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When does 'sexy' end?
May 07 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont think there is an end date, however its unlikely that a 30 - 40 year old will find a 60+ year old sexy. I imagine that most people would likely find those within 5 - 10 years of themselves sexy/attractive....depending on how they look after themselves and their attitude. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Aging is a cruel thing, there's no doubt about that. I often wonder how much longer I can reel in the age guys I want, at this point I'm doin alright with that but I'll keep you posted 😉 There are of course benefits. Met a guy in RL. I told him I wasn't into men my age, and he said he wasn't into chicks his age, perfect 👌 but I do agree attraction is usually within a closer age range, though not in my case, for most people. As far as sexy and being open sexually, not to mention sexual function or understanding our bodies, that just gets way better with age. There's no comparison for me now to then, whole different world now, my body is different/responds differently. Although I'd love to be younger than I am, there are things about me now I wouldn't trade. Fortunately those things some young guys love and lucky me. How much longer? Who knows. I know I'll always be sexual, the age gap will no doubt close a bit as I get older but I hope to always be a wannabe porn star lol I don't think sexy ever needs to stop, I hope it never does for me
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langton11
8 years ago
I think a handful of people can hold it damn near forever like aforementioned Susan Sharandon (70), Sean Connery is 86 but is must be remembered that he's not as sexy as he was. I think eventually age does take the edge off sexiness but that age is specific to the individual so alas, like everything, it too is grey. I do feel for most of us it'll probably be in the 60's somewhere.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are 31 year olds who aren't sexy and there are 71 year olds who are (Helen Mirren for one).
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
I'm a visual person. If I'm attracted then that's all that matters. The whole age thing is confusing. I see people that are supposedly 10 years younger but look 10 years older than me. So l tend to ignore what's written. Therefore I bullshit about my own age as I've looked after myself and I'll put down the age l look. Need a dial so you can adjust your profile each morning when you look in the mirror. Seems a few have it swung full on anti clockwise permanently. As far as playmates go, regularly get hit up by guys in their 20s. I go there occasionally just to remind myself why l don't go there.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sexiness is visual and also an attitude or inner personal trait. While some may have strict age preferences (which is fine) I've met some very sexy older men and women who ooze sex appeal. There's so many levels to it. Confidence, happiness and your comfort zone too. I guess it ends when you choose it to end. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Love that Justin Timberlake song! Everytime I feel un-sexy, I play that song, dance to it, and ta-daaaah! Got my sexy mojo back! You can't put an age to sexiness, OP. There are peeps in their 20's who are as sexy as a piece of driftwood. And then there are those in their 60's who still have a very sexy vibe to them. To me, sexiness ends when the coffin lid is nailed shut. I'm determined to be a pretty, sexy corpse and please let me wear my favourite corset, suspender and stockings ensemble underneath my decent, fine clothes!
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Seachange
8 years ago
Sexiness is not confined to age or size or height. It's an attitude and self confidence in your ability to be social and capture other people's imagination. a physically fit, not obese and not necessarily with a six pack abs, completes the picture for me. I love the company of a well presented, sweet smelling intelligent funny man across the table in a bar. Agree with Annie. I've met people, men and women, who look 10-15 years older than their years because they've let themselves go due to bad habits. Mainly frequent (if not excessive) alcohol intake, smoking and unhealthy eating habits and with little or no exercise does ravage the body and the mind. that's not sexy. I've been with men pushing 60 and they don't look a year over 45 because they looked after their bodies well - exercised, drank little or in moderation and ate well. I find people who look after themselves - respect their bodies, educate their mind and have a positive view of life VERY sexy. These people have experienced life and have stories to tell, I find them sexy. Give me a hot silver fox anytime. George Clooney comes to mind. Hubba hubba
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
You stop breathing ! Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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nibblemebi
8 years ago
Sexy is a subjective continuum. It is a verb, a noun and an adverb. What it's not is an age. It's akin to art in that it is about perception and taste. No expiry date necessary :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I believe it ends when you want it to. For some (probably most of us here), it may never end 😊 As to playing with people of differing age, the man I'm with is 10 years older than me. I find him rather sexy and he manages to keep me satisfied every time. I feel very lucky 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've found women from 20 through 70 visually appealing. Now once you crack 30 it becomes harder for both genders as you have to take care of your body to look your best, but that to me makes women over the 'first blush of youth', incredibly sexy. Those that are older and clearly have 'let go' are less appealing, as much for how it being obvious they have let go doesn't impress me as an attitude for a healthy life, as the physical effects. I certainly don't expect anyone to look at 50 as at 20, I know my hair declared independence many years ago and refuses all attempts at reconciliation. The lines and so wrinkles we all acquire add character, but I don't get those who've let it go complaining that those younger won't spare them a second glance. You can't expect respect from others if you won't give it to yourself firstly. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Susan Sarandon....also Helen Mirren is still very sexy in my mind.....a mum of a mate is in her early 70's and is in a relationship with a bloke a couple of years younger than me....she is still sexy with youthful and positive attitude and taking care of herself physically etc. Sexy is more about attitude than age.
