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Women in their 40's....
July 11 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Probably not what you want to hear but I think the most beautiful thing about women in their forties is the fact they don't have as many hangupos about their bodies and feel free to express themselves without vanity creeping in. They may not look like they did when they were in there twenties but they're a lot more confident in their abilities to please and know what they want in return. So instead of spending their time in the gym they can pursue other interests instead lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
At 48 I am in the best shape ever! I have always gone to the gym on and off , more off than on!! Since separating 18 months ago I seem to have more time for myself despite working full time and raising 2 daughters on my own without any family support! I now go to the gym 3-4 times a week. I do the classes including body pump, circuit boxing and abs blaster. With the every day stresses I face , working out is MY time, my kids are my priority but this is the one thing I do for myself. Dinner is always prepared before I go to gym and then we all eat when I get back so the kids certainly don't suffer!! I find the more I push myself the more energy I have for other daily activities. My body will never be perfect but I am fit and toned and feeling sexy :)) I guess the other thing is it makes me feel younger, keeps the joints moving !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Now I've been having a break from the forums but I have to comment on this one. I'm 46 in November, I probably don't look my age, my body is of someone that has had 5 babies and I'm not everyone's cup of tea. But and it's a big but, I'm feeling the better than I have in years, I'm looking better than I was when I was a lot younger, I'm enjoying my life more now than I did in my 20's & 30's, but I think it's because I'm allowing myself to do it. I hated who I was for many years and have only just learned to appreciate and love who I am and there lay the difference....I'm like a fine bottle of wine, I'm getting better with age......💋
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Hottie1
10 years ago
resonate with me. I am doing more in my forties than at any other time in my life. We have taken up swinging when my body bears the scars of pregnancies and a hysterectomy - go figure! I am confident in so many ways in my life. I look after myself by walking between 30 - 40 kms per week with a work friend (and I get up at 6 am to do so) and I do two personal training sessions a week. I don't like what I see physically but I like the person I am, I give myself permission to be happy with what is.I work full time and have a leadership role, I have a shift working husband and two teenage children, who are the most amazing human beings on this planet. I have so much I am grateful for. I manage it all, with time for myself. I have an enormous amount of energy, more so now than ever. I too don't have any support from family (other than hubby and kids) and we have done this on our own. The biggest thing for me is confidence - in MYSELF! Mary xx
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
These answers are brilliant - thankyou so much for replying xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bastard_Bitch_77
10 years ago
Fortys have no hang ups take no shite and know what they want ! And I enjoy there company! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a lot happier than I used to be and I've gained so much confidence as a woman. For the first time ever I have the confidence to initiate conversations with other people. This could be partly due to me leaving an unhappy marriage, but I've also think I've gained a maturity with regards to my and other people's sexuality. I will give some credit to RHP for this. I love being in my naughty forties. I don't go to gym but I do take a lot more pride in my appearance. I hope this helps a little bit.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have 2 sons, one who no longer lives at home. My youngest spends alternate weeks with me. I do work full time. I know that I'm very fortunate that my sons dad has equal care and this gives me a lot more me time than some women in my situation.
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
I have had a few liaisons with girls in their twenties in the last year or so, and almost all have have reacted with 'omg you have mad skills' and so on. I must stress this is not a bragging exercise, I brought the A game to the table but nothing truly exceptional. I asked one of these girls why, and they said guys their own age just dump them on the bed and go the jackhammer for a minute or two and that's it. This is awesome from an ego-boosting perspective (obviously!) but brings into play some home truths. I really think women in their 40s are better in bed. They (IMO) don't have the inhibitions they may have had, they know their own bodies better and they're not afraid to to tell you how to get them over the edge. Experience is everything, it would seem! Do I get points for a bloke commenting on a forum aimed at the ladies? *hides* TM - Posted from rhpmobile
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Circe
10 years ago
I reckon I'm stronger and fitter now in my 40s than I ever have been in my life. I'm overwhelmed a lot of the time with demands of my life but I push through. I have to say that a lot of the time I find myself torn between all of my responsibilities and feeling like I don't have the time to do anything properly so fitting in excersise is difficult but I know that I need to do it to keep everything else stable.
