Why do some women find intellect intimidating?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Would like some clarification on what you mean by intellect? Are we just talking about high IQ? Just because you can retain a lot of information doesn't mean you are intelligent. What exactly are you referring to? In what context? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  PurePeony

  8 years ago

  ... intellectual men intimidating at all. If there's something I can learn from them, all the better! However, it's the presentation, ie. the way they relate and communicate, that matters : Do they ramble on and on and exclude you from their soliloquay? :P Are they dismissive towards ideas that are different from theirs? Have they become bitter and cynical as a result of their intelligence? Are they always lost in their own little world and forget to relate to others? Give me a nerd with their eccentricities anytime! And if the man's a bookworm, loves books, hangs out in the library and loves to read, I'm super impressed! And if he loves gadgets, including household and kitchen appliances, can help rescue me from techie woes, can fix up a home surround sound system and gets excited watching documentaries and loves Sci-Fi, murder mysteries, zombies and the zombie apocalypse, an MD thrillers, he'd be irresistible! =-D

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Just to add to my previous post, I can't say that I have ever been intimidated by intellect and usually enjoy talking to someone who is intelligent but if someone uses their intellect to come across as superior than that's another thing entirely. That wouldn't intimidate me it would just make me think you're a douchebag. No coming back from there. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  to this post: https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Out-of-my-league-53437 I wasn't asking why YOU are intimidated by intelligence, rather, why some find intelligence intimidating. I'm interested to hear why those who do, are.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I don't find intelligence intimidating ... I find the arrogance that's associated with some 'intelligent' people as infuriating and I feel the need to intimidate them ;) There's 7 ways to be smart, book smart is just one way. I'm more intimidated by 'life smart' people, because they have experiences that have shaped them in one way or another, positively or negatively. Those experiences can never be learnt ... give me that any day :) Mary xx

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I can tell you is intelligent ' cos you wear specs:)...saying you are intelligent is one thing ,saying you are very intelligent is another thing altogether. It actually IMO shows a lack of emotional intelligence ,perhaps this is what some women pick up on. Who doesn't love a fine mind,but knowing heaps of information as others have said,is only one kind of intelligence. So don't put the black cat in the fridge,put it in the box instead :)Q

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  is not intimidating to me. The people that commenting probably are very intelligent themselves but don't give themselves enough credit. What one person appears to be may not be what it seems. Go into your fear and find out. You might just be surprised 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Some highly intelligent people, and no, not I.Q. when we're talking superior intelligence, I know some, they can appear arrogant, but it's just their way. They do have a coldness to them, they distance themselves from regular, average intelligence people, though connecting with the occasional person of lower intelligence, that person will always be a bit on the outer, talking long term friendships here and I've been assessing this for years 😉 What I mean is, they naturally connect with like minds, and why shouldn't they? In answer to the op's question, no I'm not intimidated, can be a huge turn on, but some people who lack, like Mary said, 'life' education are, for me at least, let's say less than appealing 😉 so a mix of both, or I'll take the life educated any day. Disclaimer: No animals were hurt in the making of this post, no reference to the op or anyone on this forum, and not revealing exactly what I mean, public forum, certain people might be offended lol 😇 there think I have everything covered, now I'm going to make a drink 😀

