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Who you really are...
May 10 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
By that I mean I'm sarcastic, self-depreciating, same love of everything I say here and other media, but I'm shy (/lack self-confidence), in face to face situations over top of that. No issues once out of the public eye and behind bedroom doors, but it has led to disappointment from parties met before and I'm sure will again. None of us are prefect though 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fuck it ! What's the point ? Im sure there's a niche for lovable rogues. 😜😎
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noeleena
8 years ago
Hi. what people see in myself is what they get I,m not changing who I am to suit others regardless, I,m involved with well over 2000 people with in our groups and as a playing member of our Orchestra and Brass bands I,m seen a lot on stage in our concerts and marching in Parades with our Military forces , and because I have friends out side of our groups I have people come up to me and talk with me they know what I,m like and no different in Tasmania with our concert bands Hobart. I may not measure up to some peoples expections , cant help that ,and that will include sexually , or not pretty enough or sexy enough or out side their age group as is happening. What I,m seeing is do many people wont to take the time and get to know who I am , sexualy I think I,m ruled out any way so matters not, The comment you,v made do you show your best side, I,ll show who I am as I am I don't play games and wont. As to being up front I am totally because of my birth background and yes I pay for that and do get rejected because of my details some people when are told theres, no oh I,m sorry, it,s they are gone,, and end of. I wont say I,m blunt though I will be very factual about my self . My personality, those around me with in our large groups know I,m there to help and surpport ,I have flaws and you can tell by my writing = major Dyslexic = one of many fail points in who I am . so just by saying I,m flawed I,m not hiding and making out I,m better than I am. So I,m ether rejected because I don't measure up to how some think I should be or they accept who I am and enjoy.....who.... I am as a hopefully a normal person, and what you see and that's not much by my photo , sorry I don't do nudy photos to shy on that score. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
With being a little enigmatic ;) Q
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Tweak my personality, but the company I am in certainly influences it. Around introverts I tend to be quieter and softer. Around those who like a laugh (and to make others laugh) I feed off their energy and give as good as I get (you will know where I am because my laugh is outrageously loud). At work, my boss described me as having a powerful personailty...yes I do sometimes. But I do still adore quiet nights and crave them during the week after manic days managing over 40 people.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...to say ''Yes, what you see is me'' as others may see many other traits in the same personality. It is generally agreed that a personality (at least a normal one) is like a song and a composition. The most widely accepted of these traits are the Big Five: - Openness- Conscientiousness- Extroversion- Agreeableness- Neuroticism Drop the ingredients in a cocktail blender, shaken not stirred....and serve over ice! It would be wonderful if everything were always in perfect balance however reacting to other's personalities often tips the scales and you could just end up with a straight shot neat! As always make mine a double neurotic Scotch of high quality! Best...... CM
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RHP User
8 years ago
I hear you:) Guess most of us have some issues...lol I try to tone it down too, but not always successfully😳 This place has certainly thought me a lot about myself, things I could improve on... Like biting my tongue from time to time...saves me from having to apologise later😎 As for lack of self confidence...thing the biggest talent one can master is to be in peace with who one is...for better or worse...as long as you know you are fundamentally a good person with good intentions... Not an easy task though😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I know what you mean... I tend to swear a lot...but when we are hanging out with my husband's parents I watch my tongue like a hawk😳 And of course work requires a certain level of professionalism too😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
as I am on here, very horny, always looking, flirting and ready to follow that through in RL, sometimes I get lucky, but sex and intimacy is all I think about 24 hours a day. So that's the sex part. Re my personality, I'm now (wasn't always) supremely confident, forward, blunt, open about who I am. I can also be rude and tell people flat out if I don't like their behavior/rudeness etc in public, I'll flat out tell them and don't care if people are seeing this play out. I set out to do that and am generally friendly, sense of humour, and random, I enjoy out of the box things that happen in life, but if I think someone has deliberately tried to rip me off, steal from me, really bad service (again when it appears to be deliberate), yes I'll tell them. The flip side is I love interacting with people and get along with MOST people in real life who treat me with respect, worse if they treat me like an idiot and try to deceive me, I don't hold back. What you see is what you get, bikini and all lol I wear a bikini even in winter 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
I meant I 'don't' set out to do that
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
