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Whats With Anal??
January 13 2010
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1974NewCouple101
15 years ago
I think with a lots of other sexual activity, some people are into it and some people are not into it. Some like BDSM play while some don't. Others might have a foot fetish while others might not. I believe the prevalence of X rated material (in particular GONZO porn) has pushed anal sex as the "in thing" (pardon the pun). You can't watch a porno now without seeing the standard anal scene, the guy pulling out so the camera can zoom in and take a closer look. Geeze Louise you can even get them with double penetration anal as well. At the end of the day, it is your body - you decide how you want to use it. By all means be adventureous and try different things but in my experience never do anything you don't want to do - it just builds resentment in the end. By the way, I was anti anal until I met my husband. I had tried it once or twice with what I would term less than considerate lovers and did not enjoy it one bit. Call it love but when Matt suggested anal sex for the first time I as hesitant but willing to give it a go. Needless to say his technique and touch was unbelievable. He was gentle, sensual yet animalisitc all at the same time. I think the fact that he treated me like an absolute goddess who was willing to give him such a special gift helped matters. He used his tongue (none of the other guys had done that before), used fingers (with lube) and then a small vibrator. All the time stimulating my clit - I was in heaven. By the time he penetrated me with his cock I was so relaxed there was no pain. That night I truly learned how erotic anal sex could be. Today: Anal sex is very much a part of our sexual play (mostly at my instigation). I have even returned the favour in recent months and I would dare suggest giing is even more fun than receiving.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i have never understood why some men want to go there, maybe a homosexal flash back , you cant beat a nice hot wet pussy apart from maybe a nice wet headjob, now if a girl asked i might try it but then again i will do anything to please my girl
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RHP User
15 years ago
that is the funniest thing i have read in a while...chuckling jose...
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RHP User
15 years ago
We tried it a couple of times was Ok at the time now we think been there done that neither of us want to do that again. Interesting we were corrosponding with one couple untill the other guy came up with..... He only wanted anal with my wife....Thats on our No list with others! We also think it is dangerous practice with aids etc and we will stay clear of potential playmates who look for that with others outside of their committted partners. Definately wont go there in a swing situation. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love people's differences... likes and dislikes, limits, ideas, values, interests... it always makes for excellent reading and conversation.I also love anal sex... it drives me crazy, makes me wildly wet... with the right person, I'll be on my knees begging for it :P As far as why men like it (and not all do like it).... I can only go on what they tell me. The idea of it being a little forbidden is a turn on. It is generally tighter, so makes for more feeling. It feels good. It can be about pleasuring a woman because a woman having an orgasm from anal is a pretty damn good achievement. Filling every hole IS a turn on, again, especially if the girl is enjoying it. It can be about power and domination, but not necessarily, although my experience is that a dominant man is more likely to like anal and want it more than a less dominant man. Has anyone else found this to be true, or is it just me? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
ummm.... I am very very sorry for what you've been through, Trish, but not sure why you needed to clarify your position again... you were quite clear in your first reply and the headline of my post is "everyone is different"I am not seeking to change anyone's mind and nowhere do I mention any kind of abuse... vaginal rape is also abuse but people still discuss intercourse on these forums last time I checked.I've said it before, ad nauseum really.... abuse has NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX ... consensual sex in all its forms is about enjoyment. Abuse is about violence. 2 completely different things.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Then there are those with poor aim.... I wonder how similar bad contraption is too natural childbirth? I had the misfortune of requiring surgery on my back passage.... NO I wasn't poking light bulbs up it and one popped. It took about two weeks to heal with proud growth before the pain went away. In the midst of this the nurses allowed me to get constipated.... largely my fault as I was most reluctant to crap. Anyway they resolved this with one ginormous enema which caused me to cold sweat in fearful anticipation until the bowels erupted with me clawing the walls and ceiling. Never experience such excruciating pain in my life. Always wondered if that was anything like childbirth at it's less endearing? Anyway that tore the daylights out of my back passage requiring my sphincter muscle to be tightened... and now each visit to the loo is a concern should I try to pass anything thicker than a pencil. So obviously my back passage is strictly exit only.