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Where is the SEXY BDSM?

February 27 2015

I've been into BDSM my entire adult life. I've been to dozens of parties - Uber, R&R, Hellfire, etc etc and I get bored at them all. They are always just so... unsexual. You get the pain sluts showing off how much whipping etc they can take, and of course there's lots of pretty outfits, but it's never really anything to do with sex. So many subs I know love being used sexually, and the Doms I know love to do so, but you never seem to get anything like that at parties. Why does sex stay at sex parties and non-sexual BDSM happen at BDSM parties and never the twain shall meet? Or have I been missing something all this time? MsK x - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Noticed this lack of sexiness at hellfire and decided we didn't quite get that aspect of the scene, I mean what's pain without pleasure? We assumed that we would see the arousing work up before the spanking and whipping and the squirming desire of someone craving satisfaction and relief but it seemed a little more clinical than that. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Missb4u

10 years ago

where a Dom said to me we don't get the to bdsm as you distract me with sex my reply was... Why must it be one or the other why can't we do both? I have never been to any of the events you mention so can't really comment maybe it's because sex isn't always considered a part of bdsm.

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RHP User

10 years ago

A lot of clubs don't allow sexual behaviour as it puts their liquor license at risk.

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RHP User

10 years ago

that is illegal for me to sell Bondage porn with sex in it, apparently we can sell one or the other so maybe it is a matter of legalities.

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Hottie1

10 years ago

and after Shibari and a flogging I was ready to explode. I was kissing lots of people that night, had some hot young thing sit on my lap wanting to be touched, I was so aroused and I had no outlet - till I got home! They frowned upon the sex at the club but was all the stuff going on around me HOT - oh my! Mary xx

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RHP User

10 years ago

Is a night club for kinksters to dress up. Yeah there is some shabari, whipping, paddling and people being tied up etc. But it is a no sex on premises club. If bouncers see you they ask you to stop. I am surprised Uber is like that. I thought it was supposed to be a play party?

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RHP User

10 years ago

We attended hellfire curious to see what it was about and if it was what we were after. We were expecting a lot more in the way of sex. but it was awesome to watch the various scenes and people in pain I must say just not what we're after. Couldnt see any pleasure or lust. So we decided to try swingers club. Even though completely different. We prefer swingers or private parties. Nothing better then teasing and winding up people until they can't control themselves anymore as you can see the desire and lust in them. Add in light bdsm and that's the perfect night. But that's just us. Haha - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

It's possible to have sex at Hellfire. Just saying :D But yes, just talking more about play parties - and yes, often 'clinical' is the word. Nice to hear others have experienced the same. MsK x

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RHP User

10 years ago

The one and only time I went to a sex club,the proprietor described it as being as interesting as vacuuming xxFreya

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