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Why don't people reply to messages?

July 09 2016

Is it because its a sex site or that people have lost the common courtesy of a reply when someone takes the time to send a message. Ok I can understand if you get one that contains, lets fuck, want to fuck, ect, ect and there has been no effort involved. I am curious on peoples views/thoughts on this.

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  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    This has been asked before, in many threads. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    If you say that you are sane,you probably ain't 😈 Q

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    They will be asking why dont people reply to my "why dont reply to my messages" thread......... I know i wont reply to messages to people that have no photo displayed. Its often too hard to extract some visuals from some guys. Secret squirrel stuff. I could go on and on......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...but rather what you said? Hell, not only do I get replies to every message I send out nearly immediately, most of them follow up with at least one or two flirts if I don't answer right away. What I say is my secret...although it does involve a Titanium Master Card.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Dont expect everyone to reply to every message. If I did I wouldnt have time to actually meet anyone, or even hold a day job. I can say that those with positive profiles, clear pictures that make me curious to see more and a message that isnt a page long, or two words short will draw me in. Also if its shows in your message you clearly haven't taken the time to read my profile, Im definitely not going to take the time to reply. Dont forget, you are one of a zillion guys on here, many of who send generic messages just hoping to score, and many others just chasing some naughty pics to wank to. If you want real people, you have to be realistic and keep it real yourself. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Eiliethiya

    Eiliethiya

    8 years ago

    I always reply if it looks like someone took the time to write me a message (even a short one), but I don't bother if all they've written is "Hi", "hey sexy" or "wanna fuck"...what's the point?

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Thats not quite right. You messaged my couples profile, you messaged my gf of the time. And you never got replies to those messages. Although, you never mentioned your mastercard at the time. Mmmm. Titanium nastercard. Maybe you can buy me after all. Annie.xxxxx. Ps. Be well😇

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    8 years ago

    Then again I do try to engage and 99.9% of the time the men who message are just out for instant fucking confirmation and I don't do that. HOWEVER the men who are engaged become good friends if nothing more and learn how to use the site properly. And how many times do we have to say template messages like the men who send them wreak! 🤔👎🏼

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    When it is specifically stated on our profile no single men, and they send us mails.... why should we replying.. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I do recall something about your former GF although not sure about a couples profile? Oh well... I've already confessed once to occasionally having waaaaay to much Scotch before sitting down at the 'puter. Easy to spot... my teeping gooes all to hell! There's nothing wronged wifh an eye-upenerer. Later..... Time stamped at 10:09 a.m.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's because someone hasn't read our profile, doesn't match our criteria yet sends a message anyway! Whether it's this profile or my other one, it's clear what I am after, yet we get messages from people who don't 'meet our seeking criteria'. Respectful messaging is a two way street for me :) I also like a well written, well thought out profile and yours is too negative and a little too aggressive for me. Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    No reply is a reply. Enough said but I do reply to abusive messages, just to point out to them how sad and pathetic they are at being keyboard warriors who feel the need to write uninformed messages, who feel the need to be superior when their entire vocab consists of words like "fuck" and "asshole" their mothers must be so proud

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    They don't feel compelled to reply.... Reasons as to why they don't feel compelled are subjective, but usually it's for the reasons that have been stated above..... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    We are lazy cunts. Happy now. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    I just spat out my coffee. 😁 I love your raw honesty. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hey that's not fair... I don't think a one of you lovely ladies is ''lazy''. ... be well!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Do not choke on the biscotti....lol

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Thats not quite right. You messaged my couples profile, you messaged my gf of the time. And you never got replies to those messages. Although, you never mentioned your mastercard at the time. Mmmm. Titanium nastercard. Maybe you can buy me after all. Annie.xxxxx. Ps. Be well😇 Are there any business transactions going on here? Dear me... Sounds sus and quite a turn off. Any man who flashes his wealth and material possesions to buy my attention or affection says more about them not having anything else to offer me personality wise that one has to resort to 'bribes' or inducements. Not all that glitters is gold (or titanium).

