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Woman sending first message..
May 10 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Been guilty of sending a first message. I need to be impressed by a profile to do so though. I have had mixed responses from none to many. I will continue to do so, and hopefully one day I might get the desired result. Now that would be (ms) marvellous!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I rarely send a flirt, if I do it's because there is a definite attraction, but I do feel as if 'he' should be doing the chasing. Old school I Know, hence me breaking said barriers to confront old norms. I ask again with Foxy, are these old norms alright with you chaps? As for responses to my initiative, probably 60/40. But I'm not as hot as you
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RHP User
12 years ago
it doesn't really matter who makes the first contact to us. It is exciting to get first contact from a woman because they have so much choice out there and they have chosen to contact you Mrs B
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have sent first messages. In fact all the men I have ever had anything significant with is because I have done the chasing. I have a lover now who I still chase after two years... Reckon 95% of the time I initiate contact first. I find it a turn on... Having to chase a man. Well it's all a game isn't it? Easy men are no challenge ... I think that is partially why I don't like the online dating thing. Men are too keen. I also freely initiate contact after the first date when I am keen too. Nothing over the top or clingy... Usually naughty but at the end of the day I don't leave men wondering if I am keen or not. Don't go for all the girlie games of playing hard to get. Well if I do it's not deliberate. Then I wonder why there are no men who will sweep me off my feet. LOLZ. Quite simply I don't let them. (^_^)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I should add I have only done it a few times in my life!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I quite like it when a woman contacts me, it's flattering because of the choice, but also because at least you know she is interested and some effort from that point on will at least be received with an open mind as opposed to writing an awesome letter that gets ignored. I am still seeing a lady occaisionally that first contacted me close to a year ago. A first contact doesn't have to be a letter, a flirt is perfect, it just says Oi! over here, now give it your best shot. Like a smile in a bar really ! Sometimes they haven't read your profile and are smokers or whatever but hey thanks anyway. I know many women treat flirts with contempt because they can, but coming from the other direction I think they work really well. We get a bit of a nudge and we can then do the chasing with a bit more enthusiasm. But I won't hold my breath. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm flattered by a Woman sending me a Message , especially if she only has a limited supply (as a Guest). There's a few Women who check my Profile regularly but have never contacted me . It's like a Mexican StandOff ;) As my Profile states , I respond to all Messages ... GG♒ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
With substantial success. I have no problem taking the first step or letting a man know I'm interested. And like Meeka I'm not into acting hard to get or being unclear. I've never played by the the rules, let alone The Rules.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good question, and something I feel very strongly about. If a woman has messaged me I'll get the feeling she's read my profile and is looking for a certain kind of guy (not better or worse, just ... specific) If I respond positively it doesn't mean that I'm easy and that I'm going to be on your doorstep buck naked in 5 minutes, it means I think there's potential and we would probably get along.From my profile: "I like women to take charge sexually. This isn't because I'm submissive or an egotistical prick, but because I love women with a strong sense of self and desire who can enjoy themselves in intimate situations, and know what they want from a lover."It tells me that a woman is confident in herself and her sexuality, and knows what she wants. There are still a lot of women who feel it's the man's job to start everything but like a lot of things in the dating game it's just baggage from a bygone era. ("I was waving my fan at the gentleman all night! Yes, at the box social with the 'come hither' gesture. Should I have flashed a bit of ankle? By George V's beard, I'm not that kind of trollop!!!")
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inspirit
12 years ago
Scored a root
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RHP User
12 years ago
sending a flirt or message first and have done it a few times, sometimes I know it's very unlikely to lead to anything but it's not like I could use anywhere near my 5 messages a day on guys that actually live near me and that I do have a realistic chance of hooking up with. If someone's profile really catches my eye I don't have an issue sending them a message and telling them, even if they live in another state, and I've only had positive responses.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't really polarise this issue too much, as I believe that if I take someone's fancy then they should feel as comfortable at approaching me as I would them. It's certainly very flattering to receive a message be it interest in taking things further, or just a compliment on my profile and/or forum contributions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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subgal_gc
12 years ago
sent a few flirts and messages, with mixed results. Some have ended up as friends others have ended up in bed I find playing hard to get doesn't seem to get me anywhere so if I see something I like I go for it. But like Meeka and MsD I have never played by the anyone's rules but my own!
