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Would you NOT have sex ....
June 03 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mostly I don't get that far, often it's only as far as the age seeking, then it's Beep Beep Beep backing outta there. Though yeah if I make it that far and they are all pictures of six packs, or all 30ish and under, then Yep I know I aint fitting in there!As for ruling someone out because of whom they have slept with...nope don't believe I would under normal circumstance.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
"I also refuse to sleep with anyone that treats this like Facebook" By looking at peoples' friends list, and giving a shit, you're also treating this site like its facebook. So by your own standards, you would would say "eeew" and not have sex with yourself... haha. maybe try palying World of Warcraft... Its probably closer to reality that your life on RHP... Rofl... The rubbish people write here amazes me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes. I have but only if they are friends with someone I really have no respect for or dislike. Makes me wonder if I would have anything in common with that person. Superficial... Yep. In my defense I have only done this a few times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I recently turned someone down, I honestly hadn't made up my mind, we hadn't met,just chatted on the phone,but when I saw this particular woman on his list,I ran. So, I must be shallow too.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was lining up to meet a lovely bloke. The found out he had slept with a certain someone....I ran off real fast....sometimes you just don't want to go there if you don't like what's been there before.....as for friends lists yeah I can be turned off by the people on then Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll let you know if I get any knockbacks because you're there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
but I have done that too...not just online (in a previous incarnation) but also in person too. Kisses Focus
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
You can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would turn someone down because of thier friends list or thier validations. As much as this site is what it is and I am no prude, I really do not want to know where he has been and who he has done. Quantity is another issue. Now I do not expect a man to come to me a virgin, when I am shopping I join the shortest queue at the checkouts. Same here, if the queue gets too long I shop somewhere else.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was not sure about the profile because it had nothing to do with BDSM and when I checked his friends list and saw the kinds of girls he had listed there I didn't go any further.Nothing shallow about being discerning in your choice and it's up to you how you base your selection criteria.
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uneventful
13 years ago
Not having been here long enough to know many other women .. I could not say anything based on who was on the list .. But I definitely would ..based on the numbers of friends .. when its up in the high numbers .. I got to ask .. is it trophy keeping or what .. The other thing would be the attendance at some of the events ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Absolutely! It's just another tool to have in your arsenal of how to choose wisely.
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RHP User
13 years ago
we have turned people down on the basis of who they have in their friends list, and see no issue with doing so. if anyone chose to not play with us for this reason...we are 100% comfortable with that as well........and happily shallow as well...........
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erotictouch4u
13 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' ... and they are all pictures of six packs, or all 30ish and under, then Yep I know I aint fitting in there! As for ruling someone out because of whom they have slept with...nope don't believe I would under normal circumstance. I usually judge by the friends list on who they are attracted to as with many their list is not of who they have met and played with but more like a wish list.Respect others preferences and you can expect them to respect yours I say ET xox
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RHP User
13 years ago
Friends list are important to me as well however I do concede that not everyone's friend list is necessarily a "trophy list" ... I know most of the people on my list are exactly that ...friends only ....and for some reason validations about hot nites to me is off putting, I so don't want to know !!! One persons opinion and definition of hot is dudesville for another !!! Perth is small ... Very small...and the degree of separation is more like 3 than 6 degrees in this town!!! I come across a male profile every so often who will have a female friend on it...I click on and view her profile or maybe one of her friends and viola !!! eventually all roads lead to the ex !!! and that's the deal breaker. Knowing what I know and thru no fault of the poor guys original profile, he is automatically rejected and based on this criteria there's slim pickings in Perth for me. The ex was a friendly kind of guy !!!
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jensta
13 years ago
I have ... not met someone because of friends list & the same with validations .... :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
sure have. Also had a situation where one lady i spoke to from a distance away stopped speaking to me because i had coffee (yep only coffee) with another local lady. They had a history and she was quiet disparaging towards said local lady, i dont judge and was more than happy to accept the coffee invite to meet first hand, whilst nothing will eventuate i was suprised that i was judged for not accepting someones elses opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
so many shallow people.. I thought swinging was about opening up your mind and body to try new things.. Not being even more judgemental than in normal life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
as many mentioned before...if they are a "collector" of friends...or if there are certain people on that list...we'd say no...we all have the right to choose, who we share our bodies with...and how we make that selection is entirely up to the individual...as someone said it so wisely before...you dont want to touch that if "they" have been there already...shallow? not really...i dont think it is...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think if all you look at is the friend list, its a narrow view, I look at the whole profile, and have subversive humour usually threaded through mine. I am with AdventureTime on this, interested in opening my mind...never so much that my brains fall out, but still open to new experiences, with trusted people. The friends on my list are in some cases just that...friends...and my two validations are from people with whom I have mutual respect and friendship...it also demonstrates that I don't only THINK AND TALK about meeting people for coffee, but that I actually DO meetfor coffee, dinner, that may become more when and where I am comfortable and there is mutual feelings. I have had over 150 friend requests...and haven't accepted them all. May be some people just click accept, and while they may have friends with certain interests it doesn't mean thats all they are into, it might also be a passing phase... I take the time to look at the content of their messages, a combination of everything else, and may be chat online on this site to see how it all blends together, then talk in the phone, and if after all that I am happy, meet, have coffee and keep evaluating til I am happy. I would have missed a real gem if I had only gone on friend lists without asking the first obvious question..."so, i see you have ... on your friend list? Care to shed some light?" A girlfriend did that with me early on, and we both blocked and unfriended te same guy and have become good pals as a result of going further than avoiding based on a friends list...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Does that mean you'll just fuck anyone then?? I'm not a swinger by the way, I'm single, so I'm allowed to be as fussy as I like. Since I've been here I've noticed couples are fussier than anyone else around. Doesn't hurt to be fussy Hugs roxxy
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QLDtwo4fun
13 years ago
Funny, I was just thinking of reviewing our friends list, there are people on it we don't know that we were friended by when we first joined the site. I always look and see if another couples friends practice safe sex, particularly friends who have provided validations.
