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Why so many rules?
June 18 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
You've lost me..... What do you mean?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Depends where the criticism is coming from Fresh, in my limited experience there's everyone from lifetime swingers, to newbies on this site, and everyone in between. Everyone has a different perspective and opinion based on their experience, but at the same time you're going to get people who are pretty narrow in their views...even if they are sexually "broad minded" If you aren't finding what you're looking for here I guess there are other alternatives. Just my 2 cents, Tom
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RHP User
8 years ago
Please explain...Have you found the rule book for RHP? If so where can I view it?Or have you had err counselling about how to conduct yourselves here?
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RHP User
8 years ago
but the point of your post is ???
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Don't quite get the drift of where you're heading. A bit of clarity on the subject perhaps ....?Tall
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keen2start
8 years ago
You have lost me too.
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RHP User
8 years ago
also not sure what you mean.. do you mean giving out your full legal names? i wouldn't expect that of someone but I would expect to see face pictures...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are you Mr and Mrs Smith?..do you work for ASIO? or another Secret Service?. You can spend time here with a degree of anonymity but at some stage you will have to show your faces. Just meet in hotels for play nobody really needs to know where you live or your true identities if you just want to be undercover...yes,yes,I know,a truly awful pun😈Q
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Seachange
8 years ago
yes no yes, I think
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Are you Mr and Mrs Smith?..do you work for ASIO? or another Secret Service?. You can spend time here with a degree of anonymity but at some stage you will have to show your faces. Just meet in hotels for play nobody really needs to know where you live or your true identities if you just want to be undercover...yes,yes,I know,a truly awful pun😈Q You're terrible, Muriel.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can't view your profile, can anyone else? I don't care if I'm blocked for whatever reason but if your profile is unavailable to everyone? Or is that part of the undercover operation Look no offence but if you're starting a forum topic, best to be clear on your situation, within your own boundaries of what you need to be discreet about, but you've got to give us something here. My head hurts when I have to think too much
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RHP User
8 years ago
what do you mean by revealing your full identity? Do you mean face pictures or names. There was a long period of time where names weren't exchanged with me and partners, didn't seem necessary, and others who gave me a name, but I didn't know or care whether it was their real name. You don't have to give out your name, so long as they're comfortable with that, I can't see an issue with that personally, but you would need to show your vision surely?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am guessing that you have received some criticism for not revealing much of yourself, and you may be experiencing angst at feeling that you should reveal more, per the excepted norms of the site. If so, disregard it....it is bullshit. Everyone on this site reveals only what they are comfortable with. I had a very clear close up selfie as my main pic am open about everything...because I am ok with that. It doesn't effect me. Many others will not show anything that may identify them as they are in a position whereby they may be recognised, to their detriment. And that is fine too. I think that it is wise for all to maintain a level of anonymity that is prudent to their own circumstances. I can't see why anyone would have an issue with your profile. If they need to know more, then they need to first prove themselves trustworthy of further disclosure. And I would caution against it until you have either met in person or had a long standing engagement with the other parties. Or I could be missing the point entirely. 😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
As to what the OP is referring to? It would be interesting to see an answer. For me - privacy is a big thing as I'm married. Even though my partner knows I don't want every Tom, Dick and Harry knowing my business. However I would never meet anyone without receiving face shots first and I provide the same. If that means I don't get to meet someone I've been talking to then so be it. Everyone has their rules on here for both safety and privacy.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mooche' but the point of your post is ??? Maybe a new approach to an often-used topic... I looked at the profile, didn't you?
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RHP User
8 years ago
but no Midnight I didn't look till I Touch mentioned above that the OP profile was not on show, but I found that it was Hopefully the OP will give us a bit more
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On_Safari
8 years ago
You have 26 friends on your list 😌 if you've met those people and get on well with who gives a rats about anything/anyone else? You will have proved your identity and value as a couple to those people and anyone else you meet through them. On the other hand if you haven't met/had lengthy online discussions and interaction with those people then I suggest you not accept random friend requests and get out more. AND GO TO A MEET AND GREET NEAR YOU ✌🏽️ So you can meet people as yourselves or under your aliases 😂
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Everyone here uses the site their own way, some get what they want, some don't. Some change their view of the site via interaction and end up changing their entire approach and get results they never expected. It's an evolving process for those savvy enough to grow and develop as they traverse the hazards and high five the successes. Only you can decide what's best for you. I've been here 4yrs and even the folks who know my real name call me by my online persona when we're all together. So aliases are ok. Personally I'm like many others and prefer a face pic so I know who to look for upon meeting instead of wondering if that couple hastily making their way to the exit were supposed to be my date! 😳 Bugger!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am assuming someone has bleated after you refused to reveal more of yourselves to them..Fck them!!always only go where YOU Want to go.. and WHEN you want to go there..too many GOOD people to play with to be bothered by tossers....