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    Seriously is that even a real question. Id hope you're just taking the piss Lily as it seems the rest was tongue in cheek. IMO. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Maybe tounge in cheek, maybe too many bourbons. But definitely some bullshit with the claim of message success rate. Dearie me........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' This has been asked before, in many threads. - Posted from rhpmobile This has been said before... on many threads. Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Laziness?Stupidity?Ignorance?Entitlement?Inconsideration? I don't think it is a thing only to do with the site. It seems to be the state of the online world that people can ignore invitations sent to them these days. Or put themselves down for events and not turn up. An answer that's a bit different hopefully. ;-) Peachy

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' Seriously is that even a real question. Id hope you're just taking the piss Lily as it seems the rest was tongue in cheek. IMO. - Posted from rhpmobilebloody hell Inspirit! Of course,.,. Geez.. If you can't see that, there is no point explaining...

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    Sorry. Maybe you could poke your tongue out... 😜😜😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' Sorry. Maybe you could poke your tongue out... 😜😜😜 - Posted from rhpmobile Ok... just for you....

  • Katkat

    Katkat

    8 years ago

    They're not interested. Love your tattoo Annie. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Why do they need to reply? I get that it's common courtesy but, 9 times out of 10, when women reply with a simple "thank you but I don't think we're suited to each other" another message come back with an argument of how we should give them a go or some times a really nasty comment comes back. Look at it this way: if you send a message and the recipient looks at your profile and is interested in what she sees, she'll reply. If she doesn't reply, then be thankful that she's not wasting your time.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...my very first post on this thread was a joke! Time to buy a case of ''Get a sense of humour'' and pass them 'round as I go! 100% strike rate... pfftt not even half that would do!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Too busy reading forum topics about not replying to messages... to reply to my messages.... 😆

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' ...my very first post on this thread was a joke! Time to buy a case of ''Get a sense of humour'' and pass them 'round as I go! 100% strike rate... pfftt not even half that would do! Suggest you drink a few cases yourself.You'd be happy with...........mmmmm..........1% be well

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    "FYI as anyone normal would know..." Everyone knows I'm not normal Love you always, Annie xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    But even a rply sayin there not interested would be nic - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Who knew! LG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Leo_girl' Who knew! ...there is a way you can find out?

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    That's hilarious! 😁 Now there's a reason I do not reply, I'm always out having coffee and biscotti. Pssst, it's charged to Titanium Card ;) Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    You mean we have to reply to every single message? Even the ones that don't fit your cryteria? I didn't see that in the sign up contract.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    It's in the small fine print, the Titanium Card membership. 😉 I crossed mine out, when I signed up. I only charge coffee and biscotti on mine. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...you promised NEVER to use the Titanium card numbers for non-essentials! The mini-trampoline and trapeze bar for your playroom were fine but dang...make ya' own coffee and biscotti! ... or invite me over to play circus!

  • MasterBilly

    MasterBilly

    8 years ago

    Why does people order a pizza and don't pick it up? Dreamers

  • VVELICIOUS

    VVELICIOUS

    8 years ago

    We thought it was just us.We've only been on here a couple of months.We've tried messaging loads of people but have had almost zero responses.A couple of responses in this last few days but I am away to work now for a couple of weeks. Damn it!!Hopefully those people understand and accept our raincheck for a couple of weeks.Maybe we need to improve our profile?I suppose we just hang in there.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Sometimes we're busy doing things in life that don't involve RHP and we don't even think to log on and check if total strangers want to have sex with us. Selfish I know.Mr D