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RHP User
8 years ago
As sexy does..:)..It's how you feel think and do..it's an individual thing,for some you will always be sexy,for others not so much Q
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Obi1kenietzsche
8 years ago
"Sexy is a state of mind" My thoughts on the topic are.. If you are sexy, then I won't mind! 😇 Xx Obi1
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... Annie, lily and Fit Geek! Sexy ends when one stops taking pride in one's appearance. Anyone who has let themselves go to the boondocks won't be able to appear sexy at all unless the other party is also in the boondocks themselves, or so desperate to get a quick romp and boink that as long as the other party is breathing, it'll suffice. It's not easy to live a good lifestyle - no excessive boozing, no smoking, eating well and being active, like lily mentioned, but those who are disciplined enough to love their bodies and do the right things no matter how tough it is to do so, are totally sexy! Those who nurture their body, spirit and mind are super hot and sexy! We have to live with what our genes have endowed us with, and we didn't get to choose how we'd look like when we were born. But it's how we rock what we've been given, how we take care to nurture and improve what we have, that makes the difference. One's mindset can be sexy too. Some of us get struck down with depression, panic disorders, anxiety attacks, etc. We then get to choose - do we wallow in self-pity and make life difficult for everyone else around us because we expect them to change to accommodate us? Or do we decide to reach out for help so that we can eventually get out of the pit and learn survival skills so that the next time we experience these challenges, we are better prepared for them and our down time gets shorter and less intense because we have become a stronger and more resilient individual? It's never the falling down that is the issue... it's how long we choose to sink and wallow in the mud. One can be down in the dumps, and still have a sexy winner's attitude. Sexy bodies are all over the media these days. It's sexy personalities that are more intriguing!
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I hope you are recovering well. I can't send msgs so sorry, I have to post well wishes here. BTW, you've got a sexy mind! So full of wisdom and life experiences. I may not agree with everything you say, but I appreciate your substance and depth.
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RHP User
8 years ago
People stating that age isn't relevant to sexiness, and then giving examples of older people who look much younger than their years as still being sexy. Plus the emphasis given on people needing to 'look after themselves', keep physically fit etc, again showing that even if it's not age per se, appearance based on how old someone appears to be is very important to many people. There's nothing wrong with that so I find it a bit funny when people seem to be afraid of appearing shallow and trot out the old 'age is just a number!' tropes in order to avoid that, but then go on to emphasise youthful looks as being one of the prerequisites for sexiness. I agree that it's an individual thing, people age differently in a physical sense plus there are other characteristics that contribute to attraction. I will be honest though, and say that at this point in my life I rarely find men in their late 40s upwards to be sexy. I can appreciate other characteristics about them and use other adjectives such as 'distinguished' or 'charismatic', but sexy to me includes a raw physical attraction (mostly to their face, body is secondary for me). Women I find there's a bit more leeway with age and finding them sexy, which I think is partly because women do tend to experience more societal pressure to try and look younger for longer and hence put more effort into doing so (obviously a big generalisation with a number of caveats). If you're talking about people feeling sexy, that is a whole other thing and I agree that it is very flexible and not as much dependent on age / appearance.
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noeleena
8 years ago
Hi, Age does matter and if your over 69 as I am then your out of the will you be asked for some play time, that's it really, Of those that look at my profile very few couples would even bother sending a message and some few again will reply the 2 nd time after youv taken time to write more than 8 lines or longer, theres very little interest. the only ones who do write are males who for most are 1/2 my age, and we Jos and I have kids older than them. So I,m slowly coming to am I a fool to even think theres a place for me with in the swingers groups and that's our and its good in Ch Ch NZ, July I,ll be in Tasmania 3 weeks and doubt I,ll even get a message from any one to say would I like to have a cupper and natter. plus of cause being single comes hard on the heels of age, two fails so not much hope ...A... ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's a combination of appearance, attitude and actions. As a 40yo male I've found more young women attractive, but far from sexy, with a few that have been extremely sexy. I've found more women my age to be sexy while still maintaining that appearance I find attractive, it seems there's more pride in who they are rather than conscious of how they want others to see them. Confidence is a turn on for me. I've found a few women well into their 50s to be quite sexy as well. Does it fade? Probably at some stage, but I wouldn't even suggest that is an age thing at all. It's a personal thing - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I found your post a bit confusing. I don't see any irony in those comments. Simply put, the number of the age is exactly that, other things make the person sexy, what's ironic about that?
