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What's so confusing about being male & bi?
March 05 2015
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Not really the thing to unfurl the big banner on the side of the building. You're bi. Big deal. Havnt told anyone in the way of friends I'm bi. Why should I? Good on ya, but get over it and live your life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Q.Why should you?A. - communication- it's a core part of who you are- to repeat what you said, 'it's not a big deal' Only statement I refute. Everything else goes with what I was saying, probably unintentionally.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Without being rude I am a little confused as to what answer you are seeking. What sort of response do you want a stranger to have ? and how much value will you place on a strangers response anyway. I would concentrate a little more on understanding exactly what you consider yourself to be, Bi has such a wide definition ranging from slightly inquisitive but prefer the opposite sex to anything goes depends on the night. There are also women who use Bi as a way to attract men (who doesn't like the idea of a bit of girl on girl) and those that use it to turn away men (have a bloke just need a girl also). You sound like you are more experimental in a controlled environment than openly seeking male contact, this would be very confusing to a gay or Bi man if you tried to sell that. Not sure bi is that attractive to girls either but I'm not a girl.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Try being a single straight guy (Born straight ) I don't tell anyone Im straight. Women assume I am hitting on them if I smile or say hello If 200 women walked into a room, I would only feel attraction to 1 or 2 of them.... and I get called "picky". Explaining this to people is pretty hard so I don't bother. So its not inherently an issue of your sexual preferences. Stop caring what other people... including those strangers who mean nothing to you.... think. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I stopped explaining myself a while ago. Fuck labels.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
A stranger came up to me and started telling me about their sexual orientation I'd think they were loopy. What do you hope to achieve? You trying to pick them up? Can't understand it...... It's a core part of me to be feminine but if I'm not dressed I'm fucking not going up to a stranger to tell em I'm a tranny! And if I'm dressed, no reason to tell them. I think they might be able to tell.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Your profile first. It says your straight. You are so proud to be bi? You are a joke!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wonder if older people treated you that way when you were 25 and trying to find out who you were. Where is your empathy?!?!?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Apologies op. Over and out. Off to the corner.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi !! I don't pretend to know how people your age do things these days...... gawd I feel so old sometimes. But I gather from friends of mine who have children and kids in their 20's that bi-sexuality is accepted among your peers. Certainly a lot more than it ever was when I was young. Is that true? Sounds like you are all keen to share about your sexuality which for us OLD DUCKS (Annie!) seems a bit strange. Is that the norm these days too? Update your Twitter account and all that. I certainly have lots of straight vanilla girlfriends around my age who would never understand a bi-sexual man. One, I am sure half of them secretly thing it is disgusting and two, they would assume that you are secretly gay but haven't admitted it to yourself. I have also heard them make comments such as, but if he is into men how can I compete with that? And obviously you would never be totally happy with a woman and therefore would never be monogamous. So I hear you when you say that some people don't understand.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are easily confuselled. :) More seriously, some men like trannies. Some men are happy with closer actions when involving MMF (eg double blowjobs, double vaginal). Some men like anal. Some male pornstars that shoot gay porn are actually straight. The borders between straight, bi-curious, bi, gay, hetero-flexible, pansexual, poly, etc can often be vague. People may have some interests that cross certain borders, but in other areas fit well within their stereotype. General society finds it easier to put people in neat boxes; it's easier for them to deal with, and requires less thought on their part. Some people in general society don't even like the idea of certain boxes existing. It upsets their world view. But you would expect people on the fringes to be less judgemental or over-assuming than those in the mainstream. The best you can do is live your life the way you want to, associate yourself with as many understanding people as you can, and minimalise your associations with those that refuse to even TRY to understand.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Too right on all counts. It's about as hard as trying to explain to people that yes, I like kids, but I don't want one. If others want to be judgmental, they can do so from the other side of the room (or from their naughty corner).
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RHP User
10 years ago
Be true to yourself at all times in all things always You don't owe anybody anything except your Mum and Dad, you always owe your Mum and Dad :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with Annie on that count, if you are bi and proud to be bi, why not have bisexual on your RHP profile? After all, it would probably mean a lot more interest? No one gives a flying f*ck on here what your orientation is, even "straight' people like me can get lost in the moment? OP, youre young, go and enjoy your bi experiences, soon youll be like me, in your fifities with limited bedtime activities.........
