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Where's Wally
April 08 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thirty seven and never dated. Maybe I shouldn't be, maybe it's just not done these days, maybe it's all about a quick shag these days, it's a shame if thats the case. Subterfuge....nah think it's better to just be yourself, find someone who likes the real Andy.Sometimes you just have to grow the big balls and ask, othertimes you just seem to end up chatting to someone, some of the best nights I have ever had were in the smokers area of pubs, they are just really easy areas to strike up a convo, or for someone to strike up a convo with you.Spend some time learning about body language.Best of British Andy.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wow the day I choose to go to a Hypnotist to quit smoking, I'm told to go and strike up a conversation with the smokers. Although I have to admit you do have the best chats with the smokers, I need to go cold turkey. I think hypnotism is a load of old tat, but spending the money I'm about to spend I'll be buggered if I"m going to waste that! And for dates. No well you see married my childhood sweetheart, was with her from 16 - 32 no need for dates then. I did have a small dating window between her and the Salacious one, but they were more dates with intent to shag. This really is my first time out on my own. So with the new day and the new dawn and the hopes of me being mind controlled into removing that final monkey on my back, perhaps it's a new leaf for everything. I'll just exchange the fags for hitting the gym and get a profile pic like those muscly dudes that seem to be on every single, single girls profile in my 25km proximity of me. :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Practice small talk with strangers. Once you are in the habit of chatting and being friendly with everyone, it flows naturally to chat with those you find attractive. So at the gym, for example, get to know the names of the guys who work there and other people regularly there at the same time as you. The rest is down to signals, it's not that hard to tell if someone's in to you because shell le you know.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...and just do it. Something I noticed when I first moved here is that it's almost cultural to see people every day and not talk or even say hello. Back home, we thought it was almost rude to at least not say hello if you had seen someone in the same place several times and not talked...the train ride into the city, in the elevators every day or even the same coffee shop in the office complex. I heard a motivational speaker, Aussie by the way, some time ago say "if you really want to shock an Aussie...say hello to one that you have shared an elevator with for the last six months who either stares at their shoes or the ceiling". I made some great friends and even some pretty amazing business contacts in the least likely places you can imagine, so just do it...even if you are a bit of a wally at first it does get easier. | Tiger Woods and "Just Do It"....not a role model, but the hats are cool.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm hitting the gym tonight, and i"m going to say hi to the people I always see there and never say anything to. I'll let you know how I go. If i get a 'fuck off' you'll know about it :)A
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RHP User
13 years ago
1 In a crowed bar gym whatever choose a woman,attractive but not the one attracting all the guys. 2 Give her lots of eye contact and smile....dont be creepy though. 3 If she smiles back walk over to her 4 Introduce yourself..do not go into your life story..she doesnt want to hear War and Peace 5 Ask her about herself.....still smile at her and look at her often 6 Pay attention,say a few things back to her to let her know you have paid attention 7 Now decide if you want to continue.....pick up cues from her . 8 If you seem to be both interested, continue the conversation either there or in another venue 9 Or exchange phone numbers to arrange a date Women love compliments if they are sincere,we love men who are interested in us...as individuals. Women love to be listened to.We like the man we are attracted to to lightly touch our shoulder,arm etc.....not grope us...at least not yet! We want to feel special. Dress well suited to the occassion,smile ,smell divine, Repeat steps 1-7often until you find a woman you connect with. And good luck Grasshopper xHugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Okay check on all of those, I've got some Jope that might do the trick :) I went to the gym, saw some nice people, but just listened to some music. I might add also, no smoking today since I was hypnotised. I guess the real test is when I'm around smokers in a social situation. I've had some great private messages people thank you all for your support. I just need to find someone whose really kinky, but also into Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, Daily Show, WWE Wrestling and likes to be peed on now and again. OKAY THAT LAST BIT WAS A JOKE - but preferably into lots of threesomes and arse slapping. A
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RHP User
13 years ago
...and if you happen to scare the pants off of more than one of the ladies there, call me. | Think of it as a gratuity on a not-so-new idea.