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
To the guy who is turned off by a woman confident enough to initiate.... I say.... ..... man up, wussyboy ;-) DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have had a couple of women send the first message/flirt and found it rather flattering that they weren't just sitting back waiting for the countless males on RPH to contact them, and lead to some very steamy encounters :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I waited for life to come to me I would definately be bored and sexless. This is not the real world so rhp has taught me if I want something bad enough to ask for what I want, they can only say no but at least I had the courage to put it out there. There are lots of reasons why people can reject you and none of them would be what you think. I don't take it personally, I would have to say when I have made initial contact I have had positive results :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
What is the harm in a woman/couple etc sending the first msg... it doesn't mean that we will be rushing straight to the bed room, the shower, the kitchen bench or where ever! lol it is simply giving yourself the opportunity to meet someone new, from there you can work out if they are some who you would like to get to know better. At this stage i haven't messaged anyone "first" after reading lots of comments from women saying that they are bombarded with messages from guys and i don't want to be one of those guys..... i am not in a rush and i'm not desperatei have been flattered by messages that i have received so far, and will reply to all of them regardless of who sends it
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sweetgem
12 years ago
For those profiles that catch my eyes. I have no issue with contacting them first, and I always send a message instead of flirts, even when I was a Premium member and could only send 5 messages per day! What's the point of sending a flirt when you can send a message?! I personally hardly respond to flirts that were initiated by Paid (Premium etc.) Members. It's a sincere approach I guess when you are a Paid Member and contact someone by a message. Mind you, I did have some knock backs, but the majority of the times I receive a positive response. If anyone has read Ms_Devious' thread titled "Men behaving properly....." would have read my response to the post with a few romantic and lovely stories about a few nice men whom I met on RHP, who swept my feet off the ground enormously. These men were the ones that I initiated the first contact and apparently they appreciated that I got in touch :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good on you! That's what I think too. Although sometimes the flirty game or playing hard to get is kind of fun. Which is a direct contradiction to what I have said above. Bloody women we change our minds depending on the day. Sheesh at least I keep things interesting for myself. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'GMerst25' ("I was waving my fan at the gentleman all night! Yes, at the box social with the 'come hither' gesture. Should I have flashed a bit of ankle? By George V's beard, I'm not that kind of trollop!!!") This made me laugh!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of guys i've met from here, I've made initial contact. If i see something i want......i believe in going out and getting it. I'm not one to sit at home and wish and hope!
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RHP User
12 years ago
though I do write to say, I like a post or even to say I like a profile but its not to hit on a guy, so I say this is not a pickup as my first line though some say, pity I wish it was mostly its to guys over east or on the forums that like what they say over here in wa, I do not play hard to get but I think if a man wants me then he will let me know I am to old and tired to chase anyone so I am holding on to my zimmer frame waiting for them to give me a charity poke tr the pasive aggressive trollop
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would happy to have a woman make first contact, nothing wrong with that at all
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RHP User
12 years ago
Contact meBut if see something that really catches my eye, I'll go hunting
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's truly a wonderful thing to be contacted by members of the female species, whatever their motives. When I started reading the thread I was feeling really buoyant and upbeat....... But now I'm feeling a bit down and blue....... I've never received a message from meeka, msdevious, or Tuscan....... To name a few :( I'm off to work on my profile..... Ps happy Mother's Day ladies Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just to say "I like your posts/Profile"....I have met some awesome people from that contact...I don't go out of my way for hit on/pick up or anything else....Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I get a 'First Message' from a Lady, I feel GREAT. It means she's interested and chose me (out of the 5 messages she can send that day). If that's not a shot in the arm for any bloke, I don't know what you want. And it doesn't matter what she looks like... They all see us with human eyes. A Lady with 'movie star looks' sees exactly what a 'plain, ordinary' looking girl does. (and the plainer Lady will probably be more fun and far more interesting to be with)... Just an opinion... It just happens to be right... LOL
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