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Why don't women reply to flirts or messages.
February 11 2010
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Bubbaj
15 years ago
you can get a crapload of flirts and its hard to reply to all unless u do the all tick thing and send the same reply...most of the time...flirts are a waste but do find that msging should b replied to...they wasted their msgs for ya so you should say something back
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RHP User
15 years ago
I answer everyone except ppl who continue to send flirts even after I've sent thanks but not thanks... My biggest bug bear though is recieving flirts/messages from ppl who CLEARLY have not read our profile stating "you are just what I'm looking for" and are not compatable with us. Maybe you just need to make doubly sure that the people you are sending flirts to are seeking the same eg...respect age ranges (this is a big one) and location, really what is the point of flirting to someone in a different state? Hope all that is not too obvious, just my opinion is all good luck Mrs Sassy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Lusty, you are obviously new here. Simple fact mate. You are a single guy on a site that has so many single guys and not enough single females. In fact there aren't enough single females for all the females that are looking for single females, then there are the couples as well and need I go on. It probably doesn't help your case that you are in your 60's but I would say if you are messaging others in their 60's then you should be getting some responses. Here's a couple of other things to check.1. Are they going to be interested. If you are flirting with a woman that is after someone up to age 35 then you aren't going to get a response. You may get blocked though. 2. Are they looking for a single guy? Half or more of the couples and female profiles that have man in their seeking actually are only after a couple and haven't differentiated that man means single. This is usually made obvious reading their profile.3. Have they been online recently. Any profile that has not been online in a month is gone. Don't bother contacting them.4. Common curtesy does not exist here. This is a fantasy world. Women in partcular will get loads of flirts and messages since they are in low supply. Now there are some good ones but for the most part they will just pick and choose what to reply to. If you aren't perfect for what they are after at the time you aren't gonna hear from them.Good luck with it and don't be thinking you are alone. I have over 300 messages and 650 flirts that have not been responded to! I can't explain why it's so bad as I'm a pretty good catch. So expect a response rate of around 1 in 10. Unfortunately that is still generally a 'sorry not interested' response.
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2more4fun
15 years ago
I think it can be a struggle for a lot of single guys on here but couples are just as affected by the lack of response. A couple mentioned in a post recently that they in fact stopped responding to people as they wanted to concentrate on those they had already been in touch with but neglected to let the rest of RHP know lol Unfortunately, that's how it is. Ladies in particular have to play catch-ups on here and sometimes they simply don't or can't, especially if they have got a guy or two on their speed-dial already. We women can only service so many people so often lolIt's a numbers game at times and at other times it's all about luck and good timing. You have to keep in mind that even if you message 5 different women a day, there are heaps of men who can message way more people than you. By the time you get around to messaging a particular person, other guys have well and truly been in touch and the lucky lady has a good pool of guys to choose from.Having said that, if the existing pool fails to reap rewards for the lady, and you happen to message her when she's cleared her inbox, hey presto! The main thing is to keep your profile as attractive as possible and don't get too disheartened. Participate in other areas of RHP and get your personality known. It seems to work well for a lot of guys :P
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2more4fun
15 years ago
Oh!! I hadn't noticed before posting but get rid of:"I just want a dirty little girl any age"That's just gross! It also contradicts your preferred age bracket of 50 - 65. I don't see women of this age being receptive to this reference and if you're indeed flirting with women who are under 35, it's NO WONDER they don't reply... A bit creepy...
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RHP User
15 years ago
we don't have to.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xJoannax' we don't have to. Exactly!
