Adult Forums   \   Hot Topics   \   🤔Why do couples prefer single guys??🤓

+ New Topic

swingalingson

swingalingson

M44

🤔Why do couples prefer single guys??🤓

November 01 2019

dating

parties

sex

swingers

women

Why do you couples prefer single guy over couples or single women? What make you decide on the guy?

reply

Comments

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Couples drama (my experience).... women (neither of us have any interest in them)..... men (nom nom nom) fun all around.

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Just ducking out to buy shares in popcorn. 🍿

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I'd say sexual preference for me, and his preference all the better to share me. Peachy

    reply

  • aaenjoy

    aaenjoy

    5 years ago

    We have no interest in them at all, too many hassles, too many agressive fools. We know many couples that will not go near them either

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I am married but the single guy I see is not part of a threesome. It's just him and I. What made me choose him it wasn't because he was single he actually spent the time to give me a long message about him and once I met him him we had quite a few things in common. Scaringly enough is that he had a lot of similar interests as my husband. He treats me well and he is very kind and loving towards me. I am not a person who can just have sex and be done with it, I actually need the communication, the feelings and connection for anything to happen with someone. So having him in my life is an additional person I can share something with. I guess what I have with him is not everyones cup of tea but it's what I want and I love the feeling of having him in my life as well as my husband. I am not looking for someone to replace my husband as that is a part of my life that I will never give up or replace. Such is life, I am very lucky 😌

    reply

  • sweetpussy4u

    sweetpussy4u

    5 years ago

    For us it’s all about extra pleasure. We don’t overlook single females or couples just prefer single guys

    reply

  • thecatsmeowaus

    thecatsmeowaus

    5 years ago

    It would be a totally individual thing as most couples tend to play with other couples and most newbie couples always advertise about looking for a single female to join them for their first threesome. But they quickly realize that playing with couples is time consuming with the set up, finding a time that’s suitable for everyone, and then it’s a gamble to see if everyone is attracted to each other and the situation. (We’ve been knocked back at the first drinks meet up phase or passed on at parties etc several times before.) With a single female this is even more difficult as there are fewer of them to begin with, they need to be attracted to you and they have more choice to go with another situation or pull out of meeting. Single guys, totally different scenario. I can put an event/date up today and have 30+ interested fellas ready by lunch time lol. The men I’ve/we’ve had join have all been charming, well mannered and good fun. It was just easier to arrange so we have gone more single men lately. Not saying we prefer them but it has just worked out that way

    reply

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    5 years ago

    We prefer single guys as we find it easier . Couples can be difficult ( from our experience) as often one of the couple is not 100% committed to play and perhaps only there to please their partner . It can cause cold feet , jealousy issues etc . It’s a little harder to make four people happy in terms of attraction. What makes us choose a single guy ? Firstly us being attracted to them , they obviously need to be likeminded , someone respectful , relaxed and someone willing to chat prior meeting . We don’t want to waste anyone’s time . For us , there is no point in meeting for a drink if all three of us can’t maintain a conversation. Everyone wants something different from an experience . We find it easier to find that with a single male . We love being with a single female ,it’s a little harder to find .

    reply

  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    5 years ago

    I would have never thought that couples were interested in single guys. There is hope!!

    reply

  • SSExplorer

    SSExplorer

    5 years ago

    My initial thought to this post was “huh?” As I would expect most couples with a bi fem would have a hierarchy of desires going from single women to couples then maybe single men. For us our main driving desire started out as wanting to satiate Mrs S’s bi desires, it then lead to discovering she likes seeing me with another woman as much as she enjoys being with one. Being inexperienced with both sexes she feels safe with women and has such genuine attraction to them but as we all know the unicorns are few and far. Most of our limited play has been with couples, initially these were only ok as Mrs S had a harder time accepting it is ok for her to enjoy other men (blame the Catholics). For me I feel exactly the same seeing her with a guy as she does seeing me with a woman. I agree with all above saying couples are probably the hardest though, you have to have 4 people all willing and full of desire and then all finding the time...it’s a logistical nightmare! So as we are evolving we are realising we get the most out of sharing an intense experience with another human being, the sex of that person becomes less important (oh please don’t let this comment lead to an influx of single men contacting us, this is the only down side to this group...if you say you’re open to it then the inbox is too full to sift through for the golden eggs..we can see you viewing us and we will check your profile out and send you some form of contact if we are interested). So I can see the single man isn’t as hopeless a proposition as it would initially seem. Maybe RHP needs a function to see winks and messages grouped to make it easier to filter