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RHP User
13 years ago
your a good looking bloke Andy...just walk up and say Hi really it isnt that hard....but if she laughs at you, walk away, dont start abusing her haha good luck darl Hugs
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RHP User
13 years ago
I also have never dated :) And am super shy :) And old-fashioned :) So I find it somewhat impossible in the real world, so to speak. If a man flirts with me I freeze ... which is a little embarrassing!So I quite like RHP as a way to chat, get to know someone, break the ice, no pressure, and eventually maybe decide to meet.It doesn't all have to be about casual sexy here OP x
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are the second male I know that has asked this question and I had no answers for him either. Having been out of the dating scene also I can't remember the last time I was asked out on a date in any way but via message on RHP. I am slightly curious to know how to go about putting myself out there. Perhaps as women we have it easier and all I will have to do is start going out and being available? Seems a bit too soon for me though, just yet?! :P Looking at your list of requirements for a perfect date I realise now I checked all the boxes but the WWE one! Now I know where we went wrong, but I could never have faked it. Not WWE :) xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Angelic and Salsa, | Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic'I also have never dated :) | Quoting 'Salsa_McCans' I can't remember the last time I was asked out on a date in any way but via message on RHP. | I'm kind of shy and bashful so please please please don't embarrass me in public? Either of you want to go out on a date...I love great good, have reasonably good taste in some things, excellent taste in women that taste good and happy to shout. Fact is, I am due for a holiday and have more "Frequent Flyer" miles racked up than I know what to do with...so happy to catch up with you in your own home town. So what do you think...it's just a date and nothing more, at least that's the story I'm sticking with for now anyway. | Rejections in the in-box...why do I even try.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nice public dare :PIf you're up this way, let's do dinner!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic'If you're up this way, let's do dinner! | ...and I'll see you next week. Details to follow in your in-box. | | Seriously Andrew...all you have to do is ask!
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RHP User
13 years ago
LOVIN this thread.... makes it all sound so easy.... lolin very much the same situation as you Andrew.... met my ex wife when i was 16.... 18 years later i'm now single and grasping the entire "dating" concept..... woah... what a steep learning curve it's beenhave found after a few years that my "mojo" is starting to come back... and can seemingly strike up a conversation with a complete stranger no worries.... it's just the next step i freak out aboutthe "is she single"... "is she the slightest bit interested in me" that i'm still strugling with... but i guess that comes with time too huh... the way i see it... if she's interested... she'll make an effort to let me know.... well i hope that's how it works..... ;) please correct me if i'm wrong here people... Danps. keep the stories and tips/tricks coming.... need all the help we (ok... I) can get ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find it just to intimate. I can go to bed with a guy, no problems But get me over the dinner table with that eye to eye and the intimate talk , nope. I will flirt, go out in a group, so long as there is no chance of being ask on a date. I even wear wedding rings and I am not married. My x, well how did I meet him. He was with another woman. We all went to the pub in a group, and I was my usual self, cracking jokes and dancing and he just go caught laughing, and we went home together and that was it. 18 years of marriage. My family did not even know I was married for a long time. To go on a date, terrifies the shit out of me. That is why I only meet for coffee, and then it may end up with sex but I do not do sleep overs. I will give you my shell, my body but I will not give you me. So for guys I can only imagin how hard it would be to approach a woman cold turkey , but it takes courage. I look at the guys that have said they find it hard, so cute looking but I know that no matter what a person looks like its hard to approach a woman , knowing you may get rejected.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Learn some game and not worry what people think of you. Basically, learn to not take rejection too seriously or personally and accept it as it's a part of dating. Remember the people that get the most dates generally get rejected the most too. It definitely is easier said than done, I struggle with it and have many days where I'm just not in the mood be talkative and feel a bit insecure. The whole is she single thing can be brought up playfully in conversation by saying something like.."Oh wonder what your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife would think of that"Basically, you aren't directly asking but are bringing up indirectly anyway. Often, if the person is interested they'd be quick to assert that they are single in response to that. Or you could just go direct and ask them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Did you just ask me on a date on my ex boyfriends forum post? :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Same thing for me being with my partner since 16 and even a bit weirder seeing though I am still happily with him ;)..... I have no idea about the social cues of picking guys up!?! It seemed easier when we were monogamous and guys seemed to hit on me a bit! The whole point of this extra curricular activity besides a bit of sexual release is to learn how to actually meet people and make friends. Hard for me as we both go to the same gym...... a little taboo me hitting on other people there!!!CM call me but please don't shout :PCass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
...is the effort they'll put in and the price of the toys. | Quoting 'Salsa_McCans'Did you just ask me on a date on my ex boyfriends forum post? :P | Hell yes I did....just in case you haven't noticed lately, your stunning. Probably best to PM me if you happen to say yes. | I do have manners you know.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...oh boy do you ever. | Quoting 'multiples_xxx' CM call me but please don't shout :P | *whispers*...I only have a few more digits to go and I promise to use my best Polka accent, just like the Swedish chef from the muppets. Shhhhhhhh...don't tell anyone we're making plans, that's how rumours get started you know?
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RHP User
13 years ago
The best thing is to put yourself in social situations with regular contact. It's that old chestnut of 'how do I make friends out of school/uni/work'? Join clubs, volunteer, play sport etc. Even a team full of footy blokes have girlfriends/wives, and they've all got a couple of single friends for you to meet. If you join, say, a book club, then instant shared interests and topics for conversation, and it will usually come up naturally if they're partnered up.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Salsa_McCans'Did you just ask me on a date on my ex boyfriends forum post? :P the man has class...ya gotta give him that lol Hugs
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