  • Supernova

    Supernova

    8 years ago

    Come on, seriously? The reason hot guys like me don't respond to all you desperado women, is because I have standards, and I want someone who understand and reads my profile, and writes a message that touches me and speaks to my very soul. It would honestly take me all day, every day, to reply to all messages...and I have a life and a job and stuff, so come on! Having 100s of msgs a day from women begging to 'Suck me' 'Fuck me' and 'Tie me to a chair and gag me' is tiring and very upsetting. Once I got a message from a tall, busty blonde describing how she wanted to explore every inch of my body and smother my face in her enormous boobs and.....you don't wanna know the rest. I was traumatized.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    LMFAO

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Haha love it. And thats more than likely exactly how us whining single women sound when we complain about recieving attention on here. ( and yes, Im one of them) I will probably look back when Im 80 and think, "fuck I was a lucky bitch back in 2016. My milkshake brought all the boys to my yard... ". Lol

  • Katkat

    Katkat

    8 years ago

    That's hilarious 😂😆😂 well you must be like eenie meenie minie mo which one am I gonna do first. Now you know the feeling people just can't be bothered to reply sometimes you're just not in the mood. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    Love it! That's Gold! 😂 I've heard it does happen. Just wait till it happens in real life. I was out the other week with a male friend, on his way back from the loo (walking through crowd), this woman grabbed his balls, came right up to his face and said "I want to suck you off" He came up to me in shock horror, shaking and said "I've just been violated by a woman". He was so traumatized. He got them sucked later that night, but not from her. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    Maybe write a forum up? :) Sorry OP for going off topic. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    i some time do not relpy to message i get and when i do say no thank you i get a sick message back so it easy to not say any think

  • lookintoplay_qld

    lookintoplay_qld

    8 years ago

    how many times do we get messages from people that don't read your profile and not what your after why should we reply?

  • lookintoplay_qld

    lookintoplay_qld

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Hotstepper85' Come on, seriously? The reason hot guys like me don't respond to all you desperado women, is because I have standards, and I want someone who understand and reads my profile, and writes a message that touches me and speaks to my very soul. It would honestly take me all day, every day, to reply to all messages...and I have a life and a job and stuff, so come on! Having 100s of msgs a day from women begging to 'Suck me' 'Fuck me' and 'Tie me to a chair and gag me' is tiring and very upsetting. Once I got a message from a tall, busty blonde describing how she wanted to explore every inch of my body and smother my face in her enormous boobs and.....you don't wanna know the rest. I was traumatized. I cant believe you posted that I think you are very vain I no people we no who play wouldn't give you time of the day with you attitude

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    I'm only here for the forums and quite honestly I very rarely go into my messages, maybe once very couple of months. So if I don't reply it's because I haven't opened them. 💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    People do not reply as they are judge and jury. To us it is to meet and see how it goes. If there is fun at the end of the meet that is good. Also people need to refine the ages they are looking for. As we have found couple saying they are looking for couple from the ages of 40 to 99. Then we reply to them and they tell us that one of us are too old. We join this site together as a couple not single play meets. To us sex is not the only thing we want out of this site. We would friendship as well

  • Newday10

    Newday10

    8 years ago

    Haha Your a Naughty girl. Shells

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Typically female replies - who think they are god's gift cause they have a vag. I pass off plenty who send me a 4 word mssg "can I see your PG" without even sharing their. Well my response is generally F-off or simply no reply so it works both ways. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • westozyboy

    westozyboy

    8 years ago

    Seeking: Man,Woman,Couple,Groups *** "MAN" being a selected search you have entered! The analytic processes pick this up and tell a MAN that you are seeking them.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'lookintoplay_qld' Quoting 'Hotstepper85'Come on, seriously? The reason hot guys like me don't respond to all you desperado women, is because I have standards, and I want someone who understand and reads my profile, and writes a message that touches me and speaks to my very soul. It would honestly take me all day, every day, to reply to all messages...and I have a life and a job and stuff, so come on! Having 100s of msgs a day from women begging to 'Suck me' 'Fuck me' and 'Tie me to a chair and gag me' is tiring and very upsetting. Once I got a message from a tall, busty blonde describing how she wanted to explore every inch of my body and smother my face in her enormous boobs and.....you don't wanna know the rest. I was traumatized. I cant believe you posted that I think you are very vain I no people we no who play wouldn't give you time of the day with you attitude Hot was being sarcastic. You missed the point. Brilliant really. Well played Hot.!!!

