Where do you come from?

Comments

• 

  Hottie1

  10 years ago

  Hi Qefenta, I have a Greek heritage. I discovered a secret stash of my brothers magazines and it was the first time I saw a photograph of a penis, I was about 18. I saw my first real penis at 22 years old when I lost my virginity. Women never spoke about sex in our small Greek community, it was something that men should only enjoy. My friends who had lost their virginity spoke about it as an event that was awful and painful. Virginity was the prized possession, it was the talking point for 'prospective' arranged marriages. I grew up thinking sex was not fun and only men had a right to enjoy it. When I was 22 I met my hubby, had sex for the first time (orgasmed and loved it), hubby was shocked I was still a virgin, left home and have never looked back. In the small Greek community that my still family lives, sex is still taboo, it's a means to an end. My family don't know hubby and I swing and love sex in all its forms. With our own children we have genuine, open discussions, I don't want any misconceptions about sex to flourish here. Mary xx

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I come from parents who have been children in the second world war. My mum had to beg for food and I don't know has she been abused but she always showed two sides to sexuality. My dad was fine but guarded us girls with much jealous. We have been treated harsh as girls and sex was something to be feared of. Today my parents, or say my mum is more open towards sex then she ever was as I was young. The fear of getting pregnant and not being married was something to be feared even the pill was available and for us with 18 years of age freely prescribe by the Doctor. I was a virgin until I mead my husband and hadn't had another sexual partner not until years after he past away. It took even then awhile to free myself from the thought sex can only happen when you fall in love. This is a mindset so deep imbedded and hard to shake off. It takes the mental capacity to master it, I admit its not easy. Today I think I got it.....but now comes my but.....I am really not happy how we go today about all our sexual freedom....sometimes I think people treat sexuality as a thrill for more and more......I am slowly getting a distaste for it. I think we are driven to perform and behave in a way now that we" need" to tell others how adventures we are, and when we are not....we are total bores and should be avoided. I am struggling in my mind with this last thought quite for a while.......I admit.....I love sex......still I get pissed of I should say and answer I am doing this or that.....we are losing our freedom of expressing it with the individual on each occasion,and I find this very sad. I am not saying I am totally right....that's just my observation on my part.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I come from an Irish Catholic background. Very good at developing guilt complexes but that is not were my sexual development came from. I went to an all male boarding school in year 8 which was just at the start of puberty so the boarding school rather than my family was the formative influence on my sexual development. Poor quality porn and boarding house tall tales resulted in a somewhat distorted impression of what sex was and how to perform it. My late wife complained that it stunted my ability to interact with women on casual basis because I tended to idealise and put them on pedestals as I had so little to do with them (a school dance once a quarter). I remained a virgin until I met my wife at university, although not for want of trying. She was far more experienced and patient, and could see the diamond in the rough which she proceeded to polish. Boarding school did not create any sexual inhibitions, in fact to the contrary, we were all eager to learn as much as we could because it was so foreign to our social isolation. It was more the problem of making the leap between theory/desire and practice, and the lack of opportunity to practise, other than the obligatory masturbation. Once that opportunity gap was closed after going to uni, there were no problems.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I don't think that counts for much but when I tell my Mum what I get up to she says...'You're just like your Father!' haha

  reply

  like

• 

  BrightBubbly

  10 years ago

  and I had a very strict upbringing... We got the usual sex education but nothing else. I moved out with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it took the breakdown of our marriage and me meeting a wonderful man to show me the real pleasure in my sexuality. We had a joke that he didn't just break my out of my cage but we remodeled it into a Hummer !!! The last 2 years of being single have been sexually liberating and I have learnt so much about myself, in so many ways.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I have a pretty open minded attitude when it comes to sex, I guess that could be called a french trait.My mother and father passed away when i was very young so i was raised by my grandmother who had a pretty joking kind of attitude to sex. One of her quotes that comes to mind is "any port in a storm as long as you wear a rain coat" lol

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  only us women who have the sad upbringing around sex, or is it we have it easier to talk about it?

  reply

  like

• 

  precious142

  10 years ago

  a first gen Aussie born to European parents, the only girl in a family of 6 boys - made for a very interesting upbringing.As long as I was with my brothers and their friends, there was no problem. - no wonder I enjoy male company so much..4 years at a Catholic girls college - now that was something else......heaps of "girlfriends" who all wanted to hang with me (and my brothers)......Xavier Hollander was our introduction to another world outside of religion and studies .....Entering the wide open world at 18 my sexual experiences were quiet varied, (maybe rebelious as well), meeting married men at an early age taught me the difference between love and sex.Now, as a single woman I find being on a site such as RHP liberating,am just enjoying the ride.

  reply

  like

• 

  Seachange

  10 years ago

  Since I have some time this morn as it is my day off, I got a little more time to think about this. My upbringing has definitely moulded my views on everything about me including sexuality. I have been brought up in a prim strict and proper Roman Catholic family, Dad being a Latino and Mom an Asian. There was no escaping the catholic culture and its doctrines. But by no means I am religious. Hardly. More spiritual. When I left home at 17 to go to university, I had an awakening. Quite frightening at first as I had to share a house with 3 other older male students who are total opposites of me at that age - they were relaxed surfie types and borderline delinquents. And I am glad for the experience as they made me feel that it was ok to be 'naughty' and were very open and patient to my uptight persona. They took me to parties and events I would not have gone to and survived to tell the tale. Since then, I have slowly come out of my shell and life has not been the same. I have been recently labelled a 'princess' and 'precious' by an rhp man for my slightly conservative views in my forum postings so maybe I have not totally shaken off that straight conservative upbringing. That is in my core being. But that is ok with me. I have strong views and will not compromise when it comes to views and actions that goes against my moral compass.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  To everyone so fast who has posted....such interesting stories x Q

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  My upbringing was quite strict by most people. My parents were god bothers if i could say that and sex too them was only between themselfs as a married couple. I grew up not wanting that in my life. The told saying that we will go too hell if we do not live by the rules of religin. As i told my children while they were growing up that morals are more important than the fear of religin. So to me i would say live your life as you and only you feel fit to do not through fear.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I come from my penis :D

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I mean, cum.

  reply

  like