nickii_7

nickii_7

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Why so hard

March 15 2012

Why is it so hard to find one person who wants the same thing as me? I didn't think that wanting a nsa ongoing thing with someone likeminded would be so hard. Yes there are some really nice guys on here but when it comes down to it , i find alot only want to fuck once and thats it or all all talk or fake. All good if thats what i was after but im not. Wanting an ongoing sexual nsa friendship seems impossible.. I did change my profile to not wanting meets due to not finding what i wanted . And before the baggers start , yes I'm married , dont hide the fact that i am , clearly states on my profile. We all have our own reasons for being on here , i dont judge people for their reasons or choices and would hope to get the same in return. happy for you all to put your 2 bob in .nic

Comments

  • playfulminx

    playfulminx

    13 years ago

    Actually I don't know too many guys who can do NSA on a prolonged basis? I'd say they mean well in meeting you and having a go once but when they think about it, maybe the fear of things going pear-shaped scares them off? I am assuming you're doing this on the quiet?Is this a problem with married men in similar situations?

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Yeah its on the hush .Take your point playful thanks :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Besides you may also have sex with a guy once only, and think he is nice but may not have the time and I want to try some new candy .   You can get what you want, but to do that you have to do a lot of bonk and run for the hill guys, it comes with the territory of RHP.   Out of those guys you will get a few that start to come back, they may not come back on your schedule so you have to juggle them a bit.   In the end you just have four or five regular guys that you can call and say come over and give me some loving. Or they call you and say how about a bit of afternoon delight.   Someone ask me that yesterday about how many regulars should you have at a time, a male and a female ask me. I said four or five but they were happy with two or three.   One guy as nsa, it can get messy it will soon become FWB and then you can get hooked. Spread it around and also variety is good as each man has his own little tricks of the trade so you get to have lots of different sexually charged times with them. The ones that bonk and run just say thanks hon, and roll over and go to sleep.

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    13 years ago

    I didn't see your profile before...was it specifically NSA ongoing that you were asking for? That is the best that you can do and just sit back and wait till a genuine 1 or 2 or 3 to step forward! Although I am looking for a couple of FB's with absolutely no strings, I can't really say till I have slept with them once whether I want to again! There are guys out there where I could fall asleep half way through and guys out there that I just can't wait for their cock and tongue again (this is a rarity)! Why not just meet with no expectations of becoming FB's and if all goes well...just go with it day by day! There are also heaps of married guys on here that are looking for ongoing NSA .... I am not saying because you are married that you should only do married...but maybe you need to look at both married and single men and just enjoy it for what it is! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Ok... Let you in on a little known secret. Men are emotionally vulnerable. Bat those eyelids and we turn to butter. This "long term" idea is risky business. That's why NSA is attractive.... That is, no emotional strings attached.... a two way concept. Who wants to hurt someone? Who wants to get hurt? NSA... it's short term... or it gets all stringy. Well, that's what I think. Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Can't remember who said it but "I don't do one night stands but I do give auditions" is pretty much how it goes....hard to find someone you like that is on the same page I know, but perhaps as has already been said a few people you connect with rather than just one is the way to go.

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Definately not wanting long term , certainly dont want emotions and all that , i probably should have worded it better :| I was more meaning , dread i say it , exclusive til it runs its course.I did prior to changing profile state i was wanting regular NSA fun .I get where your coming from xFunlovingx , and as hypocritical as it seems coming from my mouth , i would rather not sample all the goods before finding the right flavor. BUT taking on board what you have all said , it may just be the go. Perhaps a mix is needed as i guess it is all about exploring and having fun.thanks guys nic

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hey Nikkii... Good post.. For your information.. just think to yourself about this... IF I were close to you, and offered to be your NSA FB, would you take my up, considering I look rather Neanderthal?   The reason I ask this is... I could absolutely be JUST THAT... In Fact, I could be nothing else, due to me being me... :)   Unless there was something REALLY wrong with you, I would certainly come back and back and back... IF there was something REALLY wrong with you I would tell you I wan't coming back..and why.   These characteristics alone.. IN THEORY make me a PERFECT NSA FB :) Sure, my little dick, and bad BO and rotton teeth negate that.. BUT, you dont know these facts YET...   My point is Nikkii... Are you selecting ONLY from a gene poolMOST LIKELY to be contaminated with persons who are full of s**t ?   Good luck girl... I THINK you deserve a NSA FB and I do wosh I was avaulable to you :)   caveman. xx

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Well Caveman maybe im barking up the wrong tree in wanting a clean cut, huge cock, own teeth kinda guy !!!Funny man , thanks for the giggle hun xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'nickii_7' Definately not wanting long term , certainly dont want emotions and all that , i probably should have worded it better :| I was more meaning , dread i say it , exclusive til it runs its course.I haven't read your profile... but I see above you say you are married but you want exclusive NSA fun with someone?? Why should anyone give you that? If I was seeing a married dude for fun & friendship & sex and he said he wanted me exclusively. Pffftttt piss off buddy. That is what I would be saying! I think it's unreasonable for you to want that. xxMeeka

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Each to their own , everyone is different in their wants , and perhaps if i was seeing a single guy , i would agree with you. Respect your opinion.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hi Nickii,   I am confused. Yousay you wanted NSA daytime fun I offer it and I'm not what you want. There seems to be a lot of people on here with the same issues or on the other hand I am one ugly bastard! Maybe more info is required on your profile.