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    8 years ago

    There are people like me who are taking a break from seeking company, and so I do not appreciate, nor do I find it flattering at all, when receiving flirts and messages that are inviting for a hookup! I do make that very clear in my profile and there is literally nothing exciting to read, or see, in my current profile. However, I still receive occasional flirts and messages from men whom either just do so to annoy me, or don't get passed my photo and just hit the flirt/message button hoping to get a response. Whichever reason they hold, it is none of my business to care and no courtesy will be shown, as they have disrespected my wishes to be left alone and it is indeed their choice to choose to waste their own time! 😋 However, having said the above, I do not imply that you are one of those people. Indeed, I am merely answering your question for "why don't people reply to messages?" 😊 and above is my reason for not replying to messages in my current status. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    Well played. Totally get it. I mean Im so HOT too. 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Sometimes we don't read the profile properly,secondly depending on our profile, our pic's,just go with the flow and chill mate and a positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Our absolute favourite type of people are the ones that send you the flirt "Youre exactly what Im looking for. Please message me, Im keen.". So you send them a nice message (not just a one liner or a "Hi"), they read it and then you never hear back from them...

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'CucknShells' Once I got a message from a tall, busty blonde describing how she wanted to explore every inch of my body and smother my face in her enormous boobs and.....you don't wanna know the rest. I was traumatized. Sorry about that. I will be more mindful of the messages I send in the future. Shells. Well done !!! Tall

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Love it! That's Gold! 😂 I've heard it does happen. Just wait till it happens in real life. I was out the other week with a male friend, on his way back from the loo (walking through crowd), this woman grabbed his balls, came right up to his face and said "I want to suck you off" He came up to me in shock horror, shaking and said "I've just been violated by a woman". He was so traumatized. He got them sucked later that night, but not from her. Ms Foxy Foxxxy, care to pass on where this occurred - I need to be violated like that too....Tall

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    A little too much of the serious sauce bottle on the day ???Hotstepper was obviously just having a dig from the other side of the coin. Chilax

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't know, Perhaps I'm just old fashioned! I can understand if you are getting bombarded with messages let right and centre, but if someone does spend the time in reading your profile and then takes the time to craft more than a one or two word sentence and it isn't crass or derogatory in any way well then, Honestly it really doesn't take much to reply with a "no, Thankyou, I'm not interested!" Or "hello, Thankyou for your message, tell me more... Or what ever.... I think there is still a place for manners, online and recognise that there is a human being on the other end of the computer, tablet, iPhone searching for someone, something just like you are ( they have feeling, emotions, wants and needs just like you!).... I think if we treated each other with respect and common courtesy ( including doing so online) the world would be a better place and a happier one!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Cougar_N_Bear' Our absolute favourite type of people are the ones that send you the flirt "Youre exactly what Im looking for. Please message me, Im keen.". are the ones who send that flirt, then you see that they're paid up members. Yeah nah

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Narangba46' I think if we treated each other with respect and common courtesy ( including doing so online) the world would be a better place and a happier one! but as stated by a few women and couples on this thread and in all the previous threads on this topic, responding courteously often just results in an abusive reply back. Unfortunately human beings are way too complex for niceness and courtesy to be the panacea for a happier world. Of course that's not to say that we shouldn't still be nice and courteous when we can, but in some situations when weighing up the options people will take the one that doesn't get them called a bunch of derogatory names.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    1. Doesn't match your criteria 2. Send generic message .... Twice with the same spelling mistakes 3. Says wanna fuck? Yeah this is a hook up site but we are still civilized humans. 4. No photo but asks me for one 5. One of many many emails I get a day - Posted from rhpmobile

