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Why do people LIE when they say 'trust me, I will always be honest with you'???

February 19 2013

This is my first forum post as this is my first day on rhp! I have not long come out of a relatively long marriage - I found out my husband had been seeing a friend of both of ours for 15yrs - I had no idea..... I was reading the forum on - why do ppl cheat! I want to know why do ppl lie, when they say they can be trusted n are honest!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    "NEVER EVER trust anyone who says...TRUST ME!!"People Lie because they can!!It's addictive and cause they got away with it the first time...FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You'll find that you have a lot in common with many people here! I'm with Foxy, they lie because they can. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and come play in the sandpit! I hope you have fun xxx

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    12 years ago

    Miss super is right.If someone HAS to say "trust me".... its because the person saying it believes they are difficult to trust.A confident and trustworthy person wouldnt feel the subconscious compulsion to use that phrase.DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Trust is hard to get n too easy to break

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    "When the President does it, that means that it's not illegal. Richard M. Nixon Mostly, because they can.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    velvetrose.I never trust the ones that say trust me....because it usually indicates that you can't.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I trust peoples actions over words as some lies are so predictable such as - 'The cheques in the mail' and 'I promise I wont come in your mouth!'

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Wish I had an answer for you velvetrose but sadly it's a puzzle to me too. I think we all lie sometimes. I do the "diplomatic lie", but my I intentions are good (no point in hurting someone unnecessarily) but it's the lies that hurt that baffle me. The ones that are accompanied with manipulation and cheating are in my opinion malicious. I also think some people believe their own lies. They have their own set of morals and seem to think they can justify their behavior. I shake my head each time. Hope you find what you are looking for on RHP. KK xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Welcome to the Forums...Here you will be very educated!! When I say educated...I mean E D U C A T E D!!There are some really lovely, fantastic, genuine people here don't let one person ruin it for you.Keep ya chin up, be pro-active and keep an eye out in SWB (Secret Women's Business) Forums. FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    rhp is full of em those with the magic mirror syndrom,they see who they want to see   we all lie   we are human

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Anyone who says trust me NEEDS to say it, because they are trying to convince you

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Is a very long lie indeed! I think some of the former posters got it wrong and didn't read your OP properly! . Are you happy you are out of the relationship? If your answer is yes, then maybe you finding out was a good thing! . Do you in any way feel it is your fault? Well, if you do...you really shouldn't! It was his lie and your friends lie..they have to live with knowing they lied to you! . Do you now feel like you can't trust ANYONE? That would be sad if you answer yes to this...as every person is different and you need to treat everyone as you would want to be treated! . Do you feel that you have healed yet? If no...then take some time out for YOU! Write him and her a letter about their betrayal and how hurt you are and then just burn it and let it go! Your life has taken on a new path now and to hold onto old hurts is not going to allow you to live life to the fullest and to truly move on! . Good Luck in getting yourself better! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I would like to recommend that you be very cautious on this site as you must be experiencing a lot of hurt right now. I have encountered more deceptive and dishonest people (men) on this site than i have anywhere before. And one thing i have noticed....those that proudly state on their profile or in their messages that they are completely honest are the most deceptive, untrustworthy of all. Just be cautious and dont let yourself be open to more hurt....sounds like you've had enough already xo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    velvetrose - I have experienced the "trust me" statement before and its caused me trouble. I think you need to trust your instincts....these are a very underrated form of common sense.Cheer up life is short to dwell on the weak....time to get up and get better than you were before.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Never trust anyone who says trust me .. & welcome to rtp :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    There's nothing much you can do about it. The only thing we as individuals can control is our reactions to it. That said, I have lied before, not in big ways but more along the lines of trying to help someone feel better... Yes darling that was fabulous sex, yes I came too... Or whatever. Usually people lie to protect their self image, to protect something they want to protect... An affair or an addiction, or genuinely to save feelings. Sometimes a combination of these. Funloving is very right in her post (really great post btw FL), you need to take some time now to look after yourself, mourn the end of an era. I've recently come out of a 19 yr relationship, it's really difficult and you've got to be kind to yourself.