  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    13 years ago

    Reason isn't really a factor when it comes to what we really WANT, but it does factor into whether or not you'll get it easily. Statistically, the more specific/uncommon your need is, the harder it is to find.The range of human sexual nature is so diverse it's not unreasonable to think that there might be someone out there for whom your arrangement would be ideal, you either have to be patient and keep looking for them, or consider exploring other needs/wants while you do it.Perhaps also try a site set up specifically for married and seeking sort of arrangements called NoStringsAttached. No harm in dropping a line in a few different ponds...xx Sarah

  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    13 years ago

    .com

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    you're married. intstead of being frustrated by an apparrent 'lack of action' here, maybe you should fix the issues at home first. let your husband know that you are having dramas....maybe he's got a simple fix.......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    why did you get married anyway?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...exactly what we are looking for and find it in the last place we look, sometimes we're not even looking when we find it. | Your in-box is most likely exploding with offers right now...good luck on your journey. | Sarah...how many poles can you fish with at once?

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Yes you did offer but funseeker - I think if I recall right that my reason for not meeting you was because that I knew you from the area ?? I don't need to justify to others why I'm here , I've been honest and open about my status unlike a lot of people, but didn't make the post to be judged or have the scarlet letter pinned to my chest just wanted others opinion on the actual topic!! Thanks for the feedback...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    *smiles*   you Go girl.. no need to get judged... glad I gave you a giggle...   one day.. I hope I can get a validation though..a hugely complimentary one.. totally telling the world I am great sex toy.... just so you will know what you missed out on..   *grins*   all good... and in fun.. caveman.. xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I too am attached and seek pleasure from a regular nsa buddy.Thought I had found him, we met 4 or 5 times, he said all the right things, the chemistry was amazing , the sex was euphoric, he asked me to be exclusive to him which I agreed. Why not? I had found what I was looking for.Each time we met we couldn't get each others clothes off quick enough and the sex was totally hot, there was an amazing connection between us ......Then he went cold, telling me he had lost the spark. WTF ??? All this in a few short weeks.So now I have 3 on the go and won't fall into that trap again.Hope you find what your looking for.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    If I am going to see someone on a regular basis then I actually want some strings,I want to know about them,what's important to them,a little of how they tick,I dont want to wash their socks ,cook them dinner but I do, want to care about them as I would any other friend.I want them to know me and care about me. One can never have too many friends,I see nsa on many peoples profiles and I think we interpret this in different ways,usually the person also says if all goes well I would like it to be a regular thing....how can that in itself not be a string.? Erica Jong coined the term 'the zipless fuck'for those occassions when you just want a hot quick fix,but Nikki you are wanting more and I think there in lies the problem...it aint no strings. In the meantime just enjoy whoever comes along, everyone deserves some pleasure in their life ,strings or no strings

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'nickii_7' Well Caveman maybe im barking up the wrong tree in wanting a clean cut, huge cock, own teeth kinda guy !!!Funny man , thanks for the giggle hun xx well two out of three aint bad....and yet you constantly refuse my advances.....for shame Nicki! *two finger rud pointed at you....ps i can wash and have a shave........

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Loveto - ok ok I can't hide my hidden desires for you any longer! You don't need to shave hunni but please please please put your false teeth in.. ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'nickii_7' Loveto - ok ok I can't hide my hidden desires for you any longer! You don't need to shave hunni but please please please put your false teeth in.. ;-) hahahaha!!!!! you are a dream nicki...... one day you will leave the cold wintry shoers of mexico and come the the bright side! then we can really show you what hard is hehehehehe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hi Nic,I have sent you 4 messages and you have not even replied and I was looking for no strings.Can't have it both waysD

  • nickii_7

    nickii_7

    13 years ago

    Ok so this is going to make me sound more of a bitch ,but perhaps i didn't reply to you because you were out of the range i was looking for at the time ( age , location etc ). I did also put on my profile that i would not reply if you were not what i stated i was looking for. Yes that may seem rude but if people don't read profiles properly that isn't my fault.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I have found that there are people out there with correlating goals to myself. Unfortunately, thus far at least, they have all been in another state.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    your request sounds ideal to me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    where do i sign up nikki ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I know what you mean I am a 41 y/o married male & that isn't going to change (unless my wife finds out ) ,who lives in Skye .I am honest about being married not like some people on here & for that reason I haven't meet to many ladies . I cant contact you as I am only a guest on here . but if you are interested I am sure you could find me .I dont have any photos on here either as I dont see the point of putting a cock shoot all males have on, there is no way I will put a face pic up . anyway I hope you find what you are looking for