M45
Why are women shy of commitment....... ????
March 23 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your Profile says you like a lot of Sex and you've been dumped before for wanting too much Sex . That comes across as pushy & demanding . If you're looking for Love , you need to tone down your requirement for lots of Sex . & I'd never mention the reasons why I've been dumped on my Profile . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know better than ever say the C word to an RHP woman!! Lol. To answer your question, I do think most people are here just for a good uncomplicated time, experiment, or for casual friendships. So when someone says they are looking for more than I am not sure if you are seen as needy? But for sure, people view you as someone who is looking for something different to them. People want no expectations, no complications. Seems to me like there are few classes of people here. The cheaters, the experimenters, people who have come out of long term relationships and are not looking for anything serious and the dudes looking for as many women as they can. When someone decides they do want more it would seem they go to find it elsewhere. :-(
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow! About thirty minutes ago, I put up a similar post asking pretty much the same thing as you Monster... you've just put it far more succinctly than I did lol. I haven't changed my profile wording as yet because I really don't know how to phrase it in such a way that people don't think I'm after instant commitment, but also realise that I'm not looking for NSA only. I read your profile too, don't think it comes across as too sleazy in my opinion. Don't have any answers for you, but I suspect Meeka may have nailed it. Will be following this with interest :) Much love, Mickelle
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kick it to me, kick it to me Oh wait, sit I have lazy curves, and married Grumble grumble.. back to my chips on the couch. To be honest, women want that guy , that Mr D'Arcy with the black eyes. They just look at you and think. A that's to good for me, as I can't tick all those boxes B. Your a figment of the imagination or a female buddy wrote your profile. On line or off , the right woman for you will want the same as you Now get over here take your clothes of and don't think. :) it's to distracting for my one night stand.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have 13 lovely women on your profile with a few articulate smart ones there. So how many women do you think you would need to find that one on rhp? I think a lot of women want commitment on here. But too afraid now to admit it , as the majority of men find it too hard to revisit a vaginal let alone dinner or dare I say it a date. Waving the commitment flag just makes them nervous and skeptical. So maybe your shopping in target for something they have only in Harrods.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I started out just having fun and my profile stated basically NSA.Like you I have now decided that I want and need a little more. I'm still out to have some fun but if some one came along and we clicked and wanted the same thing then great! But I would never push for a commitment from some one who wasn't looking for that. Trying to word it in the profile is extremely hard and I although I feel I have done an ok job I have found I don't get as many messages now. As Meeka said maybe those looking for more look outside of rhp , as for me I have looked elsewhere but tend to shy away from the other dating sites , I guess I am a little narrow minded in thinking that if they are not from RHP they will be boring vanilla in bed!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
find your profile sleezy, just a little long winded. Not sure why you would be worried about getting less responses, at least they would be genuine ones unless you are still in denial about notching up your bedpost.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just don't want it. Plus, anybody who can put up with me for years on end must be crazy. Why would I want to commit to a crazy person?
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
To answer you rquestion OP........No, but I believe some women are shy of loosing themselves. I know I am. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile lost me when you referred to a woman as an 'it'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
just ain't for everyone.....I hear that cosey caves are all the rage though:-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I found the "'it'' but I found the therapist jibe a bit more offensive.....Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
in my life, though I'm not specifically looking for it here in RHP (open to finding it here, of course). I get plenty of messages from women saying they're also looking for love and commitment. They often compliment me on my profile and want to have a chat about their experience and mine, which is nice :) So there are plenty of women here looking for something more serious. I also get plenty of men contacting me who say "even though my profile says I just want sex, I'm really interested in finding someone special." I always suggest they change their profile to properly reflect what they're (apparently) really looking for. If they brush me off on this point and make excuses for why they won't hangs their profile, I wish them good luck and say goodbye. I'm not interested in someone who says one thing in their profile and another thing to me and who's obviously hedging their bets. I'm not interested in someone who isn't clear, direct and importantly consistent about what they're looking for. So, in my experience over more than five years on the site, LOTS of people are looking for relationships, love and commitment here. And LOTS of people miss out because their profiles and their inconsistent behaviour puts others off. Lots of people on vanilla sites are also here, apparently looking for different things on the different sites. Go figure! Just an opinion based on experience :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
JayJay my messages dropped 95% by saying that I would consider more if the right person came along.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There needs to be dating site for polyamorous kinky fuckkers looking for love. Although I am tempted to go to EHarmony and fill out my application with " I am looking for a practising bisexual man who loves group sex, is sexual adventurous and believes in polyamory." :p Any sites like that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' There needs to be dating site for polyamorous kinky fuckkers looking for love. Although I am tempted to go to EHarmony and fill out my application with " I am looking for a practising bisexual man who loves group sex, is sexual adventurous and believes in polyamory." :p Any sites like that? Maybe we could start one!!Instead of RSVPABLEAnal Butt Loving Enthusiasts
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I don't think there is anything wrong with your profile, it might not appeal to everybody but do you really want it to?? Don't think there is anything wrong in wanting a relationship, or trying to find it in here. You might just be lucky enough to find someone that is open minded, has the same kinks and wants similar things.....good luck.......💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
You should defiantly try that.....let me know how you go lovely..... Jayjay......ABLE....where do I join... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
WoW!!!! that was something :) Well... Happy to admit my mistakes :) I will correct the grammatical "it". Always was bad in spelling and grammar at school :) Thanks @ LuckDragon :) For the rest :) No I am not needy but if asking for commitment means being needy "Guilty as charged" :) Yes, I do want a lot of sex :) just being honest :) guilty as charged :) its not my mind its my body, i still have morning woods at age 34 :) No, Nobody wrote my profile It is actually a very true description of what i want ( A few Jacks were involved though ) :) All women on my profile are in committed relationship and I don't Steal :) I simply take pleasure in others happiness. I think world can be a better place this way . You dont loose yourself with commitment you find more in another ;) Therapist Jibe :) it was meant to keep the mind fucks away :) I don't mind healthy therapy sessions :) Yes, I am looking for "that" crazy person who will be able to bear me :p hahaha If you are looking for same :) Ii will be asking you for drinks :) and you know who I am talking about :) Thanks everyone :) It has been quite an insight into female Psychs ;) I will be posted more interesting topics pretty soon as well :) ...
