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Wink or Message first?
July 27 2016
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We generally don't like winks as they give us the impression that the sender does not want to waste a message on us, but expects us to reply with a message. We have also experienced people , who do not fit what we are looking for, messaging us simply because we said hi to them in chat or looked at their profile. Can become quite annoying. Looking at a profile does not mean one is interested. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't see anything wrong with the "if I send you a message would you reply" flirt. It tests the waters to get a feel if she's interests to chat or not.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
A member sends a flirt to me it gives me an indication of a machine gun approach. Fire enough bullets, bound to hit something. Laziness. Read the profile and send an appropriate message. No guarantee of a response from me from a flirt but a nice message will at least get a pleasant fuck off..........just kidding!
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horneycouplewa
8 years ago
Winks are on AMM, Flirts are on RHP.....if your a guest, which you are not not then take the time to message. However in saying that you need to really read their profile as see if you are what they are looking for. Also in saying that we do have no singles guys and occasionally get a flirt from someone who sparks my (Mrs) interest for an MMf and satisfy our requirements. But if they are not guests well ...it's just lazy Only mentioning this as you seem pretty hot and I may have responded to a message..no promises tho....just depends who you message really. good luck xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't mind either way
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Are for the most part ignored in my message box, particularly if it is from someone with paid membership. A message is the way to go.
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you match what I'm seeking and a guest, then I'd actually prefer a flirt as I can answer with a quick response. I hate, as a rule, using quick responses with messages, but often have limited time to write a reply after looking at ones profile, (as us single ladies can get multiple messages.). A lot of guys complain about not getting a reply, but we seriously don't have the time to answer every single msg. A flirt also means I can leave and come back when I have more time to look over the profile and either quick reply or send a msg. Having said that, if you get a reply of no, then sending multiple flirts for days after, or constantly viewing my profile day after day multiple times just screams "creeper" and I hit the block button. If you are a paid member, then sending a flirt rather than a msg tends to suggest you've used up your quota of msgs for the day, and trying for anything and everything in the hope of getting lucky. If you are a guest and choose to send me a msg knowing you only get one chance, then it definitely tells me you are keen....but I will only reply if you fit into what I'm looking for and offer me a face pic...eg I won't partake with any attached person looking to have an affair, or someone with no face pic to offer me in msging. 😊😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for the insights, I really appreciate it. And sorry about the wink/flirt confusion - I did indeed mean flirt. DynamicCouple36 - I understand that looking doesn't mean interested. It does, however, mean the person/people behind the profile are still active. It would be really useful if we could filter out profiles that haven't been active for, say, a month in our searches. horneycouplewa - Thanks for the compliment. Consider it returned with interest and sadness that you live so far away. As a platinum member, I have 50 messages per day, so I'm not going to run out. I'll go with messages which demonstrate I've read the profile (as painful as that can be on the app) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a bit like PoisinIV at the moment, I don't mind, but I'm not getting many of either flirts or messages right now, so it doesn't make any difference to me. They trickle in, few here and there but slow at the moment. That doesn't bother me because I have a few on the boil, and that's all I need and want. Sorry, getting off topic a bit, but the only thing I feel uncomfortable with is the direct nature of messages. Flirts are less confronting and we don't have to feel guilty if we don't reply. Surely an expression of interest is exactly that, so I don't quite understand why people are offended by flirts? Either way, you're going to look at their profile, either want to talk to them, or not, so what does it matter whether it's a flirt or a message. And if they're a paying member, why would you assume they're being disrespectful or lazy by not sending a message instead of a flirt. I disagree with that and have made the choice to flirt sometimes instead of messaging, out of respect for them, knowing they can just ignore if they're not interested. If they are, they can flirt back, and THEN I'll message them. That works fine. I'm not expecting them to message me, just trying to be less pushy or direct. It's a different take on it that perhaps isn't always noticed. I think we should be less fussy about the initial expression of interest and where it comes from, and more fussy with making sure the profile has plenty of vision (believable vision ), stats and effort put into the profile, my 2 cents
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RHP User
8 years ago
A few of you have said you think paid members sending flirts indicates they might be firing out heaps, in the hope of getting a hit omg I send flirts but I might send 1 or 2 a week lol that's hardly firing out heaps, and quite an assumption that people don't have standards. Best to take every individual for who they are. There are those who appear to hit on every thing on the site, but not everyone is doing that
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RHP User
8 years ago
barely register with me, I just don't like them. I state that in my profile but still get them daily and I usually ignore them. As with most things though you'll never get a consensus answer here, as you can see some women don't mind flirts so really just do what you prefer, or try out a few different approaches to see what works best for you.
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
If you want to strike up a conversation, ( and isn't that the general idea ?!) then a message gives thst person the most ready opportunity to respond Simple, right?!! Winks swarm an inbox like moths to flame, and are often ignored. But a message.....correction... a well written message.... is rarely ignored. - Posted from rhpmobile
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singlelady51
8 years ago
Receiving a flirt is like breaking the ice and testing the water first. It's like sending flowers it's an ice breaker. I like a flirt as it shows that they are interested and if they fit my profile then I'll reply and if not I can use a generic reply flirt. This is one question that is a personal choice and you need to remember to be your own person and do it the way you feel most comfortable doing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are a testing the waters type of thing. Ive been flirted, sent one back and then received a message leading to meets. So all good with me. I never ignored flirts from people that may have been compatible.....who knows what may have happened?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just know from when I was a couple here previously, the other half would send out multiple flirts each day to single ladies....wanted to see me pleased by another female was his reasoning. Pity he didn't consult with me first as to which ladies I would be interested in eh - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Send me a message. Show me you're interested, put some effort into the wording and show that you've read my profile. The only time I will think about responding to a flirt is if they are a guest, they really catch my attention with their profile, meet all of my criteria and it's the "if I sent you a message" flirt. If you think I'm worth it, you will risk using one of your messages on me 😉
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PurePeony
8 years ago
There are times when I get busy IRL and I only get to zip in and out of this site and in such instances, I only look at msgs. In fact, I've not checked the flirts I've received for months! Why would I bother looking at flirts if I'm already inundated with msgs? And out of the msgs, only those who appear to have read my profile and bother to write a lovely msg instead of simply grunting out a one-liner will, of course, get priority. If I have stated clearly, NO NSA, and I am really specific in my profile about the sort of guy I am attracted to, and I get a msg from someone who clearly does not fall into that category, I sometimes do not bother to reply, especially if I am logging in from my mobile because it's hard for me to type msgs on my mobile as I suspect my mobile is on the last legs of its journey. :P
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RHP User
8 years ago
For me I send a flirt first! if they are interested then they will let you know, if not then you haven't wasted time in writing something. They see you looked at them and like what you saw so to send a flirt It's a quick yes or no....my opinion anyway 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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