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'cassed' to this post: https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Out-of-my-league-53437 I wasn't asking why YOU are intimidated by intelligence, rather, why some find intelligence intimidating. I'm interested to hear why those who do, are. Maybe I'm stupid but your question doesn't quite cut the mustard.We can only answer with our own why's. We can't answer for other people's why's.Maybe reason enough that I'm feeling intimidated. Therefore my question actually answers the question but in a non intelligent method of intelligence in regard to the intimidated aspect of overtly intelligent people who wish to know such things without actually being intimidated by those that feel intimidated in the pursuit of everything intelligent.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  but to form a generalised question as you have from one comment posted on another forum is drawing a pretty long bow. I think it's worth considering the possibility that you're confusing intellect with nobbishness and intimidated with annoyed. Oh, and a small thing, but if you're going to boast of your high level of intelligence in your profile you might like to make sure you spell "conscious" correctly in the next sentence.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ....you're referring to my comment? Quoting 'cassed' to this post: https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Out-of-my-league-53437 I wasn't asking why YOU are intimidated by intelligence, rather, why some find intelligence intimidating. I'm interested to hear why those who do, are. I agree almost word for word with what Summer wrote - except for the genius part! I will add though I'm not intimidated by people who say they are intelligent, it's more that I perceive they are highly intelligent based on how they write their profile, or from a message, or from conversation. And I'm not necessarily talking about IQ, intelligence takes many forms. It's not their perception of their own intelligence, it's my perception of it. Even though I can find it intimidating, I also find it very attractive. I have personal reasons for feeling this way which I don't feel inclined to share.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I've found that people who say others are intimidated by their intelligence are more likely putting people off with their arrogance and/or lack of social skills. I'm fairly intelligent. I can still hold a conversation with people from all walks of life and can always find something interesting about them. A truck driver can be more interesting and intelligent than an I'm attracted to intellect but not when that's the only thing they can offer. Wit, charm and a certain curiosity beyond their world are also essential. I'm usually thinking - no, it's not your intellect, it's your arrogance about it. It makes you seem really insecure which is a turn off. . It's usually the brains truster bleating about how women are intimidated by his intellect/success etc. Women say this kind of thing too. Some people want to be smartest in the room - I don't but some do.

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  One could turn that all around and ask why so many men become intimidated by intellectual women. Bear in mind that for generations women got paid a lot less than men, and generally in many instances still do. And this was dictated by men was it not ? Why ? So that they could retain power? And so along comes an intelligent strong woman, who earns a high salary ....and how do her male peers react ? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Thought we weren't up to it and deleted himself

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I've met him in person and he's a nice guy. I'm not intimidated and he is quite shy, but clever. Been through more than what most people would have IMO. I wish people wouldn't be so hard on new people in forums, just because they are new and are strangers. It's like they have to pass a test and a certain standard haha :P So I don't think there was anything wrong with his post or curiosity. I kinda know which comment he was referring to and I see why he asked that question. Be kind always :) x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Intimidation comes from a lack of confidence/courage as far as I have experienced and is not gender-based, rather it's personality-based - as @DC mentioned above. Some feel they need to match the intelligence in that(those) topic(s)...? However, "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness" ~ Oscar Wilde ^ which to me means that those who are more intelligent and wiser, coupled with patience will show you what they know and would love you to be like them and if you submit, there would be no greater compliment than for you to follow in their footsteps and be a good partner/student. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'FlyGirlC' I've met him in person and he's a nice guy. I'm not intimidated and he is quite shy, but clever. Been through more than what most people would have IMO. I wish people wouldn't be so hard on new people in forums, just because they are new and are strangers. It's like they have to pass a test and a certain standard haha :P So I don't think there was anything wrong with his post or curiosity. I kinda know which comment he was referring to and I see why he asked that question. Be kind always :) x - Posted from rhpmobile Have posts been deleted? From what I can see of the comments above, nobody was being hard on the OP. Sometimes it's easy to misread someone's comment and take it personally, I have seen that happen a few times in the forums. But it's easily cleared up. I can also see why he posted the question and nothing wrong with asking. It's a shame he didn't stick around...he may have got the answer he was seeking.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  If he'd asked "why do some people find intellect intimidating", rather than specifying "women", it might have seemed less like he was bearing a grudge and trying to big note himself at the same time. And he did say he was interested in the responses. Well, those were the responses.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  what you're saying @Rick_Blaine However the comment that he would've read was written by a female and being a straight male, he was wondering from his POV. Then it all becomes so presumably gender-based when it was actually just his curiosity. TBH, the people intimidated by intelligence would probably not comment on this thread. That's like delving into an insecurity that they do not wish to share. I would be surprised if any that admit this would come forward and say why they are. Intimidation is not always well understood by the person that classifies themselves as a victim of such. You are correct that not everyone is able to explain themselves clearly. Should that be something you hold against someone? I just had a chat to my nephew about understanding his own physical chest pains from anxiety. So very in deep and meaningful state ATM... soz. I want him to thrive. I'm not gonna shoot him down because he can't explain himself but had the courage to tell someone...it honestly took 2 years of planting seeds for me to see improvement and more openness from him, slowly reverse the damage. But anyway I have gone on a tangent.

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