. You had me going there for a while, but the armpit fetish, gave me that light bulb moment. sexy little fucker :) I think between you and Meeka should join Mensa if your not already there.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Blindman67' If I had friends I am sure they would say great things about me. How thoughtful and sensitive I am, how willing to sacrifice in order to brighten their day. I am sure they would make special note of my intelligence and wit. They would go on and on about how good I look in boxers and how they wish to see me without them on. They would say all these things and more, I'm sure, if only I had some friends. I think the waiter ask you to put your boxers back on again. and I met one of your friends and she seemed like a woman that would not be friends with an idiot

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My male friends would probably say... He's competitive, he's a shit stirrer who always has a quick retort so if you get one up on him be sure to enjoy the moment & you'll know when this happens as he'll raise his finger & chalk & imaginary board & say "chalked & paid" as a sign he's impressed. He's a party animal when in the mood so don't expect a quiet night out or in when he is & be prepared to feel like shite the next day as he tries to offer you a hair of the dog. he'a an incredibly passionate supporter of "his" sports teams & very bloody loudly so. He drinks way to much (at times), he smokes to much (when will he ever see the light & give up). Overall he's a big bloody kid & going out with him or even just going to a bbq with him you'll always have the "byo entertainment" covered. My female friends would probably say... He's competitive, he's a shit stirrer, he's loud, he's extremely observant & will read you like a book & know what you're thinking, sometimes before you know yourself (so much so it's sometimes scary). He has a heart of gold & is a true gentlemen so don't let his brashness fool you. He's very respectful of woman & a huge thanks to his mother for raising him this way BUT why did you have to teach him to stir so bloody well. lol. He missed his calling & should have been a counsellor because he's a great listener & gives the best advice, if only he took some of his own advice sometimes. All my friends would probably say... He's loud, he's a stirrer. Once you're a friend of his you're a friend for life. He'll always be there for you & be the first to offer help & support when you need it. He'll keep you laughing constantly but always have the shoulder for you to cry on & the hug you need when you need it. He's quick witted & actually very intelligent, although you wouldn't think it at times. lol. He comes across as very brash & likes others to think he's a hard ass but he's just a big softy really, whatever you do though don't try to tell him this cause he'll deny it till he's blue in the face. Yes that means he's a stubborn buggar at times too. Mr fun....obviously

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hi there Lady T. You saw her as well, gee I thought she was just imaginary. Good friends are among the greatest assets we can have. I was just messing with words in my post as it stops me blushing when talking my self up. BTW nice to see you back in the forums with your special brand of humor and wisdom. Your posts always bring a smile to my dial.. Keep up the good work.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Daniel is like first time anal, awkward conversation to start off, a bit of preparation ensures success, can be a bit painful but if you persevere the pleasure is worth it. Hahaha.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Some one who didn't know me at all said I was just a sad lonely woman publicly on a social media site. My friends and family had this to say.... I am the kindest, most generous, caring and giving person that they know. If I am lonely it is by my own choice. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Imagine if you could see yourself that way :) I wonder how your life would change?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    .. I can see how some get caught up in their own importance. So I'll try to be mindfull not to come across the same way.. Mum ( god rest her soul ) could never fault me.. I could stuff something up big time and she would still find a way to find a way to praise me, but that's mothers all over. Ex opponents ( NRL ) probaly see me as I see them, formidable and competitive. We admire and respect each other , specially after bashing each other year in year out. haha.. The nice thing is , if we bump into each other in the street. we usually end up somewhere reminiscing bout the good old days.. That's special.. Work colleagues (staff ) . Sometimes I like to sit back and let them run their own race because I believe in getting them involved in the decision making. Makes them feel apart of things and puts a smile on their faces..

  • adam_knows

    adam_knows

    11 years ago

    loyal quite funny One thing I am is loyal. to family,friends anyone that has invited me in to there lives in anyway.They know im only going to to the right thing by them.that often brings drama. But i can always look people in the eye. I,m a very shy person . I seem to stand in the back ground and watch whats going on. When with friends i find nothing better then making them lough

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Lady T... can YOU give these good people.. (And the not-so-good omes too) what YOU think of me please.....