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passion8_l
10 years ago
Due to years of rejection and emotional and mental abuse from my ex I believed that I was undesirable, it was only when I joined RHP after my separation that I was finally able to accept my body. For the first time in my adult life I feel sexy and have accepted my body with all it's imperfections. I'm currently doing a PhD full time and work part time as a research scientist and often put in 70+ hours a week but I still make time to keep fit by running and walking and about a year ago I took up cycling to strengthen my knees after surgery. In fact if I don't exercise I find it harder to cope with my busy life. My kids are adults now but I put in the hard work when they were little teaching them to be independent so we work as a team now and share the household duties. I would have to say that I feel better than I ever have and I'm driven by my dream to achieve my goals.
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passion8_l
10 years ago
its not it's
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Passion8_1 - that's incredible - I will not mention any names etc / however can I quote a few of the things you have said in my writings? Love it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The whole paragraph of passion8 about sums it up. I was encouraged to put on weight and keep it on as that was what he liked. I felt a bit giddy with all the freedom at first then wracked with guilt that I did not do this sooner. The more I went to the gym the more confident I become. Changing the way I was thinking. Excepting the things I could not change and working on the things I could. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love being in my forties. Twenty years ago, I had a model's body but I didn't believe it. I was in a relationship that was ok, but certainly didn't receive many compliments from my boyfriend. My body was just kind of "there".I met many interested men, but didn't really believe they would like me for anything other than sex. I didn't think that much of myself and I missed out on so much! In my thirties I was in a new relationship. During this time I both gained, then lost ten kilos. My ex was not a pleasant man towards the end, but never commented on my size or made me feel bad about it. Then again, I didn't get many compliments either.However it was during that time I started to realise I was better looking than I always thought, as well as a better person than he told me I was. Having good friends had a lot to do with that. Now, single for the last two years, I like myself the most. I'm 15 kilos heavier than in my twenties and full of bumps, lumps, wrinkles and spider veins. But I like my body, it's mine and it's served me well. (And it can do some amazing things!)I'm not in any shape to speak off (still haven't gotten the hand of exercising), but I like my looks and am with people who tell me they do as well.( I'll never be with anyone who doesn't tell me he thinks I'm beautiful inside and out again.) As for inspiration: I'm the best RN I've ever been (a lot because of experience), and my job and patients inspire me every day. I'm very proud (and humbled) to be able to make a difference in the lives of others. Now THAT makes me feel special.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Many of the lady's I've spoken to here are in there forties and let me say this I'd love a crack not only at there arses but there minds more so... Give my a stylish 40 something (I no my style) any day over a 20 yo
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all have battle scares at the tender age of 40ish but if we have a stylish nature and common interest those scares of life make zero difference at all... Look at the male ? I was a stripper for 12 years working around the country but I now look back n think females (and the odd male lol) stopped looking at me by age 39 so not only do the lady's have a desire to look ad feel good so do males :) it's with age we except our selves as the people we are not what others want us to be...
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Thankyou all again for these replies n to the men you have replied! One of the points I want to make in my column n book is about things we all go through - the scars, the veins, the tantrums, the saggy boobs, and how to except wt ht measurements are just all numbers and how our mind is a very powerful tool x - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Mary - you are an inspiration - I hope it's ok if I can use parts of your story? - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
10 years ago
Thinking ahead when I was in my 20's I seriously thought that when I reached 45 and after four kids ( which were always in the plan) I seriously thought I would have to place the body, face and sex drive in the too hard basket... but having finally arrived I am pleasantly surprised about a number of things: That it is not that hard to maintain my goal weight. My face has miraculously maintained its youthful appearance(must be the genetics and a lifetime of great sleeping habits and loads of water..) and thanks to a really sexy (and still young looking husband) and the RHP lifestyle (including lots of younger well defined men... lol) my sex life has never been better. Ironically I am more confident with my "battle scarred" body than I was with my youthful perfection in my 20"s but wouldn't change it for the world as it is my evidence to having birthed four wonderful truly amazing boys who I love with all my heart and are first and foremost in my world. xxxx Mrs. Luv
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Mrs Luv - love it!! Love hearing stories like this xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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passion8_l
10 years ago
Cheekyarses
