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Wife falling for another guy
March 12 2013
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inspirit
12 years ago
She will log in and see your post so in my thought you best man up and tell her you became perhaps a bit jealous/suspicious and checked her messages. (Which in itself is just plain wrong) She will probably kick your ass and you know the rest...................the make up sex will be awesome though.On a more positive note..... she is probably just infatuated and in lust. Remember lust is a feeling and love is the emotion.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
If you consider your relationship worth anything at all..... or everything...... you will discuss it with her.... until such a time as you are satisfied with the discussion and its outcome.Anything less.... is withholding secrets.... which seems wholly contrary to the concept of having an open marriage!Similarly to what miss inspirit has said...... recognize infatuation and desire for what it is.... and what it can do........and make her lust YOU again...... you already have the upper hand... she chose you as her husband... thereby proving her commitment to you, and yours to her. So.....emphasize your relationship.... by giving her that same escape from the "routine" you have as husband/wife....... by representing what an outside party offers her. Role play, dominance, take advantage of taboo situations to re-ignite her lust... for YOU.And if you need to work on elements of yourself, (ie, need to lose weight, take time to be with her as a partner and not just a father(?), pay attention to her..... whatever it happens to be that is important to her (and that she seeks elsewhere)........work on it.... and that will show her the respect you have for her as a woman too.It will pay huge dividends.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who says you have to spilt? Who says she has fallen out of love with you? Who says she doesn't want you more than ever? Don't panic!!! I would talk to her about it. Ask her what would happen if she feels something for one of her lovers. How would she handle it and how will you handle it as a couple. I know people have all sorts of beliefs around love and relationships but you know you can love & desire more than one person at a time. Doesn't mean that you want to run off into the sunset with that person. These are things you should talk about regardless of whether she feels something for this guy or not. You need to have a strategy as a couple for these eventualities. If you have a long term lover the chance is always there that your feelings may become engaged. It's human nature but it doesn't have to be the end of your relationship at all. It's how you handle it from here which will determine how things will go. Fill her, what do you really want? And wart sort of relationship would you be comfortable with? :D Good luck, I hope things work out for you and your lady.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wart should read what. Oops. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
The slight difference for me is that we were in Open relationship I travelled a lot overseas and in Aust. But she enjoyed the life and started seeing guys without telling me and we have now split because of the lies and her not wanting to be tied to one guy. A little bit more to it than that lol My advice is if you are in an Open relationship or contemplating being in one make sure you are ready and both comfortable with it and talk about it all the time to ensure NO secrets. As for checking phones or phone accounts if there is nothing to hide does it really matte, maybe a trust issue Be careful very few do it successfully
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Hey talk talk talk tell her your worried and maybe you should relook at what you both wanted to do. Don't don't don't blame her it's something you both decided to do together and you can decide on not doing it anymore or change how you meet others. Good luck but some trust has gone already for both of you... Be kind loving and see why she's enjoying someone else's company it might be something really simple. I feel your pain been there happened to me- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was in an open marriage only he forgot to tell me about it.....and signed me up on a couples profile I did not know about....Honesty integrity, talk about what you want, your insecurities need to be voiced you may meet with understanding.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife has had other male friends. It started with MFM but ended up with her playing alone. It ended up with my wife seeing this guy at least 3 times a week after putting our kids to bed. We talked and although she said it was fun i could tell it was turning into something more. She admitted to me it were her escape from a busy home and enjoyed the company and sex. It was a wakeup call to me and now we make time . She has stopped seeing this guy after our talk and all is good. We still have our MFM hookups when we can and try to get away alone for a weekend without kids at least once every few months.As bobsol said.... Be careful.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me and my partner have just started an open relationship and I empathize with you. We discussed things to some extent and established boundaries and made sure we were ok with it, she was the one that instigated the OR an explained she doesn't want to be tied down to one man (me) and wanted to break away from the routine etc. I looked through her phone after she went out (exactly what you did) an then confronted her about it blah blah blah. We worked it out again and are fine, but I really had to re-assess myself and the way I looked at this OR, you need to stop worrying about what she is doing and focus on yourself, don't forget that the same applys to you and you need to feel good about yourself, workout, go out, keep your mind off it and when she is ready to talk about it then you discuss it then - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Get back to being friends, it has to be the most important part with all. There should be no secrets and you must be willing to listen with an open mind. Maybe you are a part with the friendship within the wifes referance to her friend, and all is good.Women have a language to each other unbeknown to the understanding of men, so trying to make sense with a few messages between the ladies could stump you big time.Speak with your feelings and to hers.Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