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' People stating that age isn't relevant to sexiness, and then giving examples of older people who look much younger than their years as still being sexy. Plus the emphasis given on people needing to 'look after themselves', keep physically fit etc, again showing that even if it's not age per se, appearance based on how old someone appears to be is very important to many people. There's nothing wrong with that so I find it a bit funny when people seem to be afraid of appearing shallow and trot out the old 'age is just a number!' tropes in order to avoid that, but then go on to emphasise youthful looks as being one of the prerequisites for sexiness. I agree that it's an individual thing, people age differently in a physical sense plus there are other characteristics that contribute to attraction. I will be honest though, and say that at this point in my life I rarely find men in their late 40s upwards to be sexy. I can appreciate other characteristics about them and use other adjectives such as 'distinguished' or 'charismatic', but sexy to me includes a raw physical attraction (mostly to their face, body is secondary for me). Women I find there's a bit more leeway with age and finding them sexy, which I think is partly because women do tend to experience more societal pressure to try and look younger for longer and hence put more effort into doing so (obviously a big generalisation with a number of caveats). If you're talking about people feeling sexy, that is a whole other thing and I agree that it is very flexible and not as much dependent on age / appearance. Ironic that you say that at the start of your post about a few of us and then make the same reference toward the end of yours
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keeping your appearances up as you age, shows you respect yourself. It's about that as much as the looks that generates. Obviously if you've got a 50 year old gym junkie whose let their mind atrophy then most wouldn't find that sexy. You can't look at someone and see if they've a love of learning and improvement. True sexiness encompasses more then just the body, but the body (after youth), is a visual representation of a state of mind to a large degree. - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
8 years ago
Sexy ends when your inner spark fades or you no longer allow your self to exude that "aura".
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
But what may come as a surprise to some is that 59 percent of partnered women over 60 said they were sexually active! Though the myth of older people leading sexless lives seems to linger, studies have shown that many seniors are sexually active and satisfied. One study published last year found that more than half of men over 70 and nearly a third of women over 70 are still having sex! There isn’t much we can do about our age, and some say it hits women harder but I disagree.The realisation of time passing you by may hit men later in life, but it hits them equally as hard. I would like to know what happens in nursing homes though ? At 40+ we should all have goals, dreams and a vision. I don’t see that changing much for us at 50, 60, 70 and beyond ... (Ms)
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MrPlayful
8 years ago
Is a combination.. not of just age/looks and state of mind. I'll add a third element if I may, and that is connection. Someone can be sexy and look sexy, but without connection there is no sexy. On the other hand someone may be of less attractive looks and/or younger/older than we would normally be attracted to ever, but in the right time, place and circumstance, sexy might be found due to connection. Maybe what I mean is that it is not an exact science? It comes and goes, sometimes it surprises us, sometimes it just sneaks up on us. We can't always put our finger on it, we can't always predict it, sometimes it just connects.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
At the end of the day, if the pheromones are "right", all our criteria for sexiness goes out the window and we become horny Tasmanian Devils! "Lemme at your dick / pussy... or else! " *hissssss! Lol! ;D
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PurePeony
8 years ago
... are very sexy traits. At the end of a stressful workday, one wants to come home to a happy, perky partner. An angstful / naggy / quarrelsome / miserable one, not so inviting. :P One could look like a million dollars but if the demeanour is sour, that's utterly un-sexy.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, very well put, and reminded me how body and looks alone don't complete the attraction. I met a guy not so long ago, can't remember his exact age but older than I normally go, I think about 45, and he endured endless questions, me asking for more pictures, even remembered communicating a long time before that, super fit but I didn't trust how current the pictures were, finally agreed to meet him. In the flesh, if anything he looked even better than his pictures but otherwise, an empty void, completely lacking in personality, passion and sexiness. Newly divorced I think? He was so full of himself, he made me feel like he was too good for me, that is until we sat and talked for a while and he got hard from the things I was saying, ended up kissing near the car, but I knew by then he and I were different creatures. He hadn't engaged my mind and was so new to singledom, after being married for years (could be still married for all I know), didn't know how to relax and let the sexy come from within, and appreciate that in me. He was a rookie lol but a blank space to me, wrong for me in so many ways,. Zero warmth, well I've made my point. As Q said, sexy is as sexy does, sometimes they just don't, no matter how perfect the looks and body. Sorry mate if you're reading this, but wake up and smell the roses before it's too late👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