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RHP User
15 years ago
is blowing in the wind...ahh...sorry, was just listening to simon and garfunkle...if ya don't get a reply, especially if ya can see that they have read ya message...it means they are not interested...so, then ya just gotta say...NEXT!...and move on...And Joanna and shinyshiny summed it up very succinctly...they get so much, they can pick and choose...and 2more4fun gives sage advice...be more active in the forums, i don't know, maybe try the chat rooms even...if ya want something from here...ya gotta go get it!!...cheers and have heaps of funjose...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi lusty65..I look at it this way like some women i do stipulate what we are / not seeking.and i even state i will not reply if we don't match what we are seeking.so please don't take offence.and if people havent takenthe time to read my profile thats not my fault..it's never a pleasent thing to say thanks but no thankx..hence my priorappologies...some women have been abused for saying thankx but no thankx..who needs that!so i guess for most it's your damned if do and damned if you don't reply.Plus most of the guys profile don't say squat about who they are!! and very little in other areas..only the sex bitsare mentioned or there's no face pic.Wish you well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh yeah - and try not to be too specific in your profile if you're not super fussy. I'm trying to find someone who shares my love for komodo dragons... there's heaps of goanna lovers, paeleontologists and even snake charmers contacting me, but I am yet to find someone who digs the komodo dragon (let alone someone who can teach them to perform)... I'm thinking of adjusting my standards.... I mean I'm always adjusting my crotch, so what's the harm?
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RHP User
15 years ago
They get heaps of messages so I don't blame them if they don't respond to a couple.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Jean.. I'd say stick with the mighty dragons! You should drop the commode part though that just reminds us all how bad they play. Really, they havent performed well foryears. Maybe this season. Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
you can be my bitch jean.feed my dragon bitch and grab us a beer.yeah, ok fancy dancy one will do but makesure ya hold that little finger out baby.ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaEarl
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RHP User
15 years ago
Proberly ya slack arses....:) I always reply and then it just ends up messages back and forth with the ones I am interested in meeting..Then the slackers decide 1 1/2 hours is too far away .... wtf.. why message me in the first place. stupid ego trips I reckon. derrrr.. hahahahahaa hugs hugs n more hugs sweetpetite41
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RHP User
15 years ago
it's the charming, smooth talkers that will get the girl.i have the same problem, all my friend's wives and girlfriends think i'm the world's greatest catch, yet single girls don't look twice at me.doesn't help that i experience massive retardation when it comes to talking to a girl that i'm attracted to. and introductions are the worst. i'm sure, as with you, once they get to know me they are pleasantly surprised, but you need to actually converse to do that.i'm finding it a lot easier to chat with girls on the net first, as opposed to meeting in public, as i can talk openly, without stuttering or being lost for words due to shyness over a gorgeous girl. but... your introduction needs to be welcomed..how do you introduce yourself, without sounding sleazy or gushing over their profile or pictures..?i've never picked up, or used one-liners to shmooze a girl. the girls i've been with have been work colleagues or friends of friends, so they know me first, and things roll on from there. but on here, no-one knows you, and introductions are everything.and, as everyone is saying here, it's a woman's world. they get hundreds of sleazy messages, and the ones that may seem nice at first, end up dicking them around. it's only fair that they will be very picky and defensive over the guys that contact them.like lovenlust said, 1 in 10 will reply, and it's probably not the reply you're after, but you just have to keep trying, lusty. and be nice.don't ask me WHAT to say, i don't know either, but i'm sure rampant horny advances won't be welcomed.your profile is direct and to the point. if that's what you're looking for, then that's what you're looking for. but i agree with 2more4fun, ditch the "dirty little girl"...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with Bubbaj, a msg should be replied to, I don't seem to remember you replying? No bother we prefer to meet polite , genuine ppl anyway
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting points of view on this topic, we think 2more4fun say's it best, a thick skin needed. With persistance we have had heaps of fun on the site. At the end of the day , those to busy to answer or to up themselves are the ones missing out, and whats more its costing them big time. Maybe this administrators should charge singles that don't reply to any msg's, or don't have pics up, just a thought ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think they should have a lock down system in place Where 1. all messages and flirts must be replied 2. if 1. in not complete you can't search or send anything until 1. is complete either that or make the flirts more customisable, but still run a filter on them so people can't contact people for free RHP is still a business