cat's out of the bag if she logs on bloke... Most of the posts have touched on open relationships and make a lot of sense.. no secrets... Talk to her and find out how she feels about what the other gent offers that you aren't and start to offer what he does as a matter of course.... Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
If she enjoys, be apart of it with her, if it is not your thing, then say so, and work on it, which ever way it goes. We actually met while swinging, finding we had a lot in common, then wanting each others time to share each other, my partner at the time advertised and K & her partner were one of the cpls we were playing with out of 6 or 7 replys, after the 1st meeting with K & her partner I gave her my number and invited her back anytime, K turned up the next morning by herself with a massive bag of sex toys my g/f and I played with K all day, we found ourselves so in tune with each other and still do. By the 3rd meeting my partner & her partner were put on the lounge to watch, he enjoyed the show, my girl used to sit there with a dildo trying to get attention but gave up quickly, I asked K to live with me as my sex maid, and let her partner know he could visit anytime, he was happy at first, but every time he visited we were either hard at it with other cpls and mixed groups or in the middle of some extremely kinky shit, 1 time he turned up to talk to K about their business, we were out the back with 2 other cpls filming a take turns group golden shower amature porno, it was one of the funniest amature films we made with him standing there rubbing himself watching us piss on each other while my g/f vacuumed in the background. The day he turned up to call off there relationship, he sat in the lounge chair across the room and waited till, K and I had finished with our filming, we had organised 7 other guys to be apart of a classic home porn K wanted, we role played a pack of building contractors for a 8 on 1 gang bang, a few of there partners were there all drinking and having a good time, one of the guys in the gang had his lovely wife filming, was an awesome atmosphere, end result K was stuffed full in every position and covered in cum, face, head, upper body just covered, in style K took a glass of wine at the end and sat with her partner, he poured his heart out as we all got dressed and cleaned up, guys were walking past and thanking K, giving her a kiss on a dry part, they sat and talked for an hour as the cum dryed it looked amazing on her, they remain business partners, and I moved my g/f back to her mothers so K could have the place to herself.... Your partner won't leave if its u she want basicly
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '2nudecoasties' If she enjoys, be apart of it with her, if it is not your thing, then say so, and work on it, which ever way it goes. We actually met while swinging, finding we had a lot in common, then wanting each others time to share each other, my partner at the time advertised and K & her partner were one of the cpls we were playing with out of 6 or 7 replys, after the 1st meeting with K & her partner I gave her my number and invited her back anytime, K turned up the next morning by herself with a massive bag of sex toys my g/f and I played with K all day, we found ourselves so in tune with each other and still do. By the 3rd meeting my partner & her partner were put on the lounge to watch, he enjoyed the show, my girl used to sit there with a dildo trying to get attention but gave up quickly, I asked K to live with me as my sex maid, and let her partner know he could visit anytime, he was happy at first, but every time he visited we were either hard at it with other cpls and mixed groups or in the middle of some extremely kinky shit, 1 time he turned up to talk to K about their business, we were out the back with 2 other cpls filming a take turns group golden shower amature porno, it was one of the funniest amature films we made with him standing there rubbing himself watching us piss on each other while my g/f vacuumed in the background. The day he turned up to call off there relationship, he sat in the lounge chair across the room and waited till, K and I had finished with our filming, we had organised 7 other guys to be apart of a classic home porn K wanted, we role played a pack of building contractors for a 8 on 1 gang bang, a few of there partners were there all drinking and having a good time, one of the guys in the gang had his lovely wife filming, was an awesome atmosphere, end result K was stuffed full in every position and covered in cum, face, head, upper body just covered, in style K took a glass of wine at the end and sat with her partner, he poured his heart out as we all got dressed and cleaned up, guys were walking past and thanking K, giving her a kiss on a dry part, they sat and talked for an hour as the cum dryed it looked amazing on her, they remain business partners, and I moved my g/f back to her mothers so K could have the place to herself.... Your partner won't leave if its u she want basicly how this story is supposed to help the OP. I am wondering, though, why both of your respective exes put up with the two of you for so long.