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
Just be a good person, don't try and label yourself. There are already enough people out there who will label you. Go where your feelings take you but you don't have to tell the world.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but some of this will. "Gay men, assume I will be open to their advancements or will assume that I am pretending to be straight - and straight men/women assume I am still in the closet." seriously? c'mon kiddo. You tell a gay guy that you do find guys sexually attractive (though not exclusively) and he hits on you? duh - just say yes or no and get on with your life. What do you think would happen? Have you ever hit on a man or a woman? you didn't do it because you thought they weren't possibly attracted to you did you? First off, I am bi - but if 200 guys walked into a room, I would only feel attraction to 1 or 2 of them. Outside of that, I do consistently feel attraction in an MMF situation. You're a unique snowflake - the rest of us are not like that at all, we're attracted to everyone who matches the right gender. Maybe the way you've explained your situation is poor and that is why you're getting flamed - maybe you do a similar job of it in real life and that is why you don't get the reaction you want. Whether it is that or not, you might also need to manage your own expectations of the reactions of others
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RHP User
10 years ago
OP, I identify as bisexual and I understand your frustration to an extent, because assumptions and generalisations are irritating. Meeka had me nodding right up until she said "And obviously you would never be totally happy with a woman and therefore would never be monogamous" - not necessarily an accurate observation to make. Anyone can choose to be monogamous regardless of their sexuality. I also believe that sexuality can be fluid. Assumptions are shitful regardless of your sexual orientation. Labels are just that. Labels. You can cut them out of your personal identity as easily as you can cut them out of your clothing ;-) Flirty x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I recently watched a talk by a small group of psychologists, anthropologists, authors, and a few other scientists on the subject of sexuality and gender identity. During the 2 hour talk bisexuality was only mentioned once by a gay woman who said that when she came out her mother told her friends she was Bisexual. The way she said the word was condescending and patronizing. It just shows that we dont like the mirror of truth and avoid it if we can. When it comes to sexuality, bisexuals are the forgotten majority. On this world you are either Bi or Straight, anything else is outside the debate, to many have trouble looking at that reflection. But OP of the 200 people in the room you can rest assured that you are not alone in your sexuality as around 160 of them are also BI and like you they are equally resistant to the urge to let people know.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' You're a unique snowflake - the rest of us are not like that at all, we're attracted to everyone who matches the right gender. Are you saying that the only prerequisite for you to be attracted to someone, is that they are the right gender?? Nothing else comes into the equation?? Because if so that's certainly not the case for me and I'm pretty sure not for most other people. In fact I'm exactly like the OP when it comes to women...I'm not attracted to the majority of them but a few of them can push my 'fuck yeah' buttons in the right way...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Correction On this world you are either Bi or Straight, should be On this world you are either Gay or Straight,
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RHP User
10 years ago
The sub culture that exists in my generation isn't one I connect with. I see sexuality as the backdrop of everyone's picture. Not the forefront. Each to their own, everyone has a different way of showing the world who they are. Which brings me back to my original statements. I am bi, but I do not like men in general. I do not like conversations which involve me explaining something that should be easily understood in a few words. And I don't want my sexuality to be anything more than a backdrop of who I am.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wish I was BI but unfortunately for me I like hairless not hairy bums. Lol Mate enjoy the buffet. That's all from me :))
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Your profile first. It says your straight. You are so proud to be bi? You are a joke!" I am not proud of being bi. Neither am I ashamed. Why should those two emotions even come into play? Am I proud to be male, or proud to be white? No. It's who I am. I am proud of what I achieve and the relationships I form. Here is why my profile states I am straight, i) Bi, depicts a 50/50 attraction to men and women. Maybe 60/40 or 70/30, in some peoples eyes. I would argue that I am somewhere in the region of 10/90 or 5/95. So the word 'Bi' - based on how it's definition is interpreted, does not accurately depict my sexuality.ii) I get messages from men on this site - with my status as straight.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Ahhh. Fresh mind, fresh eyes.Sorry about the naughty chair, got bored and carved initials into it, A W. My fresh mind still cant work this post out. Guess I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed........... But anyway, to suggest I'm being judgemental about the OP ...........I'm not into labels either. Gay, straight, bi. Never mattered to me as long as you are comfortable with yourself.Comfortable doesn't mean having to tell anyone if there is no reason. And Meeka. I was living as a trans at the age of 16. You don't have to ask me about empathy. What I said above would not have registered on my suspension on the road I was on in the 70's. To suggest I was giving the OP a hard time........ Me, judgemental? Might be 2015 but if you want to play the bi or gay game today, you still need to harden up. Fuck it, going to change my profile to straight. Means fuck all anyway around here apparentyly. Just sayin...............