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well I just replied to someone whose first message 1 day ago I ignored. I gave him a polite, thanks but no thanks. I got this reply"How fucking hard was thatWhy didnt you have the courtesy to replt to the original you fuckwit.Hope you get caught out playing on the side. Another fucking pest on this siteFuck off"That is one of the reasons why I don't always reply to messages!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Daytimelover49' Well I just replied to someone whose first message 1 day ago I ignored. I gave him a polite, thanks but no thanks. I got this reply "How fucking hard was thatWhy didnt you have the courtesy to replt to the original you fuckwit.Hope you get caught out playing on the side. Another fucking pest on this siteFuck off"That is one of the reasons why I don't always reply to messages!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OOps - that's one of my templates... I must've clicked on the wrong one. It makes it look like I kinda flew off the handle there doesn't it? Hehe - what a winnah!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I get few flirts and I respond to all of them but I dont send any I would prefer to just message hello the old fashioned way I suppose !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xJoannax' we don't have to. - I guess politenes and courtesy aren't mandatory in real life either. But it is nice to have someone be polite to you, don't you think?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know right! What's with that??????????????????????????????????????????/ And like, what's with aeroplane food? Why does it taste soooo bad??? Just go in bro. If they don't reply, just msg them more. We know they are just playing hard to get....they just don't realise that yet.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I will not reply to a message in which the writer has obviously NOT READ MY PROFILE!Also...some flirts....there just isnt an appropriate reply...I wish we could write one...sigh.Sometimes...all I wanna say is Thanks....or Thanks but no thanks.Messages are like junk mail....some of it is worth reading...but mostly...its only good for mulch.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
If I'm contacted by someone outside me age range who clearly hasn't read or respected who I want to be contacted by, why should I read what he has to say? Especially when it's usually something about them being 'a real man' or asking for my PG?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I usually reply to everything, at least one in the back and forth until which point the person demonstrate they are clearly not what im seeking and/or not that interesting to talk to. Some people I judge harshly when they send what i deem a bad choice of firt line and have no information their profile or just some crotch pics. ill send back a negative flirt line - but I reply to all people messaging me though not ever message when it moves to offsite communication or I ask them certain things which they seem to totally ignore when replying.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I imagine, being of the numerous singe men on the site, that the women and couples get bombarded by messages and flirts, and if they answered everyone of them, well, they'd have no time for the reason they're on. I've got a template which is me asking if they're interested in me, if I get a reply off of that with a definitive no, I prefer it over no reply at all, but you have to take a step back and say no reply is just as much as a no, as a no thanks message. I'm thinking that one piece of advice a friend was given on dating was to expect to hear no alot. Guess that applies here too.
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sweetfrangapani
15 years ago
My reply box has been broken for nearly a year now........ I have put a message on my profile but nope men are still sending me flirts - Good lord!!!! Im not ignoring them I just dont have enough messages to reply to everyone - Damn it!!! Frustration
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey i am only speaking for myself, I will always reply to flirts or messages, i think be upfront and honest, if you are not interested then just say, i know it takes time but i think even online its about courstey, how arwful would it be if we where doing this in the real world, and you went to flirt or talk to a person and they ignored you???? go against the grain girls and provide some common courtsey
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RHP User
15 years ago
when i click into my inbox for messages and flirts if i see there over my age limit im not gonna reply...fuck them if there not gonna read my full profile which obviously they havnt i aint gonna reply also if i get 20 flirts its too hard to reply too them all as u cant do them one by one u have to do all or none
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think 79jdog said it best... i can easily see why girls dont reply to most. they get so many messages a day, and then they have to try to work out who is going to be genuine and who fit's their scope... plus who appeas to them physically. and 79jdog, i get the same thing, most of the girls i have been with are the ones who i know or have been introducet to, alot easier to prove that ur not a jerk in person i think. i mean what do u write to stand out from the rest.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Flirts from those I'm not interested in or who don't match my criteria are easy. As are the emails.From those who I am interested in from profile I'll respond pretty quickly, and then those that I don't really know either way, well, I don't know what to say,m or I have to do other things, and then their email goes back a couple of pages, and I kinda forget.It's bad I know, and I apologise.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i being a male have sometimes sent the wrong kind of message on here, after all i am only male. so to these ladies and couples i do apoligise. but you still could have replied, i matched all the criteria, i was just a bit horny thats all, lol. what gets my back up but is when it clearly states that your strait and you get the same guy sending you 10+ flirts in the same day, you reply to the first one saying no thanks but good luck, being nice. but then they just keep coming. just f_ck off and leave me alone, can they only see pictures or can they actully read?? i wonder. any ways if there any hotties that wana cum to acdc in perth on the 6th march feel free to contact me, i have a spare ticket and just want a fun night out.
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