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RHP User
8 years ago
... and I like Midnight's 'don't stress' policy. One thing you will (should?) learn is to be 100% yourselves through your profile, not bending to meet someone else's perceived or actual expectations. Anyone who complains about you being you isn't worth your time imho.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Don't worry about it. But don't make your rules so restrictive that it is counter-productive. I understand the privacy thing; you don't need to reveal your full identity (full name etc), you decide how you want to play, and where you want to play. I would expect that folk would want to see a face pic though...you having rocking bods, but may have the faces of a squashed watermelon; I like to have an idea as to what I could potentially be kissing ;-) Actually, having read your profile.....playing at your house is a sure way of people finding out your full identity....and a possible breach of your safety (pretty sure I have mentioned this to you before). Just bear in mind that every rule you have makes it that little bit harder to find someone who is happy with those rules. If you are comfortable with that, then don't change anything. :-)
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
really into privacy - too scared to give an answer to clarify things ??? Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mooche' but no Midnight I didn't look till I Touch mentioned above that the OP profile was not on show ... readily available and one of the photos uses the B&W format quite well. *shrugs* ... oh well.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I can't view your profile, can anyone else? I don't care if I'm blocked for whatever reason but if your profile is unavailable to everyone? Or is that part of the undercover operation ...but I am really James Bond. Batman sucked air when it came to covert ops. *starts the music to MI and disappears* ... be good .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dont know why everyone else seems so puzzled ? Doesn't take much to read between the lines. But it seems it only concerns some certain people. I respect your right to privacy as I have the same dilema. There are reasons I cant post my pic's also.
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rupamohan
8 years ago
Unfortunately some power game is part of life. What it means people in demand may feel they have right to ask you anything because they can afford to ask you..sometimes it is a demonstration of power..sometimes it is just to put you across another filter. A pretty useless filter because how much you really need to know someone with whom you are going to spend at the best less then a day's time in a year, and at the worst may be about 2hrs. And then there are people who can't handle diversity. They can use twisted logic of fairness. If I am happy to reveal my identity why can't you? But you never asked their identity in first place..so this is kind of forced blackmail in the name of fairness. They will tell you their identity to you which in first place you never asked or is useless for you and in lieu will demand to be fair you do the same. Then there is another type of Jokers. For them if you can't reveal your identity you are trying to hide something and this is because you are up to something dishonest. You can understand the intellectual level of a person who doesn't know difference between privacy and honesty. The list goes on and on...there are people who expect to act as their clone. Yes there has to be some common grounds but really how much you need for few hours of company...lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Determine what yours are and go with that. Anyone who doesn't like your rules or wants you to step outside of your comfort zone isn't the best match for you, unless you're wanting to break your rules and step outside of your comfort zone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Re: "Would you meet anyone without seeing their face?" I have. When I first became single, my first 2 dates were blind. I had not seen a pic and we had not spoken until we met, for the first time, ready to embark on a weekend away. Honestly, neither floated my boat, but that didn't stop us having an awesome time and subsequent dates. I am always respectful, regardless. However, I grant you, that was also when I was fresh out of the starting gates and I have evolved substantially. Now, I do want to see current pics and engage in some good "get to know each other" time before I would entertain the idea of a meet. That has a lot to do with the falling in love factor, but also the physical attraction. Back then, I had limited time and limited options. Whereas now, I am in no hurry for anything. Doubtlessly there are those out there that are only interested in a cock and/or fanny, regardless of who is attached to said body parts, but I agree with you...most want much more. More than a fair representation of the physical...a connection of the mind. In general, I think that profiles should give a sense of who those behind the profiles are. If the reader has nothing to base their judgement on, regarding compatibility, then they are most likely going to pass and move on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who is criticizing you?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Fresh couple has gone off? looking for us..?
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