Women of Skout, when would you prefer your potential suitor has a disability?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Always. I met a lovely lad who is in a wheelchair. We had a great meet and chat, but he was in an on/off relationship which was, for me, an on relationship. It wouldnt have made a difference otherwise. He states that he is in a wheelchair on his profile, but told me he had met someone and she saw him and walked off saying, sorry, cant do this. Very very rude and disrespectful. Someone will see you for the person you are inside and love and accept you with no prejudices. Good luck.

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  noeleena

  8 years ago

  Hi , For myself I,m very up front and know how some ....men... will react towards me so I,m used to that happening, I,m an intersexed female bluntly put I have no male or female sexual organs., I was born with some abnormalitys and some have been corrected and I,ll have some more corrective surgerys , I know most men wont a sexual time with a ...Normal.... woman , so the chance of a man wonting to be with myself is next to nothing .almost ...O..., Well that's explained and on the table so if any one looks at myself and who I am and is prepared to spend time with me then maybe he would look beyond my ...LACKS.... may find I,m more than just about sex he may still find I,m worth his while, ...noeleena...

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I know it was very awkward when we turned up for a meet to find one of the couple didn't have half a leg. It didn't matter to us but I would have liked to have known up front and that's what we told them. Dealing with the awkwardness did not work out and I think it would have been good to clear the air in advance and give them a chance to wonder if they really were ready, which they clearly were not in the long run. Peachy

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  EarthQueen

  8 years ago

  Personally think just be open. Agree with @Meander. Open and honest is the way to go.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ....that just about all of us have some sort or form of a disability, be it physical, mental or emotional. We learn to cope the best we can and yes, I have a couple so not just blowing smoke rings in the wind. If others can see past the ''handicap'' to the ''handicapable'' then that's about them and not about you. Bugger 'em.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ...not can. Typos are amongst my least severe of disabilities! Best always..... CM

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  FeistyFatty

  8 years ago

  You have no mention that you're disabled in your profile and that's where it should be stated...... not half way through a getting to know you phase of messaging or a face to face meet. The latter would be met with some negativity I'd imagine. I'm a big believer in "putting it all out there" and I find transparency in all things to be so important. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Sherlock_H

  8 years ago

  Thanks for the advice everyone. It seems pretty unanimous. I'll go visit my profile for a bit...

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  inspirit

  8 years ago

  Not disclosing about yourself takes away the right of the other person, to be able to make a sound decision on meeting someone who they think, meets their own desires. Its like when someone puts up a photo of themselves that's 10 years old. Im a big girl and it says it. Im not wanting to meet people who do not like fat chicks. I prefer to meet someone who feels comfortable to be with me. Regardless of my personal traits, physical attraction is a must. Not play a guessing game, besides I don't need that anxiety. Do you? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  inspirit

  8 years ago

  Just reread your profile. Such a genuine honest guy. I hope you find what you're searching for. In my previous post I assumed you are in a wheel chair permanently. You're not tho and just remember you have a physical condition that stops you from getting out of bed, so do many people with mental health conditions. The difference is...........? You're a very brave man in my opinion. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  PurePeony

  8 years ago

  Honesty is always the best policy. Being upfront will ensure that you never get to meet people who might not be able to handle the shock upon disclosure and it saves you and them from awkward moments. You want to put your nectar out there and attract the bees who want it, not the moths who won't enjoy it. You come across really well in your profile write-up. Very genuine and very frank. Those are very attractive qualities. I see you've already taken on board the wonderful opinions of the few who have responded and updated your profile with a disclosure about your condition. I agree with Midnight - who doesn't have a condition? Sometimes, we happen to be drawn a bad card at the genetics poker game that we had absolutely no say in. It's not the condition that defines us ultimately - it's how we deal with it and overcome it that matters. OP, people who have gone through suffering and pain turn out in one of two ways - bitter, cynical, jaded and toxic OR strong, resilient, empathetic and a survivor. Wear your badge with pride. Show the world how you managed to become a winner against the odds!

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  Sherlock_H

  8 years ago

  Thanks, everyone, for your responses. That kind of encouragement will keep a man going a bit longer. I think I can say this particular matter is sorted, and I can get back to the business of getting to know all you awesome people. As the man said, "time for some thrilling heroics". Heh. S. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I just loved your profile ...I am sure that you will attract a lot of interest Q

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I think you wandered into the wrong thread. Q

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  Sherlock_H

  8 years ago

  I surely hope so, but each to their own, so time will tell. At this point I will just focus on getting to know people via the forums, and seeing what happens. Don't worry too much about Steven, I already let the powers that be know. Heheh. S. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  One of the yummiest lovers and greatest pals I have had was a wheeler. I adored the pants off him (literally...often). He had dark ebony hair with just a sprinkle of salt n pepper and the greenest eyes I'd ever seen and a wicked Southern drawl and when're he said, "Yes Ma'am" with that lopsided grin, Id damn near slide off my chair. He would throw his head back and roar with laughter. H was razor sharp, intelligent and one sarcastic bastard, funny as hell...It's lovelywriting this, I pushed him far from mind for a long time & it's kinda lwonderful to almost hear his husky voice in my mind. He was a blind date that my friend set up while I was living in a Nashville. Here's the thing, I'm not someone who gives a fuck about whether or not a guy is in a chair, is a muscle bound body builder, or a woman with a limb missing or a hot chick with purple hair and Tatts. To me, sexy is fucking sexy - period. It is an attitude, essence, energy... But In my experience, most people online dating/hooking up are pretty superficial, hence the 'tall, dark and handsome' bullshit of being 6 foot plus...or a petite size 8-10 with DD's. By in large, the unfortunate thing is, especially on sites such this, people do judge a book by its cover. It's a rotten shame that anything less than perfect is deemed unworthy of consideration, whether it's anxiety or a more tangible challenge such as yours. Own those wheels babe, be as sexy as fuck...the lovers worth having are going to ask you how the suspension is and when was the last time you checked the breaks, for your sake...vet the fuckers and date yummy. Ya sound pretty damn sexy to me! 💋

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