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RHP User
13 years ago
So non plussed by it. people send me a friend request i accept, in some cases they have just viewed my profile and I havent chatted. Think there is only 2 people on my list I have actually met. So your assumption that because someone is on the list they have slept with them or actually a 'real friend' is probably wide of the mark. And yeah if you take that much notice means you do treat it like facebook......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Although, I don't think I've met anyone who has been validated on here, so maybe I do subconciously? I mean, I suppose we all want to feel like we're a little bit special and not just another hole?I do check out friends lists as their friends might have friends who I'd be interested in. Heh.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have to say i have friends who just wnated to friend me for whatever reason!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
For sure, I always look at people's friends lists and validations. Validations to determine what kind of people they are and if it matches how they describe themselves on their profile, and I'll look at their friends list to see what type of people they're interested in. I decline or don't bother emailing when I see people I've blocked or if I can see that I have absolutely nothing in common with anyone on their friends list, a sure indication that they're probably not selective about who they play/associate with. Pretentious? I don't see how... It's my body, I get to choose who uses it ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We find validations extremely useful especially if a profile we know has validated them ..... Valuable information when trying to determine real from the fakes and cool from the crazy . It carries more points than verification for us. And our friends list tend to be only people we have meet or spoken too and know they are real. Not keen on profiles with 50 + friends , agree this is not FB. Finally, Not concerned with who people have shagged unless we know of something that could harm us. If they have been with people we wouldn't ! Well each to their own , who are we to judge.
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
This has been done in another topic! I don't care if they have say a few friends on their list as I understand that these can be accumulated from chat and the forums and also at Events! But to have 890+ friends? That is just friend collecting and most of the ones that have that many friends on their lists are just Guests anyway! These are the guys that send the flirt "I am interested, message me" as if I would waste my one message a week on them! Screams out time wasters to me! . Anyway back to topic...I was chatting to a guy for ages and then found out that he slept with a certain girl and there was no way in hell I was going to go there...As others have said on here...If they have been with her then he and I would have nothing in common at all! . I can also take this another way...If I know that a friend of mine has slept with a guy...I wouldn't go there either! Not because I don't like her...but because I just don't like stepping on someone else's toes that I like! My friendships are more important than getting my rocks off...Unless of course it was a dirty 3sum and we were all having fun at once! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Personally I think if you're developing big dislikes of people in here you're having too much to do with the wrong people or spending way to much time here. My personal pet hate is people involving me in their bullshit arguements and pettiness with other people, many "real world" friends have been given the boot for exactly that or trying to choose my friends for me. Regardless of attitudes, behaviour, reputations or history my friends are linked to, I am a responsible adult with morals, a strong sense of right and wrong and a very kind, considerate and generous heart. If someone decides to ex me from their life or overlook me to participate in their life it's their loss simple as that. As for "how could that person sleep with blah fucking blah" you're assuming that they haven't got the sense to use protection or abstain from high risk sex partners.. Again, their loss. 61819Kermy seems to be friends with 90% of the women on here, if I was to exclude all women because I find it offensive to open their profile to have his cock leap out of the friends photo box at me I'd never end up meeting any woman here. He's probably a very nice guy but I don't want to see his dick and I hardly think he's shagged 9 out of 10 women on RHP so it would be silly to exclude those ladies based on a friendship or sorts with him or any other guy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wow funloving, after reading this I get the feeling that I should take a little more care in accepting peoples friend requests.... To be honest up until now I have not payed any attention to this area and often accept in a bid to not come accross as a snob of just outright rude. Funny I had no idea that I could be judged on the people I have on my list.... most I havent even met or even connected with. I dont know, do you really want to cut yourself short like that? You could be missing out on meeting some pretty great people.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_brazil' Wow funloving, after reading this I get the feeling that I should take a little more care in accepting peoples friend requests.... To be honest up until now I have not payed any attention to this area and often accept in a bid to not come accross as a snob of just outright rude. Funny I had no idea that I could be judged on the people I have on my list.... most I havent even met or even connected with. I dont know, do you really want to cut yourself short like that? You could be missing out on meeting some pretty great people. Don't worry, Mr Brazil.... You know I'd still go there, no matter the size of your friends list
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have held back from sending messages to people based on how they answer the safe sex question on their profile. If they say sometimes or never, then, well, I have more respect for my tongue than that, lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'AdventureTime' so many shallow people.. I thought swinging was about opening up your mind and body to try new things.. Not being even more judgemental than in normal life. since when does being a 'swinger' mean not having standards or preferences?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, I have turned people down based on their Friends list. I only accept Friend requests from people I know or have at least chatted to online, met over coffee/dinner and we have genuinely become friends in one way or another. I look at people's Friend lists and if there are 100s of profiles listed (from all over the country), it does make me wonder how genuine they are about being on this site to meet. I have seen some profiles with over 500 "Friends" I like to read validations to see if it's worth investing my time or not. I don't make decisions to meet based solely on a person's Friend List because you can never know to what extent, if any, they have had actual physical contact with them. Reading the whole profile is important. My potential Friends start off on my Hot List and then progress to my Friend List only if I have a true connection with them from: - sharing fun and stimulating conversations over coffee/dinner, messaging/texting, chat on line, phone calls. - FWB relationships - really enjoying their company and we go out socially. I guess we all have our own Friend filing system that works! SFxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, I have to agree with Dirtyrough. I would probably get scratched for having no friends, "must be something wrong with him"And coming from a closed profile it just reeks of muckraking !PASS.
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