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Why is everyone so rude?
September 14 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
You may have to lower your expectations a little? We hear you though. Have not read your profile but make sure it's a 'Power-Profile' and use all your talent to be original in your responses/approaches to avoid being average. Good Luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps it's equal quantities if each!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The way i see it is- you cant make everyone smile at you when you smile at them in the street despite how sincerely you mean it or how big and bright yours is" ............so I think the thing to remember is that everyone also has a life outside of RHP... You don't know their circumstances/ wants/ needs/ likes/ dislikes etc.... whether you've paid to send them a message is irrevelant. (Personally I try to send back replies but considering I have commitments be it family/ work/ friends or life in general getting busy... And mine has been incredibly tricky over the last 6 months so I have no problem admitting this... I may not do it straight away but again I try.. And yes I've been guilty of not replying be it I forgot, it became not my greatest priority in comparison to a family drama, I was offended and decided it was better not to get grumpy at the arse at the other end of the message, I had no idea what to say.... ) You also have to consider how your message may be interpreted... And then there is the other thing of you can't make someone want you despite how great you are or if you've paid for membership.... You can't expect others to make you happy or do as you want.... They have the right to make their own choices as do you, they may not be the choices you would make or respect but again... Theirs to make. Now, people then can say "so why are you on here then if your not prepared to make time, you can't be that busy" - alas, the concept of this being a way for an itch (sex not some funky sti) to be scratched and to find the "friend/ friends" that helps fix that... And again how people choose to use Rhp to achieve that is a completely individual choice. Truly I believe most people are great on here... And I hope you find the person/ people your looking for.... Please don't tarnish everyone with the same brush and don't expect anything from people... When you stop with expectations life usually sends someone to come along and smack you on the bum and change your world :) Please don't interpret me writing this in a bitchy tone at all, as that's not what I am attempting to convey. I'm just giving my opinion yes it's lengthy- really I could have just said "Your not the boss of them and they can do as they want" Best of luck :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You get out what you put in.. Why not trying giving people a snapshot of who you are in your profile... It doesn't say much about who you are.... And I have lady freinds I meet from Rhp, and after so e fun, we sometimes log in together while chilling out together... These women have messages comi g left right and centre.. As soon as they log in, they have every man viewing there profiles... They reply to one or two and 10 others have come in during that time!!! The women I meet hardly even open the messages that have a title "hi" etcetc etc they just do mass deletes. Or quickly open and get into the next, otherwise they will be on for hours and hours replying.... Just make your profile one they want to read and know more about!!! Concentrate on your own profile rather than just calling people rude... And a post like this doesn't help your chances- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
we try to answer all messages but if the person who sends the message hasn't taken the time to read our profile first we tend to just ignore. courtesy goes both ways :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really! Ladies and some men do get many messages daily. Even one message a day is a lot for some. How does one respond to all these messages. I have in my 5 years here sent 5231 message and received 4726 responses, that's a 90% reply rate. Most of the 10% was that at the start I was messaging willy nilly.I have my female friend sitting behind me on this reply, and she gets dozens or more a week. She started by responding to all but then ends up in conversations that she knows are going nowhere. It is very hard to be rude at times, or worse to say the words "Not interested" thus in the end it is easiest to not respond at all. I being BI also get lots of messages and have given up on responding to messages that come from people I have no interest in. Do you not read the profiles?The response is clear, you can see if they have read your message. If there is no response then that is in it is self a response, "They are not interested." It happens, don't feel bad, it does not represent what you are or if you are a nice guy. They only have your profile to look at and the message sent. There are many on here that float their boat more.Me and my lady are very irritated by what you said."If someone PAYS for the ability to send YOU a message, if they aren't what you are looking for, can you not have the decency to reply and say so? "We pay, oh... but does that mean we must respond to jilted assholes that bitch about us not responding to there mediocre random requests for a fuck. We do not pay to respond to losers with fragile hearts, we do not pay to pander to others. We are not here to panda to your needs. We pay so we can make selective and experienced introductions and find people that we connect with.SO stop being a baby and learn that this is not a brothel for
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RHP User
11 years ago
