M47

Where did I go wrong?

September 14 2019

So to cut a long story short. I’ve been talking to a girl for ages getting to know her. Asked her out a few times but she was always busy with work etc. Yesterday, again asked her again, but she was busy, I thought move on so I decided to meet another lovely lady. (It didn’t work out). First Lady told me plans had changed and she was available to meet last night, by that point I said I’d said I was busy without being explicit. Anyway, this First Lady was a friend of the second lady. She told me this last night before I met with number 2 and then decided to defriend me and remove all contact even tho she was my first choice. I can’t understand this, given my openness. What exactly could / should have done differently?

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RHP User

5 years ago

Not that I’m wise or experienced. But I think Lady #1 just wants you to chase after her. I would probably be childish and do similar thing if I was me 6 years ago (not taking to you, not to the extreme of removing all contacts tho). I would want you to talk to me and only me and wait for me and everything ME 😂 And to answer your question, there’s nth you could have done differently. This is a site where you get to get to know as many people as you own. She’s nobody yet and trying to own you already. Now it’s time to go on another search and good luck! X

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MsJonesy

5 years ago

At any point. You made decisions which were in your best interest, and gave woman #1 plenty of opportunities to engage with you in person. Woman #1 should not have expected you to hang around waiting for her busy schedule to open up. If she was interested in meeting you, she would have suggested times which suited her, rather than waiting for you to suggest times that were always unsuitable. Sounds like a case of wanting it all on her terms and when you made a decision to move on, had a little tanty. Her loss, not yours.

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teamaj2

5 years ago

Outbax You did nothing at all wrong . It’s probably worked out in your favour as maybe u dodged Ms1 and her game playing . As has been said , you are not obliged to anyone , especially as you have never met . Again as has been said - if Ms no 1 was interested she could’ve suggested suitable alternative times . Best of luck in moving on and finding some drama free fun . Ax

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RHP User

5 years ago

Was enjoying the attention and the chase. Probably a good thing you saw her true colours. There are genuine women here who wont muck you around.

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MsSuperFoxy

5 years ago

Nothing. It didn't turn out with either woman. You were not in any coupled committed relationship with either lady. It does appear to me, the two women got together, exchanged comminication about you then both bannashed you because neither one of them got what they wanted. Women can be biatches like that. I'm thinking that stupid "girl code" between them. Which has happened to my best male friend. It is their loss, your gain to met another women. Ms Foxy

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nevahadsomuchfun

5 years ago

NEXT?! 😁

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curiousgirl35

5 years ago

Possibly both fake accounts ran by the same "woman" 😱

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FeistyFatty

5 years ago

No biggy, onto the next👍🏻

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curious_72

5 years ago

You did nothing wrong, if number 1 genuinely wanted to meet you she would have made time, she was just stuffing you around. Are you still talking to no2?

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Supernova

5 years ago

This happens to me also, women saying they are interested but are always “too busy” to arrange a date. In reality, we are all busy people. We all have social lives and friends and jobs and some have children. But I no longer give too many chances, I ask a few times to arrange a date, and if I get the “too busy” response more than a few times I stop bothering. I heard a great quote that I now live by in the dating world: “Time is all about priorities. When someone says they are ‘too busy’, it’s not a reflection of their schedule...it’s a reflection of where you stand on their schedule”

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inspirit

5 years ago

Nothing wrong.... Sounds like a bit og ego bruising and jealousy to me. Next.....

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RHP User

5 years ago

HUNT It was probably Oscar Wilde who said everything in life is about sex, except sex; sex is about power. People like to think themselves as hunters or preys, depending on which end of the spectrum one would rather be. And sometimes the prey is just another hunter, enjoying the chase until he/she gets bored and ambushes the other hunter, We all love to be desired, wanted. Even if we don't necessarily have any interest in many, who desire us. We don’t care about the end result for the most part, we want the chase. And this is the reality of it. We all have this empty vessel of ego that fills everytime we get what we wanted, then we lose interest. Until it’s empty again. The trick is the find those who want the whole thing; the chase, the entrapment, capture and the feast at the end. Most people just stop at the chase, very few ever makes it to the feast. We get lot of attention from people who go to great lengths to spark our interest, particularly that of mrs Maenad, but once they got it, they don’t know what to do next, often their own fantasies intimidate them, so they runaway.

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BrightBubbly

5 years ago

The First Lady told you she was friends with the Second Lady ??? Does that mean you told her you were talking to somebody else, how did she know to tell you they were friends. That was your mistake. You are free to do as you please but not every lady will take it will if you are talking to more than one woman at a time...

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RHP User

5 years ago

I think you gave lady A too much attention in the beginning, the harder you try the weaker your position.Minding your own business is not a lie or dishonest, it's prudent.You sound like you have some attractive and desirable qualities, own your space.A better played hand would have seen them competing.Stand up straight, shoulders back, sic 'em.

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