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Why do some women have such ordinary profiles?

September 23 2010

First, I'm sure many men's profiles are poor too, but I'm only going with what I know here. Having read my fair share (yes, I do read them), I'm sure that I've passed up the opportunity to message some really great women because quite frankly, I can't think of anything to say to them. If you don't divulge anything about your interests or hobbies, where can I start? By telling you about myself? That sounds as though my focus is on me, not us.I pride myself on trying to send interesting and witty messages if for no other reason than I think it might make me stand out from the crowd, but you've got to give me a couple of hooks to get things started. I firmly believe that if you invest in the time to create a decent profile, you'll get a better quality of messages, saving you time and ensuring that you don't miss someone you might really click with. If you do have a good profile and you still get crass messages of the "hey baby - wanna root" variety, you can at least assume that the guy has nothing to say for himself and be confident about ignoring him. The other thing is that a well-written (interesting, spell-checked) profile is really sexy. One in particular comes to mind - a very attractive young uni student with two unrevealing pictures, but a really fun profile. Eloquent, funny, interesting - she stays on my hot list even though she's interstate.While I'm on the topic, is it just me, or is the "My Redhot Fantasy" the most colossal waste of space in a profile?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    i do this because i dont have enough brain and humour to write out an intelligent profile im sorry...but hey if you wanna help me write out a good one then just let me know roxxy...would love the help

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Yes there are many men with equally bad profiles. I think it is generally hard for people to write about themselves. They sit there thinking...thinking...thinking and comeup with zip. Yes it is difficult to know if you want to respond or not, especially if there is no pics at all and all the information is ask me, ask me, ask me. I dont want to have to ask, I need to know a little first in order to decide if I want to ask or not. Yes, my red hot fantasy is a colossal waste of time and space. fionabee

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  • Tart_Du_Jour

    Tart_Du_Jour

    14 years ago

    But do most people care about your interests or hobbies outside of the bedroom on this site? Are they really relavent on how you market yourself here? Sure it's nice if we have some things in common before I meet someone but a person's love of coin collecting or badminton isn't really going to push me over the line.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    What about stamp collecting baise...am I in with a shot? ;-)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Baise_Moi'But do most people care about your interests or hobbies outside of the bedroom on this site? Are they really relavent on how you market yourself here? Sure it's nice if we have some things in common before I meet someone but a person's love of coin collecting or badminton isn't really going to push me over the line. Ah, no, maybe those interests wont push you over the line. But for many, me included, this site is about the friendship first. Any sex is a bonus and I would hope that the friendship remains if we are no longer intimate. I want to get to know a person (at least a little) before leaping into bed with them and getting to know someone does actually involve conversation. If you are one who just goes straight to the sex part and has no interest in anything else, all well and good, just look at the cock shots. I am not interested in one night stands. I like to meet my friends on regular basis and therefore there must be some common ground and mutual spark. Reading a profile is a little akin to reading a dust jacket of a book. Although the dust jacket can contain less than the truth, it gives an indication of what may be expected. It should surely be enough to spark an interest to delve in and read a few lines before deciding whether or not to read the book. Cheers Fionabee

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    ... it's more that you give me something to run with. If you tell me me you're into coin collecting, I might ask whether your fascination with head and tail extends into other aspects of your life. Badminton? I could point out that I'm the current president of the NSW NBA (Nude Badminton Association) and invite you to join. I agree that common interests won't push you over the line, but maybe an interesting and humorous message might? Of course, you may just think I'm a dullard and delete my message anyway, but wouldn't you at least rather see somebody take a shot at making you laugh than reading endless messages where the guy couldn't be bothered putting in any effort?By the way, your profile provides plenty to go on, as does your's fionabee. TassieRose... well, your's certainly achieves what you intend it to, unless you take tongue in cheek to a new level...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have no idea whether my profile is good or not...but as so few men actually read them...i consider it a moot point!hahahhaha...joking....kinda.I have simply written what Im looking for...JMO...BJxxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    My profile's not too crash hot, and I haven't posted heaps of pics, but I figure that 1. there's no point putting heaps of information when I'm sure "aesthetics" form the majority of the first impression, and 2. if too much information is divulged, then what would we talk about now that you know me so well!!but yeah I agree, there is a fairly large percentage of ladyfiles with absolutely nada on there about them