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    though she is awesome fun.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When I first separated after 23 years, I decided to completely rewrite the book of me. I made new, fantastic, friends off of this site, I had to, most of my old so called friends had disowned me and sided with my ex. My true friends I couldn't see without wanting to burst into tears and just be held and sob and sob.... To cope, I invented Annabella What I came to realise, was that for the first time in my life I was being my true self! No needing to play it different to cater to different mindsets. No need to worry about what people would think if I did this or that... I stumbled though, when I found my ex had discovered this profile, I felt sick! that he and probably his workmates were all having a sneer and snigger at my sordid life, and I hurriedly put her on ice while starting up a brand new one - Annazon. (I love my sordid life too much to give it up! But seriously, I had made too many real good honest friends from here, going from rockbottom to feeling cherished, and that is what sickened me, that he cheapened my wonderful new life). But, As you can see, I have recently brought Annabella out of hiding. I also changed my facebook profile pic to this one in defiance. The Mask was Never Annabella. The mask was my old life, hiding the real me!!! Such a relief to shrug that off. I have even changed my name legally to Anna. That was a strange thing to announce to my family, to the ex and his new partner, to my old friends on facebook, but they accepted it, as they should! I told them "new me, new name" and I was applauded, not laughed at. Stay strong and PM me if you ever feel alone, because you are not. You may have stumbled, lost your footing, but we have hold of your arm, supporting you - because you are worth it. Anna xxxx

  • cleopatrababe

    cleopatrababe

    11 years ago

    missb u described me to a t

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    she is so loud.....she speaks loud she laughs loud...its amazing how loud she is.....we love here she is so funny how she says things and the English language is still sometimes a big" trouble" for her.She says fuck a lot and PENIS She is entertaining and giggles a lot

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    ..to be called a Good C**t is a compliment Whatever wording someone's comfortable with..I appreciate the meaning behind it.I assume your patients mean the same?Foxxxy : I think you might have misinterpreted my story..sorry, it happens..the 19ishgirl in question meant it honourably. She felt the way I did about the subject.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Printable!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm more curious about how your gonna switch ya thinking, do tell us!I wish you luck, and when you get there....imagine how cool it will be to see your old self through the eyes of someone that you've become Mr S

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    And some fucker called me a louse!! You know who you are.... ~ I'll describe you as incredibly blunt, full of dapper and bravado but ultimately your a hard fuck with a gooey marshmallow centre and a cheeky sense of humour who loves his friends and is an enigma to women. Lol enigma not enema!! Those big hands know how to calm a child and express tenderness they could also inflict harm on any asshole who genuinely deserves it. Like me (yes don't choke now) you are a diamond in the rough, to some a lump of coal but ultimately a hot burning, genuine, hardworking, Lion Among Men. And Cavey.....you're a naughty bugger too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Power too you keep on keeping on and be the you you want too be