  • TheGentleTouch69

    TheGentleTouch69

    8 years ago

    I have found that the response varies depending on where you are. I travel a lot for work and I have noticed that the RHPers in WA are pretty good in replying to flirts and messages and because of that I have met some great people and made some good friends. Singles and couples on the East Coast don't seem to respond as much, I am not sure why this is. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' This has been asked before, in many threads. - Posted from rhpmobile Riding a Dead Horse The tribal wisdom of the Dakota Indians, passed on from generation to generation, says that when you discover that you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount. In modern education and government, however, a whole range of far more advanced strategies are often employed, such as: 1. Buying a stronger whip. 2. Changing riders. 3. Threatening the horse with termination. 4. Appointing a committee to study the horse. 5. Visiting other sites to see how others ride dead horses. 6. Lowering the standards so that dead horses can be included. 7. Re-classifying the dead horse as "living, impaired". 8. Hiring outside contractors to ride the dead horse. 9. Harnessing several dead horses together to increase the speed. 10. Attempting to mount multiple dead horses in hopes that one of them will spring to life. 11. Providing additional funding and/or training to increase the dead horse's performance. 12. Doing a productivity study to see if lighter riders would improve the dead horse's performance. 13. Declaring that as the dead horse does not have to be fed, it is less costly, carries lower overhead, and therefore contributes substantially more to the bottom line of the economy than do some other horses. 14. Re-writing the expected performance requirements for all horses. 15. Promoting the dead horse to a supervisory position.

  • soretongue

    soretongue

    8 years ago

    When viewing profiles (in online version), if it doesn't have orange dot n then last on eg today, yesterday, this week in the top right corner. Is it safe to assume that they no longer use their account and haven't closed the profile? or possibly changed username? Thanks in advance

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'soretongue' When viewing profiles (in online version), if it doesn't have orange dot n then last on eg today, yesterday, this week in the top right corner. Is it safe to assume that they no longer use their account and haven't closed the profile? or possibly changed username? Thanks in advance I take it as read that the user has not appeared for a considerable period, although I don't know what time frame RHP uses to determine that. Tall

  • Lens_Addiction

    Lens_Addiction

    8 years ago

    Mrs here, I try to respond to all those that take the time to message us, however, there comes a point when it's plain to see those that messaged us did not take the time to read the profile they are messaging or what we have specified we are looking for. They just see the pretty picture.... Now I leave those up to Mr to respond to however/if he sees fit. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ha ha ha............then you woke up.........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't reply to all msges because of the number of times I've been abused for merely saying "no thanks" - instead of doing something about it, admin suggested to not reply to men I'm not interested in - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    OP Sweet pea, you have it all wrong, what help could it possibly be to know why people don't reply. The question should be. Why do people reply?

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    35yo Melbourne man sent 3 messages this afternoon. Im out doing chores n kids stuff. mop first message sent at 1:40 'hi. What's up' I haven't had time to reply as out and about. Second message sent at 2:30: 'so why no reply. You a secret agent? ' Dear me... I replied a polite 'no thanks I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, good luck'. 3rd message received 3:00pm: 'fuck off. You're not my type anyway. You are a transvestite lady boy' Lol. that's new. an idiot but at least his delusional insult was amusing. Water off a duck's back. 😁

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I always reply - Posted from rhpmobile

  • LeMerovingien

    LeMerovingien

    8 years ago

    So he expects a reply yet does that when rejected???? What kind of person thinks like that... I wonder if he's got that saved as a template reply?

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    I know. What can you do? Nyet. But this is not the worst message /response I have received. I'm collecting them for amusement for a rainy day. I have come to accept there are as many or more morons online as in real life. 😁 Hence it is easier and less stressful for us women not to reply to messages. We don't get abused that way when we don't put. Can you men blame us for non response? 😲