the kiss wasn't good either, no surprises there. Last weekend I met two guys just random in public, RL I mean, and the complete opposite of the above, a lot younger, at least one was, the other I think still significantly younger, but entirely different re passion and heat and letting themselves go. Some have it and some don't have it, and it requires both to be on the same page and into each other and the moment, when it happens. Maybe the cold fish hook up together, go through the motions and get home in time to do the shopping or put the next load of washing in lol happy as 😛 As far as when does the sexy stop, some never have it IMHO and IMHE ( in my humble experience haha)
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Sorry PurePeony, I couldn't help but laugh when I read your last post. Whilst I agree with the sentiment, it sounds like its straight from a women's magazine in the 1950s. The old...fix your hair and pop on some lipstick, have a smile in place no matter what has happened during the day. Make sure the children are neat & tidy, and have his favorite drink and his slippers ready from him after a busy day out at work earning the money for the family. Honestly, being perky every day is just not going to happen. I'm human with real emotions which may be impacted by events at work, which may then follow me home at the end of the day. There's no way I am going to hide that from my partner, and I wouldn't expect them to either.
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Seachange
8 years ago
So you imply we are shallow and avoiding labelling ourselves so by not outwardly admitting our preference for people who look after themselves physically? Then you state your preference for youthful men? ha Don't worry LD, we're just as shallow as you if that is what you want to hear. Is that direct enough for you? Our eyes and pussies/cocks can't help what they desire. Fortunately for many above, we also value other attributes like mental, intellectual and spiritual well being as just as important in our view of sexy and age is not necessary an impediment to being one.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Haha. Stanford wives!!! I see what you mean but I didn't read PPs post that way. I don't think she meant it that way and didn't have to be literal. I took it that she meant that being with someone positive and happy, for most of the time, is preferable and inclined to lead a happier if not relaxed co-existence with another person. We all know we can have better sex when we're happy and relaxed. No dramas for me thanks. happy, confident and laid back people are sexy. For me anyway. Never found angry people sexy regardless of how physically attractive they are. that's just too much drama that follows. waste of good energy better spent having good sex.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Typo. Fat fingers typing fast during coffee break. Grrrrr
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RHP User
8 years ago
I read that as it not being gender specific. With the workforce these days, it'd be just as much the female coming home lady not wanting to encounter a cranky male walking in the door. Certainly one shouldn't pretend all is roses when it's not, but don't take out a shitty day on the other. Instead take it as a chance to draw a line under the shitiness with someone who makes you feel better. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Coming home last. Damn RHP and the no edit feature. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' People stating that age isn't relevant to sexiness, and then giving examples of older people who look much younger than their years as still being sexy. Plus the emphasis given on people needing to 'look after themselves', keep physically fit etc, again showing that even if it's not age per se, appearance based on how old someone appears to be is very important to many people. There's nothing wrong with that so I find it a bit funny when people seem to be afraid of appearing shallow and trot out the old 'age is just a number!' tropes in order to avoid that, but then go on to emphasise youthful looks as being one of the prerequisites for sexiness. I agree that it's an individual thing, people age differently in a physical sense plus there are other characteristics that contribute to attraction. I will be honest though, and say that at this point in my life I rarely find men in their late 40s upwards to be sexy. I can appreciate other characteristics about them and use other adjectives such as 'distinguished' or 'charismatic', but sexy to me includes a raw physical attraction (mostly to their face, body is secondary for me). Women I find there's a bit more leeway with age and finding them sexy, which I think is partly because women do tend to experience more societal pressure to try and look younger for longer and hence put more effort into doing so (obviously a big generalisation with a number of caveats). If you're talking about people feeling sexy, that is a whole other thing and I agree that it is very flexible and not as much dependent on age / appearance. Ironic that you say that at the start of your post about a few of us and then make the same reference toward the end of yours I also said that there is nothing wrong with finding youthful looks more attractive. I don't try to hide my preferences behind the 'age doesn't matter' trope. Don't worry, I know how blasphemous it is to say that age and appearance actually does matter on here, so I've requested my disgusting, offensive comment be removed.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I see you've addressed a comment to me, I won't be reading it. I've said more than once that I don't read your comments and I don't care what you think about me. Since I can guess exactly what you've said, ou also need to go back and read what I wrote, and where I said that people should just admit that age and appearance matters, because there is nothing wrong with that, instead of immediately getting all shitty and jumping the gun to blast the fuck out of me. I'm not the hypocrite here, but of course you can't speak the truth on here. Only want to read what you think is acceptable.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Good try at deflection. Pull the other leg