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RHP User
10 years ago
I could be wrong, but I think S may have been a little sarcastic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...belong on a can of harden up....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I too am bi, and yes grew up when it was far less acceptable than it is now. I understand where you are coming from and have to say that there are only a couple of my close friends that I have discussed my sexuality with. I find both men and women attractive and which gender I may wish to play with will vary over time and with mood. There will be those who assume bi = closet gay.... their problem not yours. Gay guys who find you attractive.... take that as a compliment.... if you are in the mood, have some fun with them - why not. It is normal for them to see if you are keen, if you aren't, say no. Women get guys asking all the time too, if they are keen they do, if they aren't they say no. There is nothing wrong with a guy asking to suck your dick if you are bi and you shouldn't feel threatened by that. The reality is, you don't have to explain who you are.... you just are. You like both genders. That doesn't mean that you have to want get with everyone ..... hell no! We all have our likes and dislike and who does it for us and why is not something that we can always put into words. Who turns you on now will change over time.... nothing surer than that. Be proud being bi, you are actually lucky to be wired that way. At your age I didn't see it that way, but almost 20 years down the track I can say that I have had a lot of great experiences with both genders. Now I just enjoy being the way I am and don't try to explain it, don't actually tell people, but just enjoy what comes my way. Relax, explore and enjoy!
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langton11
10 years ago
I'm probably similar to yourself, I'd put myself around a 95/5 as there are very few guys I'm attracted to but unfortunately when I do come across one it kinda takes my breath away.I'm pretty stealth about it but that's because of society and peoples lack of acceptance I suppose.It's soooo cool to be a bi woman now days, but if you're a bi guy it's like 'WTF is wrong with you dude lol'to which my thought process, and I know this will rub some the wrong way, is 'WTF is wrong with you? youonly find one gender attractive, open your mind' kudos to you dude
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' OP, I identify as bisexual and I understand your frustration to an extent, because assumptions and generalisations are irritating. Meeka had me nodding right up until she said "And obviously you would never be totally happy with a woman and therefore would never be monogamous" - not necessarily an accurate observation to make. Anyone can choose to be monogamous regardless of their sexuality. I also believe that sexuality can be fluid. Assumptions are shitful regardless of your sexual orientation. Labels are just that. Labels. You can cut them out of your personal identity as easily as you can cut them out of your clothing ;-) Flirty x - Posted from rhpmobile WHAT? You make it sound like I was saying they can not be monogamous. Obviously I communicated my point poorly. That is what my vanilla straight girlfriends think..... a bi-sexual man will never truly be happy being monogamous to a woman and they can't compete with that. Therefore they would never even contemplate dating a bi-sexual man.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Cognescenti' The sub culture that exists in my generation isn't one I connect with. I see sexuality as the backdrop of everyone's picture. Not the forefront. Each to their own, everyone has a different way of showing the world who they are. Which brings me back to my original statements. I am bi, but I do not like men in general. I do not like conversations which involve me explaining something that should be easily understood in a few words. And I don't want my sexuality to be anything more than a backdrop of who I am. But dude. Everyone is curious and wants all the details. Do you imagine that if I tell someone I am into group sex, or go to swingers clubs, or I love bi-sexual men that they say. Cool. And promptly forget it. NOOOOOO. They want to know all about it because most of those concepts are difficult for a lot of people to understand. They ask loads of questions and there on in, usually when you bump into those friends they will invariably ask if I have been to any parties or if I have been up to "anything" interesting.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I do not want my sexuality and sexual practices to be a big part of how somebody sees me or defines me. I don't tell them about it. At the end of the day, anyone who is a little different or does things out of the norm will often be known because of it. If you don't want it to be the forefront. Don't make is so.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It didn't sound like the kind of assumption you'd make! I wasn't having a go. But that assumption is a classic one and it's a giant leap to take to assume it, wouldn't you agree? :-) Flirty x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I Mr Bella still cannot get my head around a guy being a poof/bisexual just fine it very hard to accept the fact. Call me old school,are we allowed to use the term poof these days???. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
On the whole i do find it a lot easier that everyone knows that I am BI. It should not mater, but it does matter when you meet someone that you are attracted to . If they dont know they have to find out and that is difficult to announce. its even worse when that person is not as accepting as you first thought. There are still people who think any type of homosexual activity is a sin against nature and the people that are bi or gay are disease infested perverts one step above a pedophiler. These people do not wear that view on their sleeves in these PC times, so i find its best to be open about my sexuality. Not tattooed on my forehead, but not hidden, closets and skeletons are not a good look for me at least. This helps me avoid those with draconian views towards sexuality. Also the more people that are open about it, the more society will be forced to accept it and the better it will be for all. Sadly to many BI people live in fear of their own sexuality simply because of the few that still force their idealized morality on society.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
