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0z_boy
9 years ago
In my dreams.zXz
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RHP User
9 years ago
First, can you elaborate a bit? Were you on the receiving end of honesty which might have been painful? Honesty for me is a one track thing, it's just how I operate, and it doesn't always go down very well, tell it like it is type of thing. The exception is when not attracted to potential suitors, I choose not to reply (most times, sometimes I do), and that's for a few reasons, but the big one is it feels so clinical with the process of looking at profiles (guys must feel like it's a meat market), selecting the odd person to further communications with, lots of others look like awesome people, quite often good looking or have definite assets, appealing things about them, but how do you explain why you're not interested. Specifics just hurt. Even when they ask, which they do sometimes, I rarely give a response because it just causes hurt. So I feel like honesty should be left out sometimes to prevent hurt. But I usually get frustrated with lack of honesty, people making it up as they go along. Now I have to be careful how I say this but there was one occasion where I met someone and there was a specific reason why I didn't want to hook up after that, which I chose to tell him, mainly because I thought it would help him understand it wasn't because I wasn't attracted to him, and the honest feedback might help him improve that particular thing, sorry, sounds stupid without detail, but anyway, in hindsight, I wish I hadn't. I hurt him, he reacted not badly, just in a defensive way, which I understood. I'd hurt him and didn't mean to. He was a really nice guy, very hot and I'd still like to see him. It was I'm sure just an oversight on the day, and I still feel bad for being too honest, just my thoughts
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wow, you gained a lot of weight this winter. :-P
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QLDtwo4fun
9 years ago
Is not a question that requires a detailed account of your health conditions.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind.
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madotara69
9 years ago
you can't Stirry, you as in you, yer, I, me, not you you, that's up to you, but you can't find too much honesty with some people because with some people you can spend time with where honesty is either trusted or it's not. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't necessarily want to hear all your thoughts...some people need an edit button... they use the "I am just being honest" excuse which often translates to "I don't really care how you feel",..emotional intelligence is sadly lacking in many..xxFreya70
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RHP User
9 years ago
Too much honesty or too much information?
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RHP User
9 years ago
When people tell me things that I simply don't need to know, and then that knowledge changes how I view them. I'm much less judgmental these days than I was, once upon a time, but I'm still human. There's an argument to be made that a significant other/life partner should know absolutely everything about the other person so that there are "no secrets between us." That's all well and good, however, I've been told a lot of things by people who aren't partners at all. Then I think less of them for it, and guilty that I've judged them, and resentful that they brought it about in the first place. When it's a case of "I just needed to tell someone," okay, maybe be a bit more judicious about whom you choose tell? Have you considered talking it over with a professional? E.g. "I don't really love my partner." When I'm friends with you both, and I see you together. Um, awkward, yeah? Then there are the people who are brutally honest about others. It's gossiping, but when it's delivered in a serious enough context, some people I've known have thought it turned into something nobler.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I guess it's probably more 'transparency' but I figure transparency wouldn't exist without honesty right?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll get back to you on this, need to think about it a bit more. Great topic though... it's certainly got my little brain ticking over :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't feel a person can be too honest (EXCEPT where people's feelings are concerned)... "Do you think I look fat" (just an example), but if the asker DOES, you DO NOT tell the truth. (I like a lady of 'substance' anyway...). You tell a "Little White Lie". When someone's feelings are involved it's simply a matter of empathy... We all have sensitivities and certain insecurities and should be able to easily tell when total honesty is appropriate or not... However, in day to day life and when it comes to things that are of importance and need to be known and understood, like the type of person you are and how you feel about something of consequence etc... I am as honest as I can be. It's often mentioned in topics (on any subject where 'profiles' come up) that the level of honesty in 'some' profiles leaves a little to be desired. I've found that those I've been fortunate enough to meet in person, have been totally honest. However, I've heard (only) that there are some 'doozies' told in the profiles... I'm yet to come across one of those profiles. For me... Honesty is the best policy (as is said). I don't have a good enough memory to be a good liar, even if I wanted to be one... But in the type of dealings we have here, it's despicable to lie to get into someone's bedroom. As for To Much Info... Well, I am who I am and I DO have a tendency to take a while to say what I want. I admit that I can be 'long-winded'... But only in written conversation. In person, I am quiet succinct and to the point, as I can express myself well, as those who've met me, I'm sure would attest to. I just have a need to explain things a littler too well or completely when conversing in writing... As most who've been here any length of time will know... But I feel if that's my biggest flaw, then I'm not doing too bad...