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's a Dominant thing for me.....however.....as with any Dom/sub play I partake in.....it's only sexy and fun if you have a WILLING partner, with whom you share trust and affinity...... I am fully understanding of any of the multitude of reasons someone would not want to be taken anally....equally I am fully appreciative of anyone who does ! The taboo element is a big one for me also. I like to try/do/experience things outside the norm. I'm not into vanilla ice cream either... And finally, I find them very sexy.....butts, asses, arses lol....I think they are very beautiful and a girl with a nice bum get's my interest every time....having had "Please Sir...fuck me in the ass" whispered hotly in my ear by a VERY naughty woman.....well, how can one say no to that ? One thing I am reasonably certain of is that some women struggle with relaxingfor anal because of the "dirty" element.....again I am appreciative of this....in my experience, an enema kit from your local sex shop is not only healthy for the occassional colonic (particularly if you eat a lot of processed foods, but allows you to relax knowing that there will not be a "problem"..... Enlightened One.....I hope this gives you some additional perspective that you were asking for..... SINcerely. Bad Dog.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sorry to hear Eunuch and Trish!! Life has away of throwing us curves from time to time :) I'll light a candle for both of you in my next meditation :) Enlight XXX
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RHP User
15 years ago
it's just a pain in the bum isn't it? sorry ... :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
MMM I love Butt sex !!! you think god put a gspot up your bum so u could have an Orgasm wen u do a poo its there for a reason ...But it shouldnt Hurt it should feel Great ..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh!! *gigles nervously* haha dont think thats for me somehow LOL :P But thanks for the tip!! Enlight XX
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Enlightened One Sometimes men want to know if you do anal sex it, because they haven't done it before and want to try it. They may not tell you this though! Sometimes men have a delightful smallish penis that feels better with anal sex than vaginal sex. Sometimes men ask because it is what turns them on the most. Sometimes women will ask for it because it is so pleasurable :) As Sophie said, it is not for everyone. I'm not sure if it's experience or dominance that prompts a man to ask for anal sex. Certainly the dominant men I have been with have done their homework with me (and on me lol) and know what I like :) I think sometimes it's being put in the position of having to say "no" when asked...there is a subtle undertone of "why"...and you should never have to explain yourself. In my time, I've put a few off by mentioning but then I have also converted a few :). I'm looking for compatibility at the end of the day. The thing is, I know where I stand, how I feel about it and feel comfortable with what I do. And that is all that matters. And eunuch...OUCH! yes, consider it akin to the last part of pushing out a baby! :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wonder if they sell butt plugs with a combination key? Chastity belts are a bit hot during this weather.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...that's my only point.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Anal is low on my list of likes... it's probably almost at the bottom (mmm yes, the pun was intended !). The only thing I personally dislike more is Bukake but hey.. I'm up for most things if the mood and guy are right ! Some guys will experience some positions with me but not all of them. Only a very select few have managed to push me beyond my wildest ecstasy. Once I"m down that road of intense bliss, almost anything goes and usually does. I like to be creative. If a guy told me to bed over and let him fuck me from behind then I'd probably tell him to fuck off but if it's part of the overall experience then it's pretty HOT and orgasm is possible ! I believe more guys like anal than women but women can get into it and enjoy it. I'm yet to experience it totally painfree. Bottoms Up, Ms Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
says "my husband wants to try anal sex, is that ok?"the doctor asks..."and what do you think?"..."well, i want to try it too..."..."then that's fine, just be careful you don't get pregnant"..."Pregnant??!!", she gasps, "you mean i can get pregnant?"..."of course", says the doctor, "where do you think politicians come from?"jose...
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XtremGuy
15 years ago
It isn't on my list off have to haves but it can be fun every now and again... I think it is the kink factor which drives it more than anything. From experience though a majority of girls like some sort of anal play even if it isn't penetration.
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL you guys and gals are soo funny!! I love the interplay between you all!! Thanks heaps for making me smile!!!!!!!!!!! Enlight XXX
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some people enjoy it, some dont :-)............
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's not something I look for but if she wants it then I give it a whirl.If oral sex makes your what does anal sex do?Makes your wHOLE weAk!