    reply

  • curious_72

    curious_72

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'Deedee121' I am married but the single guy I see is not part of a threesome. It's just him and I. What made me choose him it wasn't because he was single he actually spent the time to give me a long message about him and once I met him him we had quite a few things in common. Scaringly enough is that he had a lot of similar interests as my husband. He treats me well and he is very kind and loving towards me. I am not a person who can just have sex and be done with it, I actually need the communication, the feelings and connection for anything to happen with someone. So having him in my life is an additional person I can share something with. I guess what I have with him is not everyones cup of tea but it's what I want and I love the feeling of having him in my life as well as my husband. I am not looking for someone to replace my husband as that is a part of my life that I will never give up or replace. Such is life, I am very lucky 😌 Sounds what I was looking for and unable to find, lucky you :)

    reply

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    We don't have a preference of one over the other. Our earliest experiences were with singles and were awesome. Unfortunately we got stood up a couple of times in a row and gave singles up for lent! I don't think we've ever been stood up by a couple after we've agreed to meet, but the memory is getting hazy. One thing we've noticed was that single guys weren't willing to plan ahead and that just doesn't work for us with family and work. Our biggest tip for the single blokes, is don't ignore the male half of the couple. I suppose it's a bit different with us, because we're looking for bi guys.... but, even if the guys aren't that way inclined, they need to have some sort of rapport. Don't get thirsty with your messages, we honestly don't want to hear how horny you are. Make an effort with your first message and be prepared to chat a bit first. As others have mentioned, no point in us catching up if can't all hold a conversation. That's our point of view anyway, we're sure others don't even want to know your name! Good luck out there, plenty of couples are looking for decent guys. There's lots of competition and it's hard work looking through so many profiles full of auto fill that really don't tell us much

    reply

  • twodare

    twodare

    5 years ago

    Nice on Spicy Kale

    reply

  • jolBR21

    jolBR21

    5 years ago

    Fantastic !! Many different people and ideas but only one reason! Be happy

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Curious_72, I was extremely lucky and he was the first guy I actually met when I started on this venture. I have been with him for about a year and a half now, and he works in with me when I plan ahead which I have to do as I tend to have a busy life (work, family, friends etc...). I hope you do manage to find someone if you are still looking for the right one 🙂

    reply

  • curious_72

    curious_72

    5 years ago

    Deedee I gave up :( Couldn't find a fwb, can't find anyone to date, meh

    reply

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    5 years ago

    All couples prefer single guys, except those that don't. :P

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Do they? With the amount of "No single guys," written on profiles, I find that hard to believe. Single girls seem to be the most sort after hence the term unicorn, but every couple is different.

    reply

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Because they can read topics! Well mostly... 😂 😂 😂 🍑

    reply

  • MnauMnau

    MnauMnau

    5 years ago

    Why do couples prefer single guys?? Just wondering how did you find out there is more interest in single guys. When I used to be a paid member, occasionally someone had a peek and read my profile. Occasionally = “about 1-2 a month” Someone = “everyone I wasn’t compatible with, couple who tough I’m Bi and blocked me right after I told them I’m not, bi-guys,..) There was only one couple “interested” until they read my profile. It was probably too much for him or her and they were gone. And countless of messages with invitations from party organizers. When contacted them, they’ve changed to age bracket. So, again. How did you come up with this?

    reply

  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    5 years ago

    That's sad to hear about your experience.

    reply

  • HotNightsGC

    HotNightsGC

    5 years ago

    Genuine single guys who have accurate profiles are rare as hens teeth. So definitely we prefer single guys over couples when we can find them. I think it’s pure math. The more people involved in a meet up, the harder it gets to find an equilibrium.

    reply

  • curiousnhorny05

    curiousnhorny05

    5 years ago

    Sometimes people get burnt and then they aren’t as open to all opportunities. It also seems that especially out of the cities there isn’t a lot of options and us girls are complex creatures too. If I find a male/female who can have a good convo sexy in their way, be able to flirt with me and respect our boundaries we will have a great time. At the moment we aren’t having much luck and it seems easier to find one offs rather than a fwb or occasional fuck partner with nsa. So in short looking for the right person/couple doesn’t matter what configuration that ends up being.

    reply

Tags

View all

sex

swingers

couples

swinging

redhotpie

women

relationships

advice

messages

dating

Boards

Forum help

Get the RedHotPie app
appStore googlePlay

Contact Us

ÂŽ2001 - 2025 Digital Quarter Pty Ltd - All Rights Reserved The word RedHotPie and the RedHotPie logo style are trademarks of Digital Quarter Pty Ltd.

X