CuriCouple

CuriCouple

M43 F49

When/how to proceed...??

March 28 2019

Hi!! We’re a new couple to this site, genuine in seeking a male to meet up with. We’ve had some amazing interest but now feeling hesitant in how to comfortably proceed further. Couples and much older males sending flirts and messages we don’t respond to as that’s not what we’re looking for. However, we’ve had lengthy messages with single men that do fit our profile, move to kik, exchange photos, fantasies and then they disappear. From what I’ve been reading through the forums, couples can be questionable and hard to sort out the genuine ones. We are definitely genuine and finding it near impossible to find a genuine male. We don’t want to keep hitting a dead end after messaging, so can you give me some advice on how to weed out the fake profiles. Is there a polite way to establish it much earlier on? Should we add anything to our profile to suggest that we are who we say we are, so only message if same. It’s so draining 😐 - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    As a single man who’s been doing this for a little bit, it’s a slog for sure but it’s worth it. You just have to throw it all at the wall and see what sticks

  • funtimescouple1

    funtimescouple1

    6 years ago

    How to weed out fake profiles? Not a guest, has legit looking photos, validated, sounds like what you are looking for, can hold decent chat, then meet publicly. I would say most single males are looking for single females and could be afraid that if with a couple, the male partner may get jealous. Once you get one play done get validated (it's like a testimonial) and that will give other single males some assurance.

  • CuriCouple

    CuriCouple

    6 years ago

    Thank you both, great feedback. Here’s to great times 😉

  • anieelad

    anieelad

    6 years ago

    We have found that the best way to weed out fake profiles is to ask for a phone number early in our communications. A chat on the phone quickly clarifies if you are on the same page and if the profile is fake, you'll never hear from them again after asking for their number.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Unfortunately you will get a lot of pic collectors for their wank bank. They'll also get off on your talk and be satisfied enough not to want to meet. Not everyone is like that though but a lot are and they just clearly ghost you after they've got what they want.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    6 years ago

    Don't overdo the messsging especially suggestive, fantasy types. Arrange to do a public meet soonish so as to minimise time wastage. Too much sexting or fantasy stuff can scare the prospective male to think he may not measure up to your standards and he then disappears. Best to meet, if everyone comfortable then the bedroom later. Once you have played and he has performed you can then roll out the sex talk etc. The males are a flighty bunch.....

  • CuriCouple

    CuriCouple

    6 years ago

    Here’s the perfect time for my next question... The messages come so quick one after the other, like a constant conversation... at what point do you stop that and just arrange a meet? And, another quick one.... what’s an appropriate meet up time, a week, two weeks if that’s what your schedule allows?? So sorry 🙃 So many questions ☺️

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    Aanielad.... I'm a genuine profile.... couples and both have solo..... been on these sites many years and NEVER exchanged a phone number or spoken on the phone. A few messages on here.... no obligation quick catchup face to face...... meet first play later.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    And I never exchange sexy banter, text or pics. I find it quite pedestrian with a stranger tbh. And unless I've played with someone, its all just words and heard it all before.... a zillion times lol Enjoy the ride guys, and welcome.

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    6 years ago

    Hi Curi couple We have found being patient has paid off . We have met some great people via RHP. Yes it can be frustrating when people suddenly disappear after what seems to be a promising chat . I agree that speaking on the phone soon weeds out the photo chasers and fakes . Time frames of when to meet is a very personal thing. When you feel comfortable. That could be one day , one week , one month . Often with single guys we find they want it NOW ! If that doesn’t happen they disappear . People disappear for lots of reasons , they may lose interest , they are just photo chasers, they change their mind on meeting up ?? Be patient and hopefully it will be worth the wait .

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    6 years ago

    Control the rate of messaging yourself. You don't have to explain it to him/them. Leave the messages unanswered. You can read them without opening them ( on the full site)so they have no idea you have read them. Open them when you are ready to answer. Keep them waiting till you are ready. Bit like training a puppy. If asked, you can say you are busy. As far as meeting. Put it out there as soon as you think he might be the one. That way you can chat about where and when and take it away from sex.

  • CuriCouple

    CuriCouple

    6 years ago

    Thanks Annie ☺️

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Get off the 'net and pick up the phone. Don't try to bullshit around with "meets for coffee". Watch the time-frame of the response. There is more bullshit here than in a Kansas City stockyard. Flick me a note if you like...I really do have a couple of "Winged Birds" as driving sucks once you know the friendly skies. Be cool and have one.......back to the last of the night! It's a big maybe but maybe we could be friend and maybe, maybe maybe, baby! ʗɱ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Just about 99.99% of the profiles and people here are as fake as Gold Notes issued from Atlantica. 93587U .... give me clearance on Runway One.

  • CuriCouple

    CuriCouple

    6 years ago

    Wise words 🙌

  • Forus1234

    Forus1234

    6 years ago

    We know a respectable gent down your way. Satisfaction guaranteed! Well message you. 😉

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    We feel your pain! There are plenty of guys on here who seem to get an kik out of chatting, and also seem.to get some ego boost by having the couple agree to meet him, and then lose interest. Guessing it boosts their ego, to know they have had a "yes".. ?? We have found that if you are genuinely interested in meeting the guy, that a phone call fairly early on is a great way of weeding out the wannabes from the real men.. Hope this helps.

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    6 years ago

    We are a verified couple We will never give out our mobile number, as a quick google search of the number, lists our real names & address. Certainly something we want to keep very separate (and private) from some on here. There are other ways to talk on the phone without giving out a phone number, like using KIK which allows video conversations. We don’t do sexy / dirty text chat nor send nude pics. If a “couple” gets straight into that with us we tend to think that they are in fact a male. The same applies to an alleged single female who very quickly starts talking dirty. We will also never allow anyone to “validate” us. We don’t believe in advertising who we have met up with and or played with. Notches on the proverbial bedpost. There are many fakes, time wasters and no shows. It appears to be the status quo on here. A good way to weed them out is to take your time, to get to know them. If and when you meet, get them to meet you at a venue that you were going to go to in any event, regardless if they joined you or not. Assume that they won’t pitch up, so as to avoid disappointment. Enjoy yourselves regardless. If they do pitch up it will be an added bonus.

  • curiousmrs

    curiousmrs

    6 years ago

    You’re not the only ones. Unfortunately that’s the way it is trying to find a genuine single male. It is a hard slog, and really the only thing you can have is patience in the process. You could go to a swingers club on nights that they allow single guys. At least then you know the chances of them being genuine are pretty high. Don’t necessarily have to play, but good way of making they initial contact with someone and following up from there. Fantasy chat/pic swapping is fun. But generally they are the guys who turn to ghosts after. Good luck!

  • CuriCouple

    CuriCouple

    6 years ago

    Very honest and straightforward advice from you all... truly appreciate your thoughts on this.

  • JasperJones

    JasperJones

    6 years ago

    Hi How did you list as a couple in the profile?

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    6 years ago

    To change your profile from single male to a couple, contact customer service via one of the link buttons and explain it to them. They will sort it out fairly quickly

  • Lapetitemort

    Lapetitemort

    6 years ago

    You seem like a fantastic couple and us genuine guys would love to hear from you in a heartbeat ,... regardless enjoy and have fun