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I believe there's different types of honesty. Honesty with integrity can bring freedom and comfort that helps relationships work in the best way possible and bring out the best in one. In a nut shell to gain positive benefit from, yes it's good to hear.....Brutal Honesty I believe does more damage than good, especially when it's hurtful, unnecessary and obnoxious. I guess it's how things are said and how message comes across- Brutal Honesty can come across as rude therefore not want to hear it. What would you rather??? Things said in a tactful way, being thoughtful of your feelings and how it's said, to learn and grow?? Or said in a mean, nasty way with put downs, which leaves one with nothing but ill feelings?? Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
... but that's a good thing right!?! I mean, sometimes that's what it takes in order to move forward positively. And then there's nothing but honesty when I'm hanging out with animals. I wouldn't say it's ever too much but sometimes their brutal honesty makes me ashamed to be human.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...we should be completely honest when dealing with other people. But that doesn't mean spouting off everything that comes into your head.If the alternative to complete honesty is different degrees of lying...I don't agree with that option at all. Not saying something can be the diplomatic path...but any degree of lying is just spreading falsehoods. I don't think I've ever received too much honesty. Sure, I've been told plenty of hard truths...but in the end, they're what make me grow. And I can deal with others betterif I occasionally learn what I'm doing wrong and change accordingly.So...hearing and using complete honesty is a win/win situation, I think. In the long run.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Someone tells me that my English language skill is not sufficient to study law and/or be a lawyer! I admit that my English skills aren't superb, especially with the grammar bit, but I think I'm doing ok and it is a bit harsh to be told honestly like that, when they know that English is not my first, or second, or third language! Oh well, at least they didn't say that I could not be a legal secretary or legal clerk lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You summed it up beautifully.... There's good and bad honesty .. You just need to be smart enough to know which is which... Jay...
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RHP User
9 years ago
it's a very subjective thread so for some clarity to the question....the answers are so far on the money btw.... But a little clarity....and a rephrase... When - in your mind - does there become a time of too much honesty?? Where you've thought "yeah....I'd have preferred my ignorance as it was soo blissful!!!" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll blurt out the truth because that's the way I saw it,when maybe I should've thought about the implication of what I am saying. As many of us know all too well the truth can hurt. But when is it too much? That's the burning question.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll need to think about the rephrase. A case of too much honest info?
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Thank you. :) Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' it's a very subjective thread so for some clarity to the question....the answers are so far on the money btw.... But a little clarity....and a rephrase... When - in your mind - does there become a time of too much honesty?? Where you've thought "yeah....I'd have preferred my ignorance as it was soo blissful!!!" I suppose, when it's hurtful to you or to someone else. As I and others have mentioned, there is a time to be honest and a time to either not comment or tell that 'little white lie' to save someone's feelings... A good example that I think both men and women would understand would be a bloke asking if his dick is OK (in whatever way he means... i.e. size, look etc). I only mention that particular scenario as I have seen it's one of the most discussed over time in these Forums, repeatedly. I'm sure all men know that ladies have similar insecurities that require the very same tact and/or silence. Is that the sort of answer you're looking for, Stir?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'QLDtwo4fun' Is not a question that requires a detailed account of your health conditions. LOL... LMAO. Very true. (I'm fine thanks, and you?)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Countrychic1962' I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind. she said
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RHP User
9 years ago
In my view to much honesty is when you hurt somebody's feelings, tact is always required when offering constructive criticism. If somebody decides to lie to me then that is there choice not mine, and I respect that and see them for who they are. I`m a honest pacifist and avoid conflict/people that have different views to me in that way (each to there own). Honesty is the base to trust that is essential in a happy relationship. If I can't be honest with a partner then we are not suited, I except constructive criticism of my flaws (we all have them), but despise being put down with anger and resentment due to MY choices in life and try to offer the same respect.RHP is a situation that 50 shades of honesty exist in my view.Have a great day, and respect all views (even if they repulsive).