There is the option of bi-curious which would fit you better than straight or bi. If you could only go with 2 or so guys out of 100 then that would suggest you are not bi. Any consolation to you, I am not attracted to men at all anymore. I can be with most men only because I like cock, not the person driving it. I am into women. But my profile says anything because I am into sex. Any sex. As I said, I don't like labels. To use labels means you have to conform to one. There is no label that defines me so I choose anything. Sums me up better as an individual. I think your original post confused me but think I know what you were trying to get across. Hope I didn't flame you to much and hopefully not many hard feelings. Wish you luck in your journey, wherever that takes you. Annie, the bitch. Sorry. Xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
A poof? Are you for real? Please close the door on your way out and take your derogatory terms with you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you're really THAT old school, you can't possibly only be 48.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I Mr Bella still cannot get my head around a guy being a poof/bisexual just fine it very hard to accept the fact. Call me old school,are we allowed to use the term poof these days???. - Posted from rhpmobile I would have to ask why is it so hard to deal with? This has always somewhat puzzled me. You can accept that women like men, but what makes men liking men such a difficult thing to get your head around? BTW you can call me what every you like.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I Mr Bella still cannot get my head around a guy being a poof/bisexual just fine it very hard to accept the fact. Call me old school,are we allowed to use the term poof these days???. - Posted from rhpmobile ... best saved for friday down the local with the other 'Men' and left there with the empty's hey???
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thats Mr Bellas right. Its like you guys always going on about not understanding monogamy........ he doesnt understand homosexuality. So enough with the shitty put downs. .......we are all open minded but don't have to agree with or like every aspect of sexual orientation . Mr Bella, wouldnt blame you if you left, but please stay, we need all sorts of mind sets on the forums. If I call my gay mates poofs in a joking manner, they just tell me to "Shut up, you old tart" Sorry, that should maybe be pooves?
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Im straight .. i sm bi for fun so bi curious.. have hsd a girl fuck me with a strsp on and loved it.. been at a gay sex club and walked in circles for an hour.. i will crossdress for fun.. see my pics... i love it womens clothes feel sexy.. i will be bi in group or couple situations if it feels right.. generally will ..... i rarely find males attractive or want to be with them.. i find most sleazy weird creepy and disgusting. .i love sensuality. . Im a lesbian in a mans body literally!! Now understand that!!!! And if uou do message me and lets be friends because not many get me - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Whats even funnier is im more masculine than most men too. . I compete in strength sports! Most men get jealous when their partners seem to like me more than them though.. have issues with couples from that perspective. Now play stereotypes. . I dare ya - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah yeah you're singing it aren't you? Lol...but it's true and I am not bi, gay, curious (as to my sexuality at least) in part or whole of any other term that categorises me into a politically correct statement so that someone somewhere knows (or thinks they know) who I am! I am sexual. I am sexually active. I like sex!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bi Curious. Curious about sex maybe. Not about being bi. And as iterated previously, bi-curious is interpreted as someone curious to try Bi related sexual activities. Curiosity was for-filled a while ago. Definitely past that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Thats Mr Bellas right. Its like you guys always going on about not understanding monogamy........ he doesnt understand homosexuality. Sure, that's his prerogative. Calling gay men poofs however is not something I find acceptable.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I Mr Bella still cannot get my head around a guy being a poof/bisexual just fine it very hard to accept the fact. Call me old school,are we allowed to use the term poof these days???. - Posted from rhpmobile But you are married to a carpet muncher, so what is so difficult to understand about bisexuality? Oh, is it acceptable to say carpet muncher these days?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. - Posted from rhpmobile But is it okay for Eve suck on the other Eve's pussy? Sorry your argument totally falls down as you are not practicing what you preach there. Mr Bella there would be lots of women that do not understand your wife and nor would they understand your arrangement and what you do. Everyone is different. But I have to definitely fail you on this argument.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. - Posted from rhpmobile Are you saying that sex should only be for procreation. Sex has a very social element to it and by far most people have sex for pleasure not for making babies. Why would men have a G spot where the sun dont shine? seems a bit of a waste if its never to be utilized as nature intended. Just curious to the why?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting 'BellaRH' I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. - Posted from rhpmobile Are you saying that sex should only be for procreation. Sex has a very social element to it and by far most people have sex for pleasure not for making babies. Why would men have a G spot where the sun dont shine? seems a bit of a waste if its never to be utilized as nature intended. Just curious to the why? The so called G spot you refer to is the Anal Passage correct?Nature intended the Anal passage for one thing only.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Has nothing to do with being gay. Neither do clothes. Like i said im straight as!!! Being gay or bi means youre attracted to sex with the same sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
