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  playfulminx

  14 years ago

  a fair number of men who say they are in an open relationship are actually fibbing and are therefore cheating. Others stretch the definition a bit far (ie - he's in an open relationship but hasn't told his wife about it yet lol).I think it's probably best to target people who aren't worried about their hook-ups being single or attached. Yes, RHP is for casual sex for many but that doesn't mean a person can't have a conscience. If they can be made certain that the guy is definitely in a genuine open relationship then I'm sure it's not an issue. On the other hand, some people just prefer no complications whatsoever and prefer completely single men. Each to their own I suppose :D

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  cuddlycupal, ,,its almost impossible for a married man with the blessing of his wife to find a playmate on here or any other site ,,when we first started we had a couple pofile on here stating we had an open relationship , but the only respones we got were from other couples only wanting me , the female of course , i have read alot of the forum posts and it seems single men are also out !!!,, so how much hope does a married man have!,,, i also got flirts from other women ,, i would then tease my poor hubby that i could get a woman but he couldnt ,,,, BUT,, i have spoken to a few married men on sites who are cheating on their wives and quess what! they have a regular supply of play mates ,i am very confused ,, so in the end we gave up , but i cant leave here ,, I LOVEEE THE FORUMS TOO MUCH ,, lol good luck cuddlycupal,,xxxxx misty

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  As a girl who plays alone I sometimes think 'i'll do the right thing and play with men who are in open relationships - you know some sort of sex karma - what goes arou d comes around." I'm hoping that some other female in a relationship or single will shag my husband. But alas most of the men who say they are in "open-relationships" are not able to define their open relationship or when I ask questions like "so will your wife know where you are or will you be lying to her." To that I often get an answer like "Well she does not like it shoved in her face so I'll be bending the truth". Or the more honest "I'll be lying to her follow by some reason why that is okay. I have been involved with a married man whose wife did not know and although I found the sex to be great, I enjoy their company and found them to be very attractive I always wondered what his wife would do it/when she found out. Then the other guys who I have meet who are in genuine open relationship ... Well the problem with them is they aren't always free to fuck when I want them to be. So I go back to single men, who aren't lying to anyone and are almost always free when want them to be and there is ways the issue of where. So I guess what I'm saying is I can understand why girls are not rushing to fuck men in relationships. They are harder work then single men who are a dime a dozen and come with less t&c's. Mrs sexycountrycpl

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  Ice_Fire

  14 years ago

  Unfortunately as stated above there are married men on here who claim to be playing with wifey's blessing but turn out not to be which tends to make the ladies suss of all married men.We have experienced similar issues, hubby and I both have individual profiles stating we are married and i put a validation on hubby's profile stating that he has my blessing and that i am happy to verify this over chat or on the phone if need be, some ladies have taken me up on that offer and i have even met a couple of them others don't care at all (funny that guys dont seem to mind if i have hubby's blessing or not) In the end what we have found that works for us is one of two situations:Single guys and gals for solo dates or other like minded couples who we can hook up with together and then at other times play with alone, this is harder to find but definitely worth the search.anyway, happy searching,Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It's hard to find a girl that wants to meet for any guy, single or not, even on a hook up site like RHP. Most girls seem to want to meet couples, I expect the threesome aspect is obviously arousing, but girls also have it a lot easier when it comes to being judged. A women who describes herself as slim, attractive and married, but wants something discreet isn't going to get half as much condemnation as a guy in the same boat.I'm married, and like most guys on here my wife doesn't know, I'm not exceptionally promiscuous by any means but I do enjoy experiencing the intimacy that you only get when you meet someone new. I know that's not everyone's idea of being a nice guy, I don't know what to say that could make it right to those who disagree with guys and girls who do go elsewhere, most want to lay you on a couch and talk you through approaching your other half and telling them your desires, the point they miss is that we obviously know our partners and would have done so years ago if it was an idea that might fly.I have always had a high sex drive, and like a lot of guys I guess mines higher than my wife's, but I don't want an affair, I don't want to meet a stalker and I don't want to pick up a random stray at the pub?. Being on a site like RHP means you can meet people with higher sex drives for a start. It's funny sometimes listening to couples making judgments, especially when on any given Saturday night they could be in the midst of an orgy, something mainstream society usually looks down upon and doesn't judge as normal!. I enjoy talking to women on a sexual level and seeing if we click before meeting which is the benefit of being able to meet first on RHP, because now, for me, it's not about the frantic desperation that comes with a quick release, but the slow enjoyment you get when you can relax around someone new sexually, in a surreal circumstance and bring each other up slowly enjoying each others experience.There are guys who pretend they're single and there's guys who pretend to be in an open relationship, then there are guys who try to be honest about not being honest. Most guys would bail on this conversation, especially guys that are married and not disclosing what they're up to, but that doesn't give you any insight does it so..................that's what it's like.

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  inlustwetrust

  14 years ago

  My partner and I like to encourage the other to play and enjoy themselves either together or on our own. We are very open about it to each other. The only thing we do like is that we both meet potential play mates. If either of us has an issue with them then we can deal with it before anything happens. It also allows potential playmates actually see that we are genuine about what we are doing. For us we are having some fun, which we think is different to having an intimate ongoing relationship with someone. All we ask of people is that they be honest with us as to their relationship status. If we suspect your being dishonest with us then you may as well move on to the next couple.

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