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RHP User
9 years ago
My then boyfriend returned from several months away and confessed (after being asked) he had cheated. My next question was: "How many women did you sleep with?" and he actually counted in his head for a good 30 seconds before giving me a number. The best bit? He came up to me an hour later and said he forgot one. True story.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You can't handle the truth..well sometimes that is true for the big things in life but for me that is just when I need to know the truth..my ex husband did not tell me he was going bankrupt,I only knew that there was a problem when there was a knock on the door and it was a summons..his excuse was that he didnt want to worry me....But the truth is subjective ..their is my truth,your truth,and somewhere in between the real truth,but the ultimate truth is a mirage anyway xxFreys
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CucknShells' if I ask a question then I want an honest answer.I wouldn't ask it otherwise. So if I ask does my arse look big in this then I rather hear the truth. When my x boyfriend broke up with me he wouldn't tell me why. It left me confused and thinking there might be hope.That was until I rang one morning and she answered the phone.It would have saved me a lot of pain if he had just said straight up I have been seeing someone else and I have fallen in love with her. I rather know than not. The truth has a habit of coming out one way or another eventually. Shells. Agreed... I think, in the VAST majority of things, the whole truth, is the only way to go. I consider myself a very honest and upfront person. I just think there are some 'little' things that require a touch of tact when it's obvious that someone is looking for a little reassurance or simply wanting to know if you still think they're wonderful... I'd never tell anyone a lie that was important, serious or needed to be said. I also never tell a lie to stay out of the shit... It's just sometimes there are little things that someone doesn't want or need to know, that are harmless and don't involve betrayal, malice and simply risk upset when all they are looking for is reassurance... Of course, you need to know the person intimately to tell the difference. An example that comes to mind is if someone cooks you a meal and it's barely edible, but they feel it's a good effort and they're proud of what they've done. I couldn't and wouldn't tell them "It tastes bloody awful"... I might simply, while eating and enjoying, offer a couple of suggestions as to how it may be even better, if they did 'this or that'... That to me, is a "white lie", told out of concern, love, and compassion.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Some time ago I was chatting with a friend and things got rather heated and he happened to say some things he had never bothered talking or telling me about before. I was really pissed off so ended the long friendship we had (that just happened to be the straw), still say howdy every now and then though. What gets me is they were things that he could have told me years before about how he felt but couldn't until he was angered enough. At some point early on I went through a stage in my life where I was so completely honest just to weed out those who wouldn't get me. I do believe though that being completely honest is the only way to be. Not to be honest causes so many more problems/pain than not doing so, whether that be for someone else or yourself. Posted this Russian proverb before but it suits this forum: Better to be slapped with the truth. Than kissed with a lie
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Single_Guy4U
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Countrychic1962' I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind. she said Shees said (I know that's not a word, means more than one she. Haha). Also what Freya said. I suspect the big and longer you are in bliss, the harder you will fall. Best not to be led astray to start with. Meander, did you forgive him for being so honest, or detest him more for being a smart arse and possibly done on purpose to piss you off. QLDTwo. Always a funny question that, "How are You". Why do you ask ? Do you expect them to lie, therefore happy with lies. I know the norm is to just say "fine thanks", even though you are not, but what is the point of the question ?