And it has been studied.. one sex (m or f) is attracted to the opposite sex mating together and also joing those two for a reason.. also look how the ancients did it.. bi orgies all round. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'BellaRH' I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. - Posted from rhpmobile But is it okay for Eve suck on the other Eve's pussy? Sorry your argument totally falls down as you are not practicing what you preach there. Mr Bella there would be lots of women that do not understand your wife and nor would they understand your arrangement and what you do. Everyone is different. But I have to definitely fail you on this argument. This is no argument ,it is just my way of thinking ,As i said before no one has to agree with me. Mrs Bella being a carpet muncher?Not at all but she does like the soft sensual touch of a woman.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
That contradiction is sydney couples all through.... a male saying who joins and is obviously only inter in other women joining. .. not true swinging in my book but its their life. Very biased one but not for us to dictate. The gossip they create about single males too ruins it for genuine ones like me. They assume we just want to get with his wife.. all vibe has turned to negative and no socialisation just judgements... But thats a reflection of themselves not me.. i laugh at their immaturity - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a male in a relationship where we are almost married, although physically I am not attracted to males even though I can see and appreciate why and how my fiancée can and does find a male attractive or hot I myself am just attracted to a decent looking dick, that's what can turn me on and make me want to play. More so since my partner and I have been together and she has bigger urges to play with females since together. We almost had no interest at all before being together and it's not that we are shy or nervous as we are both naturally the very opposite.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Appears Op is no longer a joke as I may have alluded earlier. He may be pretty cool in the wash up. Appears the real joke is Mr Bella. In the time I've been here at Rhp, havnt seen much sense posted from that IP address over there. But then a joke you can laugh at. In this case, one must feel sorry for him? Not much there to feel sorry for......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Calling a gay or bi sexual person a poof, queer, fag, etc is not an insult, well not to me and or most I know. The only time those nouns become offensives is when it is directed at at those that fear being thought of as gay. Homophobia is classified as a disorder which i find very strange, we don't excuse racists as suffering a disorder Xenophobia so why are we allowing the term homophobia to smooth over bigoted hate. Its not a disorder its a form of institutionalized hate. Personally I think that the term should mean fear of their ones own sexuality, fear that they may be gay or bi. If we use that as our term for only such people then all the other so called homophobic masses can stand in the light of truth, they don't fear they just hate. And the ones that are actually in fear of their own sexuality can get proper help.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' I turned 49 in December so yes nt age is out by 1 year. What I wrote was my thoughts no one has to like or agree with it. To me there is a reason why Adam & Eve were created and not Adem & Dick,get the picture. you know we evolved, right? But I hope you've taken precautions for when God smites you with fiery vengeance for the sodomy (and consorting with sodomites) that takes place right here in this place of moral depravity. You can have your own opinion on it, thats fine - but I don't feel it is all logically consistent to be quoting scripture given the circumstances Quoting 'Luck_Dragon'Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' You're a unique snowflake - the rest of us are not like that at all, we're attracted to everyone who matches the right gender. Are you saying that the only prerequisite for you to be attracted to someone, is that they are the right gender?? Nothing else comes into the equation?? Because if so that's certainly not the case for me and I'm pretty sure not for most other people. In fact I'm exactly like the OP when it comes to women...I'm not attracted to the majority of them but a few of them can push my 'fuck yeah' buttons in the right way... Yes... yes, thats exactly what I meant, sarcasm was not heaped on so heavily it was dripping off, no ma'am ;) (As Meander surmised, I was being quite sarcastic there - I think most people tend to be like that in being genuinely attracted to only a very small subset of any crowd of people you might potentially be attracted to)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love receiving anal. I love giving anal. I love sucking men. I love men sucking me. I love all of the above from women and my girlfriend too. And she loves all that I give and receive with guys as well. I won't go one on one with a guy. No kissing guys. So why is it so hard for the male half of a couple to realize that I only want mm when the other m wants it too. Homophobia? Well I'm not homosexial. Paranoia? If they're paranoid I'm probably not into them. Just want all in four way foreplay. Is that too much to ask..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been comfortable with myself for years, now. I feel I'm the most important person for that. Yet, I don't feel the need to announce it, any more than what kind of car I prefer to drive. The only people who know I suck cock are the people whose cock I'm sucking. I don't see any point in taking it further than that. If you can embrace this part of yourself, you're pretty much guaranteed a very interesting life!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have a search for "Skeletons Hug, Kiss, And Dance Before A Crowd" Makes me cry (but don't tell anyone) Some people will make a big issue over little things - that's their issue not yours.
