Why is sex more mental than physical?

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Let me have a think. Hugs Q

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Sexual connection is based on more than physical attraction. I’ve rejected many a sexy handsome man as there was no connection, no basis to laugh over common things. Sex is an outcome of a multitude of small indicators that make people attracted and attractive. For some it’s more how they look, for others it’s their intelligence, their interests, sense of humor. Familiarity builds trust and to have sex with someone, trust is the foundation. That’s why it’s mental first, then physical. At least for me. Nothing less.

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  bonefide

  6 years ago

  Without the mental connection what would u have. Plus as I’ve said before, its about the whole person not just the outer cast.

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  Mischeviouslad

  6 years ago

  Almost all of the bodily functions derive from chemical signals which originate in the brain Although in here, going by a lot of the behaviour, the “brain” seems to be around the groin 😂

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Chriscat So true... it’s hard to find someone with special connection..

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  0z_boy

  6 years ago

  everyone knows that the brain is the biggest sex organ and Ive been called a dickhead enough times to know this is true :D Ive even got it on my profile :p Now my groin on the other hand (pardon pun) has a mind all of its own, and is still in its early teens.

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  bonefide

  6 years ago

  Are saying people that wear pants/trouser belts would cut the blood flow to the brain.

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  OkeyDoke45

  6 years ago

  Sexual arousal can sometimes just be, and only be, the desire to have sex with another, it does not necessarily have to involve the mind at all. You just have to go down any pub, large or small, on a Friday or Saturday night (or any night for that matter), usually just before closing time, to see plenty of examples of this. We are an evolutionary bunch, us humans, but sometimes the primal instincts do come lurching back into prominence. I am mistrustful of anyone that claims to be above this.

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  Seachange

  6 years ago

  Sexual experiences does not have the be relegated to one being aroused or better with mental connection only. It's all within context. If it's a ONS or a quick hook up, not necessarily a deal breaker. I have had sex while traveling from E work, with men I was physically attracted to and have invited them to my hotel with hardly much conversation. The sex was raw, primal and passionate. We chatted online for a bit, he was nice but even better, he was hot. He came to my Sydney hotel within 15 minutes of chat, and we liked what we saw. I didn't get their names. Didn't matter. I was checking out within the hour and fly back to Melbourne in two. So, it was pure lust. After the fun 45 mins, we parted ways and that was it. For ongoing friendship or relationship, yes, definitely a mental connection is necessary for me. How else can the friendship be sustained beyond sex? But it doesn't have to be a binary. Why should it? I seriously can't see myself having sex with someone I don't find physically attracted to. Hence in parties or clubs, I prefer to abstain rather than ruin sex for me. That's just a personal preference.

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  countrytouch82

  6 years ago

  Physical stimulation can achieve some things, mental stimulation can achieve other things, and sometimes either or both together can achieve the same thing. For example the ability to have wet dreams, which brings on an orgasm without so much as touching and only some arousal in vague unconscious thought processes, even quite involuntary ones. So in this regard the mind does all of the work. Tantric practices claim to do similar and perhaps tap into that ability. Both the mind and body sometimes work in mysterious ways... but at other times our needs can be simple and predictable, and much more physical. Our state of mental well-being still applies even when you want something just physical. For a man the right visual stimulus can make an orgasm happen in minutes, but under conditions of tiredness or stress you can sometimes better just forget it. So it can still be our mind that governs our physical abilities and end results at that time, or can hinder it, even if we think it's just a physical thing for that moment.

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  Seachange

  6 years ago

  Sometimes at parties and clubs U prefer to abstain....

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Its age old adage of sexual maturity mate when your young your like a rabbit and its physical because the brain hasnt had enough experience to determine the higher erotic sensual levels, unfortunately not everyones sexual maturity matches their age so have sex with fewer if your on that mental level and you have patience to wait and find the right one at the same level as you, unfortunately most you can sus out by their conversations , for me with most its dead in 2 emails because sensualy not matire or mentaly not on par sexualy , yin and yang of desire rather than ‘ping pong’😄😄

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  Sawadee

  6 years ago

  Ive also passed over some nice looking ladies in favor of someone considered less attractive. So in my opinion, it gets back to chemistry.. One of the sexiest lady i ever knew was not all that attractive, but i couldnt get enough of her...

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  0z_boy

  6 years ago

  anyone for scabble?

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It's more like walking into the party and looking for who wants me...

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