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What's the definition of 'hardened swingers'?

July 26 2022

Hello all you lovely people (including those 'hardened swingers' among you), We've only been here a little while but already we have seen a few profiles stating that they are not looking for 'hardened swingers'. We started wondering if we would be 'hardened swingers' but the more we thought about it the less clear we were as to what the term actually means. What are your thoughts about what constitutes these 'hardened swinger' people? And is that a label to avoid, or wear like a badge of honour? G&M

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Ms_silk

2 years ago

Harsh wording I think and for most of the people I've met have been interested in this lifestyle for a long time. So I don't see that as a negative. Just means they know what they like and have their shit together.

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Rising_Phoenix

2 years ago

Sounds like something I’d want to avoid, it makes me think of people who don’t change for any reason, their way or the highway sort of thing, not something I want to encounter in the bedroom, or anywhere really....

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teamaj2

2 years ago

I think all labels are open for interpretation. My take on it is , hardened swingers have been in the lifestyle for quite some time . They know what they are seeking , they are confident and comfortable without jealousies or issues arising within their existing relationship. I think hardened swingers know their boundaries and limits compared to those new to the lifestyle who maybe navigating their way through boundaries and what works for them . Ax

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Flirty2020

2 years ago

Our understanding of “hardened swingers” is that they swing a lot, that they spend every opportunity swinging ( as in most weekends). That for them it is about quantity, not quality. That swinging consumes their lives. But that’s just our understanding and opinion. Open to debate.

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Flirty2020

2 years ago

hardened adjective US /ˈhɑːr.dənd/ UK /ˈhɑː.dənd/ [ before noun ] used to describe someone who has had a lot of bad experiences and as a result no longer gets upset or shocked

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RHP User

2 years ago

I’d say these answers give you an indication that it could mean anything. 🤪 People clearly INTERPRET it to mean THEIR version of the idea (when they use it in their profile). As with anything in the BDSM/Kink world . . . ask THEM what they think it means. I bet you’ll get a few real surprises. 😳

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ReyandJean

2 years ago

There I was thinking it was where the male had been fluffed sufficiently to be able to perform. The contrary being more common than one would expect.

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MissRedFox

2 years ago

I'm not really sure what a hardened swinger is.....perhaps viagra is involved

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winemedineme69

2 years ago

My interpretation is that those who are 'hardened swingers' are focused on the lifestyle as much as socially possible. It's as much a part of their life as work and home life so it's not something they do occasionally. I wouldn't interpret the description as something derogatory nor avoid those who describe themselves as such.

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countrytouch82

2 years ago

A pair of swingers encased in Carbonite like Han Solo :p

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ChevyMetal

2 years ago

Every individual person and item needs a label now and I think it just causes more confusion because there's some much you need to know. And people seem to make their own titles aswell. I think more so in the world of dating and sex because it's on our phones it just split second decision and to the next photo not actually knowing what we are looking for

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