Beach Fishing : Cast out your line . Stand around for two hours. Get a nibble , wind your line in , Some bloody fish has taken the bait but not been hooked. Rebait your hook and cast out again ... You get another bite , you wind your line in , you've got a tiny fish , but too small to keep . You throw it back . You rebait your hook , you cast your line out , you get hooked on a piece of driftwood . You cut your line , you have to put on a new hook and fresh bait . You cast your line out , you wait an hour for another bite . Meanwhile , it's started to rain . Your getting wet and your starting to get pissed off . Is this beach fishing Malarky even worth the effort ? You're about to pack it in when you get another bite , you start to reel it in ... This fish feels big and it's a fighter. Getting it in to shore takes great skill and effort on your part . You finally land it . It's a great big fish ! It's gonna be good eatin' ! And so goes the story of the Man who had to work hard and spend time to catch the fish of his dreams . It's not only a story of Perseverance , it also highlights the need to have the right bait and equipment (& the right attitude) . Know that you will have to cast the line out many times , to catch the perfect fish . Here Endeth the Parable ;) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Largely perpetuated by the women of the forums themselves that they get "hundreds " of messages a day. This cuts both ways though. Men do this as well. I don't know, maybe with the men they feel that a woman is too forward if she makes the first move. I know I normally take the time to even send a simple thanks but no thanks flirt in response. Sometimes it is what is written in the letter itself but I do agree. It does not tale long to be polite!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ooooooh so you're one of those guys..... Hummmm javelin you tried putting yourself in a woman's inBOX on here. Think about it?? Wanna root? Here's my number ##### I'm in town and have a hotel room in the city. Can you open your gallery. Do you like my cock pics? I have a 10" thick cock. I eat pussy for hours Show us ya tits. They are rude and offensive aren't they?? Now tell me where's the " "Hi how are you, loved your profile especially the bit that made me laugh when..." Do you see why I don't respond??? Its because I don't owe anyone anything on here, nor do they owe me and I don't have to either because its my choice. FOXY PS- Who told you that bullshit women get "hundreds of messages a day? That's a myth!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I do get a message that captures my attention, I certainly do reply. That's about 1 in every 100. :) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
just because you pay for something here, entitles you to nothing....sad but trueI looked at your profile and although you didn't ask for feedback, here is some anyway..Perhaps a profile pic of you smiling,perhaps more than a sentence saying that you will tell more about yourself in an exchange of messages.Your profile is your advertisement,if there is nothing to attract a woman then they will probably ignore you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Freya beat me to it, the fact that you paid doesn't mean anyone owes you anything. But it would be be nice if people showed appreciation for the effort someone's put into writing a message. That is, if the message actually took some effort. I respond to every single message I get, but of the 10 or so messages I receive in a day, about 8 will be like along the lines of what Foxy describes. Those are the message titled "hi", "hey" or "hi babe", and they're an instant "No thank you". I also find most guys who write have not read my profile. So when messaging a woman, show that you have. And don't call her babe, hun, etc. A lot of women here just don't like that from a complete stranger. Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really like the second pic, of you smiling, and would sooner respond to that one than your current pic.
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
I agree with mesmerised... The second pic makes you look friendly, happy and warm.. I'd be much more likely to respond to that as your main pic :) And maybe if you wrote a bit more about yourself... Even though I'm not after guys I still tend to respond to those who have quirky offbeat profiles just because they seem interesting ;) Xxviolet
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madotara69
11 years ago
unfortunately there is a lot of fake profiles and time wasters and catfish, we don't pay for that! These days we mostly reply to messages from people that we recognize and become familiar to, through the forums.We are glad that you pointed out the unread part with messages, as we do read them occasionally and we pay to use this site for the times that suit us.Not for the blokes who hope Tara is home while hubby is at work. It is too bad as we work together.We do entertain the lurkers in our profile with some words for them to ponder with, though the continuous looks and flirts from them is Interesting. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will always try & respond, even if it's a polite template reply & have been abused for it....I have been called a racist without basis & abused for a thanks but no thanks by a male who was well over my age limit criteria....when I first joined I was overwhelmed with messages, it was so daunting, I actually closed it for awhile to take a breather. It can be very time consuming.....people need to understand that lives are very full & busy, that's what most likely led us here in the first place...so chill & treat others as you'd prefer to be treated, with respect... & let's have some FUNNNNNNN! ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've never heard women say they get hundreds of messages a day. I used to get between 30 and 50 a day, for over a year, when 1) I was new to the site (fresh meat) and 2) my pics were raunchy and my profile inviting. After longer on the site the messages slow right down. OP, reading and replying to 30-50 messages a day is at least about an hour of effort. Why would I put that time in out of a very busy life to avoid appearing rude to a tosser who sent a 'let's fuck babe' first message. Interestingly, I've had a polite auto-reply for a long time, which at least makes sure everyone who messages gets a reply. Still, men write back to that, telling me "go fuck yourself stuck up bitch" etc. Mister Green said it best, fish, be patient, you might get lucky eventually.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But when I do, it's because they have actually captured my interest, are not crass, the people are in driving distance, and the profile says something about the person beyond the size of the penis.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"I don't always reply.....but when I do, I tell em to get fucked!!" Lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have on my profile, that if I do not message you back it means were not a match made in heaven.I try to reply as much as I can, and I say, as its clear on my profile, I am not looking for new lovers.However sometimes a guy is very polite and wants to chat so I do, even had coffee with one today with the proviso no sex ,so that way a guy can decide if he just wants a chat, or not waste his time.I you don't have a pussy so your shit out of luck on RHP at times.This is not like the real world honey, its like we own all the real-estate in town, there is no comparison the real life out there in date land.I would not be able to find a shag on the beach or a root in a woodyard if it were not for rhpso feel sorry for meno matter how many drinks I ply those hot young men with at the bar, no matter how much I cling to their leg as they try to leave the pub, no matter how many fifty dollar bills I hand overthose fuckers are still rude to me, and say fuck of you old tartthough some may whisper in my ear so no body can hearfuck of and meet me in the car park so I can bend you over my bright green ute for ten minutes.have fun sunshine, I feel your pain.
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madotara69
11 years ago
ahhh shit, I just rang the local dealer for a bright green Ute, all sold out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' ahhh shit, I just rang the local dealer for a bright green Ute, all sold out. so any ute will do
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montyv12
11 years ago
I agree no body needs to reply to any message we all send out messages that get no reply but to get upset about it shows your mind set anywayIf i get a reply and they say sorry I'm not interested I always return with (thanks anyway) hey nothing lost even done alright out of it too as one lady must of been surprised we ended up meeting and having a great few days
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi! Hun P:) You must live in a small world and irritate everyone in it. or you're making general remarks that only applies to a few. I agree with coops, Freya, Mesmerised, Foxxy and others.. Do as they suggested Change your Pic, add more about Yourself Personality, Hobbies.. How you'd treat a Lady as a Friend who's chilling with you and especially how to focus on her Needs, desires by pleasuring her as Her Lover. Making her feel very special. It's not all about you Capice!!:) If you don't already add your name say why you're Interested in knowing them more get past the 1st Contact MSG before you come onto them.. Good Luck! Cheers Lu :) PS I feel it's important to acknowledge your efforts over Contacting me and leaving yourself open to whatever comes, be it acceptance or rejection. No matter who it is.. I attract Guys I want to know, because I took time to share Who I Am.. What I'm About ..What I Expect from Others.. Definitely the kind of Guys I'm not seeking.. So there's no misunderstandings.Maybe you're not reading their Profiles closely enough and that's why No replies too..
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Plain
11 years ago
Another thing not mentioned is that there are way more blokes than sheilas on RHP about 20 to 1 and most of the blokes do not have a clue of what its about,I pay not met anyone yet, but the fishing comes to mind. The purpose of the doing will be rewarded in the long run I believe. Or maybe I have a bit more patience than a lot of blokes who just think their Cowboy Rodeo Lovers routine are the norm ie eight seconds the bell goes off and so do they and thats all that is required. And dont forget some of the crap that the ladies cop listed in some of the previous answers is not warranted and of course not putting in something different is going to have you lumped with the rest.
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RHP User
11 years ago
One thing that some have missed is the dreaded email circle of RHP. 1. Gal gets message from guy, even though the guy isn't anywhere near what she is looking for. 2. Gal does the right thing, sends a POLITE "thanks but no thanks" type of message back 3. Guy takes one of three actions: 3.a Takes the rejection on the chin, moves on 3.b Sends a nasty gram back, after all the gal is on RHP, she must be willing to fuck anyone who contacts her (yes that is apparently the mentality of some here). Ends up getting blocked by most of the females here, calls them all sluts in the forums. 3.c Guy sends a polite thank you back, woman feels obliged to thank him for the thank you, he thanks her for the thank you to his thank you and the circle starts ...... and only ends when one of them gets fed up lol Mooks
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just one thing in ur post my friend ? Is the fact u have stated RHP tells u when a message has been read ??? Sorry to burst ur bubble on that ? RHP only tells u if the message has been opened ? Point is i assume there are many here that will simply look at the pic (or lack there of) and not really read the messages at all?
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