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madotara69
9 years ago
Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' ... but that's a good thing right!?! I mean, sometimes that's what it takes in order to move forward positively. And then there's nothing but honesty when I'm hanging out with animals. I wouldn't say it's ever too much but sometimes their brutal honesty makes me ashamed to be human. Tara is my best friend, always has been from day dot. We have sex with other people, mostly men, so it's me that is more vulnerable to feelings, she has feelings to reckon to as well, but I love her too, she loves me and if something is troubling enough beyond due adapt or self reasoning where freedoms have to be cared for, then we speak about the truths of those feelings, we have a good thing in our favour and that is we can feel the truth for what it is and sometimes it hurts, sometimes it frustrates, sometimes it's just miss understanding each other, sometimes it's funny, always it's the truth and always we have searched each other for the positive, managing to care rather than the negative energy possessiveness may have it's own truths, manipulation, shame, not to mention how fucking embarrassing to be called out for intentionally manifesting a story to betray someone once were a friend. Kind of if you don't think you can handle the answer, don't ask the question. (that one never sees the light of day), it'd have to be a long way from the equilibrium, centre of all else, truth and a handful of friends if privileged and that of one's word means something, well it does to me and only I can fuck that up, truth is I can't handle that answer. Mado Mado Tara xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Because the next generation is taught in school that everything is great and wonderful. No criticism welcome anymore. Little Johnny cant do his sums but is told well done. Top effort. God help little Johnny when he joins pie and inadvertently hits the forums. No sugar coats around here. Little Johnny, your grammer is fucked. A mmf is a 3some not a sevensome. And that douple penetration, you need 2 cocks, not 4. Poor little Johnny, welcome to the real world that your education failed to teach you.......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' Meander, did you forgive him for being so honest, or detest him more for being a smart arse and possibly done on purpose to piss you off. He did to be completely upfront, not to rub it in and I had respect for that. I still broke up with him on the spot of course, but we're in touch to this day.
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RHP User
9 years ago
That so reminds me of another wise one ....The children ow love luxury.They have bad manners,contempt for authority,they show disrespect for elders and love chatter.....,😘xxFreya
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Now back in our day.........
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madotara69
9 years ago
On the straight and narrow, Men at Work Skip de skip, up the roadOff to school you go"Don't you be a bad boy JohnnyDon't you slip upOr play the fool""Oh no Ma, Oh no Da,I'll be your golden boyI will obey ev'ry golden rule"Get told by the teacherNot to day-dreamTold by my mother: Be good Be goodBe good be good be goodBe good be good be good be good (johnny)"Are you going to play football this year, John?""Nah!""Oh, well you must be going to play cricket this year then,are you Johnny?""Nah! nah! nah!""Boy, you sure are a funny kid, Johnny, but I like you! So tell me,what kind of a boy are you, John?"I only like dreamingAll the day longWhere no one is screamingBe good be good
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deal4
9 years ago
Great question (if a little low on detail :-) ). Being upfront and honest can have a bad effect if it's too early for a piece of news. On the other hand withholding honesty is seen as deceitful. It's a delicate balance. Example - there was a woman on here I was (am) quite attracted to. I was debating sending a message to her because I can be a bit shy and agonise over a message that will make me stand out. I joined Tinder last week to see what it was all about - and lo and behold she was on there, so I indicated I liked her. The next day she liked me back. So my first message to her was on Tinder and was along the lines of "in the interests of being upfront and honest, I've noticed your profile on RHP and quite liked it there, so was glad to see you matched me on Tinder. Would love to catch up with you for a coffee sometime". Didn't get a reply, but within a couple hours she blocked me on RHP, and then did the same on Tinder. I can only assume I scared her off. Now I agonise over the fact that maybe I shouldn't have been honest, and waited on that information until after we had a chance to meet, probably a few times. Sadly, it doesn't look like it will happen now. That's my view anyway, FWIW.