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PurePeony
8 years ago
FitGeek and Lily! MsJonesy, Stepford Wives in this day and age?! Wasn't even thinking about it! I was referring to an individual's in-built coping mechanism and general outlook in life. I've had male ex-bf's who were grumpy and super critical all the time, huge chip on their shoulders. I'd be trying to cheer them up, but time and again they would be determined to wallow in the muck and couldn't see the positive in things, wouldn't even consider it. I'm no angel and I've made the same mistake myself, but I've learnt and I now love basking in the positive glow and prefer a problem-solving attitude after a decent period of whingeing. We all whinge and react to the awful and nasty stuff we have to put up with at work, in school, in social situations, etc and it's human to react to that. What's not right IMO, is dwelling on it and soaking in the stinky bathwater until the negativity seeps right into the very seat of our souls and permeates our entire being. Who wants to go home to a mate like that? We can be empathetic and understanding for a while but eventually it will all become too much. I find some females treat their mates like pin cushions and the poor men get "bullied" into letting her self- indulge in some awful cycle of entitled self-pity. Most guys aren't confrontational and they won't give voice to their unhappiness not because they don't know how to communicate, but because with some highly volatile and combustible females, it's best to just tread on eggshells and not risk starting an epic World War III where the female's epic anger simmers on forever! :P Who wants to go home to all that, seriously? Feminism is a great movement started to acknowledge women's valuable contributions to society and you protect those who were subject to all manner of gender-related abuse. But sometimes, it's being used to bully and belittle men and I strongly disagree to that kind of stance. The Stepford Wives reference may be a big joke but what's wrong with a woman pulling her weight by being efficient in her housekeeping skills, nurturing the kids well and then preparing nutritious meals for all? That's a mighty applaudable trait, being multi-tasking and productive! Shine with pride all ladies who are juggling work and family commitments! And shine with pride those who are full time "Controller of Domestic Affairs" as I like to call housewives! Applause to all, but what's wrong with also acknowledging the men who work hard and battle work politics, swallow their pride to please the big bosses, all to bring home the bacon... or the superfoods, smoothies and supergrains, especially if they are the sole bread winners? Nothing wrong with showing appreciation and gratitude to our hardworking mates, male or female. And one way of doing it is to create a home environment and atmosphere conducive to unwinding from the stressors of the day, lay down the swords, take off the armour. It's great to have a mate to share one's worries and woes with but ultimately, we don't want to drown them because no one person should shoulder the burdens of two for a prolonged period of time. We shouldn't just care for our own mental and emotional health but that of our mates as well. Nothing to ridicule about being loving, gentle, diligent, nurturing and taking pride in one's appearance and if that means being a Stepford Wife, well then I shamelessly aspire to be a modern-day one. Or to be more relevant to VIC, a Toorak / Camberwell Wife.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Ah... my favorite demographic! If you are a single and solo person (males and females), or a single mum or dad, kudos to you if you have your abode and your life all sorted out and in order. Being organised and on top of things and juggling all the balls solo, that's sexy as hell at any age! More power to all the happy sexy singles!
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RHP User
8 years ago
When does sexy end? None could apprehend. You may need no answer If first you romance her - Who cares if a chick or a hen?
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RHP User
8 years ago
the moment your body decides to betray you and your DNA structure changes and you fall foul of all that's suppose to help and heal you You are never going to be the same in body, mind, soul or spirit and you long to be normal again, let alone sexy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well, we're a couple with 17 years age difference between us - and we actually like that. The male half (me!) likes younger women, but also enjoy ones my age and older. The lady enjoys men of all ages, often older than me. Doesn't work for everyone, but similar ages works fine fo us, and we often enjoy quite large differences even more, especially when it combines what we both like most :)
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