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Women over 40

November 20 2013

I love being a woman of 40+. I feel I've grown into myself in the last 5 years. I've changed every facet of my life in the past 2 years and I love the results of those changes. I've never been in a happier place despite the challenges. My experience of women over 40 is that we are more confident, self reliant, non judgemental and less hung up in other people's opinions. What do you think?

Comments

  • Lifes_great

    Lifes_great

    11 years ago

    You're awesome...but then I didn't know you before you were 40 In all seriousness I think being 40+ has given me clarity on lots of things.....maybe it's just the age or maybe it's just taking the time to think about things from others perspectives or maybe it's reading the amazing posts in the forums and the differing points of view. Either way, it's a good time. Cheers to you K for the great post

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    It is easy to believe your outlook, as from reading your posts for quite some time now, you have been radiating these positive thoughts, more frequently as the time has progressed. So yep. Mado Mado, Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    She radiates those qualities in person too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm just calmer, or is it karma?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I actually think we are so much smarter and street smarter .! and under sheets smarter.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Age has much to do with it, though I will admit there is a point in time that you just think "what the fuck was I smoking back then to think that??" I'm 34, and I've been looking back upon some of my older comments and I think that same thing. But I'm slowly coming to the realisation that :- A) I've been hiding my truest colours away from myself. B) I've been a total dick to some really nice people due to point A. C) I need to stop deflecting using humour and actually just put my ideas out there unashamedly. And..... D) boot the fucking captain that I've let steer my ship off the boat and tell him he was shit!!!! Ok....I feel much better :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Mado

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    when she sang Life Begins at 40. I've done some awesome things since I was 40, and while the whole journey between 40 and now hasn't been a totally smooth ride, I am in a good place within myself. Yep, confidence and grit abound after 40,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    decade has been different,and necessity has sometimes been the mother of my reinventions....I have always been unashamedly an opportunist and I know my drummer extremely well xR

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Except I love BEING WITH a woman of 40+. Because they're just that: WOMEN!! I really do enjoy their company the most, in and out of the bedroom...or grandstand . Lively, assured, sexually hard-boiled, open-minded, worldly, cultured and usually have a deeper sense of intimacy. Maturity. Nothing to prove. Take me as I am. Soit! I like. A lot.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sheets smarts! Love it! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I thought turning thirty was the best thing that happened to me. But when I turned 30 if you had of told me that at nearly 40 I would feel completely vivacious, have a wonderful understanding of who I am, be ready to learn sexual expression and experiment, know what it is that makes me a good person and acknowledge my own worth and have an energy that leaves others asking me to slow down, I would never have believed you. I feel like I'm at the beginning of the best years of my life and I'm excited about the journey that's unfolding. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    :) Now where is that young subbie boy that wants me to teach him new things. But seriously, we are at an age where we know what we don't and do want and are not prepared to take second best. :)

  • Lifes_great

    Lifes_great

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Stir_it_alot'Age has much to do with it, though I will admit there is a point in time that you just think "what the fuck was I smoking back then to think that??" I'm 34, and I've been looking back upon some of my older comments and I think that same thing. But I'm slowly coming to the realisation that :- A) I've been hiding my truest colours away from myself. B) I've been a total dick to some really nice people due to point A. C) I need to stop deflecting using humour and actually just put my ideas out there unashamedly. And..... D) boot the fucking captain that I've let steer my ship off the boat and tell him he was shit!!!! Ok....I feel much better :) - Posted from rhpmobile I wish I'd reflected on things at 34...well done!

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    I'm having more fun now, than I ever did in my 30's......loving my life....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    For 80% of your points I cannot comment as our paths haven't crossed, and if they had it would depend on the timeframe we had known each other for a reply. Re point 5, so you should be by that age.

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    I too love being in my 40's! - lots of positive energy n lessons learnt!

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    I think I'm just beginning to "live" life. It's a whole new adventure, and so much more fun now that I'm old enough to appreciate it, wise enough to know I'm still learning and still wayward enough to make it interesting. Lol norty forties definately, the filthy fifties are gonna be equally thought provoking aren't they Freya? 😘 x - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and don't forget nifty

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Beautifully put.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Kaleidoscope'Sheets smarts! Love it! - Posted from rhpmobile I was on a roll and there it was..I love being sheet smart now..!

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    Especially in the last 6weeks I have really grown into a person that i want to be..... When I am having a down moment, I kick myself back into my 41 year old frame of mind and take control of the situation, look at the possibilities and focus on the positive. Being in your 40's 50's 60's plus plus enriches you and you are never ever too old to learn or to become a better more inspiring person.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I wasn't actually asking for feedback on myself! I guess the wording of my original post might be read that way..... I really wanted to know how others over 40 felt about how THEIR lives! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The forties have been great and we just keep shinning brighter and brighter as time goes on. I'm starting to really take life and it pleasures and embrace it. I truly appreciate what life has to offer much more and go after what I want, I'm just beginning to live. lmao

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Wow . I am a different person. Maybe it has nothing to do with being in my 40's, maybe it is just the path my life has taken and had I taken this path in my 30's I would be feeling the same way then as I am now. Maybe its the influence of all you deviates of RHP all I know is that life is good I am in better shape , I am more confident, I know what I want and will go after it, I never say never, I'll try anything once...or twice

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It's so good being 40 that I've decided to just stay 40 for the rest of my life. So I've turned 40 for the last few years. Seriously though i think we all grow into ourselves in our forties. It's kinda cool! Hugs and kisses for all of those smart, spunky, sexy fortysomethings. And a sharp smack on that magnificent bottom for StSinner- ok, a hug for you too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Forgot to add. Women in their 40's have experienced more of the intricacies and ups and downs in matters of the heart (and genitals). It's your resilience which borders on a quiet ebullience that I enjoy basking in. It can be subversively infectious. I'd be less of a man without having met the golden 40 year old women throughout my life. Smack my bottom then.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I love being over 40. I married very young and was stuck in a marriage I didn't want to be in. I was shy sexually. I divorced at about 35 and boy did I make up for lost time. The dating / sex scene has changed so much. I love that I am so much more confident and will just say what I want.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Love being in my forties!