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MischieviousTwo

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Why is it so hard to find decent and respectful single guys??!!

February 20 2023

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Why is it so hard to find decent and respectful single guys to join a couple? Not only are we bombarded messages from guys who don’t read a word of our profile or match what we are looking for, we also get useless one line messages and constant requests by guys to come over to our home when we haven’t even talked or met yet. The ones we give some time to chat to mostly end up either being married or taken and cheating. Then you deal with the ghosting, no shows and last minute cancellations of meetups. Found one guy recently we thought might be different to this from chatting, ghosted chatting to us on meetup day apparently due to illness only to reschedule the next day, after meeting we have a brief play date then have the same thing happen where we don’t hear from him until the evening to cancel on us the next time we are meant to play. But then he gets narky when we don’t respond immediately to his request to postpone it to the next day. If you’re all wondering why most couples say no single guys to contact them- I can guarantee this kind of thing and worse has happened to them like it has to us. We can see why we might be joining the likes of the couples that say it too or just forgetting about it completely. It’s just disrespectful and really rude behaviour. And it happens over and over…

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  • madotara69

    madotara69

    2 years ago

    Never ever knew we could be invisible 🫥

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  • Margo_Lover

    Margo_Lover

    2 years ago

    We've been astounded at how many serious injuries guys have on or the day before a date. I'd estimate it's a statistical impossibility, or there'd be no single guys left in the world. Hahaha, they are frustrating f$%$%kers. - Alex.

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  • oil_beef_hooked

    oil_beef_hooked

    2 years ago

    Probably because we can’t see your profile. Almost every time I’ve arranged to meet couple I’ve had the same experience. Just sayin

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  • MischieviousTwo

    MischieviousTwo

    2 years ago

    Have turned profile off temporarily because we are so sick of being contacted by people that don’t read it anyway…

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  • Flirty2020

    Flirty2020

    2 years ago

    0ver 98% of males have not showed up with us. 100% of couples have .

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  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    2 years ago

    We've had the same experience. All talk and no action. I've stopped trying.

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  • madotara69

    madotara69

    2 years ago

    Have you tried searching and messaging guys that tickle your fancy ?

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  • klaus_85

    klaus_85

    2 years ago

    It’s a shame so many guys on don’t show up, can’t communicate properly or are just disrespectful!! Saying that, there are a lot of couples on here that do exactly the same! Is it that hard to send a message or simply being honest to others…?

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  • Hedonist_fun

    Hedonist_fun

    2 years ago

    Possibly looking in the wrong places... ive always been respectful of a couples relationship and only ever play by their rules if lucky enough to be invited into their world so to speak. I'm the outsider joining their dynamics. Unfortunately many men make the rest of our lives very difficult when it comes to apps like this....

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  • Knottybutnice

    Knottybutnice

    2 years ago

    Yep I get it , the annoyance of having your time and energy wasted . I was slammed by a couple because I put off meeting them due to my work commitments . I expect that couples and singles have a life outside of RHP . I only devote part of my time to sex and it’s easy to see misalignment in energy and availability . That said , an appointment is a commitment

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  • arsenal2837

    arsenal2837

    2 years ago

    If I say im going to meet I do

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  • scotty795

    scotty795

    2 years ago

    Pick me pick me. I’ll definitely turn up….

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  • Gorgeous2

    Gorgeous2

    2 years ago

    My husband and I are always intrigued that we seem to find it near on impossible to meet a couple that remotely matches our criteria.. funny human genuine Many are one or the other swinging to please their partner. Huge turn off as this behaviour is not allowing all 4 to express themselves in a genuine way

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Hmu

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    I can assure you us decent and respectful guys do exist it's just we often don't have the bodies of a Greek god. So we probably don't a reply often Ive had 3 or 4 potential couples that I was trying to even just get a initial drink with but they all flaked out so the disappointment swings both ways trust me On the upside, I've managed to meet who I think may just be my soul mate elsewhere so I'm getting out of the lifestyle to focus on her.

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  • Barrabuoy

    Barrabuoy

    2 years ago

    If you are not here to meet up make it obvious. It is very disappointing when you are open and genuine and left literally high and dry lol I have had some really fun times but don’t take anything too seriously. Don’t love the ghosting it really is cowardly.

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  • saaam

    saaam

    2 years ago

    It’s not that hard ! Maybe couples should be a bit more flexible easygoing with responding to messages !

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  • danceyapantsoff

    danceyapantsoff

    2 years ago

    I was in a swinging relationship with an attractive lady, we had all the games played, cancellations, couples where the wife just left town but he's available, single guys invited cancel, weird weird behaviour. Truth is so many guys are jerking off in the next room while the wife tends the kids, no idea what he's up to🙉 Saying that we did, despite all the bs, did get to play with lovely cpls and single guys. As a single guy I'm staggered at the amount of guys pretending to be a cpl, again wankers with no life. It's not hard to be real, there's fun people to actually meet 🙂

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  • fun_seeker2

    fun_seeker2

    2 years ago

    Agree.. we get all the above as well. Hence why we have decided to only play at clubs, with whoever happens to be there on the night.. Sick to death of dudes seemingly getting an ego boost by managing to get a date organised with us, and then bailing last minute, Orr as you say ghosting..

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  • QuinJones

    QuinJones

    2 years ago

    Me personally (and I’m new “at this” being in charge of your own exploration but) I’m not into doing stuff with another dude in the same room. It’s not that I’m anti it AT ALL but it’s just something I’m not personally in to. I reckon there’s probably a good chance that some guys may be curious about engaging it that experience, or it meets one of their fantasies that they are insecure about, but being on here with anonymity, allows them to explore that, and even have the thrill of saying yes to it, but then their self doubt might come in or even that may have been the extent of the experience they were able to get to before they backed down. Definitely reckon it comes down to them liking the idea, but overthinking it. I know I do that when even hearting a woman’s profile. I freak out thinking “ah shit what do I do next!?!?” (As I said. New here). But yeah, not that this helps at all, but maybe that’s why? I hope you two are able to find what you’re looking for. 🤘

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Super disappointing to hear you and others have experienced this behaviour. There are guys like myself that respect the time of others and keep their word when they make a date and time to meet someone. Totally agree that before someone chooses to message another person they should at least read the profile. Once again sorry to read that couples have experienced this.

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