my personality is 'me', I can not change who I intrinsically am. But like MsJonesy said "the company I am in certainly influences it".Different traits come out around friends with different personalities...so you gel and mesh with the company you're keeping.Kinda like knowing which friends would understand you being "on a site like this", and which ones you don't ever discuss more personal things with.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Definitely influenced by those around me. I am shy and tend to try and blend into the background (yes imagine that.....) Until coaxed out by others. You won't see the best of me until l am comfortable within the group. There's nothing I can do to change that no matter how hard I try to change that. People wonder why I'm so quiet at the start. Just a matter of me being nervous, bordering on terrified.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I suffer the same. In new crowds Im quiet and try to blend in. Once Im comfortable then I relax and become more open and jovial. Its a social anxiety. Am I going to measure up to the groups 'standards' whatever the fuck that means. Its not a conscious thing and until recently I never understood or could figure it out. Now that I am conscious of it I can work on it but its still bloody hard. The other day I met up with one very sexy lady through RHP. In the lead up I was nervous as hell and thought about bailing. I forced myself to go and it was worth it. She was very natural and made me feel comfortable and ended up being able to openly talk about a lot of things and just be me. I am a lot more quiet when Im around family. Probably to quiet and broody (?) to be honest. When Im with my mates then Im a bit more boisterous and edgy. Depends on the crowd really and its more about respecting the people around me and not wanting to stick out like a sore thumb. One thing is I never pretend to be something Im not. Im honest as the day is long and loyal to those around me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Shy, really? Wow, that's not what I expected, sexy though. I quite like seducing shy guys lol 😊
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Good friends get the full blown version of me, and then I adjust to suit the occasion/person/group I am around. At work that means toned down unless I am with a few select workmates. Also at work it might mean some subtle manipulation when have to work with those types of personalities who need a gentle ego stroking/propping up because of their alpha and/or neurotic personalities. I see that as a means to an end because I'm not the boss, I need a job and I work with a couple of control freaks. To get along with others I think its good to be able to read situations and people and I think I do that pretty well and mostly adjust to suit and bounce off what they are feeding me back. On here its easy to feel confident behind a keyboard but nerves and overthinking kick in when you meet. But I try to just relax and be me. So when I talk/meet (especially first meet because of the nerves thing) I probably work harder at making the other person feel comfortable because I get how difficult it can be to put yourself out there. Always trying to use humour to lighten the mood.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
I've found honesty to be a curse at times BUT I'm not too good at bullshit. I can baffle people however with my occasional moments of linguistic brilliance 😂. I gave up a long time ago trying to be liked by everyone, it's never going to happen and it's far better to like yourself for who and what you are. Like you OP I'm blunt, sarcastic, opinionated and sometimes very wrong. But I can learn from my mistakes....eventually. I had an acquaintance fromhere the other day say I was an onion and he doubted anyone had seen beyond the first few layers, when I told Chocky Desire he laughed and said no one wanted to go there cos it would make them cry 😏 He's such a smartass!! I don't think I'm enigmatic either Q but there are faces we all show to some and not others. Situations in which we find ourselves where we do invariably "change/morph" ourselves so we blend or are outwardly seen to be conforming. Workplaces are one such environment. I've failed at that scenario often, or is it simply not failing but being true to yourself, who you are and what you are capable of? I don't see how being quirky detracts from your professionalism but I digress. Life is short, there are plenty of people who struggle to be accepted in this life for who they are. I say fuck everyone else and be true to those who accept you for you and happy in your skin. If you can do that you'll be amazed at the doors that open to you ~ Indy
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RHP User
8 years ago
That last sentence of two 👍 life changing ✌
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RHP User
8 years ago
'or' two
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on this... It is not easy to admit that one has consciousness issues around crowds, strangers, etc...or to deal with it for that matter... It is nice to know though - in a way- that I am not alone! Although I deal with a lot of people at work...I don't have that issue, as I don't feel I am being judged or scrutinised... But meeting people from here let's say ...where I know I am -for obvious reasons-being assessed on my attractiveness, charm, etc...where someone decides whether I am good enough to sleep with or not...I do get pretty anxious..and it's hard not to take a negative feedback personal... Even though we all know beauty is in the eye of the beholder...and that's not all that matters anyhow:)
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RHP User
8 years ago
...much of our personality make-up is also a composite of our fears. Here is a list of the generally agreed upon top 10... 01. Fear of flying02. Fear of public speaking03. Fear of heights04. Fear of the dark05. Fear of intimacy06. Fear of death07. Fear of failure08. Fear of rejection09. Fear of spiders10. Fear of commitment For me personally, not the case. I love flying and the smaller and faster the better. I was on the public speaking circuit for one of Australia's largest companies and actually felt euphoric before and after. A strange one next as I used to work on the 36th floor of the Rialto but never as in ever looked down anywhere near the windows to avoid vertigo. Moving along, I can't say I'm looking forward to either aging or dying however both are inevitable. Spiders and snakes both...the only good ones are dead ones as far as I'm concerned. As for the rest...no fear, shit happens. Simply a part of living that I've come to expect or even enjoy as they can be both challenging and real character builders. ''Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia'' ain't even on my list. Go figure! ....best, CM
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RHP User
8 years ago