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RHP User
15 years ago
When you start poking around down there, you learn a lot. I now know Trish likes aural sex to anal and is worried that anal fun might result in weakness and poo just falling out. Pegasus thinks it's gay (and he looks kinda mean, so I won't argue)... although it's apparently less gay if a girl asks for it (most things are!). Sophie would appear to enjoy it (this may be the understatement of the century) Eunuch had a lightbulb moment and can poo a pencil, but not a crayon - so should adjust his diet accordingly. The Badbaddog is similar to my dog (who will stick his nose up your butt without hesitation) OBS sounds like she's met some men who have 'delightful bonsai penises' who are looking for an edge to grip, so to speak. HoneyD continues to prove that sometimes less is more and Saturn needs some warming up to the idea, but it sounds worth the effort.. All in just one thread. Thanks Enlightened One
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'customer69' yeah, so what keeps the poo in, when the muscle are cactus and no longer work? superglue?Trish you're overthinking it, the muscles stretch to accomodate and contract when done - you're talking about muscles that all they ever do is stretch out and close back up. The state of play probably changes drastically when you're getting extreme and taking a fist or, what was the name of that mythical strap-on from a month or so back? (basically, if you're not sure it'd fit in the front, don't put it in the back ;) )
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its on my to-do list for the following reasons: 1. Haven't tried it 2. Its taboo 3. I'm told its better for the guys because of tightneess 4. I like to try different positions, so this opens up a few more posibilities 5. The thought of having a woman submit to me is a turn on too 6. Visual stimulation (bit like doing doggie) Or as Sydneyboy says, maybe I am over thinking it. Ha Ha. I'd only consider doing it with a willing partner. Basically if they aren't willing then its a guaranteed failure and she's not likely to want to do it again. I have yet to meet a partner who is open to the idea, but still searching...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love Giving and Receiving Anal you just need to relax find a comfy position and then presto in it goes nice and slow though practice makes perfect xx Katie xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'CaptJackSparrow' Basically if they aren't willing then its a guaranteed failure or guaranteed gaol time... which would also get you plenty of anal sex (probably not the way you'd want though :p )
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RHP User
15 years ago
sydneyboy.... you funny boy :P lolhmmmmm from the looks of most of the replies on this thread.... I've been living in Europe too long lol... girls and boys are definitely more into boy-girl anal over there lol :Phave discovered that men seem to be much more open to MM experimentation here though... seems to be the fantasy of lots of guys here.
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RHP User
15 years ago
..back from hols, what a bummer and what a bum of a thread to start back on! Yes, yes butt sex is a little bit kinky and taboo and isn't it just human nature to desire stuff we can't readily get every day of the week? The Pups both agree that bum sex is a right time, place and participants kind of thing and if all the ingredients are there it can be mind blowing for all concerned. Is it better than the other hole? Well we both agree there too and god definitely designed the pussy!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sophie_74' I've been living in Europe too long lol... girls and boys are definitely more into boy-girl anal over there lol :P so how does that mean you've been there too long? :p
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sydneyboy3au' Quoting 'CaptJackSparrow'Basically if they aren't willing then its a guaranteed failure or guaranteed gaol time... which would also get you plenty of anal sex (probably not the way you'd want though :p ) I wasn't proposing having sex with someone against their will. In my book thats rape. Rather they aren't keen to try anal but might be more than willing to try other sorts. If you like they go along with it but aren't keen.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Tried it for the first time 2 years ago with an old high school friend (that I hadn't seen in 32 years!). He suggested it and I said (my exact words) You're fucking kidding me right?. Obviously he wasn't. I gave it a whirl. First time was indeed painful but he was patient and very gentle. After a few attempts - PRESTO!! The second time was better and the third time better still (and easier). Now I have no problem but find that with larger endowed men it's easier when you straddle him while he's laying down and I slowly lower myself onto him (still using plenty of lube). This position relaxes the anal sphincter muscle so he slides in easier and the girl has all the control. It's a great precursor to DP (ahhh, DP!!!). One other thing... I never do anal unless it's planned for as I always "clean myself out" beforehand. I don't want any unexpected appearances to ruin a pleasurable experience!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Love it !!! hehe.....with the right man of course... huggies sweetpetite41<< back after a week of comp breakdown!...yay!! pups....This is a good forum to start back on...cause tis a fav of mine...lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
sweet Xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'CaptJackSparrow'I wasn't proposing having sex with someone against their will. In my book thats rape. Rather they aren't keen to try anal but might be more than willing to try other sorts. If you like they go along with it but aren't keen. lol, I know what you mean Cap'n just keeping myself amused :) no harm no foul
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you!! Thanks for the sum up...It cracked me up laughing!! I love your sense of humor.... wishing you the best babe Enlight XXX
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