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    My opinion is that different profiles will appeal to different people. Seems like most of the people who have responded here appreciate a decent, well-written profile that gives enough information to spark an interest. I also think that the poorly written ones make it easier to sort the wheat from the chaff, so to speak.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    i'm writing here almost completely off-topic to say: a) hi to Luxe_Laces - because i always appreciate seeing another corseted geekgirl (but i'm one of those freeloaders who can't message) :) and b) i'm always up for nude badminton. if only i'd known there was an Association. now back to your usual programming...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'MsValkyrie' i'm writing here almost completely off-topic to say: a) hi to Luxe_Laces - because i always appreciate seeing another corseted geekgirl (but i'm one of those freeloaders who can't message) :) and b) i'm always up for nude badminton. if only i'd known there was an Association. now back to your usual programming... You are able to message to Platinum member though ;)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Jeez Snow what are you doing? I thought we (we as in all males on RHP) didn't bother reading profiles and just randomly flirted and messaged everything with a heartbeat and a vagina? You're going to raise the expectation from the ladies suggesting one of us can read FFS, NOW THEY KNOW!!!! lol.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Yeah, I always find that a huge majority of male profiles I read are something along the lines of :"HI I have made this auto generated profile to score some hot sex with random chicks"Which is fine if that's what you're after, but geeze... if you have don't have a picture up of your face it's really not going to attract much attention. Well at least from anyone intelligent! (IMO)I don't read a lot of female profiles, but the ones I have read all appear to, state who they are and what they want / looking for. Guys, 10 points for having a humorous profile, a nice face pic, no visible cock pics (i like surprises)! Also, 10 points for the sending me messages that are not a friken template! I got one message from a guy that was clearly a template saying you have a really nice smile..... blah blah blah... UM... can you see my face? Have you even taken the time to read my profile? NO! *shakes fist*! annoyed,Rainbow

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting Ruggedly_Rugged You're going to raise the expectation from the ladies suggesting one of us can read FFS, NOW THEY KNOW!!!! lol.Would it help if we wrote slower

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have often been swayed by hearing about someones passion or hobby. As an example, I viewed a profile where the woman was a photographer and she said that creativity keeps her on her toes. Really nice thing to hear as I feel that creativity can translate to conversation and then other, more physically expressive areas. So no, it is not about having a shared coin collecting hobby but about finding someone you can relate to. Snowshoes is also right, given more relevant info, it is much easier to respond with an individualised reply. You say "I wanna fuck" and you get a "look at my big cock" reply...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    OK. Let's be positive about this and share our experiences of well-written profiles. They don't have to include hobbies but enough hooks and personality info to help you mentally puncture that person. I really liked the following profiles: Brownbrowneyes Magenta_mittens Lotus123 All three profiles were interesting and have lead to great conversations, an enjoyable start whether they develop further physically or end up as a great friendship. Who knows?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I don't want to mentally 'puncture' someone, as my last post suggests, that would be very cruel ;) Rather, I would take a great mental picture. What an idiot...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'funandmischief' I don't want to mentally 'puncture' someone, as my last post suggests, that would be very cruel ;) Rather, I would take a great mental picture. What an idiot... Thanks for clarifying that! For a minute there, I thought it was some kind of hyper-macho euphemism for having sex. A Freudian slip perhaps? Have fun!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'funandmischief' I really liked the following profiles: Brownbrowneyes Magenta_mittens Lotus123 All three profiles were interesting and have lead to great conversations, an enjoyable start whether they develop further physically or end up as a great friendship. Who knows? Thanks for the shout out

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Hey Brownbrowneyes, Not an attempt to gain favour (well, maybe a bit...) but anyone who looks at your profile would realise that you have a sense of humour and you put great care into your profile. Your fake job description had me cracking up and jumping at the opportunity to apply for a position. Sure a good picture helps but no fun without a brain to match ;) I wish others would take the same care and give their profiles some thought. Cx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Agree wholeheartedly funandmischief, Brownbrowneyes profile is most definitely one of the most interesting and well written profiles getting around! I guess there are many guys here that dont actually read the profiles, but there are a few of us that do...its disappointing that so many ladies only use pics plus a few standard lines. Perhaps we should encourage the RHP community to make the first week of November "JAZZ UP YOUR PROFILE WEEK"! Speaking of which...probably should go and do mine... ;) *inspired by brownbronweyes*

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'racerboy9' *inspired by brownbronweyes* You're both very sweet. We're on here to find fun, why not have fun during the search? Writing a profile that's a bit silly, crazy or tongue-in-cheek has to be more fun than a long list of "No single guys", "No time wasters", "No flirts", etc. But it's all very individual, not everyone has fun with language so I can well understand why many people just want to express themselves clearly and simply.To the pursuit of pleasure, my friends, whatever form that takes (so long as it's ethical and legal ;) )

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Oh your profile is wonderful! you know what you want and wont take any crap theres nothing wrong with that at all :)

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