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is strength of character in honesty, but kindness sometimes requires being a little economical with the facts.The tooth fairy told me, Santa was there too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Countrychic1962' I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind. she said Shees said (I know that's not a word, means more than one she. Haha). Also what Freya said. I suspect the big and longer you are in bliss, the harder you will fall. Best not to be led astray to start with. Meander, did you forgive him for being so honest, or detest him more for being a smart arse and possibly done on purpose to piss you off. QLDTwo. Always a funny question that, "How are You". Why do you ask ? Do you expect them to lie, therefore happy with lies. I know the norm is to just say "fine thanks", even though you are not, but what is the point of the question ? So if another person wanted to agree now, what comes after Shees lol
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' That so reminds me of another wise one ....The children ow love luxury.They have bad manners,contempt for authority,they show disrespect for elders and love chatter.....,😘xxFreya Nothing has really changed over ohh I don't know, how many years?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just the other day I went shopping with a longer term FB... She was trying dresses and stuff on.. and came out with a nice little number on.. twirled around a bit... then asked me what I was thinking...I told her I wasn't going to tell her as she would get mad..she promised she wouldn't get mad, and DEMANDED I told her..Demanded I told the truth..I held off... sure she could NOT handle the truth..BUT.. she convinced me she could...So...I said... "I was thinking how hot your sister was when I was fucking her last night"SHE fckn LIED!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just remember folks some people cant handle the truth and on this site it can be dam refreashing or like hitting a brick wall human nature is a wonderfull thing - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Just the other day I went shopping with a longer term FB... She was trying dresses and stuff on.. and came out with a nice little number on.. twirled around a bit... then asked me what I was thinking...I told her I wasn't going to tell her as she would get mad..she promised she wouldn't get mad, and DEMANDED I told her..Demanded I told the truth..I held off... sure she could NOT handle the truth..BUT.. she convinced me she could...So...I said... "I was thinking how hot your sister was when I was fucking her last night"SHE fckn LIED!!!!!!!! That's gold, not true, surely?
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RHP User
9 years ago
..... the bathroom ....
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madotara69
9 years ago
A bit romantic too, bit shady around the 'stuff', Your fucking her sister the night before the shopping thing and a twirly one a bit ??, how you managed to be 'the one' in between both of them and under the radar DEMANDED and convinced you cavey!!, yet not one bloke that happens to be under your wing with other 'stuff' such as international celebrity configuration management safety blanketing and smooth operational co-ordination professional delegation supervising supervisor personnel -ality, not too mention stunt man, And if my memory serves a recollection of truth.. you find hate notes and sticky things about you from some, most, all, bit blurry, so how you ..as well ? managed to be "the one' saddled up on billion dollar internationally acclaimed thoroughbred horses in greener pastures.. You try to be diplomatic in an atlas of wives and internationally acclaimed myriads of them, shot at, chased, most wanted, rewards, banned from re-entering half the world, just quietly. So hypothetically.. probability of any sisters amongst the Golden Slipper longer term [FB].. Favourite Bride bridling:, One One was a race horse, Two Two was one too, One One won one race and Two Two won one too. Twirling at the bit and at a bet that 'stuff' was some dirty kinky shit that the truth the sisters knew you'd dive right in amongst foaming at the mouth to be convinced and it'd have to be hot bodily fluids most expended, extracted you doused,choked,drowned, and in your element,what got her so mad that you held off. See you trusted your instincts.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Does my bum look big in this?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' I said... "I was thinking how hot your sister was when I was fucking her last night"SHE fckn LIED!!!!!!!! You merely said "How hot", not "How much hotter than you". What was her problem?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'deal4' Great question (if a little low on detail :-) ). Being upfront and honest can have a bad effect if it's too early for a piece of news. On the other hand withholding honesty is seen as deceitful. It's a delicate balance. Example - there was a woman on here I was (am) quite attracted to. I was debating sending a message to her because I can be a bit shy and agonise over a message that will make me stand out. I joined Tinder last week to see what it was all about - and lo and behold she was on there, so I indicated I liked her. The next day she liked me back. So my first message to her was on Tinder and was along the lines of "in the interests of being upfront and honest, I've noticed your profile on RHP and quite liked it there, so was glad to see you matched me on Tinder. Would love to catch up with you for a coffee sometime". Didn't get a reply, but within a couple hours she blocked me on RHP, and then did the same on Tinder. I can only assume I scared her off. Now I agonise over the fact that maybe I shouldn't have been honest, and waited on that information until after we had a chance to meet, probably a few times. Sadly, it doesn't look like it will happen now. That's my view anyway, FWIW. wtf was her problem?? I'd say you're better off without her. What difference does it make if you've been seen on other websites or even in the real world, I like to think of it as cross advertising lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