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RHP User
10 years ago
the poof statement I found pretty funny. Don't want to sound condescending, but you might want to leave your smeagal cave. It's been a while, and the ring aint coming back. It's gone. But if you are comfortable the way you are - don't change.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You and me both! ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
You should go around telling others they are bi instead.Just kidding, someone else here has taken that job on. I hate labels, particularly when they are applied by others. People do seem to have a need to categorise though. For the laymen out there it's how they make sense of a strange world. You've touched another man's cock - therefore you are bi. (It seems even some of those who've put a lot of thought into it insist on applying simple labels, so it's little wonder others do it). It doesn't really matter though until they start telling you about it. Then you get stuck telling them you don't actually see yourself that way, while they insist that "well that's what you are", and that just makes for a frustrating conversation. Personally, the only one I feel a need to discuss my sexuality with is my partner, and if the situation warrants, then with playmates. As you say OP, otherwise I just can't be bothered.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It can be hard for us older folk to understand but things are so different now! My 20yo daughters' best friend is a practicing bisexual and she can pick up either way when they're out depending on her mood. If neither scores they sleep together in my daughters bed with no problem and it's just "normal". How young bisexual guys like you go OP I have no idea. When I was young there were no probs sharing a bed with a mate after a night out but there was no thoughts of play either. Back then the one on one play between guys or group wanks when camping was never spoken about, buried deep and ignored. We were straight guys just mucking around and we all wanted girls. Confusion has always been there as "society" has trouble accepting bisexual men as readily as bisexual women. Put yourself down as experimental at least and enjoy whatever makes you and your partners feel good. Mr HnH
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RHP User
10 years ago
Heya OP Look up the 'Kinsey scale' - it's going to make you feel a whole lot better. The idea is that it's not so much identifying as hetero, or gay, or bi, but finding your unique spot along the scale. Interestingly, depending on my hormones, time of the month, etc, my attraction to men and women differs. When I was pregnant, I went off women altogether for a while! Don't worry too much about what other people think your sexuality is supposed to be, or how it's supposed to manifest itself. Just go with it and be attracted to whomever you like. Happy Mardi Gras! MsK x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Absolutely none of anyone else's business! Something that I have never been able to fathom throughout my entire life, is why everyone feels this need to share absolutely everything about themselves with everyone walking the planet. Let me put it to you this way, I don't run around telling the world, "Hey, I'm hetro-sexual." I figure my parents, friends and work colleagues already know that, because over the years they've only ever seen me with male partners. I figure they're intelligent enough that if they should (unlikely though) see me fawning lasciviously over my own sex that they'll cotton on, that I've either decided to go and bat for the other team or perhaps have a paw in both camps if they see me then fawning over a man again the next week. Again, I'm perplexed and confused with friends over the years who have 'come out' and made this special announcement about their sexually. Frankly, it's absolutely no ones business except your own, as to who you are or aren't in a relationship. Whether it be male or female. Clearly, I'm showing my age!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isn't it sad the things we feel the need to hide and experience a lack of understanding from our fellow people. Anything that makes you a little out of the box becomes an easy tag for another to label. Sorry you're feeling that lack of understanding and disengaging. I know that frustration. I have also known men to be in the same place as yourself. Keep loving what you are loving, doing what makes you happy etc.. The right people will find you and open those lines of communication. Why wouldn't they? Bi is hot! ;) Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Congrats on the new addition to the family. I remember a question from a lesbian (I don't rember her user name, she was a one off forum contributor) who had a baby, she was a little confused as during her pregnancy she lusted after men. Not sure if she had ever gone out with men at some point in her life but she considered herself to be 100% lesbian. Interesting what hormones do the libido.
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