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    How I wish there was a like button :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good question! I have a lot of experience with changing my life through changing my thoughts. It is honestly as simple as that. Action follows thought, though it's also possible to change your life by changing your actions repeatedly and letting your thoughts catch on. What I mean by the above is that psychologically speaking, there are two paths: 1) 'fake it til you make it' e.g. change what you do, do it often enough, and your fakery will become your reality. This is fraught with some problems in my view e.g. the potential for long-term inconsistency between action and thought. 2) 'thoughts and beliefs create feelings and actions' e.g how you interpret a situation determines how you feel about it and what you therefore do. I like this approach, it's clean and consistently successful, and it's the path of peace and contentment in your heart, for sure. Here's the challenge - the deeper the pain/shame/guilt/regret/grief/pessimism etc the harder it is to just switch your thoughts. Some people can certainly do that - people who wake up one day and simply say 'enough', then change their entire outlook and create a new life. I don't find it that easy. I have to choose some alternative thought patterns and beliefs and remind myself of them constantly, until they become natural and my actions/choices follow suit. There's also the deep sub-conscious hanging on to hurts to deal with. Somehow it serves us to hang onto things sometimes and we don't actually want to let them go. For example, I will have to let go of ALL hope that someone I love will come back to me, in order to let go of the hurt and regret that's currently with me every day. I'll have to let go of ALL desire to be a corporate superstar, in order to be free to do something smaller but more meaningful with my life without the anxiety that I'm a failure. And so on. At the moment, hanging onto these things as important for my happiness keeps me stuck. Long answer! I didn't intend that but I hope it does the job :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'nuevodia' I have a lot of experience with changing my life through changing my thoughts. It is honestly as simple as that. Action follows thought, though it's also possible to change your life by changing your actions repeatedly and letting your thoughts catch on. 2) 'thoughts and beliefs create feelings and actions' e.g how you interpret a situation determines how you feel about it and what you therefore do. I like this approach, it's clean and consistently successful, and it's the path of peace and contentment in your heart, for sure. I'll have to let go of ALL desire to be a corporate superstar, in order to be free to do something smaller but more meaningful with my life without the anxiety that I'm a failure. Needless to say that I agree, it really is that simple. I'm super big on simply shifting perspective in order to bring about positive change in any given situation regardless of circumstance and wholeheartedly agree with your No.2 path. Just a thought ... It may be helpful in removing the anxiety of being a failure by seeing it as having been necessary to get you to where you need to be in order to be successful in whatever it is that you choose to do that is more meaningful to you.You'll get there, I don't doubt that for a second. Best of luck

  • him_and_me

    him_and_me

    11 years ago

    One of my friends told me yesterday she has me on a pedestal when it comes to parenting...but that's not something I think I'll put that in our RHP profile! x Me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Funny you should mention that! I was contacted tonight about a pretty amazing opportunity - completely out of the blue. It's like I just needed to create the space to let good stuff in :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'nuevodia' 2) 'thoughts and beliefs create feelings and actions' e.g how you interpret a situation determines how you feel about it and what you therefore do. I like this approach, it's clean and consistently successful, and it's the path of peace and contentment in your heart, for sure. I like this point you make, i will add though, how you interpret a situation depends whether your operating from the wounded aspect of your soul or your 'core self' ..there's always a constant battle between both i believe. The wounded self is all about control, fear and false beliefs about one's self. It will do anything to sabotage the core self. The little bit of material that i have read in the past talks about shifting your intention, or as KiwiBred suggested, shifting your perspective ..by shifting your intention, your thoughts and feelings will follow. Play with a child or animal, do something creative, listen to music, dance around the house naked, get out in the bush, but most importantly be open to loving and learning about yourself and others. All these things will raise your frequency and hopefully shift your intention, because I'm like you, changing your thoughts is a fuckin' hard thing to do! Mr S