lmfao - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Everytime we're on the blower.....and apparently some people can't handle the truth, but I still prefer it over a craftily woven lie or aversion. What anyone chooses to do with the truth is then entirely up to them. IOS
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Single_Guy4U
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Countrychic1962' I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind. she said Shees said (I know that's not a word, means more than one she. Haha). Also what Freya said. I suspect the big and longer you are in bliss, the harder you will fall. Best not to be led astray to start with. Meander, did you forgive him for being so honest, or detest him more for being a smart arse and possibly done on purpose to piss you off. QLDTwo. Always a funny question that, "How are You". Why do you ask ? Do you expect them to lie, therefore happy with lies. I know the norm is to just say "fine thanks", even though you are not, but what is the point of the question ? So if another person wanted to agree now, what comes after Shees lol Sheees
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RHP User
9 years ago
"I touch Myself" - no lovely... I am crass at times... but.. not so in THAT way ."Mado" Sometimes mate... you blow my mind a tad.. I would LOVE to meet you both ."Meander" I KNOW... I still fail to understand what I said WRONG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Man I would love to be there if you two were ever sitting around a fire with a brew and having a yarn. Thats the truth!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sounding a little bit like that saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Although, this thread seems to be focused on "Truth, is in the eye of the beholder". I guess it depends on what you are being asked and under what circumstances. If the relationship (or friendship) is early on in the piece perhaps the simple non detailed answer is best. On the other hand, if you're being asked a specific question that has potential consequences down the track, or it's going to come back and bite you on the back-side and ruin something beautiful because you weren't upfront at the start, what are you going to do? My own view is if you have a friendship, potential relationship that you actually want to go somewhere the following equation comes into play: Question = Honest Answer. If you're confused or think the answer given is way too much "detail", my advice is don't ask a question that you don't want a truthful answer to. Example: It's like asking..... Female: 'Honey, does this make me look Fat!' Male: ''Yes, babe - you look like the side of a house. Change from the tight shorts, that make your thighs look like Thunderbolt and wear that flowing black dress, it makes you look hot' ...... Female: 'You, ass - you hate me! If you really loved me, why would you say that!' Male: 'You asked me, so I told you.' Morale of the story - it's the guy (or girl) who doesn't love you that let's you go out in public looking like a loony tunes character! Please, change scene and script as required. If someone has the integrity to at least come clean with you that they've screwed up, made a mistake, personally, I think that counts for something. And let's be honest. We all screw up. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. At the end of the day relationships of any description are built on Trust. Final equation is Honesty = Trust.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Countrychic1962' I'd rather hear honesty and be honest as, even if it hurts sometimes, it's better than trying to keep a web of lies going and in the end much less stressful. Honesty and trust go together in my mind. she said Shees said (I know that's not a word, means more than one she. Haha). Also what Freya said. I suspect the big and longer you are in bliss, the harder you will fall. Best not to be led astray to start with. Meander, did you forgive him for being so honest, or detest him more for being a smart arse and possibly done on purpose to piss you off. QLDTwo. Always a funny question that, "How are You". Why do you ask ? Do you expect them to lie, therefore happy with lies. I know the norm is to just say "fine thanks", even though you are not, but what is the point of the question ? It's simply a 'greeting'... Basically, "How are you going". No-one's asking for an account of the month, week or days activities and how you view them... Even the standard, day to day French greeting is "Comment allez-vous?", which translates literally as "How are you going?" The point, I'm sure that 'QLDtwo4fun' was making referred to the people who, when they receive this 'greeting', take it literally (or use the opportunity) to whinge and moan and tell you about their latest operation... LOL
