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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think you'll find that a lot of people are here and in the exact same situation as yourself. Have a good think about the things you really want to achieve with this, ie: is it exploration, company, just sex etc etc and put yourself on the right track to make it happen. Be detailed about those things in your profile, and be specific about your 'don't ' wants. If you're shy and have trouble talking about those things face to face it cuts out a lot of room for misinterpretation or potentially awkward moments. It's amazing how quickly we forget all the dating rules when we don't think we'll be needing them again LOL Best of luck

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  at the begining is a good place .... go with you instinct and that will do just fine / desperate always looks ugly so dont look to hard as you will never find

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hang to where women hang out... lolz... Netball!HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  The beginning being the profiles of the ones you interested in. Actually read the profiles and send messages pertaining to that particular person. Those standard one liners wont quite do it.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  hay dont stress big fella all you have to do is not look and go out and enjoy your freedom and low and behold it will happen when you least expect it. Remember every day above ground is a gr8 day enjoy

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  xFunlovingx

  14 years ago

  Niceguy....I had a read of your profile and it is pretty clear on what you are after. My only advice now that you have joined this wonderful world of net dating is not to chat on MSN with a person for too long, try and meet them as soon as it is possible for you both. I would also ask to see them on cam before meeting as unfortunately there are the few on these sites that are pretty dishonest in how they look (ie: pics taken over 10 years ago and 20 kilo's lighter ago)...Even try and talk to them on the phone at the same time as camming...It has been known for people to have other people sit on cam while the actual person you are going to meet is sitting on the side doing all the typing..(happened to a male friend of mine)! < Most importantly...be yourself and always enjoy safe sex and lots and lots of it! xFunlovingx

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  MissSarahCurious

  14 years ago

  Before starting over as a single I would have defined myself as shy too, but forcing myself to go out and meet new people helped me get over it and develop a lot of confidence talking to strangers.One of the most frustrating things about being contacted by 'shy' guys on here is when they're so closed off and afraid to give out any details that getting to know them that little bit that'd be enough to work out if you want to get naked with them is like trying to get blood out of a stone. It's a pain in the ass and ultimately you're going to get passed over for someone easier to figure out. Telling people about yourself in terms of likes/dislikes and showing your personality won't hurt.Basically, I would suggest that you allow yourself to relax and have fun with this place, if you get somewhere that's great - but in the grand scheme of things it's quite a shallow medium at times so it's not really 'you' that they're choosing or declining, until you meet someone face-to-face you're one of a million, so don't let it get to you.xx Sarah

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hey mate,Im in exactly the same boat, recently out of a long term relationship, little on the shy side but curious and really want to see whats out there. Your not alone!Cheers

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  hey niceguy_76 tell a girl what you want out of your RHP experience. Make sure you be totally honest and open up to her then she will open up to you! If she doesnt reply . . . Don't hassle her with questions theres obviously other girls that meet your needs! xx tiger

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Thanks for all the replies, didn't expect that many?I'm a guest member here now, my paid membership expired. Well, I let it expired as I didn't have much success and I'm not sure why. Is my profile too short? Do I look bad (I'm balding but apart from that I guess I'm ok - I'm slim and fit and not ugly). Should I have face picture (I had one before)?Where do you go in the real world to meet girls? New sport - that might be a good idea (the only thing is that I already spend 5 days running and some time in the gym...)Thanks,Simon

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'niceguy_76' Where do you go in the real world to meet girls? New sport - that might be a good idea (the only thing is that I already spend 5 days running and some time in the gym...)Take up the group fitness classes. It's fun.. and you get to expose yourself to heaps of ladies and they invariably expose themselves to you. It'll put a smile on your dial now at every one of them. If you really want to be popular, I highly recommend aqua aerobics. Man I love aqua aerobics! So many ta~tas and all of them jiggling about in the water.... and you'll be popular.. guaranteed... it will give you the opportunity to become friends... and those ladies.. even if there isn't one there that will fit your fancy.... they all have friends... other friends in the other group fitness classes.... plus.. the big bonus is... you get to watch them exercise their way towards getting their sexy back.... and when they get their sexy back... they're always hot for dick. Right time.. right place... it's always about luck! Don't even mention the men's showers and change rooms~ wooohoo! All those deliciously pumped armpits.HugsS

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Grab some good friends and hit a few a night spots.....and talk! talk! talk! n_76 ... Whats the worst that can happen......' i'm not interested '..........phufff Cheers

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Niceguy....I had a read of your profile and it is pretty clear on what you are after. My only advice now that you have joined this wonderful world of net dating is not to chat on MSN with a person for too long, try and meet them as soon as it is possible for you both. I would also ask to see them on cam before meeting as unfortunately there are the few on these sites that are pretty dishonest in how they look (ie: pics taken over 10 years ago and 20 kilo's lighter ago)...Even try and talk to them on the phone at the same time as camming...It has been known for people to have other people sit on cam while the actual person you are going to meet is sitting on the side doing all the typing..(happened to a male friend of mine)! < Most importantly...be yourself and always enjoy safe sex and lots and lots of it! xFunlovingx I agreee with Funlovingx - watch out for age and photos...I've been stung on this myself and it just wastes everyones time. I'm only in the early days of getting out myself, so I'd just say take it easy, don't stress about it too much and try and let it just happen for you. Meeting people can be hard if you've been in a long term relationship as you can end up just being the two of you...particulalrly if kids are involved..which is where I'm at. Perhaps Stalky's idea of group fitness classes or a gym might work.Good luck

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