M59 F52
When age becomes a barrier
January 18 2022
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blix_and_queen
3 years ago
As long as there is a great connection/attraction for us, age is not a major issue. We think that older people have a great amount of experience and can be more fun in alot of ways.
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FeistyFatty
3 years ago
It may be more likely your hubby's age is getting to that point, not yours. Even in your OP, you only went up to 52. Everyone has preferences, they're either going to work for or against you. Age is definitely a barrier for me. Yes I have tried older, which is why I can so adamantly say I prefer younger. Maybe just focus on people who's preferences match with your own and who you are as a couple and don't give the rest a second thougt. Enjoy😊
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jenniecruising
3 years ago
We have noticed a change in our "Matches" since turning the big Five O and have adjusted accordingly.
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Ex007
3 years ago
4 of your profile pictures are restricted. I'm not sure if you know about this or not. In most couples profiles there are plenty of photos of her and if your lucky 1 of him. Your profile seems to be the same. Have some general photos of what you get up to in everyday life. put an emoji on your face if you don't wish to show it. List your general interests. Be relatable I guess you could say. I do know the best sex of my life has been with men in their 50’s. I don't play with couples. I also see the world very differently from others. So my advice may or may not be of benefit. 🙏
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RHP User
3 years ago
You have an upper age limit of 55. Why did you pick that age?
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RHP User
3 years ago
On paper no I stick to the age bracket I prefer my single men to be in. In clubs it becomes a lot more fluid in person.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
Not a barrier for us, much younger is though.
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teamaj2
3 years ago
As I posted in another forum post I definitely think my age is a negative for attracting people online . In person at a party or event it’s a different matter . No one knows my age and it’s about how I present and interact with those we meet . Ax
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RHP User
3 years ago
Hi, definitely don't worry about your age. I have played with a couple in their 60s and they played hard all night long, then again the following morning. Their sex drive was amazing. They tell me that they have sex just about every day and this helps condition them for sexy adventures. If younger people think that getting old limits what you can do, they are going to miss out on the best sex possible 😈😝
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genuineolder59
3 years ago
You ask that question & put an age limit 1 yr above your own age??
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RHP User
3 years ago
I see you have changed your own upper age limit preference from 55 to only two years older at 57. This just highlights that you prefer people barely any older than yourselves (or at least the male), yet you feel it is problematic when others have age preferences that rule you out. You obviously have your reasons for having the upper age limit you do, so why should it be surprising that others do too (most likely for many of the same reasons)?
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RHP User
3 years ago
I've noticed with myself that I do focus on age a lot online. It's the first thing I look at when I receive a message.I state that I want 50+. But if I'm at a venue or even a RHP meet & greet, I have never once asked someone I chat to their age.
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badboyhere
3 years ago
Well I guess a lesson learnt for you. Don’t write a question in the forums if 1. You are not ready for the inevitable negatives Jane and Joes feedback as that will always happen here weather you want it or not 2. Pot calling kettle black saturation - looks like some me have called you out in your own age preferences so why ask the question if you have this preference anyway. Just calling it out. Proves my point not to ask any types of questions in these forums for these reasons
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badboyhere
3 years ago
Apologies for the spelling fat fingers typing on a phone and god damn spell check....ha ha
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curioso1
3 years ago
Posted this as a general comment & question for discussion, but appreciate all the comments about our own profile. Always good to receive constructive thoughts from positive people!
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Lively
3 years ago
Mature and fit equals great sex 👌
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ElectricDreamers
3 years ago
I, Mrs Electric, was always partial to a guy in his late 20's/early 30's (still am) but have started to really appreciate what older men have to offer too. Some of that could be that we're getting older too but it did strike me the other day that everyone is, so the younger couples blanking you now may well find themselves in your shoes. We always came into the scene wanting to find a few play-friends for life. People we meet while we're all somewhat young, have friendships and grow old disgracefully with - having known eachother in some stage of comparative prime. #swingersgoals As we're getting older I'm really loosing interest in hookups and am way more into fun, friendly and hopefully meaningful connection(on some level)...
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2EssesExploring
3 years ago
Curioso1 thank your lucky stars there’s only 8 years between you. We have near 14 between us and that brings a whole other level of what ages we might be attracted to and visa versa. We have a very playful, young at heart kind of relationship with each other and find we play best with similar personalities. We find many people our ages and older to be too serious and too focussed on getting down to the act without having a few laughs beforehand whereas experiences we have had with younger people seem to flow more easily even though these encounters are rarer. That said, everyone is a different mix of traits so we keep an open mind. What I do know is the most amazing experiences seem to be the ones where you least expect it to be.