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I welcome commitment.... ....but as Ive learned from my mistake the first time around.... Im simply not willing to commit with the wrong person. IF I find the right person in this asylum... great..... unlikely... so I'll have my un until that right person enters my life. DG
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm committed to being your friend sweetness.....and although I hear you have kisses to die for I'm not effing cwazy enough to be less committed to our friendship and fck it up confusing the issue with bloody sex!! Lol besides incest is a jailable offence 😇 ....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love your profile! It's descriptive enough to detail exactly what you want. I'm not looking for love - I've got that at home already. But I did have a feeling of not being good enough for you even though I ticked damn near all the boxes. But you should keep it how it is. I do have to say though that the fact that you drink jacks mmmm that's a turn on right there... - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I'm committed to being your friend sweetness.....and although I hear you have kisses to die for I'm not effing cwazy enough to be less committed to our friendship and fck it up confusing the issue with bloody sex!! Lol besides incest is a jailable offence 😇 .... Ha gave Tara a bit of a touch up, next time I'm just gonna have spell it out to him to hang around, and picking up on the body language, well you would think Tara reaching into her bag and pulling out her robot dog pressing it's ear and it starts fucking a leg or in funs case, just thin air, while Tara had that grin she gets, I mean how much clearer does it have to get than that. understandable if he had to take off to go piss on a telegraph pole or something he could cock a leg too, but he never came back Unless he's just picky. Mado Tara xx
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' 😳 Why are men shy of commitment?!?!?! I've been married six times...you can't say that I lack commitment
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well looks like you handled the Forrest for the trees.good luck hope you find what you are looking for. And bad luck that the girls all have committed relationships. It's deceptive as the profiles indicate the opposite. They may need to find the attached drop down box and not have in the profile they are single. Lady reading the small print, and in between the lines.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because in my experience some males and females have profiles on RHP and on other normal dating sites. Although I believe that RHP members seem to be more honest in there wants and needs. I too have recently changed my profile as now grown tired of casual sex. As I know sex can be so much better with someone you trust. Its strange that couples generally should be able to explore so many sexual experiences because they have the trust. On RHP that is mostly true for them, but not so much for vanilla couples. How many times have you seen a profile says that there married and looking for what they cant get at home. So just saying stay on RHP and put in your profile what your seeking. I'm still trying to find the words for what I'm searching for without confusing others. Basically want a relationship with lots of great sex and still have fun exploring with others. I had a marriage of 15yrs with a bi man (of course at the time I did not know). Over the time the sex became less and less. So wished he had have the guts to tell me the truth. So I'm here saying I don't want vanilla for the rest of my life. As from being on RHP I have discovered who I am and I what I like. But I want the old and new mixed together.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But monstermind, in my previous incarnation on rhp you messaged me before and we spoke and you said what you're saying now about looking for something long term yada yada and we swapped countless messages and somewhere along the lines your messages were sounding more like you were just talking the talk but in fact what you were aiming for was just a bit of fun minus the commitment Long story short, I'm only mentioning this to drive to my question of say, maybe, do you think it's not so much as the women shying away from commitment but rather them getting confused from your mixed messages? - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
I think my profile is pretty clear with the type of relationship I am seeking....keeps the tyre kickers away most of thetime. Like most people, I need to feel secure and comfortable in a relationship before I can commit myself fully. If I feel like I am still in the fwb mode, I will shy away and take a step or two back. Open, honest communication is the key.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You haven't really been married 6 times have you? Blimey! 😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why do people try to understand the actions of one another?People do, what they do, for what ever reason, they do it for !!!So.... Just do it !
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Interesting observation. I am not suggesting this of the OP, but there are plenty of people who feel compelled to say what they think people want to hear, just to gain their attention and their favour....in here and beyond RHP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Uhhm, I'd like to clear something up My previous comment was not to judge the OP or to say he did something wrong I was simply trying to point out that sometimes we might think we want commitment and say so but then our words and actions in the long run might say the opposite. I guess I should have used a hypothetical example So to the OP, I'm sorry - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Shazza.... the word to describe the homogeny of words and deeds... is congruence. Congruence (and incongruence) is not a gender specific. We're all capable of it.... and we all know when we're not living in it... feelings of guilt or uneasiness are often a reflection of it. My experience is that man and woman are both capable of showing commitment when they meet that one person who inspires it from within them. But I have come to believe that commitment is not an infinite thing. The simple reality is that most people we meet with a view to relationships.... arent suitable, and it doesnt work.... so commitment can last, for as long as the situation "works"... and fighting its demise if it happensis pointless.... and itself.... incongruent. DG
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On_Safari
11 years ago
.....you must have alot of bodies in your backyard you gorgeous lil psychopath you!!! And baby, I don't want to marry you.....just size you up for a hole 😈 lol ~ your sweetness xx
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You haven't really been married 6 times have you? Blimey! 😳 But it did sound good and keeping inline with my man-whoring ways
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' .....you must have alot of bodies in your backyard you gorgeous lil psychopath you!!! And baby, I don't want to marry you.....just size you up for a hole 😈 lol ~ your sweetness xx You know there's always room for you in the boot of my car!
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