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Josie8' Sounding a little bit like that saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Although, this thread seems to be focused on "Truth, is in the eye of the beholder". I guess it depends on what you are being asked and under what circumstances. If the relationship (or friendship) is early on in the piece perhaps the simple non detailed answer is best. On the other hand, if you're being asked a specific question that has potential consequences down the track, or it's going to come back and bite you on the back-side and ruin something beautiful because you weren't upfront at the start, what are you going to do? My own view is if you have a friendship, potential relationship that you actually want to go somewhere the following equation comes into play: Question = Honest Answer. If you're confused or think the answer given is way too much "detail", my advice is don't ask a question that you don't want a truthful answer to. Example: It's like asking..... Female: 'Honey, does this make me look Fat!' Male: ''Yes, babe - you look like the side of a house. Change from the tight shorts, that make your thighs look like Thunderbolt and wear that flowing black dress, it makes you look hot' ...... Female: 'You, ass - you hate me! If you really loved me, why would you say that!' Male: 'You asked me, so I told you.' Morale of the story - it's the guy (or girl) who doesn't love you that let's you go out in public looking like a loony tunes character! Please, change scene and script as required. If someone has the integrity to at least come clean with you that they've screwed up, made a mistake, personally, I think that counts for something. And let's be honest. We all screw up. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. At the end of the day relationships of any description are built on Trust. Final equation is Honesty = Trust. All very true and I'm inclined to agree with what you're saying... Honesty is certainly most important and necessary. Sometimes, even when it involves hurting someone's feelings. Although I still think there are times when holding back what you feel is the 'FULL' truth to save someone's feelings is the better of two evils. There is one snag tho'... (Concerning your 'example'. In my experience (and that's all I have to go on, in this issue) is... When a Wife/Partner asks me if they look OK in a particular 'outfit' and I honestly say 'YES' because I think they do. More often (like 95% of the time) they change anyway... If I say, 'No' I like the 'black dress'... They leave what they're wearing, on. I'm sure most men (if not all, have experienced this time and again). It would seem our opinions don't count in certain things anyway. It may be that the woman think we just say what they want to hear, but I've always given my honest opinion, when asked such questions (those regarding fashion and what she looks best to me in). So, if this is constantly what occurs, why ask at all? I'd never let my lady go out looking in any way 'like a (Looney Tunes Character, silly or embarrassing', if she was unaware. But I can't think of a time when any ever did, or would...
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RHP User
9 years ago
for their contributions I greatly appreciate it :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Too much detail about your sexual history can get into my head and mess with me, especially when I know the other person and can paint a mental picture. Don't tell me where in the house you and your ex fucked, or that she always rubbed her clit while she rode you. Because the next time you want to fuck me in the same place or same way, I'll have trouble NOT thinking about you and someone else, which doesn't turn me on, it makes me feel replaceable, like I'm just a body to fuck. I know these jealousy issues are my problem and not yours, but it'd just help me out if you don't give me fodder to psych myself out with. Same goes if you're seeing someone else at the same time as me, I don't expect exclusivity but I don't want to know about others or it'll kill the chemistry for me which is based on feeling special as opposed to the reality of being one of many.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've been thinking about this topic since Stirry's posted it, but haven't been able toput my thoughts into words. You, however, have done exactly that. You nailed it for me... thank you, couldn't agree more :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Astrild' I've been thinking about this topic since Stirry's posted it, but haven't been able toput my thoughts into words. You, however, have done exactly that. You nailed it for me... thank you, couldn't agree more :) Woo glad I can help, too often my big mouth gets me in trouble or offends people which is the last thing I want. I'm so flexible I can fit my foot in my mouth. But glad this time someone else sees it my way too. But back on topic, honesty is something we all say we want, yet rarely give it to ourselves and often dislike when we get it from others. Honesty, the enemy of mystery and romance.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I look in the mirror !
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think many would agree with me that your posts and views are highly valued, original, genuine and intelligent. If someone takes offence to that, their problem.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Being honest doesn't get you any where now a days. I have been honest with someone on here and it didn't get any where.
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lovman8
9 years ago
It gets you better places than dishonesty.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When have you wished for your ignorance back? Or have you ever wished you could give someone their ignorance back after saying a little too much?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I told a potential love interest about my fwb as she asked if I were single.... Whilst I am single; I felt it necessary as a matter of integrity to disclose my fwb relationship.... That.......Was a bad idea!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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