Who knows why it is one and not the other?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  wants what the heart wants. We are just more connected to some people than others.Perhaps our DNA is very compatible,all the chemicals and chemistry just right....but if it was meant to be then the other would feel it too. Sometimes we fear what we feel.....and there is something very hot about unresolved sexual tension. We also often desire what is denied us.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Yep... what Freya said.   Different people, situations, settings, interactions... no two people are 100% the same and thus the feelings felt couldn't be 100% the same upon separation (or in bed or in a relationship).   That is what makes us all unique, interesting and gives us hope of something better out there.   There is nothing wrong with having different levels of connection as long as we accept the fact and enjoy the learning experience it presents.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  And I'm making a bit of an assumption here, maybe you let down your guard a bit more with the one you didn't sleep with. I know with myself, I tend to put up a bit of a barrier around my emotions when it comes to play partners only or NSA. There can still be intimacy and fun but on a different level than when in a relationship or even a friendship/FWB.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Foxy, i've often wondered at this myself.   What is it that can have you feeling the chemistry even though you've had barely any contact and yet others Zip, Nada, Zero?   I've had men that i've played with regularly for 6 months or more, who disappear from my life and i've barely felt a blip on the scale of concern, and then others who it hurts like crazy when it ends.   Why is that some you can lose a little piece of yourself to, go the whole way, fall in love and others you just don't feel that zing?   Then there are those you feel huge attraction to and when you meet in person it fails to translate into real life.....   Chemistry sure is an unpredictable thing!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  to coin a couple,,, damned if you do,,, damned if you dont,,, if you want it,u aint got i,,, if u have it, you dont want it,, or a golden oldie ,, carfull what you wishfor,,, gosh,,, pass the bourbon ,,

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  Cheekyarses

  12 years ago

  Great topic I have to agree with freya n driftwood

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  12 years ago

  Meet a gorgeous girl in Patong this week. Plenty of positive eye contact and the body language unmistakeable so I introduced myself and we hit it off pretty good. After a few days of wining and dining, we ended up back at my hotel where we made love for a few hours.. Nice as it was, the sex didn't leave me wanting more as I thought. The following day she came to see me in my hotel room but nothing more than a few hugs and kisses ? Is this the same as the subject matter or different ?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I just don't understand sometimes...Yet I watch my feelings, guard them a little, and also watch my vulnerability....but yet man No1 is stuck...could it be cause "no closure" ZIP ZERO.. as it just died off maybe and that's why crushed a little??? still it hurts a little with both No1 and No2...either way-I think I deal with No2 better...WEIRD if you ask me...Human behaviour is interesting!!!! FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Its the same....same but different......yet if you didn't sleep with her, would your feelings be the same...would you have been crushed?? Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  One guy, I still get teary when I think that he's not in my life anymore, he was only in it for a meager month. We had sex (not bad but not fabulous either) but connected very quickly on another level. Gone(sniff) :-( Another guy, same amount of time, great sex but no other connection and I've forgotten what he looks like!! I think it's their potential as a partner that has us mourning. Is this someone I could be in a relationship with.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Same but different, ? I'm not sure , but good question. Absolutely gorgeous girl but l just didn't feel it the way I thought I would.. Yes' it was nice , but did not leave me wanting more.. Goes to show good sex is not guaranteed because of looks alone... Do I think I would feel the same if we didn't have sex ? Possibly, they say all good sex is in the mind , so maybe what I was thinking was different to reality... No ' I wasn't crushed, just surprised , that's all.. Jay

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Awesome71' One guy, I still get teary when I think that he's not in my life anymore, he was only in it for a meager month. We had sex (not bad but not fabulous either) but connected very quickly on another level. Gone(sniff) :-( Another guy, same amount of time, great sex but no other connection and I've forgotten what he looks like!! I think it's their potential as a partner that has us mourning. Is this someone I could be in a relationship with. Big Hugs - I know exactly what you mean...same thing here!!Isn't it funny how we can forget one but not the other??FOXY

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Jay_Me' Same but different, ? I'm not sure , but good question. Absolutely gorgeous girl but l just didn't feel it the way I thought I would.. Yes' it was nice , but did not leave me wanting more.. Goes to show good sex is not guaranteed because of looks alone... Do I think I would feel the same if we didn't have sex ? Possibly, they say all good sex is in the mind , so maybe what I was thinking was different to reality... No ' I wasn't crushed, just surprised , that's all.. Jay Is it our thinking that does this to us to have different feelings for people??Is that why sometimes we want more and sometimes want less??I can never work that one out....FOXY

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