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting '2nudecoasties' If she enjoys, be apart of it with her, if it is not your thing, then say so, and work on it, which ever way it goes. We actually met while swinging, finding we had a lot in common, then wanting each others time to share each other, my partner at the time advertised and K & her partner were one of the cpls we were playing with out of 6 or 7 replys, after the 1st meeting with K & her partner I gave her my number and invited her back anytime, K turned up the next morning by herself with a massive bag of sex toys my g/f and I played with K all day, we found ourselves so in tune with each other and still do. By the 3rd meeting my partner & her partner were put on the lounge to watch, he enjoyed the show, my girl used to sit there with a dildo trying to get attention but gave up quickly, I asked K to live with me as my sex maid, and let her partner know he could visit anytime, he was happy at first, but every time he visited we were either hard at it with other cpls and mixed groups or in the middle of some extremely kinky shit, 1 time he turned up to talk to K about their business, we were out the back with 2 other cpls filming a take turns group golden shower amature porno, it was one of the funniest amature films we made with him standing there rubbing himself watching us piss on each other while my g/f vacuumed in the background. The day he turned up to call off there relationship, he sat in the lounge chair across the room and waited till, K and I had finished with our filming, we had organised 7 other guys to be apart of a classic home porn K wanted, we role played a pack of building contractors for a 8 on 1 gang bang, a few of there partners were there all drinking and having a good time, one of the guys in the gang had his lovely wife filming, was an awesome atmosphere, end result K was stuffed full in every position and covered in cum, face, head, upper body just covered, in style K took a glass of wine at the end and sat with her partner, he poured his heart out as we all got dressed and cleaned up, guys were walking past and thanking K, giving her a kiss on a dry part, they sat and talked for an hour as the cum dryed it looked amazing on her, they remain business partners, and I moved my g/f back to her mothers so K could have the place to herself.... Your partner won't leave if its u she want basicly how this story is supposed to help the OP. I am wondering, though, why both of your respective exes put up with the two of you for so long. I think I read this on Penthouse Forums! This has nothing to do with helping the OP and I call BS! xFunloivngx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 2nude,Me thinks you are not helping but just telling stories to make yourself look good.Im sure ive read that story before. Its nauti telling porkie pies!SHAME ON YOU!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hope you two can talk it through. I am sure your love was strong before and is strong now... I hope it works out for you. please keep us posted... :(
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Im glad others have stated what seemed rather obvious to me too.But then..... someone sends off complaints when I make such statements...lol DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you every one that has given me some advice, very much appriciated. Have had a good talk and has made things much better. Thanks to inspirit your last paragraph sumed us up. Thank you. xx Cheers Grant
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RHP User
12 years ago
Communication is the key My wife and I recently separated... from early on she had Bisexual desires that I encouraged her to explore... then last year she tells me she is no longer Bi but now a Lesbian and no longer feels for me (and men in general) the way she used to... not quite the same as your situation I know but the key is communication and making sure you both understand how you feel and each others point of view. As 'inspirit' said "On a more positive note..... she is probably just infatuated and in lust. Remember lust is a feeling and love is the emotion." If in doubt seek help... therapy is not cheap but it can help smooth the edges and put a better perspective on things making it easier to deal with. Good luck with the situation and remember, life is full of bumps in the road but that is what makes the journey interesting.
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