people at some point would have suffered social anxiety. Some were able to process it and 'get over it'. Some, like me, struggled their whole lives with it. I never was successful with the girls because I was always scared of screwing up and looking like a dick. Made me pensive and look g a little arrogant at times. I hate that because its not me. Ive had to force myself into a lot of situations lately thst made me feel uncomfortable and unsure how I was going to be received. It affects the way you present yourself in some ways. I know some won't understand that and its just your mind telling you the wrong thing really. A big thing these days is neuroplasticity. Where the brain is transformed into new ways of dealing with these sorts of external stimulation. Its a very complex science I have only had very basically explained to me but promises that people can reprogram themselves over time to better deal with situations and lise the anxiety. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
I'm opinionated, passionate, naughty, loving, open, non judgemental, loyal, funny, curious, blunt and a tad shy. Im not really a people person. I am friendly and can talk to anyone, but I definitely don't need people around me and I don't have very many friends. I don't tolerate bullshit, bullies or lies and I have no problem standing up for myself or people who can't stand up for themselves. I find people either love me or they loathe me and I'm all good with that, I made a commitment to myself years ago not to worry about what people thought of me. I think I'm pretty true to myself in here and what you see is what you get in RL, but I have met people and they have said "your not what I expected." 💋
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
NeuroplasticitySuch a fascinating subject. I work with people who have experienced trauma so we have done quite a bit of training/discussion about this at work. Have you read Dan Siegel? His book Mindsight is so interesting and I would recommend it. A big thing these days is neuroplasticity. Where the brain is transformed into new ways of dealing with these sorts of external stimulation. Its a very complex science I have only had very basically explained to me but promises that people can reprogram themselves over time to better deal with situations and lise the anxiety. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I certainly have a fear of death, from spiders wanting to be intimate and seeking commitment from me, especially in the dark.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some of you may be surprised by the mild mannered Mary ... I keep a very professional profile when at work but many would say the qualities I have are both professional and privately shared :) Outwardly, I'm the woman many admire or want to be. Confident, hostess with the mostest, sexy, funny and down to earth. Inwardly though, my demons rage at their own insecurity party. I'm passionate, empathetic, full of life, nurturing, opinionated, forgiving, loyal, loving to a fault, head strong, do ... then think ;) I look like I suffer fools but I don't ... behind that sweet smile, I'm actively assessing you. I measure people by what they say and do, and if those two things don't match, I'd question your integrity. I'm passionate about gender equality .... I advocate against any abuse ... and my charities are many, the cancer council is heavily supported by us. You'll either describe me as the one of the nicest people you know or the biggest bitch to walk the earth ... your choice as to which one you get ... I don't get pissed of at people's failings or shortcomings. I get angry at manipulation and lies, I detect any of that, you're out as far as I'm concerned. I don't open my heart often, it's been heart by people who should have protected me ... but if I say 'I love you ... either romantically or platonically, I mean it'. I distrust many women, learnt from experience that even those that are meant to love you unconditionally, have conditions. People often question my motives ... why am I so 'nice'? A little explanation, though this is not a pity party. I'm the unwanted third child, the sexually, physically and emotionally abused daughter in a traditional Greek family. Attempts at arranged marriages were made, threats were made and carried out ... I left home (the black sheep) without being shackled to a Greek man, I supported myself and found a love I never knew existed. He didn't save me, he made me look at myself through another lens and made me learn to love that version of me :) He loves me unconditionally, he showed me I was worth it and that was my rebirth. I vowed to get to know people before I made any judgements. I vowed to be the best person or version of me as I could. I try to live that everyday, in every relationship I have :) I will go to the ends of the earth for people I love, because love doesn't have boundaries, conditions, expectations ... it just is and you just do :) Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I almost bought a remote control tarantula yesterday, big hairy one. Why? Well I thought it might be fun to walk it over my naked body and take pictures. Bugger, now I'll have to go back and get it won't I, before someone else does 😧
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've tightened up a little since I got older, I'm keeping an eye on what I share with who, I didn't do this as much when I was younger and learned from it. I show the people around me an appropriate side of myself, and I'm doing quite good with it. However I'm quite outgoing when I meet people for the first time and usually the people enjoy this kind of attitude since they don't have to do much actively themselves during the get-to-know-stage. However this is most of the time just a superficial brush of my personality, excluding all the rather delicate topics. The people who actually know all about me are few and well picked, and I doubt that'll change with the years. However my lovers tend to get to know me pretty quick (I'm honest down to the bone if I really like someone). In the end it's rather simple, accept me for who I am or fuck off.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is one of the maxims inscribed on Apollo 's temple at Delphi ..According to the Greek writer Pausanius it came from Luxor in Egypt per Socrates." Your own self realisation is one of the greatest gifts you can give to the world "...from Wiki. Humans are many faceted ,we show ourselves in different ways to different people.Sometimes it is a slow reveal.Do we see ourselves as others see us? That is an entirely different question with many and varied answers I suspect. Q
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lovman8
8 years ago
But some times if I'm shy or uncomfortable you don't see very much.
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