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have never put much emphasis on my age considering I am quite ageist when looking for a partner but I am considered quite young for my age as I imagine a lot of the ladies on this forum. A lot of people look shocked when I tell them I have a 20yo son, they tell me I don't look old enough (and I probably wasn't at the time, lol) but I think having my kids young, I stayed a bit younger as I was still growing with them. I have a pretty good attitude to life too, I don't stress too much, I live day to day, I am active in the sense that I am always doing a lot, I appreciate what I have and in some case what I don't have and I can easily deal with anything that gets thrown my way. I recently had a good check up at the doctor and he tells me I am a very healthy 40yo except I could lose 10kg which is true.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm content with myself nowadays and feel I have nothing to prove, its about being true to who you are in all your glory and flaws. I feel I'm getting better with age, there's no way I'd go back to being anything I am today:)
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Ralf74 - love it x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was someone who was always insecure about my body shape, I've got the family butt and thighs, cellulite since my early teens. No matter what my weight I couldn't shift it and left me feeling self concious, especially in bathers and I always avoided short skirts. After my kids I went up too almost 100kg, I'm 5'2, so not a healthy weight at all, I dug up my front garden and then my back and lost nearly 40 kilo. I had a lot more energy and discovered Roller Derby. Roller Derby was fantastic for me, finally my arse was an asset and I started leaving my self conciousness behind. I was strong, fit and solid and I had a persona to mask what was left of any inhibitions. I retired after 3.5 yrs, my mind and body couldn't take the hits and falls anymore and was left with time on my hands but little motivation to do any regular form of excercise, my knees hurt, my feet hurt and was grieving my lost lifestyle (derby is a community, very tight but when your in it, but soon forgotten when you leave) Believe it or not, I started losing weight, the Derby lifestyle includes a lot of drinking, food is fuel and training as we did left me hungry,training was always followed by booze and food, plus I lost most of the muscle I had built. I do miss the strength at times, but actually I feel more feminine now than I did when I was playing Derby. A year later we started exploring our sexual lifestyle after falling into a drunken threesome with an old friend. Wow, someone found me desirable other than my husband, then someone else, and someone else and I realised that I didn't have to be model thin to be attractive to others and embraced my curves, lumps and bumps. My self confidence rose in a different way than it did whilst I was playing derby, it's hard to explain, but I think it actually had a lot to do with having a persona to hide behind rather than an acceptance of myself. Here, now, today at 40, I'm accepting of my imperfections, I know how to dress to flatter my curves and hold myself with confidence. I'm active, healthy and have fun and busy life, I no longer worry about things I can't change and know that not everyone is going to like me or find me attractive. So what? I'm the same! I'm old enough now to realise that, I think when we are young, we try to conform to societies expectations and put ourselves down when we don't, with age comes wisdom and the ability to make choices about our lifestyle based on life experiences, needs and wants, time constraints, goals, accessability etc and to decide what is good for ourselves!
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Please fell free to use any part of what I have written, and hats of to you too, for undertaking such an interesting endeavour. Good luck with your writing, let us know when you publish ;). Thankyou also for giving us the chance to reflect on where we are as individuals, it has been a great little boost for my self-efficacy!To the ladies (and gents) your stories are truly inspiring. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are ok I guess lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am having more fun now than I have ever had previously, I think I am okay shape still and flattered people may find me attractive. I have one issue tho, when i find a FB single guy I tend to want it a few times a week and that has been an issue for the younger guys.
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RHP User
10 years ago
love em - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Wow - I'm so inspired by all of you... Rock minx - your story has really moved me n I love it! If anyone would like to contact me further about other ladies in their 40's who have such up lifting stories n experiences - please feel free to message me, or if you are on Facebook message me n I will give you my name on Facebook n we can chat more.... My mind is so happy with these responses!! Just love them xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree with what you said, Im in my fifties now and more comfortable with myself and confident than I have ever been. I also think we appreciate a lot more as we get older?
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RHP User
10 years ago
thanks for the read :)
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zoe69r
10 years ago
WOW is all I have to say about women in their 40's , they are more open to try things , they know what they want in and out of the bedroom and OMG they certainly know what they want sexually. And I must say from most of the ladies ive meet socially off here and those ive spoken to and seen their pics, they are all absolutely beautiful inside and out and oh so lovely to chat to and I do hope I will be able to get to meet with some of you
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