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I recently went home for an extended visit and had some lovely things said and relayed back to me from friends and family. My best friend said to my father 'she's nine years my junior and I look up to her' (I'm not, but I don't love her for her excellent maths!) My brother said to me 'it's been very quiet without you' :) My uncle said to my aunty 'she is just beautiful isn't she' My mother told me this and it really touched me because he's a very reserved man. And a local friend said just the other day 'well, you're Definately not normal!' All in all you've got to be very happy with that :) I posed this to mr Rabbit and he thought his friends would say 'loose unit', I'd have to aggree :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You've hit the nail on the head! Let the stuff go to let the good stuff in. Let GO of the remorse you feel about your love!!! While you are clinging to those negative emotions like some kind of life raft, the river underneath you is propelling you along in the wrong direction! You cling because you feel it defines you, or you somehow have told yourself you must carry this burden as a badge of what shame? Bullshit!! Haha- let it go! Find the real you again, the one he fell in love with. He definitely won't be wanting to reacquaint himself with all that hurt and anguish that surrounds you. Note I said surrounds you! Those emotions are not you! We are all children of light and goodness, what resides at your very soul is a GOOD person who has made a couple of mistakes. Now unless it is something that you should go to prison over, you are like everyone else who stuffs up. FORGIVE yourself. Once you forgive yourself and shrug things off, your outlook changes and yes people, including those that you feel you've hurt, will also see the change in you, the rapids of the river will calm, and everyone will start to see clearly again. Everyone! He will forgive you, in time, he has to - in order to progress himself, whether he chooses to forget, is out of your hands. Stop punishing yourself! Agree with yourself that you fucked up monumentally,then decide on a plan to make sure it doesn't happen again!! and if it's what I think it is, between you and I and this forum, ask yourself what led you to do whatever it was you did. Being that you are a GOOD person, I'm sure your intent was not to harm, and maybe it was a bizarre cry for help? Or a loud shout to get his attention? I am writing this on my iPhone so my apologies on how this is going to end up being one paragraph! Big cosmic hug babe xxxx Ps I got goosebumps reading you saying a new opportunity has popped up out of the blue - that is the divine powers of the universe looking after one it's beloved children. Yeah yeah I know - I sound like a hippy, but I'm into my angels and I've seen wonderful things and have met wonderful people that have just popped out of the blue- always right when I needed them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You are a beautiful person - and I miss our chats xxx Anna Xxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Your homework, is to write about yourself, not about the things you've done, only about who you are. I would like you to write it in a similar vein to MissB72 - cos WOW that was powerful stuff! You don't have to post it here, because if you are the only one reading it, you will be completely honest with yourself. If you are writing it, on you, then there is no need to justify with, yourself, all the whys and should ofs and the "wish it was different's", you know all that, but you need to reacquaint yourself with who you are! The human personality is made up of the id and ego... The id is your truth self, your spirit, your soul, higher self, dream gal, etc. Your id knows that the one true power in this life is love. The ego does it's damnedest to make itself heard by inventing all the worry and fears in our lives.. It thinks that if it didn't make a racket, it would blink out of existence. The ego is also the face we show the world. The ego never listens to the reassuring id, and normally the only way your truth self can get thru to "you" is via your dreams!! I bet they have been hairy lately hmmm? So, sit down quiet with pen and paper, close your eyes and seek the inner calm that is indeed within, beyond the raging storm of your ego's creation. Your id is at your centre, the calm eye of the storm. Now let the id write how it sees the real you. Good luck Xxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Enough of all this hippy cosmic shite! I am cancerian, I have a tough outer shell and goey in the middle and I'll nip anyone who catches a glimpse of my soft underbelly! Time for a beer Later groovers

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    11 years ago

    No way!!! How good is that and howz about that for impeccable timing!!! Chances are you may not have entertained the possibility at all had it been presented prior to now. If this amazing opportunity is something that you're extremely passionate about, if it enriches, inspires and encourages you so much so that you can throw your heart and soul into it, then I would say that that is no coincidence (in terms of timing)

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    11 years ago

    This thread took an unexpected turn for me :) Thanks to everyone for your kind and insightful posts. I'm pretty capable of shaping my life the way I truly want it to be and I'm fortunate that great things always happen for me. I'm OK with the place I'm in and the path I'm on and I feel well equipped to make any changes I think are necessary. It doesn't mean it won't be a struggle at times, hence my OP about the struggle to think kind things about myself - my main challenge at the moment (though shifting every day). Rabbit Season, Annabella and scratchyanditchy - special thanks for really thought-provoking posts. I'm certainly mulling over them. As for what my friends would say about me ... She's strong and feisty, opinionated and somewhat dominant. It's always a surprise when you get to know her and discover she has such a deep, loving, mushy heart. She's bright and fun and says yes to adventures whenever she can. She's wise and a born teacher (people always say this!). She's generous in all ways. My Mum would say I'm a touchy, moody cow :) She'd be right often enough!

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    11 years ago

    Love the new name! I just wanted to check in and see how things are going? Any progress with the shift in your thoughts? If there is progress, how did you do it? Also how did the job opportunity pan out? Just call me Lil Miss Nosey LOL Anna xxxx

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    11 years ago

    I've had this profile name on and off for about five years. I always seem to come back to it - perhaps it describes me best! Things are going well - I'm letting go of more and more of the past, the job/business opportunity is going from strength to strength, and it's in an area that I love, I'm even almost ready to start making new connections! Some travel in my near future. Life's getting gooder and gooder :D thanks again x - Posted from rhpmobile