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RHP User
3 years ago
When age becomes a barrier it means that nothing is going to happen between two parties. Barriers are boundaries which should be respected. So when I see women whose preferences excludes my age group I do not cross or violate those boundaries, end of chapter. Age as an obstacle is a fact of life and I navigate through the obstacles as best as I can, every so often I meet someone who is in the same place. It's the nature, and patterns of the obstacles which determines the course of life, to some degree this is same for all ages, different variables come and go.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Only the outside packaging gets old, the mind stays young but is reminded every so often when the shoelaces seem further away than last time. If we didn't have to put a number against our profile I wonder how many would really judge. It would be nice to have a longer lifespan where 50's would be considered adolescent but alas it's not the case. These days we're happy to find people who accept our limitations, appreciate the gentle nature and time we take to pleasure each other rather than trying the whole karma Sutra in one night. The sex is better when we connect mentally and not just physically as body perfect looks do not guarantee a sexy person or prowess. So no we don't expect nor look for people as old as our kids to contact us. It would be nice to have them as friends if only to impart wisdom and share jokes etc but as the guy here I would be suspicious of a young lady who wanted me and fearful of the consequences from my gorgeous wife if I pursued her :-) As for the gorgeous wife, younger men don't offer anything apart from a rushed conquest (yes she's that good you'll blow in seconds) nor the experience and age learned techniques that give her the greatest pleasure. (unless you're Jason Momoa then I cannot compete.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Me personally, I would feel more comfortable playing with a couple my age or older
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Pottyy76
3 years ago
We agree 😁😁😁
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gigglegirl
3 years ago
For me its more about the energy, stamina and outlook of the person. I myself am 54 but with a lot of energy and a young oulook on life but have been reluctant to play with guys my age or older. After quite a few disappinting encounters with guys in there 30's I have had to revise my perception of older lovers. I have 3 lovers over 50 one of which is 61. All 3 three have more stamina and skill than any of the young guys I have been with. They are all fit and active with amazing bodies. The 61 year old did give his age as 54 because of the stigma around older lovers but he is the best lover I've ever had. My recent experiences have forced me to re-evaluate my own preferences and examine my biases around older lovers
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RHP User
3 years ago
Hi age isnt the thing i look for i have found as i get older i look for a woman man couple that know what they wont and as long as its fun it dosnt matter how old or how many wrinkles we get
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kisslids
3 years ago
Age for me is creating hurdles, so I have started a fitness and health program. 6 weeks in and feeling so much better for myself. Let’s see if this image/ lifestyle is going to reduce those hurdles. I also appreciated a lot of the comments and conversations. Keep smiling..
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fundamentallaw
3 years ago
While age is not a filter, it does tend to change the nature of relationships in the LS. At M67 F69, less interest in frantic NSA sex and more in actually liking the people and spending time with people with whom we choose to be intimate.
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Jason211
3 years ago
Hey guys , I’m an young Aussie model and my preference is most definitely people your ageZ it always has been and I don’t know why but damn it’s hot. Age is just a number I say, give me a message if you like I’m moving to Vic soon x
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Jackedon47
3 years ago
I found that once I hit 50 no one was interested anymore.
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FitAndGeeky48
3 years ago
Although the age itself may be an issue (not everyone wants to play with people their parents age), for many I'd say age is proxy for looks (usual proviso your mileage may vary from others). Now obviously looks aren't everything, but it's usually a fair part of what attracts people here. Now none of us can have the bodies we had at 25, but guys (especially in the 'real world') let them go much more than women as they age. Take your age groups: Age M F 45-54 82.9% 65.2% 55-64 83.6% 66.6% Blokes really are their own worst enemies. With so many profiles, lots are probably just assuming you're in the masses (hmmm) that they probably aren't going to be physically attracted to. Compound with that women who are a bit larger get compensatory 'assets', where as guys just get soft and pudgy and being bypassed for younger couples isn't surprising. It's 95% going to be you as the older half that's the 'deal breaker', so it's you who needs to push back on it. You look in decent shape, so you might want to go to a shot of both of you as the profile pic, so people (really the other couples female half) can see straight up when flicking past profiles you break the mould of 'older = has let go, no way playing with'.
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